Due dec'14-jan/feb'15 part 2

[FutureMiniMe]

Huge congrats on your adorable big boy, Lala! Glad to hear you all are doing well.


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[castch]

Thx for you post Lala and thx Robin for sharing you experience and I am happy for you that you could have a natural birth after a c section..

My first son was in breech presentation and didn't turn that is why I had my first c section.
My second son was in breech presentation until one week before the planned c section and then he turned. I decided to try a natural birth. At a very early stage (retrospectively I realised it) the scar ruptured but they only realized it after 12 hours of contractions without any stoma, when the heart beats of my son got down at every contraction and my uterus was already full of blood. This was very dangerous for my son and me that is why my doctor told me if I want to have another baby the only way would be by c section.
This time my little girl turned at an early stage and is pushing to get out for a few weeks now ;-) (that is why I have to take medicine).
The closer the birth gets the more I start thinking if I shouldn’t try it again naturally but I am really afraid of the risks… Maybe my son cried for four months because he had a really bad and life-threatening start in life and I am still terrified by the last emergency c section…

[Georgia_Peach]

Wow castch that's scary with the rupture of the scar! I can imagine how much you are wanting to have that vbac but honestly I wouldn't risk it. It definitely sounds like you are making the best decision here for sure. I was told that if the scar ruptures it's a matter of minutes before I could die and the baby as well!
Just think of all the wonderful things about the birth plan. You know your babies birthday now! You can pre arrange this at home and prepare for her arrival. That's awsome!

[kitkat18]

Castch i think you would find an elective c section much more controlled and peaceful than emergency c sections. I too had to have two emergency c sections and I am planning an elective for this baby. Only you know what's right for you and your baby good luck!! X

[castch]

You are both right.
It is maybe just the feeling that you are a mother but not a real one because you never had the chance to go through the real experience of a natural birth. Maybe it is just an egoistic feeling because you want to be proud of yourself and want to Proof to yourself that you can stand this painful experience....
But you are right as always it is now the moment to concentrate on the positive Things of an elective c section...��

[castch]

Kitkat why did you have two emergency c sections?

[kitkat18]

Hey castch both boys were in the posterior position and did not turn in labour they also both refused to engage! With both boys I stopped progressing naturally at about 7cm dilation, with the first we did sintocin and got to 10cm, pushed for one and a half hours only to be told by obstetrician it was not going to happen naturally for me! DS2 they likewise reviewed me at about 38 weeks said my chances were not good for a vbac, big baby and posterior not engaging again but I tried anyway.... Much shorter this time though as soon as I stopped progressing the obstetrician came and checked said there was no hope and I went straight into theatre. I actually didn't feel disappointed I would have liked to have given birth naturally but for me the most important thing is to have a healthy baby and I still got to experience labour . This little lady is also posterior! I think if your scar had not ruptured I would say go for a vbac as she is in the right position but because of that I would listen to your doctor and schedule an elective. I have a few friends who have had an elective after an emergency and they found it sooooo much better, faster recovery, calm, peaceful and not so tiring or draining. Good luck!! Xxxx

[crazycatcouple]

Congratulations Lala on your little/big guy!! He's adorable :-) It is crazy to think how he fit in there though as you were so tiny! Glad to hear the labor was fairly fast and easy though.

Castch, please don't ever think you are less of a mom for not having a vaginal birth!! That's just crazy talk :-) And proving that you can do it is sort of silly, in my opinion too... how about proving you can raise them to be good people! There are many moms out there who couldn't conceive on their own and either needed help or had to adopt, but that doesn't make them less of a mom. I know you know that too, so don't think poorly of yourself for something even less so. I can totally understand wanting to experience it, definitely, but know that no matter how your baby arrives, you are a fantastic mother and just as much of one as any of the rest of us!

[castch]

Thx for you posts kitkat and cracycatcouple..

Wow kitkat, you really tried it two times and you are both right an elective c-section has it advantages and being a good mother has nothing to do with this….

Hope that your pregnancies proceed well and we can soon see more healthy babies…

[dreamingofwin]

My yellow Christmas day due date bump finally arrived on 2nd Jan and turned BLUE!!!! I am so so in love with him and have no GD so I am very happy I cannot wait to see my boys relationship grow and feel blessed and my family complete.

Birth was traumatic, I had elective section last time as he was breech, I really wanted a natural vbac. My waters broke at 3am new years day and nothing happened. I bounced for 21 hours but ended up with a pessary to be induced and contractions strated straight away, I went from 3-fully dilated in 1.5 hours of pure agony. I pushed for over an hour and baby was getting vtired and hb kept dropping. All of a sudden it was urgent and people flooded in the room, I was rushed to theatre and spinal put in, all while 2 midwives were pushing on my tummy to keep hb contact, it kept going down to 60/70 then stopping and slowy back up. Doc tried to manually turn him as he was stuck but he turned back, forceps went in but couldnt get him so I had an emergency c section. I started to feel pain about half way through and was put under general.
Strangely I feel ok about it all and better mentally than my elective, I am very proud to have achived what I did and most importnat is my boy is here safe xx