October Chit Chat!

[ELP]

GG, I'm not feeling much movement still. I find if I lay down in the morning and put my hand on my stomach that I feel more this way, I think its because my uterus must be so worn out its gone numb lol, so I feel more on the outside with my hand!

[begonia]

Glitter, I think you should find out. I really do, those nub shots are pretty convincing. You could still keep it a family secret if you don't want to deal with everyone making a big deal out of it being a girl. It's a tough call. I think you're in a hard spot because with nubs like that and all those guesses, it would be hard for you NOT to be thinking this is a girl, and if (and I really can't imagine this) IF it is in fact a boy, it'll probably be that much harder to digest. Does DH know about all the nub guessing and have an idea that this could be your DD? I think I remember you saying he more than you really was hoping for a daughter.

Mocha, I think when you have your heart set it is a little easier to just find out. Initially I thought the opposite but the fact is, since I wanted a son so badly, it was all I could think about and was making me miserable even before I did know. I wouldn't have wanted to spend the rest of the pg that way. I was going to be sad not knowing, sad knowing girl, or happy knowing boy, and I took the chance because odds were I was going to be sad anyway so I might as well start working through it.

Re: movement I do feel this one, mostly at night when I finally stop for the day. She's a wiggly little one for sure though, my 12 and 17 week scans she wouldn't quit moving for a second, LOL. If you heard the heartbeat I'd say you're in good shape though! And the whole uterus becoming stretched/less sensitive makes sense too.

[princesssarah34]

You all are talking movement...and I am a little freaked out by the fact GG is not feeling any movement. The reason for this is I didn't feel a lot of movement with Evan. I always felt movement at 16 weeks on with my other pg's....I chalked it up to my placenta being in front...but at the u/s at 23 weeks is when we found out that Evan was very sick with hydrops and that is why he was not moving much. GG get the u/s asap!! Sorry don't mean to freak anyone out but I would be alarmed. And it maybe nothing but I would just make sure!

[Mochagirl]

Mocha, I think when you have your heart set it is a little easier to just find out. Initially I thought the opposite but the fact is, since I wanted a son so badly, it was all I could think about and was making me miserable even before I did know. I wouldn't have wanted to spend the rest of the pg that way. I was going to be sad not knowing, sad knowing girl, or happy knowing boy, and I took the chance because odds were I was going to be sad anyway so I might as well start working through it.

Well said, begonia - my sentiments exactly! If I don't find out I'll spend the whole pregnancy torturing myself over whether or not my sway worked, and yes, I think I may start to feel miserable as I convince myself there's no way I'm having a girl. Better to get the news over with - quick like a bandaid - so I can either start to heal and work on getting excited for boy#4 or rejoice over a successful sway.

[zanacal]

I can't remember how early I felt movement with the first two boys, but with DS3 I felt it fairly early on but then nothing for weeks and I was worried about it so went to the midwife but all was ok - I guess he was just still so tiny at that point and he moved position or something. I wasn't feeling regularly movements until around 18 weeks.

Thanks for wishing DS3 a happy birthday. We had a lovely day at a farm park with my parents and my sister and her two children and he's busy playing with all his toys now. I bought him a lovely wooden play kitchen and while putting it together last night DH said 'you really want a girl don't you' and I was so annoyed with him - how is a kitchen a girl's toy? I so want my boys to grow up being willing and able to cook and clean (my DH can't cook!). Needless to say all 3 boys are enjoying their kitchen!!

[Mochagirl]

My ds3 got a wooden play kitchen for Christmas last year, and all my boys love it too!

[begonia]

ITA kitchens are great toys for boys! My DD1 is actually only friends with boys, LOL, and every one of them wants to play with the kitchen.

Mocha here's hoping you get to rejoice in a successful sway! I had a tough time with the GD again today ... DH and DD1 came home from a camping weekend, they had a great time, but there were lots more dad's out with their sons. And he was like "it sure would be fun to take a boy out too one day." And I was just crushed. Crushed. I prayed for like the 3723rd time that MAYBE my us was wrong, and MAYBE we can still have a boy I know he'll be happy with a 3rd DD but for the love of God why couldn't we make just ONE son?!? 3 boys would have been my dream I need to let go of it, and I think once she's here and we both see what we've got to work with we're going to make it great. But man. It is hard to let go of these lifelong dreams.

[begonia]

FWIW I will say re: girls toys for boys and vice versa, people are MUCH more accepting of girls playing with boys things, aren't they? And for that matter, girls wearing "boy" clothes. DD1 is always in superhero shirts or camo or something that is decidedly boy, and we for the most part don't get comments ... I can't imagine how it would go though if a little boy had on a pink shirt with a princess twirling on it. People would probably be critical.

[Mochagirl]

I'm sorry you had a down day, begonia - I know it's hard. When I had my several months of thinking we weren't going to try again and I was definitely never going to have a girl (dh didn't want anymore kids), I went between feeling fine for long periods of time, to having someone trigger a big crying spell. For example, once when all my family had converged at my Mom's house for the weekend, I was sitting in our bedroom trying to get ds3 to sleep, and I overheard sil talking to her daughter while doing her hair and saying "All I ever wanted was a daughter who I could talk to and do girl things with, and I'm soooo lucky I have you." I lost it, and was miserable for days. On that same trip I found an old children's book in my childhood bedroom called 'When I have a girl," about a little girl dreaming of when she could be a mother to another little girl. That was a tough week. Other times, I looked at my gorgeous family and felt fulfilled. I think if dh hadn't changed his mind and said we could try again, the hard times would have become fewer and fewer and the happy times more and more common. Sometimes I worry I'm unnecessarily opening up new wounds by doing this again since I was on the verge of starting to feel better.

[Mochagirl]

Well...it looks like m/s finally found me. I'm 7 weeks to the day today, and I felt sick from the moment I woke up. Unfortunately I forgot my prenatal yesterday so I took it first thing this morning instead, which I think made things worse (as did my lack of sleep last night - I only got a few solid hours). This morning I couldn't even fathom drinking my beloved coffee, and finally, after feeling on the brink of throwing up for 2 hours, I just gave in and threw up.