November thread for all swaying BLUE xxxxx

[luvalittleman]

I'm sorry Cass, I was really hoping it could have been anything else.
Get yourself a hot pack and please stay on here with us. Many of us (especially us old eggs) will be trying for some time.
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Big hugs.

[ELP]

Thinking of you Cass xxx

[minimatron]

Big hugs Cass x

[Blueplease]

Case.. Thinking of you and your family. X

[The Anchor]

I'm so sorry Cass...I had a m/c at 12 weeks back in October and it was one of the hardest things I ever went through. HUGS

[Cass]

I am so sorry about your miscarriage Anchor. It is so hard - emotionally and physically - after just over four weeks pregnant that I just can't imagine how difficult it would be at 12 weeks.

I got my hcg taken this morning and will visit my doctor tomorrow morning. The cramping and bleeding is a lot worse today than it was tomorrow so I guess the test/doctor visit is just a formality. But at least I will be able to talk through everything and see when she recommends trying again.

Thanks again to everyone for your support, it really means a lot to me. My hubby hasn't been overly sensitive about this but I guess it is difficult for them to understand. The old "let's move forward and try again" is ok for him but I am still stuck dealing with the miscarriage. Don't get me wrong, he is a great man/husband but they can't seem to say the right things!

[The Anchor]

My DH said something along the lines of "you gained all that weight for nothing". Thanks honey. MEN.

[becca]

Oh Cass, I'm so very sorry to hear that. I can't imagine the heartache it causes. I hope it all goes very quickly. My very best friend had a miscarriage earlier in the year. She had the same situation with her husband. He is very loving and all he wants to do is make her happy, yet he never said the right things. Everything he did or said upset her more. She just wanted him to grieve with her and not just press forward with optimism. She just gave birth to her first little one 2 weeks ago and while still deeply hurt by her miscarriage, is so happy with her baby, no sleep and all. It will happen and soon! xxx

[Cinss]

Yeah it is hard for the men to relate, not their fault they just never have to go through anything like it. I know it is heartbreaking now, but i always think if i'd never had a m/c with my 1st i wouldn't have my DD now, so it all gets put into perspective eventually, even though i never think the thoughts of that little one who came and left will ever go away.

[Adoptapom]

Cass, I am so sorry. I know how hard it can be to want to acknowledge what happened and the people around you to not get it. And, complete disclosure- when we found out we lost our baby I asked for something to make my brain shut off. My ob gave me enough Xanax to get through the weekend after the d&e and it was a Godsend. Don't be afraid to ask for something so you can get some rest. Do not hesitate to message me if you want to talk about anything.

My heart breaks for you and I pray your body heart can heal quickly.