September TTC Boy Chit Chat and Such Thread

[iluvmyman]

Halo sleep sacks came about during the SIDS Back to Sleep Campaign. They are basically zippable blankets so the babies do not have unsafe blankets in their beds that can cause suffocation. I will send over some links.

http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...ductId=4356892

This is the sunza
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...FindSrc=search

These are under the mattress
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...ductId=2970307

I have a mattress pad that was supposed to be breathable and help prevent SIDS but that was a long time ago and I don't see 1 on that website. I would never have let this stuff bother me before but I'm a little more cautious now.

[begonia]

Oh B! I know you are glad to have a healthy baby girl but I also know that you will need to mourn not having a boy and that doesn't take away from you being happy the baby is healthy. I'm know you are probably hurting as much or more for DH not getting a boy. Love you and please vent away. Congrats on your undoubtledly beautiful little girl.

You nailed it, Iluv, really this is pretty much how I feel. I love the idea of my 3 girls having each other for the rest of their lives. Love it and am so happy for them. But oh how I hurt for DH. Particularly in about 10 years when Father/Son camping, etc is in full swing, and he's got three daughters. Or even this weekend for example, he's flying out to meet his Dad to celebrate his Uncle's 50th with a Man Weekend. I'm just sad he's not going to have a boy for stuff like that. Like, I'm crying about that. He absolutely adores his daughters and will be crazy for this one too, but I also dread all the commentary from people about him living in a house full of estrogen, etc.

So yes, I'm happy, I don't have GD the way I did with DD2 and I think a huge part of that is I didn't have my hopes up... with her, I really thought she was a boy. This one I figured it was still a good chance for a girl... in fact when I was laying there on the table today I just knew it. It took awhile bc she had her legs crossed but it was obvious once she opened up that she's a lady I'm glad I found out because I'm going to work with DH on picking a girl name so at least when he pats my belly and calls it by the boy name I can say "or Girl Name!" just to remind him that it's not for sure. I'm also glad I found out because I would have had these same sadnesses for him at the birth, and I still will probably for a long while ... but at least I'm prepared for it. And I will say, our 2 DD's are far from princesses so it isn't like the man is swimming in pink. I just know he will miss not ever having a son.

As for swaying well I don't think I would have changed a thing about mine. But we all know there's just an element of it beyond our control.

[Tink18]

congrats b. im sure your 3rd baby girl will be just as perfect as your first 2!

[begonia]

Begonia - congratulations on your baby girl!!!!!!
I didn't understand the part where you say you are glad for DH bcos at delivery he won't care. He doesn't want to know the gender before delivery? If I knew the gender, I coulnd't keep my mouth shut for 2 seconds, I would tell my DH whether he likes it or not LOL!

I can keep it a secret for sure, especially because it's a girl. I just remember how we both felt after finding out with DD2. The car ride home was pretty quiet because what is there to say? Telling him it's a girl now would ruin his surprise AND not give him anything to get excited about. Lips are sealed for sure.

I will definitely be trying to steer him away from being too hopeful for a boy though.

Another thing I will say I'm bummed about is not being able to prove people wrong, all the ones who are like "why wait for a surprise? you know it'll be a girl since you have two already!" I'm bummed that they will all be like "Well, of course she had a girl."

[iluvmyman]

You nailed it, Iluv, really this is pretty much how I feel. I love the idea of my 3 girls having each other for the rest of their lives. Love it and am so happy for them. But oh how I hurt for DH. Particularly in about 10 years when Father/Son camping, etc is in full swing, and he's got three daughters. Or even this weekend for example, he's flying out to meet his Dad to celebrate his Uncle's 50th with a Man Weekend. I'm just sad he's not going to have a boy for stuff like that. Like, I'm crying about that. He absolutely adores his daughters and will be crazy for this one too, but I also dread all the commentary from people about him living in a house full of estrogen, etc.

So yes, I'm happy, I don't have GD the way I did with DD2 and I think a huge part of that is I didn't have my hopes up... with her, I really thought she was a boy. This one I figured it was still a good chance for a girl... in fact when I was laying there on the table today I just knew it. It took awhile bc she had her legs crossed but it was obvious once she opened up that she's a lady I'm glad I found out because I'm going to work with DH on picking a girl name so at least when he pats my belly and calls it by the boy name I can say "or Girl Name!" just to remind him that it's not for sure. I'm also glad I found out because I would have had these same sadnesses for him at the birth, and I still will probably for a long while ... but at least I'm prepared for it. And I will say, our 2 DD's are far from princesses so it isn't like the man is swimming in pink. I just know he will miss not ever having a son.

As for swaying well I don't think I would have changed a thing about mine. But we all know there's just an element of it beyond our control.

You are not an old lady, mamma. you could always try for 1 more. You made me laugh about the "Far from princesses comment" I think what you are feeling is so normal and hurting for DH shows how much you love him. It will be hard to hear him keep saying boy when you know it's a girl but you know now so you can help guide him through this w/o him knowing it. I regret a lot with my sway too, I think it comes with the territory but I'm sure you did a great job! I've probably said so many of those "estorgen" type comments in my life to people w/o even considering it. Lesson learned.

I just read your last post too, people just don't think before they talk do they. I'd get those tears worked up to make them feel like CRAP!

[babydes56]

B, i've posted on the blue grad thread but just wanted to say i feel you pain for you DH because i will feel the same if i'm having another girl. I also hear you about not being able to prove people wrong, some people are so insensitive & dont think before they speak. I'm glad though that you ok, i guess it will take some time to absorb & you'll have your highs & lows & eventually get over it especially when you see that lil face

[skrimpy]

B I had a super hard time with the "it just HAS to be a girl" comments when I was preg with Honor... I dreaded after she was born, but I've found that nobody really comments now. One secretary at DH's work makes comments but that's about it.


Hopefully the same will be true for you. ((hugs)) as you adjust to thinking about a new daughter and ((hugs)) as you feel this loss of the experience of a son for DH and yourself.

[zanacal]

Halo sleep sacks came about during the SIDS Back to Sleep Campaign. They are basically zippable blankets so the babies do not have unsafe blankets in their beds that can cause suffocation. I will send over some links.

http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...ductId=4356892

This is the sunza
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...FindSrc=search

These are under the mattress
http://www.toysrus.com/product/index...ductId=2970307

I have a mattress pad that was supposed to be breathable and help prevent SIDS but that was a long time ago and I don't see 1 on that website. I would never have let this stuff bother me before but I'm a little more cautious now.

Hi iluv - I just wanted to say that I used a Snuza with DS3 and I loved it! I used it for around 4 months while he was sleeping in his hammock (there was a safety scare about the hammock which freaked me out so I ordered this for reassurance). I did have to stop using it once he was out of the hammock and in a cot and rolling himself over to sleep on his tummy because that caused a gap between his nappy and his tummy and the monitor didn't always touch him very hard iywim? Anyhow, I can definitely recommend it!

[gizmo77]

I can keep it a secret for sure, especially because it's a girl. I just remember how we both felt after finding out with DD2. The car ride home was pretty quiet because what is there to say? Telling him it's a girl now would ruin his surprise AND not give him anything to get excited about. Lips are sealed for sure.

I will definitely be trying to steer him away from being too hopeful for a boy though.

Another thing I will say I'm bummed about is not being able to prove people wrong, all the ones who are like "why wait for a surprise? you know it'll be a girl since you have two already!" I'm bummed that they will all be like "Well, of course she had a girl."

i hear ya on that. everyone just SEEMS to know how it all works dont they. "if you have 2 girls youre most likely to have a 3rd" i hate ppl like that. and i find that those are the ppl that are the MOST ignorant. i know it seems SOOO cliche to say "as long as its healthy" but if it were me (and i can get mean) i would just tell ppl how "ive heard of horror stories of lost/sick/unhealthy babies and i am just blessed to be pregnant with a healthy child and how i dont know why ppl are so focused on gender, is it an ignorance thing?"

i hate ppl like that. everyone says that to me.

anyway, begonia, you are VERY lucky to have this baby. she is going to be a hoot esply at age 1.5 ;-)

[Hobbermittens]

Girl #3 for me!

DH is going to be bummed; I'm glad for him we are waiting because at delivery he wont care. But poor guy has referred to the baby as our boy name a couple of times so I know he was really hoping.

I'm ok, not shocked, and glad to know because finding another girl name will take me some time.

Congrats on your baby girl!! Are you feeling okay? I'm sorry you didn't hear boy... and I hope it isn't too hard keeping the secret from DH.

I went through this when we had our last DD. I wanted to find out, but DH didn't, so I went to my 20 wk u/s without him. I found out we were having a girl, and I was crushed, and I was so upset when I got home that I ended up having to tell him why (he thought there was something wrong with the baby).