June Bugs! TTC in June!

[laVieEnRose]

Hey girls, joining in here too!!
I have 3 boys, this will be my last baby (I'm old too!)

This is my 5th month on the diet and I too have loosened up quite a bit...I'm trying to stay veggie most of the week but I will eat meat if we are out or at friends (like you Arimethia) I'm still skipping breakfast, I quite like how much time it saves me in the morning! ;-).
We are going to DTD every 4 days and hopefully this will work this month.
The longer it takes, the less motivation I have....I'm also starting to doubt if going for a #4 is a sensible idea! I have days when I feel I can't cope with 3 so how would I with 4?!

I'm cd3 by the way.

[Arimethia]

La vie! I also am starting to doubt if going for 3 is the right thing! We just moved to a new city and going places, my oldest going to school, loading the kids in the car, meeting people, getting our new home together, it's all so HARD right now and I'm thinking, "Am I crazy for wanting another baby in the middle of this hot mess?!"

The upside of it taking so long to conceive has allowed me to see that my husband also wants another baby. He's a pretty stoic person so it's hard to tell what his authentic feelings are on anything unless he says them outright. The other day, after yet another BFN we were driving home and my husband says, "It would be really nice to have another baby. Babies are great."

[girliedreamz]

LaVie, it's leik you're inside my mind. Lol! I feel the same way! Sort of like the longer it takes to get preg, the more time I have to worry about if this is the right thing. We are crazy busy with 3 boys, and I know dh especially thinks we don't have time for #4. (Well, his exact words were, "Do you have time for a baby?" Uh, where do YOU plan to be, pal? Lol!) Considering that we have 1 kid going into high school this year, 1 into kindergarten, and 1 baby already... some days I think he has a point.
I'm also worrying about age... I'm 37 and dh is 45.

Good luck, arimethia!

Dollych – so sorry about the mc, but I hope this is the month for you!

[laVieEnRose]

Glad I'm not the only one with these feelings!
Arimethia: yes, the loading the kids in the car bit! So hard! Can't just 'pop' to the shops- it's a whole expedition just for a pint of milk lol
Girliedreamz: we also have high school to look forward to this September, junior school and the baby.oh, and 2 football trainings, matches on Saturdays, cubs, cricket ....
I'm 39 so I can't really take the time to think to much about it. (But just thinking about it and the logistic exhausts me already lol).

DH said tonight : so which month would we like the baby to be born? May/ June would be best as there's no other birthdays.
Yes, Dear, of course I will just carry on the diet for another 4-5 months and schedule that in ! If only it was that simple!
Bless him he did ask what he should be doing to help, so I said dont eat red meat and keep your balls tight and warm lol

[PrimalMamma]

Yeah I worry about adding another baby to the mix too. My boys are so full on & I worry I will go batshit crazy but to me it's not so much about wanting a 3rd baby it's about wanting another child & another family member. The baby stage is always very challenging but with a 5 & a 3 year old I know it will end, they will all sleep through the night one day, they will all use the toilet one day, they will all shower themselves one day & they will (by hook or by crook!) be able to contribute to chores one day. So it won't be super hard forever. I'm a working mother (I work 36 hours a week) & deal with school, daycare, gymnastics, etc & we live in a town without family close by (the closest is 4 hours by car). It's a lot of work but it's worth it.


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[Rosie85]

Primal I look at it that way as well. I know the early stage is temporary and that the large family I desire will constantly change and have different issues but I can see it being amazing and full. My husband thankfully sees it that way too as he isn't keen on another baby and losing sleep but he wants the long range family dynamic of it.

[angielorna]

HI all I thought I Posted in here, but apparently not! I'm currently in the 2ww, but still a TTC june (I guess). I understand the questioning of adding another child. I'm almost at the point where I've decided against it, but keep giving it "just one more month". My boys are 3 & 6 so they are just getting to the kind of independent stage (my 3 year old just potty trained, so the diaperless thing is fabulous). But I keep thinking, it's only a few years more of baby stuff (I love the baby stage) then it gets a little easier again. DH took forever to cave to the idea of a third. I still think he'd be happy if I called it all off but then he says things like well, we haven't been trying for very long and what can I do to help with the sway. I know he's doing it for me rather than what he really wants, but I guess I'll take it however I can get it, lol.

Hopefully we'll have lots of BFP this month
Angie

[PrimalMamma]

I am sure you posted here too angielorna, but perhaps it was the May group… Good luck for your BFP & I hope you can keep busy enough in the 2ww for it not to be too excruciating! I’m lucky in that DH is as keen as I am for #3 & so when I have moments of doubt he is the one that props me up. Only on Sunday I was getting a bit emotional saying maybe we shouldn’t go there & he was quick to jump in & remind me our family isn’t complete yet. He’s right & I’m glad I’ve got him to bolster me up because if he wasn’t 100% on board I wouldn’t have it in me to push for it. I think you only regret the children you DON’T have, not the ones you do, & once that little baby is in your arms all the DHs who are questioning the decision to have another one will be rapt they decided to support their wives to go ahead. I think the only thing my DH is struggling with is how much he wants a daughter, I think he wants a little girl even more than I do, & more than that he wants to see me parent a little girl. He gets to do all the “boy” things with our 2 sons & while I try to join in I’m a pretty feminine person & find it hard to genuinely get into the boy stuff. He got all teary watching a commercial the other day where the mother & daughter were having a tea party & he was all “you deserve that, I want to be able to give you that…” & he hates that it’s HIS sperm that ultimately makes the “decision” so to speak about the child’s gender, & he has essentially no control over which one will “make it” in the end.


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[stephk]

aw bless all our DHs they are not that bad really are they! I am lucky too that DH really wants another. He says he wants a girl but I dont think he minds either way, probably just says he wants a girl to please me. He certainly doesnt do anything to help the sway unless its something he feels like doing, like having a hot bath or cycling!

[Rosie85]

I am very lucky to have a husband who is completely on board with number 4 even though he would have been done easily at 3. He has done everything I've asked and swallows that terrible Ole. His support was a major factor in my swaying. He would really love a daughter just as much as I would but he is more than okay with another boy. His ease and acceptance makes my GD a little less.