Not pregnant -- ME?

[4blue2pink]

so sad to read this TP i am glad your RE has tested for lots of things today which you can then either fix or tick off the list. ignore the psychic!! all women are capable of carrying both genders, i spent 4 years crushed and completely convinced i was defective and couldn't successfully carry a girl after the doctor who dealt with my baby girl mid pregnancy loss made a comment along those lines.. please dont do that to yourself by allowing your mind to go there and believe that (easier said than done i know) whatever this is it is not your body rejecting babies because they are male.

i really hope you get some answers from all your tests so that you can plan the best route forward

[Would luv a son3]

Hi TP!,
I'm not sure if this will hurt you or help you but I'm hoping it will help. My sister went through the same exact thing as you except she didn't have a living child at the time. She kept having MC's (about 5 total) she ended up seeing an RE did 4 or 5 rounds of failed IUI's and I think another MC until her and her husband finally decided to do IVF. Well thank god she did cause the baby took and she now has a very happy healthy 15 month old boy. Not sure how or why the IVF helped but we are just so glad it all worked out.

[Throwaway_panther]

Hi TP!,
I'm not sure if this will hurt you or help you but I'm hoping it will help. My sister went through the same exact thing as you except she didn't have a living child at the time. She kept having MC's (about 5 total) she ended up seeing an RE did 4 or 5 rounds of failed IUI's and I think another MC until her and her husband finally decided to do IVF. Well thank god she did cause the baby took and she now has a very happy healthy 15 month old boy. Not sure how or why the IVF helped but we are just so glad it all worked out.

Do you know if she ever figured out why the MCs were happening?

[Would luv a son3]

They really weren't sure but her RE said that he thinks she had some form of PCOS. So I'm guessing "skinny PCOS"? Cause she wansnt over weight but she did have some symptoms. I can ask her more. If there are any specific questions you have let me know and I'll ask her for you.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes exactly - if the cousins have had a bunch of boys, it's very unlikely. This would be ALL over the mothers side. It cannot be coming from the dad's side, since it's linked to the X chromosome, and if there was something, he would have it (since males have only one X chromosome)

Also, I didn't want to mention this in the thread and apologies if it sounds harsh, but one of the women who was asking about a psychic a few years back, that you commented in recently, sadly passed away a couple of years ago. The psychics couldn't see that coming, didn't warn her, didn't tell her to see a doctor, nope. They were all full of advice about the gender of her baby but could not see that she had an underlying very serious illness that later killed her. So please put zero stock into the advice and guidelines of psychics even the ones that are purported to be real.

[atomic sagebrush]

My bleeding for this CP was really light and short not only compared to my other losses but also just to my period. Should I be concerned about lining issues? I finally got a BFN today after the really light BFPs over the last few days, so this doesn't look like any hopeful situatuon with a vanishing twin or anything, but I didn't even have any cramping and still had early preg symptoms.

Everyone worries about lining but hardly anyone has ever had a legitimate lining issue.

I see quite a lot of chemicals with very light bleeding and at least one study has found this is a variation on how chemicals occur for some. Miscarriage in the Early Weeks It may be that something hormonal keeps the entire lining from coming off until the following month (which I have heard speculation that this may be part of the whole "improved fertility" factor - it may be that your lining is actually great and even better next month because of the chemical.) Total speculation, but I have seen plenty of very light bleeds after chemicals that went on to get pregnant within 1-3 months after, no lining issues at all.

[Throwaway_panther]

UPDATE:

So after multiple procedures today, we discovered I did have some retained tissue as well as a uterine polyp. We don't know yet if it's placental tissue from my DD or retained from one of the early losses, but I'm scheduled for outpatient procedure in two days to remove it.

All other testing so far has been fine (it'll take weeks for the genetic stuff to get back), including prolactin so I will keep nursing DD before bed as I have until she seems more done!

It's slightly hopeful that the tissue and polyp could have been contributing -- both were right at the entrance of my uterus.

My question remains: I had to take two-three motrin today before the procedure, and the ultrasound did find a larger left follicle suggesting that's where I'll ovulate (though there were others slightly smaller on the right as well). Should I worry about trying this cycle? Doc said I'm fine to try after bleeding stops from procedure, and I could potentially catch the egg this month still.

I AM on antibiotics from the procedures which I know is more of an old school sway tactic, but there it is. Also doing weekly acupuncture, etc. Discovered my weight despite trying not to know it after all these months and it's much higher than I'm comfortable with Like highest end of healthy bmi, which is making me extremely anxious. Now will be the huge battle of me staying stable for a boy at this weight and desperately wanting to diet.

[XXforhubby]

Hang in there sweetie! I know you're dealing with a potential relapse. Let your acupuncturist know before your next appointment. I kid you not, they can help with anxiety. I was a HOT mess the cycle before I conceived. While I don't struggle with an eating disorder, my struggle comes from my anxiety causing me to control things and everyone to an emotionally abusive end [emoji20]. I mean I become viscous. I hate it. I try to avoid it all all costs. Luckily my kids are spared but it's not healthy for my DH. Fortunately he's made of steal. Anyway, my point is let them know- they can help. It's not a magic bullet but it may be enough for you to be able to contain it.

I'm praying for you!


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[MiaMelb]

Thinking of you TP, you are so strong. My fingers are crossed for you this cycle.

[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you guys. I sure haven't been feeling strong!!

Oh XX, I relate so, so much. I have so much empathy and understanding for you. We sound insanely similar in that regard. I will bring it up with her next time -- although she definitely has noticed what a hot mess I am already lol!