Chat Thread for those Mummies that have HAD or want to HAVE a HOME BIRTH

[Mum23boys]

my last homebirth fish I had 8 relatives plus my doula hubby and 2 midwives but it hardly felt like it as step dad was busy upstairs with the boys and sisters were both maki ng tea etc and your so out of it in your own zone you wouldnt know she was there in all honestly !

[Mum23boys]

Oh and if she does get in the way and you shout obscenities at her its acceptable cos your in labour :-) ha ha

[fish2012]

Oh my dreams of a home birth are over, it's twins ;-)

Mum23 sadly I had a bad experience today the midwife I saw after my scan basically said I have to have a labour ward birth with a epidural maturely I walked out! I'm not feeling so confident now ;-)

[Mum23boys]

Huge congrats - did you take clomid ? Just as a lost one of mine there seem to be loads of twins cropping up, makes me do sad but also so excited for everyone as they are a real blessing. I think your best bet is to contact the head of midwifery at the hospital and come to a compromise. Good luck and congrats again . Xx

[Atsaukina1]

yay!! congrats on twins! yes it does seem to be a lot here natural and clomid users

sorry your mw sounds like a beeeeep. sounds just like ob's here our homebirth mw's do not talk like that or feel that way about birth at all but there are some states(every state has diff. laws about mw's here) that do not allow mothers to have twin births at home. Although you can find underground mw's Def. would do as mum suggested ad talk to someone else and explain that you would like to go as natural as possible even if in a hossy. Hope ti works out for you. Start upping that protein

[fish2012]

Huge congrats - did you take clomid ? Just as a lost one of mine there seem to be loads of twins cropping up, makes me do sad but also so excited for everyone as they are a real blessing. I think your best bet is to contact the head of midwifery at the hospital and come to a compromise. Good luck and congrats again . Xx

called my community midwife and feeling much better she was a cow but i don't have to see her again however i am now under a consultant at the hospital i know safe babies is the main thing but i feel i will be able to have the best chance of delivering them safly where i feel comftable and secure and i don't think that'll be the labour ward ;-0

atsukina - here they can't make you do anything however if you do any thing apart from what they want you to do the guilt is squarley at your door i still could have a home birth thou with twins it would be too risky i feel. i'm hoping to push for the midwife lead centre where i had my ds1&2 its lo vely and three meters from labour ward in case of problems

[Atsaukina1]

that's good that you do hhave the final say and there aren't actual laws against it. nice to have the labor ward and be allowed to go vaginal. Here it is almost an automatic c-section. I have seen pics online of women having vaginal but you would be very hard pressed to find an ob and hospital that would allow it even fullterm and healthy pregos. Same goes for vbacs and breech. Just hard to find an ob to do it. Here ob's do most hossy births. Some hospitals do have nurse midwives but it is rare and they are under docs so not like having a homebirth midwife. glad you don't have to see the other lady again. maybe you can find one that has done twins naturally

[Atsaukina1]

thought I would bump this up
how is everyone doing?
my iron has been pretty low so trying to bump that up. saw a chiro for back pain and to keep babe all good and lined up so hopefully I can have another easy birth(well as easy as having a baby can be lol)

[Mum23boys]

Hi ladies Im ok - suffering terribly with SPD but just makes me more determined to get my HB again as i really want to be in the water and there is talk that if this baby is big ( measuring 3 weeks ahead ) then they want to induce at 37-38 weeks but as Im allergic to pitocin and its unlikely a sweep would work that early that only leaves sintocinin ? (spelling) and that means a drip, close monitoring and being on a bed which is definately not in my birth plan !!

My doula came to visit me again today - I dont really need one but I just found it helpful last time to have someone around that knew what I wanted and made sure the midwives stuck to it - last time despite birth plan saying delayed cord clamping they went to do right after birth until my doula piped up - things id forget to say at the time !!

[Atsaukina1]

why are they so worried about "big baby". it is a horrible scare tactic they use on women(whether babe really is "big" or not)
you have already birthed 2 children vaginally right? 37 weeks is too early for most babes