Due June/July/ August 2017

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Congrats on your boy Bre!!


I used cloth with my boys, more so with my first as I got a bit lazy the 2nd time. I'm planning to do it again and have some old ones still but some elastic needs fixing.

I bought a whole big pack of Itti bittis (Australian brand) with DS1 but they didn't suit him as I think they are a bit squishy on boy bits. I ended up selling them. I remember liking the bum genius one size pockets although the elastic has gone on them but I think the newer ones are better. I also bought a few new ones from ebay that are china cheapies, I'm not sure how they will go but some people have success with them and it will just pad out the existing ones I have.

[GirlieCat]

Girlie - don't worry about the weight gain, as long as baby is growing thats all that matters.
My friend lost 14 lbs in her first trimester, and when she had the baby she had only put 13lbs back on....and baby was a 8lber, and healthy as anything !

I do understand not wanting to tell anyone.
DH and I have had this conversation today, he thinks it's 'weird' that I don't want to tell our friends.
I'm just not interested in being made a fuss of, or getting unsolicited advice.
4 people know, and they annoy me on a daily basis asking 'how is the baby' !

Bre - Is it your scan today ?

Sparkles- my hubby thinks it is weird too, that I don't want to tell. The unsolicited advice is definitely on my list of reasons why I don't want to tell. I know what people say will annoy me- mainly those closer to me like my mom and sister. I also don't want to hear "I knew it"...I think that is the rudest thing to say when someone announces their pregnancy. I know my mom will say something like that because she has thought I was pregnant non stop for the last ten years.

The few I have told have all annoyed me at some point too.

[GirlieCat]

Is anyone not finding out gender until the birth? We didn't find out with my DS and I am thinking I would like the surprise again even though I am desperate to know if my sway worked. I just know I will love this bub from the moment I lay eyes on it regardless of if it is a boy or girl and I don't know that I want to deal with the disappointment if I find out early that I am not getting my dd

I support whatever a woman decides is right for her, but personally I could never wait. I had to know asap so very thankful for early blood testing. I am too much of a planner and gender neutral stuff is harder to find. For me, I would have needed the time to deal with my gender disappointment before baby because I would be afraid I wouldn't be as happy at birth or more prone to depression if it wasn't my DD. I think it depends on the depth of your gender desire or how you think you will react.

[GirlieCat]

@GirlieCat, can I ask how much extra vit d do you take beside your prenatal? What is the total amount?


Mother to 3 handsome boys ❤️ and pregnant with a baby girl due in June 2017 [emoji120]. DW (41) [emoji1326] DH (38) [emoji144]

My prenatal only has 400IU of D2. I added 5000IU of D3 because I already had some. I read 4000 is the recommended but you can go all the way to 10,000 before it is unsafe. I will talk to my doc about it on next visit

[All*blue*everything]

Is anyone not finding out gender until the birth? We didn't find out with my DS and I am thinking I would like the surprise again even though I am desperate to know if my sway worked. I just know I will love this bub from the moment I lay eyes on it regardless of if it is a boy or girl and I don't know that I want to deal with the disappointment if I find out early that I am not getting my dd

I've found out with the last 4 but wasn't going to with this one, partly because I thought people won't hassle me about having 5boys etc if I say we are waiting and also I thought once the baby is born and I fall in love I won't care what gender it is...but..my boys are all adamant its a girl so we are finding out mainly for them so they can prepare for another brother and not be disappointed when its born. I've also felt different this pregnancy with not knowing what baby is yet, I definitely Bond more once I know...only 2 days til the big scan for me!

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[MrsSparkles]

Sparkles- my hubby thinks it is weird too, that I don't want to tell. The unsolicited advice is definitely on my list of reasons why I don't want to tell. I know what people say will annoy me- mainly those closer to me like my mom and sister. I also don't want to hear "I knew it"...I think that is the rudest thing to say when someone announces their pregnancy. I know my mom will say something like that because she has thought I was pregnant non stop for the last ten years.

The few I have told have all annoyed me at some point too.

Oh noooo.
I would hate that, it is so rude like saying 'I thought you looked fat!" - I am sure thats not how it's meant but it feels like that lol.
I think people mean well, they enjoy getting all involved I suppose.

[BabsNMK]

I'm really struggling with how to parent this pregnancy while feeling so terrible. I physically feel awful but also mentally I've convinced myself this is another boy...which is ok and I'll manage...but it makes me more sad than anything. My first pregnancy I actually had perinatal depression, not postpartum, and I think the reason I'm not fully blown depressed is because I can't let myself be with a 3 and 1 yr old. But man I just feel so down and silly for feeling down. I honestly don't have an inkling what gender this baby is...a few weeks and the blood test will tell, but I am mentally convincing myself it's a boy to keep away disappointment. Anyone else feel like this with your pregnancies? I'm failing as a mom to my boys and hate myself for that. They watch more tv than is healthy because I'm just so tired and nauseous. This is such a different pregnancy for me. Too bad that doesn't give you a clue to gender.

Also I have a tilted uterus and have terrible back pain this pregnancy. Do any of you have this? I am so paranoid that every ache is a miscarriage but the reality is I think it's my retroverted uterus.?

[Blckhrt]

We cloth diapered our boys as well but I actually also used grovia and didn't like them. All the elastic gussets and Velcro wore out after DS1 so I had to buy all new covers for DS2 (since the inserts were fine, I didn't want to buy a whole new brand when I already had a partial set). I really thought for the money you put into cloth diapering you should be able to use them for more than one child. I also find grovia leaks often. I have some bamboozles as well and they never leak and have held up better.

Ah yes, I had heard people say that the velcro's stickiness does not last, so we went with the snap shells instead. Not sure about elastics, as we're two years in and they're looking good, but my son does have somewhat skinny legs. I haven't heard of Bamboozles, will have to look into them out of curiosity!

[Blckhrt]

ITS A BOY!!!!!!!

I'm crying!!!

I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! So many congrats, how THRILLING! Yay baby boy!!

[MrsSparkles]

I'm really struggling with how to parent this pregnancy while feeling so terrible. I physically feel awful but also mentally I've convinced myself this is another boy...which is ok and I'll manage...but it makes me more sad than anything. My first pregnancy I actually had perinatal depression, not postpartum, and I think the reason I'm not fully blown depressed is because I can't let myself be with a 3 and 1 yr old. But man I just feel so down and silly for feeling down. I honestly don't have an inkling what gender this baby is...a few weeks and the blood test will tell, but I am mentally convincing myself it's a boy to keep away disappointment. Anyone else feel like this with your pregnancies? I'm failing as a mom to my boys and hate myself for that. They watch more tv than is healthy because I'm just so tired and nauseous. This is such a different pregnancy for me. Too bad that doesn't give you a clue to gender.

Also I have a tilted uterus and have terrible back pain this pregnancy. Do any of you have this? I am so paranoid that every ache is a miscarriage but the reality is I think it's my retroverted uterus.?

Don't be so hard on yourself please.
The more you worry, the further you might sink into depression.

So many times I ask myself how women with kids manage pregnancy, it is so hard just on it's own - let alone when having to care for toddlers.
I admire you so much, and I am sure all the first time Mums on this thread would agree.
It sounds like you have a lot more to deal with, so please be kind to yourself.

You are not failing, so they watch a little more TV than usual for a few months, it's not the end of the world !