TTC Pink Chit Chat Thread - August

[mandicane]

At the meal at my friend's last night we all sat down at the table and literally straight away somebody says 'are you pregnant, do you fancy another maternity leave?' and I said something like 'Why is it that I've lost lots of weight but people keep asking me if I'm pregnant?!' then I went to see if our host needed any help in the kitchen while they were all still talking about it! Do you think it's rude to ask somebody whether they're pregnant or planning to be pregnant? I'm always getting asked (mainly at work!), because I've had 3 children in recent years apparently that means it's ok to come straight out with it but I feel like it's a very personal question!

I agree...very rude. I think when you already have kids ppl assume this pregnancy questions are fair game. I get this at work all the time. I guess the weight loss doesn't help but what can we do? You just hope that good friends would be considerate and not so forth coming.

[LadyScarlett]

I think it makes TTCing more difficult from what I have read. its such a toss up between wanting to do everything you can to sway pink and just wanting to get pregnant! i ordered some online and it hasnt arrived yet. My attempt will be next weekend so if it doesn't arrive i will take that as a sign. Have been a bit nervous about using rephresh anyways so maybe the decision will be made for me! hope this helps.

Sigh... FXed. But if I don't get a BFP this month it'll be the first thing dropped for next month. It sure seems to be doing its job keeping that PH down!

[mandicane]

Sigh... FXed. But if I don't get a BFP this month it'll be the first thing dropped for next month. It sure seems to be doing its job keeping that PH down!

Sometimes I think all the diet coke and crystal lite i'm drinking (plus the LE diet) is enough to make conception more difficult. If you use rephresh too it might take forever. I'm constantly moving between just getting pregnant or swaying as best I can so I get my DG. Its so annoying!!!

[mandicane]

So I completely fell of the diet wagon last week while we had company visiting, but I am officially back on it starting today. Its been hard since I'm craving sweet, good food but I keep telling myself it is all worth it. I will O this friday or saturday so I am hoping I can lose a couple lbs by then so I can be in a weight loss mode. Its funny, i really want to get pregnant this month but since I messed up last week I'm kinda nervous. I wish i had more self control but I couldn't help it. Its hard to refuse brownies, cupcakes, hamburgers, and everything good. I'll stop now so i that I don't tempt anyone else!!

[Mochagirl]

I agree, manidcane, it's sooo hard to keep to the diet when you're away or have company visiting. Every single month I've had something. The first month I was on the diet, I had my in-laws staying with me for a week. The next month, I had lots of dinner guests and dinners out, in July I spent 4 days at the cottage with my brother's family and my parents, then this month we're going to my mother's house on the weekend before I O.

I think there's no such thing as a perfect sway. Life happens - we can't put everything on hold just because we believe eating certain foods will help us get our girls. I think it's the general trend that matters anyway. I've been keeping strict to the diet probably 95% of the time for the past 3 months, so surely if I eat pizza or chocolate a couple of times it's not going to throw all that out the window.

[mandicane]

Thanks mochagirl...you're so right; life happens so we just have to adjust and go with it. There is no way that girls are conceived by moms who don't enjoy themselves with food. If I think of the ppl I know with girls they are heavy, thin and everything between. You're also right about the 'general trend' of how we eat. i've been on this diet about 80% for 3 months and have gained and lost weight. I've decided to stop stressing about it and to just have fun with it. My dh and I had a good talk the other day and he told me i need to relax and just go with it. So thats what I'm trying to do. I can't stop enjoying life just because I want a baby girl. But i will try to do my best!

[Yuzu]

Hi ladies. Sorry to change the subject so rudely, but I had to share this with someone.

I got a psychic reading from an English lady, Kate, who I found on Ebay. She had a high rating. I'm not really the kind of person who 'believes' in psychic readings, but I was feeling a little desperate yesterday. I was allowed to email her three questions and she answered at length. I had to give her my full name and birthdate. That's it.

I'm frankly a little stunned. My questions were: am I going to get pregnant soon, should I move and if I do get pregnant what wil the gender be? I didn't mention anything else.

She wrote me today and basically said that I would not get pregnant without some intervention, though I wanted to do things 'naturally.' Well, that can be inferred by my age. Then for question 2 she said I was the only one in my family who wanted to move, and that I would probably do so in 16 months, but not back to the metro area where I wanted to go. That's 100% true. Then she said if I used some kind of intervention I would have a BOY or even twin BOYS since twins run in my family. She said she knew I wanted a girl, and that I had other boys, but that I would never have a girl.

Okay. How did she know twins run in my family? How did she know I wanted a girl? How did she know I wanted to move to the metro area? I'm trying to be logical here, but I'm flummoxed! And a little bummed.

[zanacal]

Blimey, that's spooky!

[zanacal]

What have you ladies all decided with regards to regular BD/release or abstaining?

Abstaining won't work for us as DH has a very high sex drive and he says no.

We were going to DTD every day with a spermicide condom then have one attempt 'au naturele' once I got my +OPK but now I'm thinking there are too many uncertainties with the spermicidal condom - I've read that it may increase pH in the vajay and increase risk of infections, so now I'm leaning towards keeping clear of spermicides.

However, I liked the idea of only one attempt because I thought it would be less stressful (only having to think of EVERYTHING once) and that it would definitely mean low sperm count - but if we're not using the spermicidal condoms do we use normal ones or nothing at all or try to have 'relations' every day but not necessarily always DTD. You see, it's complicated already!!

I'd love to hear what you're all planning and what your thoughts are.

[XXdreaming]

Hi ladies. Sorry to change the subject so rudely, but I had to share this with someone.

I got a psychic reading from an English lady, Kate, who I found on Ebay. She had a high rating. I'm not really the kind of person who 'believes' in psychic readings, but I was feeling a little desperate yesterday. I was allowed to email her three questions and she answered at length. I had to give her my full name and birthdate. That's it.

I'm frankly a little stunned. My questions were: am I going to get pregnant soon, should I move and if I do get pregnant what wil the gender be? I didn't mention anything else.

She wrote me today and basically said that I would not get pregnant without some intervention, though I wanted to do things 'naturally.' Well, that can be inferred by my age. Then for question 2 she said I was the only one in my family who wanted to move, and that I would probably do so in 16 months, but not back to the metro area where I wanted to go. That's 100% true. Then she said if I used some kind of intervention I would have a BOY or even twin BOYS since twins run in my family. She said she knew I wanted a girl, and that I had other boys, but that I would never have a girl.

Okay. How did she know twins run in my family? How did she know I wanted a girl? How did she know I wanted to move to the metro area? I'm trying to be logical here, but I'm flummoxed! And a little bummed.

I don't know how she knew all she knew but I know it wouldn't stop me from doing all I could do in getting my little girl, maybe it was a warning that your girl sway wasn't going to work, to maybe try something else, I don't know, I have been told things by "prophets" and I was able to change the outcome, I think it was a warning telling me that if I keep going this certain way this is what's going to happen,(I was also told by a physic I would never have girl and that I would only have 3 boys, I feel its because I was gonna stop at 3) so I wouldn't just except that your outcome is more boys or twin boys, because I would try my hardest for girls and besides I was done at ds3 and swore no more but circumstances came up and tube were never tied, then ds4 and I was sick wouldn't tie my tubes come back, then gall bladder surgery and sorry gotta wait longer to tie tubes I didn't care I was done didn't won't anymore babies and here I am ttcing #5 lol after I said I would NOT have 5 kids lol so even if next is another boy who knows maybe the next one will be your girl, IF this person is right maybe she says you will never get a girl because you will stop after this one? I was also told on ig by a physic I wouldn't have a girl(she was right about some stuff but she was more wrong than right but I just politely thanked her anyways) I won't give up on my baby girl I WILL have one even if I have to adopt one, but I am just saying for you to not get down there is nothing wrong with giving all you got to prove they were wrong