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[foxymrsg]

How'd it go MOB? Hope it was all ok and dh liked it!

[motherofboys]

Today has been a real mixed bag and I feel awful for how excited we had been earlier in the day.

We left early to check out the area around the house, literally across the road and through a path between 2 of the houses is a little park. The area looks lovely, we saw both neighbours while waiting and they each said morning and one said "bin days is friday" (lol) which is so nice, our current neighbours are right snobby gits who completely ignore you. One side will actually hide rather than have to saw "morning". The room sizes are not much different except the kitchen which must be like 3 times as wide. A little run down but apparently they haven't finished sorting it out since the last people moved. It's got all brand new doors inside, 2 toilets, one up one down, which is fab. ATM we have 1 downstairs which is also the bathroom and the boys all burst in while I'm bathing and leave the door open so if next door looked over their fence they could see at an angle through the kitchen and into the bathroom. And it has a bath with a shower over it. The only way it could be more perfect was larger rooms but its not any smaller and more over all space where it counts. We said yes, and have since had a call to arrange paperwork stuff for tuesday and she hopes they will have the keys from the contractors at some point next week. It's ours.
DH was talking about how you don't always have to be waiting to move while there and I was thinking "well if we have a girl we will have to eventually" but thats one of those things we will deal with when we come to it.
As we left DH phone rang and it was BIL. He was crying and couldn't get the words out but it was thee call we have been expecting about FIL. DH just said "it's ok I know what you're going to say". They told us on Saturday they couldn't do FILs op and that they gave him another 2 days. He held on for almost a week, but it's over now. He can finally be at peace.
So yeah, now I've got to tell the boys we are moving house and their Grandad has gone. They knew to expect it, but that won't make it easier.

[True Blue]

Motherofboys I'm so sorry for your loss of FIL, Grandad and Dh Father wishing you all the strength to get through the coming days/weeks

Very happy for you all on the new home, I peep in here often and know your frustration at finding somewhere new - one more step towards your DD xx

[motherofboys]

Thank you true blue. Feelings are all mixed up. He was one of the most wonderful people I've ever met, and certainly more of a father to me than my own dad or step dad. He would have been very happy for us. Dh has gone to his mums, so I'm going to tell the boys about the house and let them be excited about that then when DH gets home tell them about FIL. They knew that he wasn't coming home, and they knew I was viewing the house but it wouldn't be fair to tell them both things together, and I don't want to tell them about FIL on my own either but they will ask about the house.


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[foxymrsg]

Oh mob I am so very sorry about your fil! A loss of a loved one is always so painful, my thoughts and condolences are with you all.
What an emotional roller coaster of a day for you all though. Absolutley wonderful news about the house, so very pleased for you!

[motherofboys]

Thank you. It's been a right old day. I've sat down now everyone's asleep and it's finally sinking in.


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[foxymrsg]

Bless you allow yourself time to grieve as well.

[hopper]

Oh MOB I am so sorry about your FIL! Thinking of you and your family now and hoping the next few days are as easy as possible for you all xxx

On the other news I am absolutely delighted about the house. What terrific news hun!

[motherofboys]

Thanks, I couldn't write anymore earlier but all day I've been thinking this is best for him, no more pain for him, no more suffering for him. When I finally sat down by myself the selfish side came out. The side that wants him back for me, and for the boys. If I could go back in time Id go back a year and make them do the op then so we still had him as fit and well as possible. Once I started crying I couldn't stop and just couldn't type any more. I've calmed down a little now. We knew he might not survive the op, but I never truly believed he was going anywhere. I honestly thought they'd do it and he would get better. Then they said he was too ill to have it done and we started preparing for the inevitable but I still hate it. Although I suppose that's how everyone feels when they lose someone important to them.


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[motherofboys]

I tell you what, right now having a daughter doesn't seem to be at all important.


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