SEPT/OCT/NOV 2014 Roll Call!

[secretly sad]

Did you get your 12 scan pic though? Can you see a nub?

[Mrs_Incredible]

No nub! But he was waving! x


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[coocoobananas]

The no nub for me is driving me crazy but it would have been driving me crazy if I did have one too! I'm convinced mine is a boy now but hanging on to that girl hope, gets me through days like today when I'm so exhausted I don't even know what to do with myself! Uggg

[grettasurfergirl]

Hi there,

Glad to say hello and meet everyone even though I have not been on for awhile since BFP but am due 11/7. Was glad to read your post, maria02, I think I'm in the same position as you, not wanting to know gender but wanting to know at the same time. I was planning on going team green, but last week got a call from my OB with my MaterniT21 results (everything looked good, yay!) and they asked if I wanted to know gender and I said no. But since that phone call I have been completely obsessed! I can't think about anything else knowing that they know and it's sitting right there in my file. I was determined to wait until delivery but now suddenly I'm feeling really anxious to know.

I don't know how it would be to get through the next 27 weeks of pregnancy if I hear boy, it's almost like I don't want to give up hope (even though I am almost certain it's a boy). I feel like once he arrives I will love him and be happy for a healthy baby, it's just the waiting and knowing beforehand that would be so hard. I also don't want to have to tell anyone when they ask as people have been overheard to say some ridiculously rude things! If I don't know I don't have to say or worry about any comments or sympathy. Once the baby arrives I feel like people soften a bit, watch what they say more, and are happy for you either way.

I'm thinking boy since we had more than one attempt at O (many months had gone by with only BPNs), baby has a slow heartbeat of 150 (I know this is old wive's tale, but still), and is measuring 3 days big at both ultrasounds (I know boys are typically bigger and I know when I O'd so not that). I have a nub shot which is actually 2 thick lines but it looks a lot like my DS nub shot so another reason to lean boy.

Is anyone else waiting to find out gender until delivery? Do you think you will actually make it that long!? What are your reasons to be surprised?

[Peebell85]

Knowing how I felt after I heard boy and I thought 'I didnt mind either way' but ended up crying for 3 days, I think its best to not find out. And like you say, once they hand you your baby, you wont care about gender in that moment and the sting wont be as strong. But knowing they have the results would kill me too....,

[coocoobananas]

Well that's where I am Gretta. I want to know badly so I can stop obsessing but reminded myself that if I hear boy, that's it. Final. Last time it did not go over well so I reminded myself that I only really want to know if it's what I want and well that's not good enough lol! Plus I love the idea of not knowing but it's forever away!!!!!!!
My plan at the anatomy is to get then to write it in my file so they'll have to peak around and maybe I'll see something too... But now I'm questioning what I saw at my nt so probably will just lead to obsessing again.
So in conclusion I have no advice I guess:/

[grettasurfergirl]

LOL coco, that cracked me up. I am exactly the same way! It's like I only want them to tell me if it's a girl and if not, then no. And I WANT to see something at the anatomy scan (just like I am obsessing over 12 week nub) but at the same time it defeats the whole purpose of waiting! I might as well just ask them to read me my file if I want to know It does feel like we will be waiting forever but after reading Peebell's post, I think it's worth it!

[WantingPink]

I am not sure what to think about the torture you ladies are putting yourself though. You are so much stronger than I am. I always want to know as soon as possible. When I found out with DS2 at the 20 week scan I felt horrible. I felt so ungrateful that he was healthy. If I had waited until birth I know I would have had disappointment and I would have felt like a real jerk of a Mom. I love finding out through MaterniT21 since it is way before the anatomy scan. That way I can cry and cry and not feel guilty. You won't feel like you have to hide your feelings like at the anatomy scan or at the hospital when everyone is visiting you and some halfwit of a relative says something about the baby being another boy. On the other hand if it is a girl then waiting would be so wonderful and the best surprise ever. I just couldn't wait that long however, I do applaud you women who can do it!!!

[coocoobananas]

I just know for me, I could care less what they are at birth, I've just instantly been taken over with them then. I do worry about after that a few weeks down the line but I really think I won't for some reason. I was set to do that last time but couldn't wait and I wished I had... So that's why I'm really trying this time! We will see if I make it!!!

[kellbell827]

I really wanted to know early, as soon as possible even though I felt like deep down, it was a boy. I did feel some disappointment but it helped knowing early b/c now while I still hope to have another girl in a year or two, I can focus on my little man. I give all you ladies who are waiting a lot of credit! I am so impatient - there's no way I could be that patient!