Yes, I was going to mention that part as well but I forgot!!! It doesn't matter if a swaying tactic is more effective if it doesn't work for you as a couple. If I told my husband to abstain for 7-10 days it would ahve gone over like a lead balloon!!!
PS Thank you Z for the support...sorry if I sounded whiny there. Rough weekend and I don't want to give up this site which has become very important to me, so I can vaccuum all day every day. :P