Due Sept/Oct/Nov 2017 (4)

[foxtrotmama]

XX, you look great!

I had a few hard days in the last few. As much as I would love one more shot, our current income would get really tight if we were to have a fourth so I'm wondering if these three boys are just my lot. I do adore the two I have, so there's that.

I'm still throwing up, which just seems unfair at this point. I feel weird complaining about it, because I had HG with DS1 all the way through my pregnancy, but I guess I just assumed that if I didn't get HG again it would stop at 12-14 weeks like it did with DS2 and with the two second tri miscarriages I had before DS1.

[XXforhubby]

Awe Fox, that's so unfair! I'm sorry you're still getting sick [emoji20]! I just get nausea at night still.

Maybe in time your boys will help make you feel complete, or you may decide to give it another go. Truth be told, I could have stopped with DS3. I just kept having that nagging feeling that if I hadn't gotten my boy yet, we would SO try for #4. It wasn't until I overheard my DH one day tell a staff member of his that his heart broke a little each time we were told boy, did I start to consider #4 for his sake. Ironically, he was against TTCing. He told me recently it was because he didn't want to get his hopes up again.

You'll find out in time what is best for your family. Who knows, you may end up with a pleasant surprise (or oops!)!


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[Birthfree]

We were set to stop at 4. Had a huuuuge oops surprise, were going to be done with #5 (5 years go by) and we are now having our last baby (#6) and it's a girl.

Sometimes life gets to be all sorts of versions along the way.

[Butterflies buttercups]

21 weeks over here and finally some kicking !
Surpirised it's taking so long but it's proper now my husband felt her last night - got my scan next week hopingmy placenta had shifted up and out of the way!

JC so sorry you have not had the outcome u wanted - I don't know how or why but some things just don't go our way in life no matter how we try and it just seems so unfair - although I know having a healthy child and carrying to term is such a blessing I know what it's like to yearn for a certain gender - hope you will be ok by d day xxx


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[ahorn586]

JC- I'm so sorry that you didn't hear boy and I pray that in time you will heal from this. This little girl was meant to be a part of your family. Just know that we all are here for you to air anything that's on your mind. (((HUGE HUGS)))

[Jconger]

Thank you all for your love and support. I decided my family just won't look the way I envisioned. Going from wanting two boys and a girl to a girl and two boys, to two girls and one boy and now three girls and one boy [emoji23] I think I will be back... I just trust God has this little girl coming for a reason. We could always adopt but I just have peace knowing that we aren't done yet.


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[Shannshaff]

JC - glad to hear that you are at peace! I never in a million years thought I would be having baby#5 (technically 6). But here I am. God has a special plan for this little girl!

HUGS to all of our sway opposites. We love you all and want to hear how you are doing no matter what! This is a safe place!!! I know first had how hard it can be. I was in a VERY dark place after loosing our ID girls last pg. At that time I did not understand why God took our girls and left us another boy! It took many weeks and me seriously trying how to go HT for the next little one. And here I am, most likely expecting boy #5 and I am OK with it. It took me a long time to get here, but I am at peace with having all boys now.

Hang in there!

[amelia10]

That's so lovely Shan thank you for your sweet message and it gives me hope and a little acceptance that what is meant to be is meant to be. I won't lie but when I found out last week I was carrying boy no.4 all I could think of was I don't want this baby or to carry it anymore, very nadir thoughts. But I've started, slowly, to accept my faith!

I am conscious on the other hand that I am bringing down the general happy tone of this site of all the people who are getting their desired gender and putting a bit of a downer for everyone! I hope this isn't the case but can't help it sometimes my emotions just come pouring out x

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[Erin514]

JC and Amelia, so sorry you didn't get your DG after so much effort and hope. Glad to hear it sounds like you're finding peace with it, JC. Amelia, don't worry about bringing down the mood! Even though it seems like a lot of the women here have been lucky enough to have successful sways, we found this site for a reason, and that reason is that we all either struggle(d) with a desire to have a child of a certain sex or had a spouse who did. For most of us, we had only opposites when we arrived here. So every one of us has been there in some sense or can relate!

[Shannshaff]

amelia - I can only speak for myself, but I don't think you or any of the other ladies that did not get their DG are bringing me down. It is what it is. If we all got what we desired 100% of the time the world would be a selfish place. I firmly believe now (It has taken a LONG time for me to realize it) that we get what we NEED and it might not be what we desire. I did NOT want another boy (let alone the possibility of 3, which ended up being 2 girls and 1 boy) with my last pregnancy. At one point I was debating being pregnant at all after we lost the 2 girls. Like I said, I was in a very dark place. I have to tell you that he is exactly what our family needed and still needs every day. He is such an amazing little man. I now know a small portion of the reason that God spared him. He is definitely special.