UK SMOG Wannabes - November (moved from PL)

[DoulaMama]

Doulamama- I've been looking into becoming a Doula in the uk! Im now torn between that and being a midwife!

That's cool!! I'm on way down the midwifery path as being a doula is VERY hard some days. I can't speak my mind and really speak up and for the women I help as I get looked at like a crazy "doula" who has no idea what she's talking about. Plus, I'm not a member of DONA or any other organization because they do not have a woman's best interest in mind. I am there for the WOMAN. Not the Dr's or midwives....If a woman wants to birth on the toilet...she should have a right to do so and I am willing to speak up for her and make that happen. It's very depressing here in the midwifery scene too I am going to get all my schooling, attend and be a part of many births, learn as much as I can from other women and mothers..but I will not register. I will not let the government or the insurance agencies tell what I can and cannot do. If a woman with 3 previous c-sections wants a home waterbirth...then that's what she should have! I could care less what the Province of Alberta has to say. They(Government and Insurance agencies)have no place in birth......
Sorry...just my 2 cents!!! I'm pretty passionate about this

Thank you for replying! this is my 3rd baby and thats what i thought about the head not engaging until the last minute. When i declined the sweep she got her phone out and said 'right ill book you in then' and then told the hospital how i had declined the sweep as if i was being akward!!
^^^ This was done because she's a bitch....sorry...but that is not professional in any way, shape or form. She wanted to embarrass you and punish you for not taking her advice. It sounds like her ego is a bit big...
I had one with ds1 and it didn't help me at all. I was then induced with ds1 and had the birth from hell including all the midwifery staff, i hated every minute of his birth and struggled to bond with him for weeks after(This happens a lot with inductions ), i believe inducing labour is forcing your body to do something its not ready to do, of cause if there was any riak to my baby then id do it in a heart beat but i can just see the ds1 scenerio happening all over again and its scaring me to be honest! they induced me then realised the delivery rooms were full, i was begging for pain relief but they couldnt do anything, by the time i got to delivery room i was fully dialted, i couldnt push coz of the pain causing ds1's heart beat to almost stop, was horrific, hated it all. I may call my proper midwife and talk to her, the one yesterday was just like the ones i had 10 years ago.
Thank-you so much for taking the time to reply, i really appreciate it :-)) x

The thing with inductions is, they create unsafe cx's that really squeeze the baby unnaturally. Once a woman has pitocin introduced to her body, the natural oxytocin that the body is releasing is essentially "shut off". The baby never gets a break and the body never gets a break. It's NOT normal and very painful. Pitocin cx's are usually double the pain of regular cx's. This causes babies to have a very hard time in the womb. MANY babies have bad heart decels and need a section because of the pitocin cx's. Oh, and one more brutal fact.....never get induced on a Friday. Many babies are "pitted(pitocin) to distress".....this means(and I have nurse friends that KNOW this happens)that they pump you so full of pitocin that the baby gets distressed very quickly and needs a section...ON PURPOSE. Scary hey?
Also, when you force a baby out before he/she is ready, they are most often not in the optimal position for THEM. All babies adopt a position that works for them, some of them need to be born OP, some breech...you see what I'm getting at The risk of stillbirth when beyond 43 weeks is still more favorable for mom and baby than an induction and/or c-section. I can get you the papers that prove it. Stand your ground and do what you feel is right. If you want to skip the induction....skip it! They cannot force you to go. YOU hire THEM. You are in charge. If the baby is doing well....waiting is the best option! xoxoxo

Ive tried everything to bring on labour, nothing is working, ds2 was 8 days late which im 8 days overdue today but nothing so far :-( Im soo worried about being induced, i think i need to be strong and talk to my midwife about it, dh told me i should do what they say but its my body and i want to enjoy (as much as possible) the labour and birth. Im meant to go into hospital 8pm thursday and the midwife said they may send me home to come back 7am friday or keep me in thursday, im hating the thought of being in hosp and my boys at home and dh taking them to school, i know he can do it but i just want to make sure they are ok and have everything lol. Hoping labour starts on its own before thursday!! x

No offense...but your DH should have NO say when it comes to your birth You birth the babies...it's your experience that you have to relive/live with for the rest of your life...you do what you feel is right. YOU know your body WAY better than any Dr. or Midwife. Trust that. I believe in you~And there are many other women that do too. You are strong...we all are

ETA- You are very welcome! I try to keep my birth rants to a minimum but some things really set me off!! I hate that women are being scared into procedures that they do not need...and that are often very risky for them and their babes.

[charlieispy]

Doulamama - that was a FREAKING awesome rant I love you! You sound like a fantastic doula I was induced with ds2 as I had the lowest b12 levels my doctor had ever seen (not good) HOWEVER I refused the drip, I was 3 cm dilated anyway so I let them break my waters, they wanted to drip me straight away I refused and instead side walked, stomped and didnt stop moving for the next hour. They then tried again I said no as I had just had 1 CX....well I am glad i stood my ground 10 CTX and I was ready to push....not that they believed me, the MW said dont be stupid so I ignored her and got DH to push the call button - luckily a nice MW arrived gave me 1 look and said the babies coming! At which point I said something rather rude to the other mw I know i was lucky with my induction as the baby was ready but i am also glad i can be a PITA and rather stubborn at times so stood my ground

Deaks - EVAP are we sure?? sung like the song "it aint over till its ooooooooover" everything crossed for you hun

Petal - labour vibes labour vibes labour vibes go you for standing your ground, my friend refused induction went to 16days over and had a homebirth....she is feisty - she did go in and have monitoring just to prove baby was ok

Littlemiss - FX FX FX

Indigo - is your attempt coming up??

AFM Definately felt RUBBISH last night which made me feel better even though rubbish lol. Have loads of shelves to put up today DH jut doesnt do DIY so i went to IKEA with my mum yesterday brought the shelves and will be putting them up today! Whilst he kiddie watchs. I havnt told my mum yet...wanted to wait till after my sisters appointment (to all newbies she had a termination - only I know about - she seems to be ok although she is back to work and working 7days in a row now!! She is going on holiday then for 2wks i hope she manages to sort her head out too though rather than ignore it and let it build up) Think I will tell her after my doctors appointment which is a week thursday......we shall see

Hope everyone else has nice weekends plannedx x

[Kell]

Zanacal I'm not sure if your son is into trains but I found this online and am thinking about getting it for Charlie for Xmas this year http://direct.asda.com/Activity-Tabl...l#BVRRWidgetID you were asking for ideas!

[Inglewood]

OMG! posted lots and lost it!!! argghhhhhhh!

Sorry not posted for days, hope ur all well? popped on/off inbetween my nightshifts but have pg brain and forgotten alot of it (sorry). I was super sick over my 2 nightshifts and could barely function yest! Head was thumping and was sick! But managed to get my act together to go with dh and the boys to the local fireworks display. Today I have booked a facial! Not had one for yrs, but my hairdresser has a new beautician in and they are doing half price treatments, so 45min facial for £12.50! Shame I have nasty pg hormone spots!

I have tons of stuff I could ebay to get some xmas cash, but haven't the concentration to list them! Not back to work till next sat/sun so hoping I feel better thru the wk to do it. Better go tidy up and do a washing before dh home from work, although he wouldn't say if I didn't, been quite good that I'm poorly, he helps out more, although he is good anyway!

Have a good weekend! x

[Inglewood]

Charlie, hope ur sister got on ok? xx

[Babymad]

Hi girls,

Petal ~ lots of labour vibes, maybe a long walk today may help. When I was induced with ds2 I opted for the pessary rather then the drip, it takes longer but it's not as bad as the drip so remember there are options, make sure your MW explains everything to you x

Deaks ~ sorry you got another bfn, loads of hugs. Has AF arrived? X

Maybe ~ I keep asking myself that very thing everyday I will need a new pram too, we've just sold our double pushchair so I will need a single now...what are looking at?

Sunset ~ safe journey home

Hows everyone doing in the 2ww? GL to everyone attempting soon x

My hubby bought me an iPad2 yesterday! So sweet of him.

Can't face going to a bonfire so having a few fireworks at home - at least I can stay in my PJ' s

[Inglewood]

Babymad,what a fab husband indeed!! Sorry ur still not so good. Did it pass with the boys after so many wks pg?

[maybebabythree]

Babymad - this is the pram I want _http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/..._111443_10001_

DH is getting it for me with the car seat - yum, yum!

[maybebabythree]

I had the whole pesary, then gel induction. The drip only came out when my contrations started to slow down after 3.5 hours of pushing. He was born within 5 mins of the drip. In my case I had no choice about my induction. It was induction, c section or death for both of us.

[charlieispy]

HUGs inglewood x hope you feel better with some time off x i have loads to ebay too!!! Enjoy your facial x my sister seems as ok as she can be, FX she isnt ignoring it and it will all build up x

Maybe - hugs to you too for feeling ill too x enjoy your fireworks x

Definately bleurgh here too x want to go back to bed!!!