Uk SMOG Wannabes ~ February

[deaks66]

oh maybepink such a sad story. Trouble is, gd is such a strong emotion that even when your head is saying how lucky you are to have healthy sons, nothing will stop your heart long for a daughter. I felt for a matter of days after my chemical and then again when i had awful backache during this pg that i would trade gender for a healthy baby in my arms any day, but those gd feelings creep in quickly again even when you know you should be 100% content with what you have.

My sis in law desperately wanted a dd when they started trying and is now pg with ds2. She keeps making comments on fb about how now she only wants lots of sons. I know it is a cover up and she feels the opposite deep down (not that she would admit it to anyone). She keeps stating that health is all that counts but gd is toxic! I wish there was a cure/pill for it!

[chocolate]

crikey lmw, that's also sad news!
Just reading about that awful news made me send out an announcment text about baby 3 being due as was putting it off, just said Next is making a killing out of me buying cute blue stuff :-)
News like this makes me really cherish my children more, I would still do HT, but makes me just more aware of how perfect my family is right now as it is and to be happy and not dwell on not having a girl. Maybe I need to read a paper daily to really appreciate my life as it is, who knows what is round the corner sadly.

I don't know how your friend must be coping right now maybepink, really has given me so much to think about. Poor poor family and friends :-(

[chocolate]

oh chocolate such a sad story. Trouble is, gd is such a strong emotion that even when your head is saying how lucky you are to have healthy sons, nothing will stop your heart long for a daughter. I felt for a matter of days after my chemical and then again when i had awful backache during this pg that i would trade gender for a healthy baby in my arms any day, but those gd feelings creep in quickly again even when you know you should be 100% content with what you have.

My sis in law desperately wanted a dd when they started trying and is now pg with ds2. She keeps making comments on fb about how now she only wants lots of sons. I know it is a cover up and she feels the opposite deep down (not that she would admit it to anyone). She keeps stating that health is all that counts but gd is toxic! I wish there was a cure/pill for it!

That's the horrible thing about only being human and gd, you know in your head to appreciate what you have but the thoughts do creep back in if you can't keep on top of them. Life really is just soo hard at times

[deaks66]

chocolate, that a lovely way to announce ds3!! i think if you add some humour in like that, people wont suspect any disappointment! Will steal that idea when its my turn! X

LMW, that really is so sad. I saw a documentary about a lady who had 3 sons with a similar condition and all were expected not to see out their teenage years. Broke my heart.

[Babymad]

Hi girls

How are we all ?

Maybe baby 37 nearly 38 wks WOW !!

Babymad how is the inhaler working for you, have you been unwell ? DH was diagnosed with pluerisy on monday he has suffered terribly with his chest the past month and had to use one of the boys inhalers!!

Inglewood how are those little ladies doing is bump growing nicely ?

Deaks sickness is reassuring but yuk all at the same time !!

Lavenderlime good luck with the attempt this month!

Well busy weekend ahead its DS2 7th birthday on saturday and I have a cake to make, he has chosen it and that will be tomorrows task not gonna be easy might post a pic after if it looks ok ! It was Ds3 birthday couple weeks ago and spent ages making a cake for him plus will prob make one for MIL who shares a birthday with DS2!!

Hi Hun, I suffer with Asthma when pregnant. I had a terrible night last night, couldn't breath at all and was up most of the night coughing. I have been back to the doctors today for a steriod inhaler. He wasn't overly concerned which was annoying as I feel dreadful and can't hold a conversation without getting very out of breath. I feel awful

My DH was in hosp a few years ago with Pluerisy, it's not nice at all. not being able to breath properly is just awful, hope he feels better soon x

[Babymad]

Hi all

Indigo - how frustrating not to know for sure!!!! Hope you're not going too mad... You only have to wait til your 20 week scan don't you???

Babymad - I have looked into adoption quite a lot. My oldest brother and sister are adopted. My mum was told she couldn't have children after losing numerous babies... so they adopted. Then 5 years after they brought my sister home, they had my brother and then me!! I would have to say there is no difference between us and how we feel about each other and how our parents felt about us. I would say that there are a few issues that hang over adopted children (ie why were they not wanted - my brother struggles with that a lot and feels quite a bit of anger towards his blood mother). Neither of them decided to contact their blood parents but my parents always supported them if they wanted to.

Adoption is something close to my heart. I have always wanted to adopt a child before I even had any myself. I volunteered in an orphanage in Bolivia a few years back and DH and I helped in the babies room. I would have taken them all home in a flash. When we arrived in the morning they would run up to us with arms open saying "mama" (everyone was called mama). They just wanted to held and loved.

I believe though that you are not able to request what gender you adopt. In the US you can, but I'm pretty sure in the UK you can't. Its a long long process and I would say it is harder when you already have kids.

I would love to consider HT... but I have to consider my health. I have since found out that the condition I have comes under one of the conditions they will allow PGD for in the UK! I should have used it as my boys will be at risk. Nobody ever talked to me about it. Sigh. Doctors!! Ah well...

Wow sorry this is a bit of a long one!

Inglewood - how are you doing? Any more blurry vision... when do you next see doc/MW?

Charlie - hope scan goes well... FX for you!!!!!

GD is horrid! I used to always look at mums and daughter (grown up daughters) and feel envious that they had a mother still. Now I look at them and feel envious that the mothers have a daughter too! Sort of feel like I'm missing out on the mother-daughter relationship in both directions! Thats when it feels lonely.

Hugs Hun xx I feel the same as I'm not close to my mum and I don't see her so I am missing out in both directions too....the loneliness is unbearable somedays. Sounds like you have a wonderful family and are very blessed xx
Wouldn't you be able to get PDG where you live?

[maybebabythree]

Charlie congratulations on your lil fella. Sorry a dd wasn't on the cards I really thought it would be for you :-(

Your right swaying is balls - or at least it seems to be bringing us ladies a lot of balls lol! (sorry that's so crude! I couldn't resist ) maybe we should all join the swaying blue board next time ;-)

Maybe that so so sad. I am a old bird at 37 and I had my downs measurements taken about 20 times and I was laying there thinking baby had downs and how could this happen to me? Still worry dave will be ok. Ds1 was diagnosed with a heart murmur at six weeks and had lots of tests. All said to dh was I couldn't bear for his tiny body to be cut open and if was asked I wouldn't have allowed the op. Horrible thing to feel that cold panic for your child.

[maybebabythree]

I saw the midwife today and asked why I have To go straight to delivery unit for induction. I was told that as it's not my first they will start off by breaking my waters!! Ekk! Not having that! That would be followed by the drip! She said I can insist on up two lots of prostin then insist on the epidural before they insert the drip. Not going to sleep Sunday night before that!

[Babymad]

Such sad stories really is heartbreaking x

I agree Deaks, GD is not something we can control, I wish with all my heart we could!!

I've had an awful day with my breathing, been back doctors and got a steriod inhaler but still really struggling, I just know I'm not going to sleep again!! I feel like getting the scissors and cutting the baby out so I can breath again.....it's drivining me mad!

Charlie ~ how you doing?? Have you told DH? Thinking of you xx

[Babymad]

I saw the midwife today and asked why I have To go straight to delivery unit for induction. I was told that as it's not my first they will start off by breaking my waters!! Ekk! Not having that! That would be followed by the drip! She said I can insist on up two lots of prostin then insist on the epidural before they insert the drip. Not going to sleep Sunday night before that!

I had the pessary on my second induction rather than the drip and it was a lot longer but I would have done anything to avoid the drip!!