TTC for a girl after my rainbow boy?

[angelmamma]

with most of my babies i have had negative pregnancy tests for up to a week-10 days after af was due, i was pregnant and the pregnancies went to full term, fingers crossed this is your month and its just taking a while to show up on the tests, i know how frustrating it is to keep getting bfn and not know what on earth is going on xx

Thank you! I am so confused as my temp is still up. Everyone is getting bfp at 10-12dpo. I'm 15dpo and no sign of AF. I have no clue when AF is due as my LP varies so much, all I know is when I O'd.

[atomic sagebrush]

Hi, atomic!

It's me again. Well, I am cd41. The longest cycle I have ever had and 15dpo (per my temps). My temps are still very elevated, yet I keep on getting BFN ( I got a vvf line yesterday, but the line disappeared and I am thinking it was more of an indent. . Negative on a digital. ) 11dpo I had twinges on my right side and 12DPO I had huge AF like cramps, I was 99% sure I was getting AF. She never came. I took a First Response yesterday (14dpo) and it came back negative. :/ I know someone told me their periods came back like mine at 6 weeks pp, then just stopped randomly. Could that be the case for me? I am confused since I had a temp rise 2 weeks ago. My LP has never been more than 8 days since I'm still nursing my 1 year old, so I have been testing every other day and keep coming back with negatives. :/ Could it be possible I never O'd and it's just the stairstep pattern you were talking about before? How would I know? Also, when would you say would be the time to stop testing? I am planning on testing tomorrow at 16dpo, but after that, I guessI'll be convinced I won't get a bfp as we haven't BD in a while (hubby is away). Also, I read that any egg that implants late (around 12dpo) will most likely end in a mc and the later your BFP, the higher chance of losing the pregnancy. Do you have any personal experience with this? Thank you.

the most likely explanation is that you ovulated later than you think. yes, it's entirely possible this is a stairstep month for you and you oed later than you think or haven't Oed yet. And the bummer deal is that you won't know until AF arrives.

Just because you haven't gotten AF or a positive pregnancy test yet does not mean that a pregnancy is implanting late. You most likely just ovulated past when you think (or haven't yet at all)

[angelmamma]

the most likely explanation is that you ovulated later than you think. yes, it's entirely possible this is a stairstep month for you and you oed later than you think or haven't Oed yet. And the bummer deal is that you won't know until AF arrives.

Just because you haven't gotten AF or a positive pregnancy test yet does not mean that a pregnancy is implanting late. You most likely just ovulated past when you think (or haven't yet at all)

Well, as soon as I hit send on my last response, AF came. Ha, like a cruel joke. I wish there was a way to ovulate sooner, closer to 14dpo then closer to 30+ dpo. I am making sure to eat a full serving of fat a day and have been eating fairly well. Don't know what I am doing wrong.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh angel I'm sorry.

Any way to get Clomid?

Can you think back 10-14 days or so? Did it seem like you were ovulating then??

I would definitely be having attempts every 4 days if you're not. (sorry if I'm repeating myself, I just like to be really sure!)

[angelmamma]

Oh angel I'm sorry.

Any way to get Clomid?

Can you think back 10-14 days or so? Did it seem like you were ovulating then??

I would definitely be having attempts every 4 days if you're not. (sorry if I'm repeating myself, I just like to be really sure!)

Its okay, atomic. I think this time around I just got my hopes up too much. I have to try to stop doing that.
How would I get my hands in Clomid? Would I ask my obgyn? Or can I get it online? I mentioned to my GP that we were trying and he told me I was ridiculous since I was nursing my son. I'm guessing if I ask my GP, he'll tell me to wean before he gives me Clomid.
Well, looking back at my chart, I had EWCM 12 days before AF came, and watery about 3 days before AF came. That's my only inkling. I do tend to have EWCM stick around for a day or two after I get a temp rise.
Yes, we baby dance every 4 days. This month we were off a little since my husband has been working a lot due to the holidays.
I will continue to have a full serving of dairy a day. I started taking some iron per your recommendation last time we communicated as my last cycle was pretty heavy.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ah yes, one of those doctors. They LOVE to make people wean even though tons of women do wean and still have the exact same problem anyway. I do not recommend weaning and it's possible for most people to get pregnant eventually while nursing, you just have to wait a little while longer.

I'd go to my OB and forget to mention that you're still nursing.

I don't love you guys buying online and I can't recommend any sites or anything like that, sorry. People do it all the time, I just can't encourage it.

yep I suspect that's probably around when it happened, I'd be sure to have attempt any time you see EWCM (altho with hubby working a lot that has a pretty big element of luck involved) Watery discharge right before AF comes is totally normal.

[angelmamma]

Ah yes, one of those doctors. They LOVE to make people wean even though tons of women do wean and still have the exact same problem anyway. I do not recommend weaning and it's possible for most people to get pregnant eventually while nursing, you just have to wait a little while longer.

I'd go to my OB and forget to mention that you're still nursing.

I don't love you guys buying online and I can't recommend any sites or anything like that, sorry. People do it all the time, I just can't encourage it.

yep I suspect that's probably around when it happened, I'd be sure to have attempt any time you see EWCM (altho with hubby working a lot that has a pretty big element of luck involved) Watery discharge right before AF comes is totally normal.

What do you mean by, Doctors have women wean, women wean and still have problems anyway? Could nursing have a long term affect on my fertility? Both of my pregnancies were surprises. I conceived my rainbow son (who was a surprise) 7 months after I gave birth to my angel daughter.
I spoke with a family member today who is currently going through IVF and she told me a doc won't prescribe any clomid unless you have been trying a year and are a certain age (I'm turning 22 soon). She said most likely he'll have me wean and come back in a year! I will leave out weaning to the doctor, should I also say we've been trying for almost a year despite my son just turning 1? lol

[atomic sagebrush]

No no no, I am saying that the women had something else going on all along. It wasn't the nursing, it was never the nursing, it was some other thing, but the doctors just immediately seize upon the most obvious solution which is having people wean. But if it's something else going on, then that's not going to help.

NO nursing does NOT have a long term effect on your fertility. Please continue to nurse as long as it is working for you and your little guy. I nursed for 11 years over the course of my life and still was able to get pregnant easily at 39 and 41!

I didn't realize you were only 22. Yes the odds that you're going to get Clomid in this scenario are slim to none and I'd not even bother going to the doctor. They're not going to help you yet. The "year of trying" does not start until you can reasonably get pregnant and that's not till your baby is 6-12 months old anyway even if you WEREN"T breastfeeding. I think you need to just be patient, even though I know it sucks, and your body will slowly regain full fertility over time.

[angelmamma]

No no no, I am saying that the women had something else going on all along. It wasn't the nursing, it was never the nursing, it was some other thing, but the doctors just immediately seize upon the most obvious solution which is having people wean. But if it's something else going on, then that's not going to help.

NO nursing does NOT have a long term effect on your fertility. Please continue to nurse as long as it is working for you and your little guy. I nursed for 11 years over the course of my life and still was able to get pregnant easily at 39 and 41!

I didn't realize you were only 22. Yes the odds that you're going to get Clomid in this scenario are slim to none and I'd not even bother going to the doctor. They're not going to help you yet. The "year of trying" does not start until you can reasonably get pregnant and that's not till your baby is 6-12 months old anyway even if you WEREN"T breastfeeding. I think you need to just be patient, even though I know it sucks, and your body will slowly regain full fertility over time.

Hello there, atomic! I want to wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays!
I also (if you don't mind) come bearing a couple questions! -
Well, hubby and I took a small break for a couple of weeks (no temping, no testing, no timed BD) and just decided to have fun. Well, my little love bug turned 1 yesterday (yay!), so we have decided to start trying again! I started to temp as of yesterday again and I ended up springing for the more expensive OPKs- clear blue digital advanced. I decided to test since I've been having lots of EWCM, and got a solid smiley! My question is - hubby and I have been BD every day for the past 3-4 days for fun....would he basically be "shooting blanks" by now? If not, would it sway blue?
Would you suggest we attempt again today?
Also, I know we discussed this earlier, but I know we spoke of basically our bodies can gear up to O, then doesn't hit the right amount of hormones to trigger ovulation. Would getting a "peak" non flashing smiley usually be enough to trigger O, or would it also have very good chances of failing to O again? I am excited since per my charts, I usually don't O until CD 26... today is CD 19. HOWEVER, I tend to have a pattern where I see fertile cm (not quite positive OPK, but darker), then I don't O and O instead about 10 days later. The difference this month, is I got a "peak" solid smiley OPK....usually, I use easy@home online tests and don't get positive OPKs till later (I get almost positive, but not quite).
I also have been on a course of antibiotics (amoxicillin). I am mid course. I am also on my last day of prednisone.
Would any of these change my cycle (cause me to O earlier or later)?
Thanks again, atomic! Looking forward to hearing back from you.
Also, want to mention our nursing schedules and frequencies have been a bit off the past several weeks (since Thanksgiving). We are now just starting to get back into our frequent nursing session. My son has had the stomach bugs, cold, flu, etc. this month (it's been a tough season illness wise), so his breastmilk intake has fluctuated A LOT the past month. He still nurses a lot, but our schedules have changed numerous times the past few weeks.
Edit to add: We just had an attempt today (12/23/17) due to the blazing positive OPK...I really hope we didn't screw ourselves over by BD all week!
Uodate: 12/24/17/ - No rise in BBT today. :/ Still a superfluous amount of fertile cm though.

[angelmamma]

I GOT MY BFP at 9dpo! MY EGGO IS PREGGO! I'm over the moon! Thank you all!