Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ February

[charlieispy]

sorry still yet to catch up properly x

indigo - did you get any pics?

Babymad - we have talked about adoption and always kind of considered it but I doubt we will be able to now due to lack of space and finance. If we had more money and space then I think we would - dh always wanted to adopt a girl. I dont think you should be put off by what others would think or say F them hun the only views that matter are those that you care for and care for you x I would be honest from the start about wanting a girl - i would totally do it if we could. x x much love hun x x

chocolate - pics?

FX for all those attempting x sorry i have been slack recently and feel like i have come on here and been all about me! Will def try and catch up tomorrow before scan if i have time x havnt told DH yet......he isnt in a good mood HATING work and his mum has just found out her partner has cancer very sad we dont know him so well but he is obviously upset as his mum is distraught x

sleep well ladies x x

[pinga]

Hi all

Indigo - how frustrating not to know for sure!!!! Hope you're not going too mad... You only have to wait til your 20 week scan don't you???

Babymad - I have looked into adoption quite a lot. My oldest brother and sister are adopted. My mum was told she couldn't have children after losing numerous babies... so they adopted. Then 5 years after they brought my sister home, they had my brother and then me!! I would have to say there is no difference between us and how we feel about each other and how our parents felt about us. I would say that there are a few issues that hang over adopted children (ie why were they not wanted - my brother struggles with that a lot and feels quite a bit of anger towards his blood mother). Neither of them decided to contact their blood parents but my parents always supported them if they wanted to.

Adoption is something close to my heart. I have always wanted to adopt a child before I even had any myself. I volunteered in an orphanage in Bolivia a few years back and DH and I helped in the babies room. I would have taken them all home in a flash. When we arrived in the morning they would run up to us with arms open saying "mama" (everyone was called mama). They just wanted to held and loved.

I believe though that you are not able to request what gender you adopt. In the US you can, but I'm pretty sure in the UK you can't. Its a long long process and I would say it is harder when you already have kids.

I would love to consider HT... but I have to consider my health. I have since found out that the condition I have comes under one of the conditions they will allow PGD for in the UK! I should have used it as my boys will be at risk. Nobody ever talked to me about it. Sigh. Doctors!! Ah well...

Wow sorry this is a bit of a long one!

Inglewood - how are you doing? Any more blurry vision... when do you next see doc/MW?

Charlie - hope scan goes well... FX for you!!!!!

GD is horrid! I used to always look at mums and daughter (grown up daughters) and feel envious that they had a mother still. Now I look at them and feel envious that the mothers have a daughter too! Sort of feel like I'm missing out on the mother-daughter relationship in both directions! Thats when it feels lonely.

[Babymad]

Good luck Charlie! Will be thinking of you xx

Be back later to catch up properly x

[Kell]

Good luck today Charlie!

[Sunset]

Good luck Charlie! i'm off to put on my pink socks for you! i'll be thinking of you today and praying you get your pink dream!! x

[chocolate]

Good Luck today Charlie, I really think this one is a girl for you!!

Deaks I put my pics on the Ultrasound board on this site but also on a gender as there is someone called Tanya who has an excellent history of correct guesses and she thinks 80% boy. I havent been able to get onto ingender for ages to post on there

[Lavenderlime]

GOOD LUCK CHARLIE!!!

[charlieispy]

thanks ladies POOPING my pants god i feel sick x i will try and update ASAP but leaving the gender in the envelope till DH gets home although he still doesnt know!! I am hoping i will be able to tell

Pinga - oh i just wanted to say a huge massive hug x
Sort of feel like I'm missing out on the mother-daughter relationship in both directions! Thats when it feels lonely.
This made me so sad for you x much love from over the pond x

[charlieispy]

BTW i bet its a boy.....so scared right now but at least i will know and then maybe i can sleep!!

[charlieispy]

am going now............................FX i dont puke!