12 weeks 2 days scan- Boy or Girl???

[JoannaK]

Hi DoulaMama,
Well the Dr said that recovery shouldn't be as bad, because the incision they make is a lot smaller than my previous incisions from the full term pregnancies, and the upside of not having to worry about breastfeeding is that I won't have to worry about which painkillers go through the milk, so I can take whatever is needed for the pain. But he says the recovery time is shorter- likewise with things like the milk coming in, they'll give me things to stop it coming in, but at 20 weeks, there's very little milk there anyway. Similarly, and my biggest fear being will I have the normal baby blues and hormonal fluctuations, he said I shouldn't go through that, because my hormones aren't at the peak where they would be at 40 weeks, so the fluctuations shouldn't be as severe.
They say a 3 month wait before trying again, and I've been going back and forth in my head whether I'd have the guts to try again, but I think since I've been told it's not genetic, that has made me feel better, and it's made me start thinking I'd like to try again as soon as I could

xx

[TTC5]

Thanks TTC5 xx
I just want whatever needs to happen happen, and move on to trying again, I just want another healthy pregnancy and baby, I love being pregnant

You will have your healthy baby, don't you worry about that. This little man will be watching over youxxxxxx

[DoulaMama]

You will have your healthy baby, don't you worry about that. This little man will be watching over youxxxxxx

Yes! I 100% agree with TTC 5

How are you doing, Mama? I've been thinking about you a lot~ How is your hubby? And your kiddos? xxoo

[TTC5]

Stopping by to let you know I have been thinking of you all xoxoxo

[JoannaK]

Thankyou so much everybody

[Glittergirl]

Thinking of you....posted on the other site but just wanted to check in.

[mrsj]

So very sorry to hear your news. Praying for you.

[JoannaK]

Thankyou. I have to go to hospital tomorrow afternoon for the surgery. And I'm going to the same hospital that my last two babies were born, and that my future babies will be born. So I'm hoping that's not going to hurt me too much. At this point, I just want to go in and get this done, and start all over again and try for a healthy pregnancy and put this behind me, as much as I possibly can. And I'm so sick of having people's opinions affect me so badly (not opinions on any forums, but friends that I know personally, sadly)

I would have thought I'd have some kind of understanding, but I guess none of my friends have been in this situation and I"m trying to just think about it from that perspective. I just hope that I'm not a weird person, or that I"m wrong to plan for and hope for another pregnancy asap, because honest to god it's the only way I'm getting through this right now