Big Families - How do you deal with all the comments?

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

NC I just stumbled onto this post. I get comments ALL the time. 3 and 4 children families are extremely common. I know 3 families that have 5 kids.

People ask me all the time if I'm crazy. The crazy thing is I can't believe I haven't knocked somebody out yet for saying it...lol

I also get...You must be catholic. Like we don't believe in birth control...WTF!!

People want to know what kind of car I drive...ummmm a minivan!!!

Gotta love the...Wow, you've got your hands full!!!

And people just assume I'm going to keep popping kids out. Not for nothing but it isn't anyone's business. The first few times I heard it I chuckled but now it pisses me off.

[atomic sagebrush]

Urgh, another friend IRL has found out she's having a boy so she's being part of the PP crowd. And I so wanted to bite back when someone commented about having the perfect family like her also PP. I'm starting to realise how lush it is having 2 DD's tbh. They look and act so different to each other yet they have the same genetic make-up! And in that I'm seeing that actually the PPs are missing that as all they see is one girl mix of their genes and one boy mix of genes. And if they really do stick to two, they'll never get to experience bringing up 2 different girls/boys. Actually feel lucky tbh

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I agree totally and I think there is something almost freeing for the kids in families of lots of one gender. There is no pressure to be "boy" or "girl", the kids are able to find their own identities to some extent (not saying that all families put this type of pressure on their kids but some do) so instead the kiddos can define themselves in terms of who they are like "the artist", "the musician", "baseball player" or whatever it is that they enjoy.

I have the 4 boys and they are surprisingly different! Every one of them has their "thing" and all are unique!

[Rosie85]

I agree with the whole identity thing Atomic. It is so fun to have multiple of one gender and get to see who they become. Much more fun than one of each. I am extremely happy with having a lot of boys I just wish to finish off with one little lady!

I get comments a lot too but not because of the size of family per say---it is my age. I look very young, most people assume I am 24 at most and when they see I have 3 kids already...it astonishes them. Of course I am not 24 but I am still young to have 3 kids. I will 4 before I am 30. I get older ladies coming up to me telling me I am too young to have so many kids and some say I am too young to even be married! ugh.

I probably get the most remarks from my own family members about the size of my family and friends. Almost all of them only had 2, 3 at most. So they all have something to say about having 4 kids...it's too many.

[Hobbermittens]

This thread is totally making me want a fifth child.

[Rosie85]

Me too Hobber and I haven't my fourth yet even! Well to be honest I always wanted 6 and DH...the silly man..is cutting me off at 4.

[Boysway]

Rosie. I have the same thing happen. Most people are surprised when they find out I have three kids (plus one watching over us). My eldest is 13. I love when people tell me I look 26-28. I was actually 31 in December.

[atomic sagebrush]

Not to sound melodramatic but I have been bullied and almost persecuted at times because I looked really young when I had my first. Treated bad by all sorts of people, clerks in stores, doctors offices, but I was in my 20's and married. Strangers would come up to me and say "I hope that's your brother" and then not believe me when I told them my age (which as an innocent young thing I felt the need to do instead of telling them to fuck off)

[motherofboys]

A good friend who I've known since I my 1st child (now 8) was a baby just announced she is having a boy. She has 3 girls and I've been right there with her for so long, knowing she wanted a boy and I wanted a girl.
I am both happy for her, and sad. Sad that it was her and not me who 'got lucky' happy that as this was 100% the last for her since has finally got her boy. She posted today on facebook saying how it still doesn't feel real to be buying blue. And I'm so so sure that I'm not ever going to get that experience.