To circumsize or not to circumsize????

[glory]

I have 3 boys and they are all circumcised, it was a decision that we made together but mainly because my husband thought it should be done and I know of a few people who had to have it done later on in life. I don't regret it at all, but it should be something that you are happy with.

My sisters boys both had to be done when they were 4 and 6, because of constant infections cause by something actually being wrong (sorry I don't know exactly what), having it done at that age, was not so nice.

We had 2 done with the plastibell method and this was much preferred to the traditional cicumcision by me. My first son didn't cry at all and my third wasn't very unsettled and it didn't last for long. Even though it took up to a week for the plastic to fall off, I didn't notice any discomfort and the always fed well. We were not allowed the plastibell with my second son as he was not deemed healthy enough by the paed, so we had to have to traditional one when he was 6 weeks old, there was a lot of crying and when we took the gauze off 3 days later, there was more crying and pain.

I do know what Lindi was saying about having another boy, when I knew my 3rd was a boy and that he would be circumcised I didn't look forward to it, but having the plastibell make it a lot better for us.

[lindi]

lindi, I felt much the same about another boy. Before we found out the sex of #2, I wanted a girl because I dreaded circumcising again. I also couldn't think of a single boy name I liked as much as my DS1's. I wonder sometimes how much these 2 things contributed to the GD I felt once he was confirmed a boy.

Yes, it surprises me how I felt so strongly against it, and was so easily swayed after understanding my husband's feelings. I really wanted to please my husband, and I felt the beauty of his argument- he is Jewish, and so it has a deeper meaning for him, and a connection to something he is proud of and wanted our son to be connected to, but we made this decision before I met my son, and before I really knew how I would feel later. That is a very real reason I want to avoid another boy. I really really don't want to act against the way I feel now, but I would hurt my first son, I feel, by creating a situation where he would feel something bad was done to him.

I have 3 boys and they are all circumcised, it was a decision that we made together but mainly because my husband thought it should be done and I know of a few people who had to have it done later on in life. I don't regret it at all, but it should be something that you are happy with.

My sisters boys both had to be done when they were 4 and 6, because of constant infections cause by something actually being wrong (sorry I don't know exactly what), having it done at that age, was not so nice.

We had 2 done with the plastibell method and this was much preferred to the traditional cicumcision by me. My first son didn't cry at all and my third wasn't very unsettled and it didn't last for long. Even though it took up to a week for the plastic to fall off, I didn't notice any discomfort and the always fed well. We were not allowed the plastibell with my second son as he was not deemed healthy enough by the paed, so we had to have to traditional one when he was 6 weeks old, there was a lot of crying and when we took the gauze off 3 days later, there was more crying and pain.

I do know what Lindi was saying about having another boy, when I knew my 3rd was a boy and that he would be circumcised I didn't look forward to it, but having the plastibell make it a lot better for us.

I am glad you found something to make it easier!

[Aqua]

Oh my gosh this is all such amazing information!!! I still am confused though. I feel like it is unnecessary but at the same time I don't know anything else (never been with an intact man) so I guess the thought of having an intact child kind of scares me? Man this is a hard decision. I feel like I am the only one who is struggling this much with the decision...

Roon... I am struggling with this descision too. Dh is not for it at all. I am 70% for doing it for cosmetic reasons for potencial partners. but DH does not want to put our baby through it. In his opinion it does not matter, but on the other hand I am the only women he has ever been with. So he has never had to deal with venturing into dating scene etc. I am his first girlfriend. I don't know if I am thinking too much into it, I thought girls prefered uncut for their partners, so I did not want DS to wonder why we left him intact.
he is not for it. Until I am 100% convinced I cannot convince him. So dilemma. 50/50 among our friends kids

[DoulaMama]

Roon... I am struggling with this descision too. Dh is not for it at all. I am 70% for doing it for cosmetic reasons for potencial partners. but DH does not want to put our baby through it. In his opinion it does not matter, but on the other hand I am the only women he has ever been with. So he has never had to deal with venturing into dating scene etc. I am his first girlfriend. I don't know if I am thinking too much into it, I thought girls prefered uncut for their partners, so I did not want DS to wonder why we left him intact.
he is not for it. Until I am 100% convinced I cannot convince him. So dilemma. 50/50 among our friends kids

I've been with both and I can say that for me, intact is by far better than cut. Any woman that judges a man based on what his penis looks like, isn't worth that mans time, IMO. If a man couldn't be with me because my labia/vagina wasn't pretty....I don't think I'd be with that person either. Your son will be in the majority if left intact because the circ rate is dropping by the year.

[XXdreaming]

all 4 of my boys are circumcised, I did not do it for religious reasons, I am christian but dont feel like God requires it anymore, that was a covenant with abraham and now we have a covenant with jesus (wont go into details just why I feel it isnt required anymore lol) I did it for medical reasons, its cleaner, and they get less to zero infections throughout life and I believe it drastically lowers their chance of penis cancer and lets talk about their wives, not that they will not like the way it looks but its healthier for them too, less infections for them, mine were cut with minimal bleeding, you just put lots of vaseline on a gauze so it doesnt stick to diaper and change it every diaper for about 3 to 4 days and thats it, I have heard nightmare stories about it but I dont believe its very common, they were done when they were a day old and were checked often to make sure bleeding was clotting and they told me that it had to be done bleeding before he could leave but I never had an issue with that, the first and maybe second guaze had some blood on it but after that it was fine, GL on whatever you decide

[CapricornAquarius]

If I were to have a son, no I wouldnt, dont see the need.

Dd1 Dd2 & OMG IM

[3Pink1Blue]

Dh and I sort of had a conversation about this, by sort of I mean DH said no and that was that. Never in our 17yrs together has he laid down the law unconcerned about my feelings but he basically said since I have no penis I have no say lol Don't read this badly, my DH is sweet and kind and we have discussed all other major decisions at length but I have to agree that I won't be asking his opinions about our dd's periods/feminine products with him so this does seem fair. I can't understand penis issues but DH is uncut and has never had any negative reactions to it, he also feels a boy should look like his dad. So Basically no, we will not be circumcising our son.

Not to start a brawl but do not be concerned with cleanliness or infections, either a man is clean or he isn't. A lot of the problems with uncircumcised men are caused by improper care but you wouldn't remove your daughters labia for cleanliness reasons so why remove the foreskin. We teach our daughters to care for their vagina's i.e. wiping front to back and period care. It's just as easy to teach a son to take care of his penis.

Something else to keep in mind if you keep the tip covered it keeps the gland more sensitive therefore increasing sexual pleasure.

Here's a link to web md, it's unbiased info about circumcision.
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditio...e/circumcision

[DoulaMama]

Dh and I sort of had a conversation about this, by sort of I mean DH said no and that was that. Never in our 17yrs together has he laid down the law unconcerned about my feelings but he basically said since I have no penis I have no say lol Don't read this badly, my DH is sweet and kind and we have discussed all other major decisions at length but I have to agree that I won't be asking his opinions about our dd's periods/feminine products with him so this does seem fair. I can't understand penis issues but DH is uncut and has never had any negative reactions to it, he also feels a boy should look like his dad. So Basically no, we will not be circumcising our son.

Not to start a brawl but do not be concerned with cleanliness or infections, either a man is clean or he isn't. A lot of the problems with uncircumcised men are caused by improper care but you wouldn't remove your daughters labia for cleanliness reasons so why remove the foreskin. We teach our daughters to care for their vagina's i.e. wiping front to back and period care. It's just as easy to teach a son to take care of his penis.

Something else to keep in mind if you keep the tip covered it keeps the gland more sensitive therefore increasing sexual pleasure.

Here's a link to web md, it's unbiased info about circumcision.
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditio...e/circumcision

Yay! Yes to all of this! I do feel that even if a man is cut he still has no say over another persons parts. I'm glad my mom didn't operate on my labia to make it look like hers Cleaning an intact penis is so very easy! Just wipe like a finger! No retracting until the child can do it himself- usually 5+ years old. It's self cleaning while still adhered to the glans

[mommymachine]

All three of my boys are circumcised.

[Flava]

Now I wonder if Aqua and Roonarpia did it or not?