Due June/July/ August 2017

[sigrid86]

Thanks for explaining Mambear. Your story is so scary and stories like this really scares the shit out of me. I am counting the days until I reach a stage in my pregnancy where MC is less common and where a premature baby will survive outside the vomb. There is never a guarantee. This is the scary element about a pregnancy. Everything can seem allright, but then suddenly something happens. How do you cope with fear now?

Good luck with your scan Mommyof4boys. I will be having you in my thoughts. It is sooooo exiting - also for us far away from you. I can totally relate to your nervousness. Fx you will update us with pink news tomorrow.

GirlieCat and others, thanks for your comments. I guess I just have to train and be more comfortable using the doppler. I know my placenta is placed right above my belly button and makes it harder to detect babys heartbeat.

Hi Dreamsister, I really don't want to scare you but with what I've been through it seems that you can never be sure, although the percentage is higher in the first 12 weeks of course. For us, everything looked great until 24 weeks. So at the point where everyone starts feeling 'safe', our world crashed. BUT and that's what I also want to let you know: this is not common at all (in fact, I don't know anyone having to go throug this - fortunately) AND you don't control anything in pregnancy unfortunately so the best is to really enjoy it. Ofcourse, when you're sick in the beginning it's not always that easy But really, since I heard the bad news at the 24w US I didn't enjoy anything of my pregnancy anymore and I really regret that.
How far along are you? Good luck and I'm crossing my fingers for a healthy pink pregnancy

[Dreamsister]

Dear Sigrid. Welcome to this due-thread and congrats on your pregnancy. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. This is really scary. Do you know what happened and why your baby died at this late stage? Thanks for sharing your story allthough it makes me so nervous. But you are right that the best thing is to try to relax and have faith that everything goes allright. Because it is after all a minority that experience MC after first trimester.

[sigrid86]

Dear Sigrid. Welcome to this due-thread and congrats on your pregnancy. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. This is really scary. Do you know what happened and why your baby died at this late stage? Thanks for sharing your story allthough it makes me so nervous. But you are right that the best thing is to try to relax and have faith that everything goes allright. Because it is after all a minority that experience MC after first trimester.

Thank you (twice ) Dreamsister! It is indeed scary. Also because I'm just not sure if I can give birth to a living child. But I'm looking at in the most positive way and just hope for the best.
Until now we don't really know what happened. Everything looked fine (I also did a NIPT at 11weeks which was perfect) and at the 20w US she seemed to be on 19w. At that stage the ob said it's probably nothing and I shouldn't worry. So at the 24w US she was 2 weeks behind and my ob saw an abnormal nose bone, so she transferred me to the best specialist in the country just 2 days later. The appointment with him was really devastating. He saw 4 other 'abnormalities' which were all ok if they would appear separately but 5 abnormalities was just too much. So I had to do an amniocentesis, which was also perfect. That meant that there were no chromosomal abnormalities so we still had a little hope, but were ofcourse still terrified. The weeks continued of course and every week we had an appointment with the specialist and/or a genetisist but they didn't know what the abnormalities meant and what to do. At a certain point, I think I was on 29 weeks, the supply from the placenta started to fall out (everyone thought this was also a result of what was wrong) and that was the beginning of the end. She started to die and I had to give birth to her knowing she was already gone (that was one of the hardest things I ever had to do). They did an autopsy but they didn't see anything else than what they saw on the specialized US, so they still don't know. According to the specialist and the genetisist it was most likely a genetic disorder, but they can never be sure. So we're just hoping it was that - really bad luck because I don't want to get through such an experience ever again.
You don't have to feel nervous. Like I said, it's very rare (everyone around me gets healthy kids) and you already have 3 healthy children, so I'm sure it'll be the same with your fourth Just believe in it! How far along are you now?

[Dreamsister]

Dear Sigrid. Gosh, what a story and incredible scary experience you and your DH have gone through. I sounds like there was an explanation to why she died. Luckily you have been able to fall pregnant again shortly after your MC, so now you have to look forward and try to forget the past. How is your DH getting along? Hope you both are able to think positive and have faith that this one is a healthy and strong child.
I am 17 weeks. Looking forward to my 20 week scan. I hope time will fly for both of us.

[GirlieCat]

Wow sigrid, what a sad and scary story. I am so sorry that you had to go through that but thank you for sharing. I am only a few days behind Dreamsister (16w5d) and I am anxiously waiting my 20 week scan too because I thought that would be the point we would know if something was wrong, but anything can happen at anytime. I have a good friend who lost her baby at 39 weeks because the umbilical cord wrapped around the babies neck. Another lady I know went in at 40 weeks to deliver only to discover no heart beat and autopsy showed nothing so they never got an answer. I feel like even though there are many many more successful stories, there is always that fear that no one is safe from being the rare cases and until baby is safe in your arms, there will always be that element of doubt and fear. I don't let it consume me or even worry me because like you said, there is nothing we can do to avoid those things. We all just take it day by day and hope and pray for the best.

[GirlieCat]

Scan 12:20pm tomorrow! Getting nervous

Thinking of you Mummyof4- Can't wait to know what you find out!

[Kelbear]

Welcome sigrid and mama bear. I am so sorry to hear of your losses, wishing you both safe and healthy pregnancies this time around.
The wait to each scan and to being finally able to hold your baby in your arms seems so long. I too have that fear that something will go wrong and am trying not to worry as that really doesn't help but the worry just won't go away at the moment especially after my big scare yesterday. I am 8 weeks and started to have red bleeding yesterday. We had a scan 2 days prior and everything looked good, strong heartbeat. Spent yesterday morning in the emergency department waiting to see if I had lost the baby or if it still had a heart beat. The longest 4 hours of my life so far. I have never felt so much relief as when the ultrasound tech found the heart beat (the ed dr couldn't find it when she did an ultrasound). Just hoping this little one can hang in there as we don't know why I started bleeding suddenly. The bleeding only lasted a short while but I am terrified it will start again. I am scared every time I go to the bathroom of what I will find. I hope this fear gets less but it is a long wait til my 12 week scan.

Mumof4boys I can't wait to hear your news, hoping you hear pink.

[mamabear]

Welcome Sigrid, I'm so sorry for your loss too, utterly devastating I hope this pregnancy is smooth sailing right to the finish line [emoji173]

One of the things that brought me comfort when we lost our beautiful Noah was that we had celebrated the pregnancy so much. I've got video of the special way I told my husband and his reaction, we had the special pregnancy announcement, we had a 4d scan and got beautiful photos, we did a super fun gender reveal with our boys. There's so many celebrations we won't get to have with and for him but sure did make the most of the ones we could.

There's so little we can control in pregnancy and life, loved ones can be taken from us at any time. Every day is worthy of celebrating [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]

Scan day Mummyof4!! Good luck!!!

Kelbear I'm sorry you had a scare but what a relief to see that heart beating strongly again. Hopefully that's the last of it, rest up!


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[Mummyof4boys]

Thanks ladies time to start drinking a litre of water! My poor bladder lol

[BabsNMK]

Can't wait to hear!