Any July/August/Sept 2014 Swayers?

[2blue1pink]

Hi ladies! This looks like a fun group and hope you don't mind me joining you this late in the game!

When are you planning on trying? Soonish? Loosely maybe May and on. We aren't really avoiding but my kids are crappy sleepers so we don't really "try" either. My cycles are still really funky so I'm not holding my breath on anything, I'm fairly certain I am not ovulating regularly. (Just had my first period a few weeks ago for the first time since November.)
Have you started to sway yet? Not really, I'm still working on getting the info on what I need to be doing actually.
Did you get a personalized plan or are you working on your own? I did order a personalized plan, but waiting to get it back.
Which gender are you hoping for? Girl (we have had a DD, who passed away after birth, then 2 boys, would really really LOVE another DD this time to hopefully keep.)
Any concerns you have currently? So many things! Nervous about gearing up for another high risk pregnancy with a 3 year old and 1.5 year old. Torn about maybe just trying high tech and skipping the natural route. Nervous about the diet and exercise and breaking all the rules (which I am still trying to figure out!) But I am optimistic that we did conceive a girl on our own without swaying intentionally so hopefully we can do it again.

Thanks for letting me join!

[Junie]

Hi and welcome! I'm so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I hope that you have a great sway and end up with another daughter!

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[Kelissi]

The past couple of weeks have been really rough - "maybe we should just f*cking break up" kind of rough. It's been horrible, and now I'm back on Xanax.

We're in counseling. I hope that our counselor can help DH make a breakthrough. Right now he's just going, "Well, I just don't want more kids. Having kids was hypothetical when I said yes to having three since I'd never been around kids. I didn't know what it would be like." I told him that would be like me saying that it was hypothetical when I said that I would be faithful to him forever, since I'd never been married before, and now that I feel like it's hard I'm just going to be polyamorous, so deal with it. I think it is so utterly without honor for him to feel like he can pull this garbage.

I have a PP from atomic, and amazing support from her ... but it is SO hard to start doing the things that I need to when I'm not even sure if DH is going to stop being such a complete ass. So, I'm concentrating on the fact that my sway is largely exercise and diet based, so at least I'll be a slamming hottie in my bathing suit this summer while I look for new men at the beach if my husband decides that he would rather be divorced than have another child together, which is actually what he has said sometimes. DYAHHH.

I don't even know what more to write. I am so freaked out that this isn't going to happen, I am so dreamy about getting to see two lines on a pregnancy test, and my best freaking friend just told me that she is pregnant with number SEVEN. Three girls, three boys. I am thrilled for her. I am also so freaking tired of her calling to let me know she's pregnant. UGH.

Off for some yoga and deep breathing and finding hope wherever I can ... I mean, we weren't going to start TTC until August, so that's still lots of time for his mind to change, right? Especially with counseling?

[Kelissi]

2blue1pink, so much love at the loss of your daughter. I'm also planning on a high risk pregnancy - severe pre-eclampsia with DS1, so I'm forever labeled as high risk - so I hope we can support each other through it. Even if I'm not pregnant when you are, I'm more than happy to listen. It can be so hard to hear people going through the difficulties of pregnancy when you'd love to be going through them yourself.

[zebaniee]

How is everything going with everyone? I'm still talking supps and waiting for my personalised plan to come through. I'm slowly loosing weight because I am on the chubby side and I am hoping this won't affect my sway.

[Junie]

Kelissi- Wow that is rough what you are dealing with!! I think it can be really hard when two people feel so sure of their positions and love each other but aren't on the same page. Just remember that even though it doesn't feel that way right now, things will change. You won't be in this stressful position forever and somehow you two will come to some sort of agreement. It is so hard when you are still in that limbo position though. Big Hugs!

Zebaniee- Good for you on slowly losing weight! I don't think it can affect your sway in a negative way, from what I understand just losing is the important part.

I'm pretty determined to not start the diet or exercise until 6 weeks before TTC. Atomic recently wrote that it isn't necessary to start 3 months ahead and especially as I am already on the skinny side and tend to lose weight quickly if I am disciplined with diet and exercise I just don't think it is necessary and would probably be counter-productive. However it still isn't clear when we will start TTC and I am just pumped to start I think July would be best but DH and I have to sit down and have a real talk about it soon. He recently mentioned that he wished we could just get a 3 year old from the get go, and he just doesn't want to go through the first two years again but I am pretty hopeful that we will be able to find some practical solutions to make the first years less stressful for him and help him agree to setting a date. Here's hoping!

[bluebonnet22]

I'm horrible about keeping up with threads, so my apologies if I ever don't answer a question directed at me ! I think someone had asked about my username a few pages back, and yes, I'm from TX

welcome 2blue1pink and I'm so sorry for your loss

Kelissi - hugs! It's so great you're in therapy and I hope it's helpful for you and your DH. I completely agree with what you said about monogamy being like having a child. I think my DH has found one child MUCH harder than he expected (despite the fact that we have an easy baby) and honestly has said he just wanted an only child until very recently. I can relate to wanting more kids but having a husband who isn't as on board with it!

zebaniee - I'm jealous of the blue swayers. You can go on paleo diet and feel so great and lose weight, too. I'm having so much trouble losing weight on the pink diet (carbs are not my friend!), and I too have weight to lose

Junie - smart to stay away from the diet/exercise if you don't have weight to lose. I've seen many failed sways from those that started too early and lost all the weight and then had to gain weight back in the month they TTC in order to get pg. I have loads of weight to lose (BMI 23.6), so I started the diet 12 weeks out hoping I could get skinny before our attempt.

[Kelissi]

You ladies are so amazingly supportive - thank you! Sometimes I just start crying and feel utterly hopeless and scared, but I'm trying to get away from that and just do what I can with what I've got. Next appt with the counselor is on May 20, and we're doing two half-sessions of talking to her individually and then a full one together. For me, I'd like to make sure that we're talking about what it is that we can do, because I just don't think that a married person is allowed to say, "I know you want that and have always wanted it, but we're not doing it because I don't want to." If it's money, we'll save money. If it's something else that is changeable, we'll do it. I'm happy to work together to get our life to where he would be at least okay with having another child, but I'm not willing to just give it up because he "doesn't want it." Thank you so much for being a safe space to talk about this <3.

I'm also holding off on major diet, although I have started skipping breakfast (well, I say "started" - I don't think that I've eaten breakfast at the right time since becoming a mother!). I'm 5'6" and weigh around 127, so I'm looking at trying to be around 115 in August which will be my lowest adult weight. I've being doing C25K every other day and moderate yoga in the morning so that I'm building up endurance and don't get injured from jumping into daily 60 minute exercise, but I'm waiting to diet. From experience, I know that if I go to 1200 cal/day (factoring ones burned by exercise), I'll lose 2 lb a week easily. I know that I've read people saying that having your period go wonky is a good sign for TTC girl, but somehow that doesn't jive entirely with me. I'm awesome with working out and being healthy, but not enough that my body starts showing me that something's wrong, you know? I'm a big believer in a healthy cycle being one of our bodies' best ways of showing us that what we're doing is okay, and especially since I'm going into a pregnancy that will be regarded as high risk (although we can't guarantee that it actually will merit that designation), I want to make sure that I'm swaying but not so hard that my body is overly stressed.

[Junie]

Bluebonnet- I know Atomic has said starting at 12 weeks can be really beneficial if you think you have weight to lose, I also wish I could just do the boy diet though LOL

Kelissi- That all sounds really good. I hope your appts on the 20th go well!

Just found out a woman at my younger son's daycare is pregnant with her 3rd! She has two sons which are about the age of mine, and of course now I want to start tomorrow LOL. But I just wouldn't want a baby any earlier than April AND I still have to convince DH

[hotdogz&boyz]

Hi ladies. I hope you don't mind if I join in. I was originally in the Apr/May/June thread and I kinda disappeared for a while for hubby and I to discuss things and figure out what we wanted to do. We chatted and are on the same page for a July-August attempt. He is also on board for swaying lightly girl. We don't mind in our hearts what we get, our reasons are more practical in nature (room space, sibling gaps, clothing use).

Intro to us: I am A (I have a name, promise. Lol). D and I have been married for 5 years. We have two boys: L is 4.5 and K is 2.5 and one girl: J who just turned 1. We also have a crapload of dogs J was a sway baby on here back in 2013 and we were blessed to have it work. I am a SAHM with the kids. I am high risk for pregnancies because of a blood clotting issue, but its easily managed.

Our current sway plan includes diet, supplements, and one attempt. I believe I will try to lose 10 pounds in 8 weeks before our sway attempt. We will be using OLE and licorice root for DH, aspirin and fiber for me, then one attempt in the fertile window. I feel comfortable that it will at least "even the field" for a girl. My ordinary life is pretty blue-friendly.

Looking forward to getting to know everyone