TTC Girl - March 2012

[Lassie1982]

Hey - Praying for Pink.... could you be having the amount of implantation bleed you are getting because its twins? Would 2 embryos implanting cause more bleeding?

[Butterfly Spirit]

Rainbow, I have heard that moms that smoke or drink or do drugs or all three.. same with the daddies have mostly girls because the female sperm are able to survive harsher/more dangerous environments in our bodies. Crazy yes. My best friend wants me to take up drinking because she knows how much it would sway for a girl. I won't do it though. Shettles claimed all of that in his method and said that men that had more dangerous jobs or who were drug addicts ended up with daughters.. So is there truth to it? Look at the people you know in your life. What do they have?

[prayforprincess]

Hey - Praying for Pink.... could you be having the amount of implantation bleed you are getting because its twins? Would 2 embryos implanting cause more bleeding?

I truly doubt I would be having twins naturally. And if it was twins then most likely by now I would have gotten a bfp.
12dpo, well 13dpo using my calculation and still no bfp. ?????
I am still having a few drops of brownish blood every now and then. I feel like something is going on down there -- and I can feel it. Its like this fullness -not cramping so much, but this fullness in my uterus I can feel. Plus, my boobs feel a bit weird, I am not imagining it. They are more sensitive.
But then why the bfn still? Don't you think by now it would have been positive? I know know what to think. I am starting to doubt myeslf and wonder what the f is going on. Since this has never happened to me before in my life, ironically the 1st month I am ttc I get brownish spotting here and there I am going to think it is implantation bleeding. I feel like, how weird would that be if it wasn't...the one month I ttc and this happens?
I am trying to be patient (well not really) but I would have bet money that by this point I would see a bfp.
I guess I just need to wait and see what happens over the weekend. If no af or bfp by Monday then go to the doctor for a blood test. Why is this happening to me? I feel like with swaying I have invested so much and it is so emotionally draining. I can hardly take it anymore.

[Lassie1982]

Rainbow, I have heard that moms that smoke or drink or do drugs or all three.. same with the daddies have mostly girls because the female sperm are able to survive harsher/more dangerous environments in our bodies. Crazy yes. My best friend wants me to take up drinking because she knows how much it would sway for a girl. I won't do it though. Shettles claimed all of that in his method and said that men that had more dangerous jobs or who were drug addicts ended up with daughters.. So is there truth to it? Look at the people you know in your life. What do they have?

I know of 3 couple that are moderate/heavy smokers and drinkers.
1 has a girl
1 has a boy and a girl
1 has 5 girls, 1 boy
Both the mother and father smoke and drink. And (very sadly) non of these mums quit the drinking or the smoking when pregnant (dont get me started on THAT topic)

3 couple's probably isnt enough to make a call on?

Perhaps alcohol and tobacco sway pink becuase of the toxin / unhealthy factor. Reduced health = girl?

Even so, to me it wouldnt be worth the risk of all the other health problems it can potentially cause. I'd rather have a boy that 100% healthy, then a girl who isnt.

[Lassie1982]

I truly doubt I would be having twins naturally. And if it was twins then most likely by now I would have gotten a bfp.

It was just a random dud guees - and good point about the preg tests, twins would presumably equal more hcg = earlier BFP?

When did you have your last spotting? Maybe its only JUST finished implanting, i thought HCG was produced 3 days AFTER implantation, so maybe its another day or 2 before you will get any hcg?

Another random thought, are your tests from the same batch? Could it be that you have a packet of tests thats faulty for some reason? Thats a really far out suggestion, but im scratching my head for you...

Could you maybe go to the Dr and request an urgent blood test? Maybe tell a white lie and say your period is a week late so you want a blood test to confirm, they normally come back within 24hrs, or within day if you plead and have a nice GP (that's here in australia, not sure on the states)

Easier said then done, but try and stay calm...stressing cant be doing any good for bub if she's in there (having said that, i would probably be exactly the same as you)

[PeonyPrincess]

Butterfly, I was drinking plenty when I conceived DS2. And a friend of mine went on holiday after TTC (not swaying) for 1 year without any luck. On her trip, she said she and her DH behaved like teenagers. They drank heaps and smoked cigarettes and marijuana, and hey presto, she is now expecting DS2. So I wouldn't go turning to alcohol as a great way to sway for a girl! I am trying to keep my eggs healthy by laying off the wines this time. DH still drinks, so his sperm probably go round in circles!

My SIL is the ultimate healthy eater. Makes everything from scratch. Barely drinks alcohol. Never smoked, etc. And she has 3DDs.

[prayforprincess]

Lassie - I am not so sure about the drinking part. I think that overall -- diet trumps all. I have always eaten an extreme boy friendly diet.
But my weakness is not sweets, its that I love love love my martini's. Always have. And my husband is a big beer drinker, like every night at least 5+. I hate beer, never would drink it, would rather have water.
Anyhow I always drank when I conceived all 3 of my sons. Like martini's daily -- and I make good ones, like mostly straight up vodka -- I don't put juice in them. Love wine too. We are not alcoholics (tho it kinda sounds like it when I explain us), we just enjoys a few drinks and because we do it so often have much higher tolerance that most.
I always associated my drinking with maybe having boys. That is why since I started this diet the 26th Dec. I have not had any drinks at all. All my girlfriends who are only occasional drinker's or do not drink much at all ever all have girls.
Maybe alcohol does not affect me or my dh in the way that is does most so -- all I know is if it swayed girl then with what he and I drink we would have had a squad of cheerleaders by now

[Lassie1982]

PFP - sounds like you are on to something there. Drinking is more common then smoking isnt it? So if drinking swayed, there should be noticeably more girls?
Regarding smoking, I was a smoker up to 2 weeks before i conceived DS, that said it was fairly light smoking, maybe 4 cigarettes a day.
DH was a pack a day (smoker and a moderate drinker). So that amount of nicotine between us didnt create a girl (not that we were swaying, didnt even know about swaying then and had zero gender preference)

Neither of us smoke anymore and DH has cut out the drink altogether, so we'll see wether doing the opposite gets us an opposite

[HopeandDreamG]

Lala~ Hi welcome back. good luck in March!

PeonyPrincess~ what do you think you messed up in Feb?

Prayforprincess~ can you relax the next few days and try to do things that takes your mind off swaying, bfps, etc. I know easier said then done! If you don't get your BFP before Monday (I REALLY think you will) then go to your doc. She said to come Monday you'll have the results by the afternoon. I took an hpt today is 6dpo its still positive but fading out, will keep doing it till its negative. My Dh doesn't think I should bother bc I will doubt it when I see it positive again (hopefully)!! Will see...

[littlemissnaughty7]

hi all how are we all, well im 10dpo today and bfn, ive had some cramping too so sounds like AF is on her way again, cant wait to start again, il be doing abstinance and a one off bed on a +opk or the day of O havent made my mind up about that yet, and we may add a 0+12 in where DH will be FR from abstinance 3 x a day, come on girl babies be our month !