Dreaming Pink Due Date Group: TTC and Beyond

[Emily]

Oh pumpkin, I am so very very sorry to hear your news. I know that there is nothing that I can say that will make you feel better but I really wish there was.

I hope that your doctor was able to give you some reason for the miscarriage. You know you can carry a healthy baby to term so it isnt anything in your make up. maybe this fetus had serious problems and wouldn't have made it full term. I know this will be hard to read and some people will think this is a heartless thing to say, but some problems are best left to nature to solve. I have just returned from seeing a friends little boy who has severe downs and is almost totally deaf and blind. He has hearing aids and glasses but cannot wear them at the same time as it is too overwhelming and makes him bang his little head on the table or wall. He has very little quality if life and my friend sometimes wishes she could end his suffering. Your fetus wouldn't have suffered. Sometimes God just takes things into his hands.

I understand your not wanting to post on here for a while as i found all the pregnancy chat as depressing as hell after my chemical. However, we are your friends and are here for you to unload on, so many of us have had miscarriages and will be happy to talk you through this time. Many people IRL just don't do that. You are not alone. PM us or Facebook us if you don't want to come on the forum for a while. TTC pink and beyond is just that, beyond everything, a link for ladies who are there for each other in good times and bad.

I really hope i havent upset you with anything i have said, i just wanted to reach out and hug you x

[GeCon]

Pumpkin, I am so, so sorry. Words cannot describe how incredibly sad I feel for you. I do agree with Charlee and Emily though that we are here in good times and in bad times and we would love to continue to support you and share your path with you. I do, of course, understand completely if you feel it too painful to come on here, especially as things are still so fresh.

Good luck for Monday. I hope the upcoming appointments will give you some answers and the necessary medical support to carry your little girl full term in the near future.

[Cagirl09]

Hi ladies,
Niva, congrats on those betas! That fabulous and must be so reassuring.

Ladybugs, yes I think that is a good idea. I’m thinking I will call when I’m around 6 weeks, so there is still time to get me in for an appointment between 8 and 10 weeks. What scan is it that you are having on the 15th of July? Seems like they should be able to tell you the gender by then? Or are you thinking they won’t even if you specifically ask?

Emily, what kind of injections are you looking to get? So glad to you got to hear the heartbeat! Amazing!

Gecon, I’m sorry you’re stressing. I can truly sympathize because I have this feeling that I am totally out for pink based on where I have pains, but I agree with Emily that this may be just hormones and our minds going into overdrive. I hope our group goes down in gender dreaming history because we all have our little pinkies!

Bunnywabbit, I would use your O date to figure out your due date. That is what I am doing after the m/c in April/May. Good luck on Sunday! Any early pregnancy symptoms? Oh and my doctor mentioned that I wait 2 cycles, I obviously didn’t. I think a part of that is to allow time for emotional healing. Nonetheless I did several searches in research journals to find studies that indicate that this is bad and I didn’t find one current article.

Dream of Pink, how exciting to break out the maternity wear! I can’t wait for the phase!

Charlee, so great that your scan went well and baby looks healthy! Such a blessing!

3boys, hooray for a heartbeat! I can’t wait to hear that beautiful sound!! Thrilled for you! To me, that is when this all really starts to sink in!

Pumpkin, I am so very sorry for your loss. I will pray for a speedy emotional and physical recovery for you.

[bunnywabbit]

Bunnywabbit, I would use your O date to figure out your due date. That is what I am doing after the m/c in April/May. Good luck on Sunday! Any early pregnancy symptoms? Oh and my doctor mentioned that I wait 2 cycles, I obviously didn’t. I think a part of that is to allow time for emotional healing. Nonetheless I did several searches in research journals to find studies that indicate that this is bad and I didn’t find one current article.

No pregnancy symptoms for this one, but then I didn't for the one I m/c either. BFN#1 this morning. Testing again on Wednesday (or Sunday if I can't wait that long - seem to be working to the 'three strikes and I'm out' rule!)

[Emily]

Cagirl, I was so excited to hear the heartbeat I completely forgot to ask about injections. I need just about everything from rabies to Japanese encephalitis so it would be easier to list what I don't need! Thanks for reminding me - it will keep my mind off nubsessing when I go back.

Weirdly for someone who needs to be in control I think I won't ask for a nub shot at 12 weeks as I am so convinced that I am carrying a boy I want to not know for a bit longer. I won't wait till delivery though as my boys have enough uncertainty with the move and everything that knowing might help them.

I know what you mean about evening tiredness! I don't get a second wind either!

[3boys]

Cagirl Glad you are feeling ok have a good few days away.

Emily I feel the same about the nub. I'm too convinced this is another little fella and at the moment I feel ok about it. If I get the nub shot I will start obsessing and become obsessive about it which will then make my GD rage up to all proportions. I don't really know how to get around this, as I am so familiar with nubs (esp boy ones) that I won't be able to help but see on the ultrasound and I can't very well not look at my own babies scan! I honestly wish I had never heard about nubs. I want to have a gender scan date, go and be told....bam... No obsessing... No what ifs... Just "that's what you're having!" "Deal with it" lol

[I Love Ladybugs]

Woke up today to read my best pals IRL FB status....and she now has just had her team green baby....another girl. She had 2 boys first and now 2 girls....my dream family makeup if I had 4 kids! I am trying to be so excited for her, but my jealousy this moment of getting what I WANT....well, I am needing an attitude adjustment in the next day or so!!

Sorry to be all downer and over the place.....I want all of us to hear pink. I hid out from this thread yesterday after my hubby and I had another fight about finding out gender...he wants me to rebook the u/s for the neighboring city where he thinks we will find out, however, he will have to look after the boys and I would possiblely find out alone (again...just like with DS2). I want him to just splurge on the private u/s and let the boys and I and him enjoy it together.

I will get to personals in a bit....my brain is all over the place!!

[3boys]

I know how you feel ladybugs. I was like that when my brother had a daughter and gave my mum her first grandaughter. I wanted to be happy for them but I was so sad and so jealous. I wanted two boys and two girls which has already gone out of the window! I feel in my heart that this lil one is another boy and I pray that I take the news well. I want so much to just be happy!

Poor thing... Unless you want to of course dont go to the ultrasound on your own. You need someone to hold your hand!

[I Love Ladybugs]

3boys....he has just agreed to me booking it on the 18th!!! Plus, I can honestly say to my family that we did not find out here in town, this is going to be a secret u/s for our immediate family!!

My sister had the first granddaughter, and while we had the first grandson, he was pretty much overlooked as he was not the "family name carrying on" one...if I had my maiden name still I could have laid claim to that! My nephew gets all the "my real grandson" comments..so I know that if I have a third, I better get really thick skin! And if it is a she, well, I will buy my ladybug a cute outfit about 30 mins after finding out she is a she!!

How did you deal with the jealousy? I just want to shake it off...and be content in what I do have!

[3boys]

Only time helped really. Of course once she was here... Being her auntie I totally fell in love with her! I wasn't jealous of my brother or SIL directly (I mean my brother even wanted a boy!!) I was just jealous of the situation, that they had got what I wanted. It seems very immature when you write it down... But that's what GD does to me.

I'm glad he has agreed to book the 18th