Great thread! And so well said, NBP and Skrimpy.
I can't really comment as to having my last and final baby be a girl also....I don't know what I'd feel in that instance. Of course, I know I'd mourn not having a son ever, but hopefully that would be a feeling that would pass sooner than later.
I can say this, though, because of the new situation in which I find myself on this ttc journey: you ladies are BLESSED like crazy to have a baby at all. That may not be what you want to hear, but if I can provide anything to this thread, it is just some perspective when you are faced with not having any more children ever. I know you ladies have been so encouraging and supportive, so much so that it brings tears to my eyes....but the reality is that we may never conceive and have a full-term baby. After much conversation about whether it is fair to our family to take the plunge into HT and have an enormous payment to a financing company each month for 5-7 years, we are not going to do IVF. So, I hope that in saying that I may never experience the sheer joy and amazement of having another child ever again, you gals feel incredibly lucky to have the sweet precious angel that you will have soon enough. I would give ANYTHING to know that I would have another baby, even a girl. In a heartbeat.
But on a different note from the depressing stuff, I totally agree with NBP that parenting, mothering daughters, is what you make it. I am a fairly well-rounded female, I think, and I enjoy girly stuff and boy stuff. I think of my kids as I would hope others think of me: I am who I am, and I hope I am respected for what I enjoy and am talented at and not looked at with any stereotypes. You can encourage your children to try all sorts of things, but in the end, you must respect what they really are into even if it's not your thing. Easier said than done, but the rewards of seeing your kids excel and love something are so worth it. I couldn't care less what my kids do, except that they LOVE IT.