UK SMOG Wannabes ~ December

[charlieispy]

Definitely feeling better than before but still struggling hoping with no school run that will help x inglewood oooh jealous of your lovely quick run x feeling your wrapping fatigue too have been wrapping a handful each day then ihit a wall still have the boys to do

Good luck with your mammoth wrapping session sunset x i have my work do tomorrow too can't be bothered got a face mask today and hair stuff just no energy to try and look nice lol fx i manage something

[Kell]

Sorry going to have a rant here guys please feel free to ignore me!

Dp's so is visiting us this weekend, we have him from tonight till Monday evening, we won't see him again until well into the new year so it's our Christmas with him this weekend! Anyway a little history on his mum, Unfortunatly she has always been very against giving dp much time with his son, 1 night every 1st and 3rd weekend is all we were allowed, no extra during holidays and never over Christmas ever!
We it got too much and we took things to a solicitor and went through mediation to get more access, she didn't have a leg to stand on and was advised this by solicitors so we have come to a much better and fair agreement!
That was in October, fast forward to today, dp went to collect his son from her parents house, the ex and his son live 2 hours away from us and this weekend she came to visit her parents so it was the best thing to do this weekend.
He goes to pick him up and would you believe she sends him out with nothing but the clothes he was wearing! She's always been adamant we are not to buy him clothes, always sends him with a bag of clothes. Not today, no clothes, no coat, no gloves or hat, nothing! Bare in mind it's been snowing so she must have literally taken his coat etc off him and kept them at her parents!
I'm fuming I mean wtf is wrong with this nutter!? I can on imagine this is her way of getting a bit of control back but ffs I'm actually stunned!

[Inglewood]

She sounds like a nightmare!! Poor boy, it's him suffering (literally) with no clean clothes or a jkt!!! Did she think u would turn round and say, "well if he's no stuff with him then he can't stay?" Is she jealous of his new family (u guys?)

[maybebabythree]

Oh kell that is sad. It's not fair to take the break up put on the kids. Do you have any thing in his size? If he's older then maybe just the basics cheap from eBay or tesco and keep then at your place. Your boys can have them when they are older. Hugs

Yes ivf is 6k each time but genesis will do a second round for 4k if the first round fails. I have seen very few one hits wonders on ig and I have been on there for about three years

[threelittlemenandcounting]

Hello Ladies sorry i havent been on much, I always have so much to catch up on, this weekend is mad for us, tomorrow morning the boys room and living room are being decorated and then I also have a party from a music group I go to with ds3 and dd then from 4 we have a party for my friends 30th its a family party but I have baking and food to make and then sunday is just as busy with a rememberence meal for my grandad, children in a nativity at the carol service and well everything else I normally do, would all be easier if they had finished school but they finish on tuesday aarrrrgghhh feeling just slightly stressed!!!

[Kell]

I don't think it's a jealousy thing, the split up when tommy was less than a year old, he's nearly 7 now, she's married and has another child as well, I honestly think its because she's pissed off that we dared to go to solicitors for more access. She's always been awkward but this is a new low.
I don't mind buying him bits for here but some sort of warning would have been good, I
Mean it's a week before Christmas she's out of order! I can honestly say I hate this woman, I'm sure it doesn't help that I'm hormonal! Lol

[chocolate]

Kell that's just low, using her son to make a point, he must have been freezing!!! Well ladies, I have decided to hold off ttc till March (if not pregnant this cycle) lol. I know March onwards is best to sway so want to give it the best shot I can. DS1 starts school in september so don't want there to be any huge changes around that time. I'm so bad at rushing into things and then wishing I'd have given it more thought and the bigger the age gap the better. The only worry is that work hours drop and I can't then claim full maternity allowance but I'm going to have to chance that and keep my fingers crossed. Is anyone else waiting tillMarch? I need a waiting buddy!! Going to be so so hard to wait it out! Going to plan lots of lovely things to do with my boys in the meantime to appreciate only juggling 2 :-)

[Inglewood]

Kell, it must be so difficult. Dh's sister has a boy who is 13 from a prev relationship and his dad lives 2 hrs away. Every 2nd wkend his dad picks him up on a fri takes him to his and brings him back on a sun night. Been doing it for 9yrs! The dad phones and asks to 'swap' wkends and my SIL says ok (most times) but he won't swap his wkends. It drives my SIL mad, but she's kept her mouth shut about it to let them stay amicable, she is re-married and has a 7yr old girl and sometimes he doesn't want to go to his dad's as it's it's friend s b'day etc and his dad refuses to let him go to the party and take him the next wkend, which is a shame. His dad has re-married a woman with 3 kids and they now have a 1yr old baby, so dh's nephew doesn't even want to go that much now as what was 'his' bedroom for 9yrs is now his step-brother's and he has no time with his dad. He has told his dad all this, but he doesn't listen. Dh's nephew refused to go only twice last yr out of about 26 visits as he had football games etc with his friends and he's a runner with a club. Not beacuse he didn't want to see his dad. So his dad has got a solicitor involved, blaming my SIL when it's the boy not wanting to go due to other commitments,my SIL has always been fair, even when she's had to bite her lip about alot of stuff. So complicated and sad, and for ur DH to have to do that he must of really missed him and it's nice he gets to see his wee brother's, that's so impt too. I hope things get sorted. Sounds like ur the being the fair side to this situation and she's not, at least u can say ur are trying ur best! GL x

[indigoviolet]

Wow a lot to catch up on girls!

Went to have accupuncture this morning to help with the m/s, seems to have helped a bit, need to go back next week so hopefully I'll feel OK over Christmas. At least it was nice lying down relaxing without the boys for an hour!

I have a scan on Friday because of my previous losses. It will be a relief to see a healthy bean so praying it all goes well. I'm hoping they will be able to see enough as I will only be 7+2 or so weeks. Will put up a pg ticker if all goes well!

Love to you all, have lovely weekends

oh, sunset, someone I think it was on IG had as her ticker 'if you think my hands are full, you should see my heart', always a good response!

[Inglewood]

MIL saga continues... I sent her a sweet email thanking her for the boys xmas £ to buy gifts for them, talked about ds2 talking to my bump and general chit chat. Then reassured he the woman on FB did not know the sex etc.... I got this awful email saying how dare I blame her (which I haven't once blamed her for telling my older SIL) and how dare I email her and not phone...OMG!! Dh was going crazy! I told her I emailed as ds2 has an ear infection and I've been running about daft, dh working late and we are my bed early with tiredness!! Like I need the stress, so I called her and explained she had got the wrong end of the stick, I was simply reassuring her only Dh and I knew and it wasn't meant to sound nasty. Dh says it doesn't it's a nice email and she's just bitter that we won't tell her the sex and she's not centre of attention! I do get on with her, but this is out of order! She then admitted she DID tell my SIL she read that....so what the hell??? Might be an awkward visit at xmas this yr!!! Don't go till 27th as they live 2hrs away. We left the call ok, no cross words at all, but I thought NO u ain't getting away with this! She always creates a fuss when a baby is born, that she wasn't first to know the chosen names, she wasn't told every pg milestone first etc... she told dh she is annoyed he doesn't phone every 2wks after my scan to update, what's wrong with her calling us??? She hasn't vsited in over a year! we visit them and they can't be bothered to drive here (they admit that) and same if someone getting married she plays martyr! A selfsih, childish woman sometimes and a lovely kind the other. Dh says she wasn't a loving mum, just there and no more