♥ JULY 2011 TTC Boy Chit Chat Thread ♥

[Layla]

lol, you don't close down the threads iluv, for me here and the uk ladies you posted at 4am! And your posts deserve more than the usual 2 word replies like 'oh dear' ''well done' so I know I always wait til a more peaceful time of day like now, 9.50am, kids watching telly with a bit of toast before replying to more serious things.

Where are you in your cycle, you attempted this month didn't you??

Agree with ELP I can only get online in the evenings when my 2 are asleep. I sometimes read in morning but never have time to reply. Btw I always seem to be the one that closes the thread too and lately with a lot of controversy as well!!!

[Layla]

Just found out that one of my relatives who is a vegetarian is having a boy. Her first child is a girl. I felt a weird tinge of jealousy and thought: great here I am stuffing myself with meat and she does nothing different and gets a boy. Isn't that terrible? I do feel guilty about it. I am trying to work out what she has done differently from before she felt pregnant with DD. I know she eats a lot of nuts tons of them, she does eat fish and eggs and dairy too, but i am pretty sure she was eating all those things before DD too. The only thing that I can think of is that she used to exercise a lot before DD. She was thin and mascular. After DD she stopped exercising as much (I think she still did yoga) and put on quite a bit of weight. Not good news as that was my least favourite part of ttc boy diet, but oh well we must learn and accept the good with the bad.

[ELP]

Just found out that one of my relatives who is a vegetarian is having a boy. Her first child is a girl. I felt a weird tinge of jealousy and thought: great here I am stuffing myself with meat and she does nothing different and gets a boy. Isn't that terrible? I do feel guilty about it. I am trying to work out what she has done differently from before she felt pregnant with DD. I know she eats a lot of nuts tons of them, she does eat fish and eggs and dairy too, but i am pretty sure she was eating all those things before DD too. The only thing that I can think of is that she used to exercise a lot before DD. She was thin and mascular. After DD she stopped exercising as much (I think she still did yoga) and put on quite a bit of weight. Not good news as that was my least favourite part of ttc boy diet, but oh well we must learn and accept the good with the bad.

Thats interesting Layla!! And remeber the weight is temporary, you'll lose it chasing that little fella around

[LolaInLove]

Hay ladies, I had a great appointment! I wasn't there 5 minutes before my midwife almost drug me down the hall to the u/s room! She quickly found the baby and the heartbeat, I started to cry. We went back to the room and talked a bunch more. She assured me my detachment is completely normal and I shouldn't be surprised if it continues for 4+ weeks past my m/c point. She also said we will do u/s as often as I need in fact I have an appt in 2 wks and then will come back again at 13 weeks! I didn't get a pic but I was able to record the heartbeat on my phone, which she found slightly to the RIGHT side. I'm feeling a little better after seeing my bean but I'm feeling a lot better knowing they will support me in being a complete wreck for a while.

TTC5- PEE ALREADY!!

YEA!!!!! This made me so happy this morning! Jen, SOOOO glad all is ok, and sounds like you have an amazing mw!

[LolaInLove]

Lola you are great I have not yet disagreed with anything you have said on this forum. I actually meant to say I agree with both your and iluv's comments just wanted to clarify that the woman was not ungrateful for her kids because few other comments were how dare she be ungrateful. Totally agree with you about getting frustrated over getting pregnant and difficulties whether real or possible over it.

I only posted that because I am discovering that swaying is getting a lot of media coverage lately. Now I wish I had not I definitely did not mean to upset anyone.

Well, feel free to disagree with me anytime, but glad I did not offend or read it wrong! LOL And yes, you are right about swaying getting media coverage....I personally don't talk about it with anyone but DH, because I feel like it opens the door for commentary that I don't need to listen to right now, even if from my well-intentioned friends. I did learn my lesson there.....about 3 months into swaying, and after a few unsuccessful tries, I was emailing with a friend who has BG and asked her if she did any specific timing like Shettles for either, and she was like, WHAT? And then gave me a bit of a derogatory "it's all in God's hands" and then proceeded to tell me she just got lucky. To be honest, I haven't talked to her since. It just pissed me off. That's when I decided I wouldn't mention swaying to anyone outside of the forums.

[LolaInLove]

I am so sorry iluv I almost felt guilty showing off that I don't have thyroid issues. It is bad how dr usually tell you stuff only when you ask them otherwise their attitude seems to be just do as I say and you won't need to worry. But usually you do and i always check everything they mention first and then ask them about it. I found that works best get them to do some work for their money. Please don't feel discouraged from ttc just because I was before. If you want to have another baby then you should do your best and try. If it does not work out then maybe thank your stars for what you have and move on, but don't move on without trying first. You have obviously been through the absolute worst. I can't even imagine how you would have felt. I lost my dad when I was young, but loosing a child would be the absolute worst. How cruel can this world be. But if you got through that you can get through anything. Another favourite saying of mine is: Success is not measured by the postition a person is in, it is measured by the obsticles a person has had to overcome to get to where they are. GL you have been trough worse you can get through this.

Iluv, I could not have said everything I want to say to you better than what Layla wrote here. Do not fear a little break....sometimes it is the best thing for you. A wise veteran swayer from IG told me that once. It gets your head right, your body right, and your sway better. You know, I personally didn't want to take 3 whole months off from ttc after the m/c. I thought one should do it, but I decided to listen to the doctors and also decided to use these 3 months to really amp up my attitude and my body for swaying, and now I'm on the verge of trying again and I feel really good about it. I hope you can find this same peace with a break if that is what you need to do.

And please do not EVER blame yourself or your body for your son's death. I know you have probably heard this a million times, but there is absolutely no good in blaming yourself or feeling guilty. It was just one of those shitty ass shit things that happens to people. I've had a world-rocking thing happen also, and you just have to let it go into a realm of "it just was" and be thankful to the universe/God for the strength given to you to overcome and move forward, the lessons about life you were given from that experience. I know that is hokey, but I know how badly you are feeling with it all, and I just want to offer you massive hugs. xxoo

[LolaInLove]

Just found out that one of my relatives who is a vegetarian is having a boy. Her first child is a girl. I felt a weird tinge of jealousy and thought: great here I am stuffing myself with meat and she does nothing different and gets a boy. Isn't that terrible? I do feel guilty about it. I am trying to work out what she has done differently from before she felt pregnant with DD. I know she eats a lot of nuts tons of them, she does eat fish and eggs and dairy too, but i am pretty sure she was eating all those things before DD too. The only thing that I can think of is that she used to exercise a lot before DD. She was thin and mascular. After DD she stopped exercising as much (I think she still did yoga) and put on quite a bit of weight. Not good news as that was my least favourite part of ttc boy diet, but oh well we must learn and accept the good with the bad.

That IS interesting.....especially since I am wanting to become a vegetarian now. I think I have over-meated myself in the past year. You know, I bet the little bit of weight is what changed.....maybe it is that the male coneptions are favored because there is some fat there to live off should a famine occur. I hope so at least! And yes, it is BY AND LARGE not my favorite thing either, the weight gaining part, but I do consider it to be temporary like ELP said, and also am using a bit of denial thanks to the excellent advice of 3PNB!

[Alexis2007]

Well I'm still waiting to O. I'm on cd9 today. CP was low and firm last night and this am it was definitely softer. Still haven't figured out how to tell if it's open or closed yet. So I guess my body is gearing up to O soon

I am kinda bummed though. DH and I went grocery shopping yesterday and he is starting to complain of all the extra food/supps he has to buy for me. He said I sure hope you get pregnant this month! He has been supportive up until now. Which I think he still is because I know he really wants a son too. But his job is starting to cut out OT lately so we've both been stressing about money lately. I do understand that this swaying stuff costs money, but....idk. If no BFP this month, idk if I'll be able to keep up with the swaying anymore I can probably still keep up my salt intake but idk about my potassium intake. We do have a small vegetable garden I guess I can just eat all of our tomatoes lol!! But, probably won't buy anymore supps for either of us.

Any of you on a budget with your swaying? I guess we really do buy a lot extra: V8, orange juice, lemon juice, and bananas every single week. Praying for my BFP this month!!

Hope you all are doing well!

TTC5- waiting on an update. Hoping no AF for you!

[iluvmyman]

lol, you don't close down the threads iluv, for me here and the uk ladies you posted at 4am! And your posts deserve more than the usual 2 word replies like 'oh dear' ''well done' so I know I always wait til a more peaceful time of day like now, 9.50am, kids watching telly with a bit of toast before replying to more serious things.

Where are you in your cycle, you attempted this month didn't you??

I hate being broken so I'm sorry to blast everyone. Today is 11dpo. It looks like I had a big dip yesterday on FF but it could mean nothing and this is the 1st month I've used it. I plan on testing in the a.m tomorrow (CD12)

[iluvmyman]

Lola you are great I have not yet disagreed with anything you have said on this forum. I actually meant to say I agree with both your and iluv's comments just wanted to clarify that the woman was not ungrateful for her kids because few other comments were how dare she be ungrateful. Totally agree with you about getting frustrated over getting pregnant and difficulties whether real or possible over it.

I only posted that because I am discovering that swaying is getting a lot of media coverage lately. Now I wish I had not I definitely did not mean to upset anyone.

I agree w/ Laya, lola!