Part 9: Due December 2017, January, February and March 2018

[Skyblue]

Can't wait to hear bluebooties. Let's do the announcement together on 6th. I am going to ask them to
show me the gender after they get all the measurements and say all is ok. I am a bit worried. Not trying to think about it and just praying. ❤️[emoji4]


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[Pbn3]

Bluebooties and Skyblue I cannot wait for both you ladies to announce gender [emoji3][emoji3]

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[LMSM]

Blue that is fantastic news!!! Now to confirm everything else is ok – FX so hard for you!

[LMSM]

Can’t wait for you and Sky to announce genders – am sure you have two boys cooking in there!

4b2p – phew glad the move is done! Glad to see you back

[LMSM]

Also, wanted to add
I feel terrible for writing this but …right now I. just. can’t. I thought I was good – but am not – I get waves of wanting to cry ….GD was there both times before, and I got sort of past it (but then again, not really or I wouldn’t have invested myself so heavily in a sway etc.) but this time it feels so final that I may probably, almost certainly, never have a son, it stings so bad. I was soooo geared up for it to be a boy – I probably jinxed myself, bought some boy clothes, basically was in the mindset it could NOT not be a boy with all I had done.
It doesn’t help people’s comments are in the way – as much as I try to shrug it off – when I mentioned to my FIL that I was willing to be bet my SIL’s baby to be was a second boy – to which he straight away responded “oh no, I hope not, same gender siblings suck” – erm, how am I meant to take it, with 2 soon 3 girls?! I spent my evening sobbing….
I know this little lady will be a true sunshine and we’ll be crazy about her – but can’t help but feel somewhat helpless with my feelings, that I never will get to experience what having both a son and daughter is like. I guess that what we all want so bad, get the opportunity to have a bond with each gender & I know you get it - man, I never thought I would be sobbing over the gender of a healthy baby growing in me. I mean, what more could I ask for, right?! I feel so darn guilty and shallow and just can’t shake that but nor can I shake the sadness, either.

Bottom line – I will read you from afar until I feel a bit better and will keep myself in the lop of what is happening with you ^^
!
x

[Pbn3]

Lmsm I'm at work otherwise I'd be saying alot more but just quickly big hugs xxoo you're an absolute sweetheart and not shallow at all. The fact you feel guilty for these feelings prove you aren't [emoji173] Be kind to yourself and I'll have more to say when I can get in here for longer xxoo

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[Bluebooties]

LMSM i was i ur exact position after hearing girl for DD3. It hurt terribly ! Let it out lighten ur heart we have all gone through GD and so we all can relate. Big big hugs !!

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[netti02]

LMSM you sound like me but im wanting a girl. Theres nothing shallow about the way you feel, the guilt certainly makes it worse. Id always thought id have a mix of genders in my family...... 5 boys in and here i sit [emoji854] anticipating upcoming scans to see if finally we have broke the drought. I want a daughter for many reasons. But what ive been telling myself lately is if this is another sweet boy (i am so done after this) then i want to make sure that none of my lingering feelings of not having a dd get in the way of raising my sons. I want to make sure they are strong and independent. Which means ill need to work on myself a little and take some time somewhere for me. I recently picked up a book and started, i haven't done that in months. From experience with GD all i can say is it takes time. It certainly helps when your babe is born. I just picked out a boys name the other day as im already so convinced, and i did feel a little better like i was bonding already.

And other people's comments are the worst hence why only my bf and inlaws know. I have told my older boys and they are doing a good job of keeping it secret. We won't be telling anyone until we know the gender and are ready. We've faced far too many nosey, inconsiderate questions before.

Bluebooties glad all is well so far.



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[XXforhubby]

LMSM-I just want to give you a great big hug! People just don’t realize that what they say can hurt someone so badly! I see how those comments would hurt terribly! You are not being selfish at all! The heart want what the heart wants! Give yourself all the time that you need, and please be kind to yourself. You are a great mom, and I know that no matter how you feel you will continue to do so! GD is a powerful thing and no one can say how you will feel in the future. I do know that those feelings will be separate from how you feel about your new little one when you meet her. Give yourself some time and your DH some time. Who knows what the future may hold that you cannot see or know right now. Just take each moment as it comes. Please know we all will be here waiting for you, should you need to process things or to vent.

(((Huge Hugs)))


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[Skyblue]

Oh LMSM - Big hugs sweets. Anyone in your place will feel the same. You are a wonderful person. Imagine how horrible it was on my part to be disappointed with my first. I still feel the guilt so so so bad. But I felt it because dd was the 6th girl in my family between my two sisters and one brother and people won't stop with their comments. Once dh's brother in law who we visited for the first time said - Wow, all girls in your family no boy and he repeated it 4-5 times like we made a world record with girls. I felt shattered. And when I heard dd was a girl, I actually cried a lot. Dh got so mad because he loved that he was getting a girl. He said he was sad because I was disappointed at a time when we should be celebrating. And after she was born, there were people in my family who actually called to congratulate and said, how they wished god would have given us a son. Imagine the ruthlessness of people. So, I totally understand what you are feeling. I read this site day and night for months before actually starting ttc. My dh thought that I had lost my sanity reading so much. We fought because he wasn't as serious as I was about the sway. He would justify by saying that he doesn't care even if we have another daughter because daughters are the best. So, how could I have argued with that? I still did the best I could. And the most frustrating part of it all was when I actually got a bfp,each and everyone in his family mentioned how they pray it's a boy. He then realized that his family wants a boy so bad and they would be sad if it's a girl. And my family was all chilled out about it. They didn't even care about me not wanting to find the gender.
What I am trying to say is that I am so thankful for you all because I couldn't have shared it with anyone in the world. And finding out that one is having an opposite gender after swaying is twice as hard. Pls keep sharing with us. I know this journey would have been so scary and full of worries without you all. Being here is a blessing.
I am sorry for going on and on about me but gd is so real to me. After finding out dd's gender, People spoke to me like I was a poor woman who is so sad since she has so many girls in her family. Trust me those words hurt so bad. Just because I expressed my wish of having a boy in front of them sometime. These were my so called very close friends. That's why this time I made a promise to myself for not letting people throw a pity party for me and I decided to be team green even if I did find out the gender. I have a friend/neighbor who looked at one of my u/s picture with no nub just the upper part and said that she thinks it's a girl for me. People hit where it hurts. I didn't want them to have that kind of control and power over my life hence we are staying team green for them until this baby comes. I will only share it here after seeing with my own eyes.
The sad part of it all is that these people have no idea that their words could upset someone so so bad.
I wish I could give you a hug in person. The fact is that people won't even care after the baby is born but until they know the gender, they won't leave you alone.
Let yourself feel what you are feeling my friend and don't be so hard on yourself. Gd is real and is hard.
Lots of love.


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