TTC Blue Crew Grads

[CapricornAquarius]

Begonia when i was born, dad didnt want me, he told mum to leave me at the hospital for someone who wants a girl. I have forgiven my dad, cause i know its more a cultural reason for him, & he regrets it, he carries a photo of me as a 1yr old in his wallet. Wow begonia no wonder you would have been convinced that this one was a boy,got to say that was like someone played a cruel joke on you, hey? But you know she's going to be beautiful.

Tink, i hope you have a quick labour to, mine were very quick but they killed me. Yeah i know this could be a boy but it also could be a girl to.

Begonia yes i will find out gender at my 20wk scan

[begonia]

I birthed ava all natural. 30 houra.of back labor, 2.bags of water (they were unaware of since ava was a twin) but when it came time to push.got her out fast! Hoping to have a faster labor this time..

[begonia]

Oh CA! That is a hard story to hear; I'm so glad you've been able to forgive him. This whole baby-gender thing is hard. But I get the cultural thing, I was telling DH today that I feel like 3 boys is less frowned upon than 3 girls ... and not just bc I personally wanted boys. Boys are still seen as some kind of fertility-proving, chest-thumping success, at least in our families they are. There might be women on these boards who would love an all girl family but I'd be shocked to hear of a man who dreamed of raising all girls. Maybe they're out there ... my DH loves being a girl dad, if we had my dream of all boys I know he'd be the one who was sad about that... but he definitely wanted one of our kiddos to be a boy. It's funny though he's going camping this weekend with 3 guys, and of the 4 of them there are 11 kids and only 2 of those are boys. Each of the 4 guys has at least 2 girls ... GBG, GGB, GG, and us, GGG.

Can't believe you're almost 8 weeks though, that's fab! Are you still feeling ms or has it passed?

[CapricornAquarius]

Yes i agree with you, how people look at girl mums differently to boy mums, like we have failed our husbands, WTF.

Oh gosh i cant wait for m/s to be gone, it gets me more so in the arvo.

Wow & your 24wks, does she move around alot?

[begonia]

She moves all the time! I first felt her at about 14 weeks. She's crazy. She and DD2 together are no doubt going to be more than I can handle... DD2 is an animal. If I could pick I'd definitely want this baby to be more like DD1!

FX the ms leaves you soon; I know how awful it is. I had it bad with DD1 but none with DD2 and only very mild nausea with this one.

[Tink18]

that is such a sad story. Why were you told it though?? I am glad you have forgiven him. So I am assuming you do not have any brothers? What culture is this?

[CapricornAquarius]

Begonia thats too cute, my dd1 is quiet & dd2 is wild, time will tell with this one.

Tink my origin is Serbian/Croatian, yes im the baby of 4 girls.

[CapricornAquarius]

Tink, i dont know why my mum wanted to tell me that, i really dont think she knew what affect this would have on me growing up, it was only until i met my husband that i realised what affect it really did have on me with past relationships, my husband is a really good communicator & he got me to open up to the issue & deal with it & to forgive my dad, so i could move on with my life & accept that i am worthy of a mans love.

[love being a mummy]

With my first baby when I told people it was a girl a few people oh wow it takes a real to be able to make a daughter.
So in my experience not everyone thinks having a girl is a failure.

[WashingtonPromise]

CA: Wow, that would be hard to swallow. You are so blessed to be able to talk things out with your husband. Some men just have a nack for talking you through hard situations. I hear you on the m/s. I feel so much better when I take my vitamins, but they make me gag. I just need to tough it out today....I have way too much to do.

B: So you did all those gender tests and they were wrong? I was thinking about trying some of them, but I think I will just forget it. I don't need any more torture for 7 more months.

You know whats funny, my mother and father wanted my youngest brother to be a girl. I guess I was just so great, they wanted another one like me....haha...I had colic and was an aweful baby, but the least trouble growing up.