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January 22nd, 2017, 08:00 PM
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January 23rd, 2017, 07:59 AM
#32
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They are also those who do this because there is alot of pressure on them to have a son to carry the husbands surname. And in many many cultures there is a pressure for women to bare a son. Some even feel ashamed, Its almost like they don't feel good enough unless they have son and if they do have a son they are more appreciated and celebrated. I see this alot among some cultural people and I think its so sad because it puts unfair and unnessaarry pressure on the poor son to also carry on the family name and the cycle continues...
I personally prefer to have a 2 years break between pregnancies, its hard work. If you got pregnant less than 8 months postpartum you have my respect.
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January 23rd, 2017, 02:11 PM
#33
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So do you think they have pressure to have babies faster because of this? As in, it's so difficult a situation they are put into that they just want it to end sooner and so have babies sooner?
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January 23rd, 2017, 03:19 PM
#34
Dream Vet
Maybe their DH's are more onboard to try again soon also?
I notice a lot of pink swayers have to convince their hubby to ttc another time to try for a girl( and sometimes don't even know they are swaying or even ttc lol) however dads with only daughters might be more involved in ttc in order to get their son.
I know my hubby is happy to wait or not even have another cos he already has his two sons ( I'm a pink swayer) but maybe if we had two daughters he might be more eager to ttc earlier to get his son? Just a thought
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January 23rd, 2017, 03:36 PM
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That was what my husband guessed but I"m not totally convinced as I find a lot of blue swayers too are having to drag their hubbies along kicking and screaming for one more try.
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January 23rd, 2017, 08:58 PM
#36
Dream Vet
Originally Posted by
atomic sagebrush
So do you think they have pressure to have babies faster because of this? As in, it's so difficult a situation they are put into that they just want it to end sooner and so have babies sooner?
Not that I'm actually going to ttc as quickly ad you're talking about in this thread but I can agree that for I do feel some mild pressure about continuing the family tradition, surname etc. Thankfully my DP does have a brother who is yet to have his kids so not all the pressure is on my DP but if we did already have a boy in the family to carry on the surname then I think the pressure would be gone. My DP is also one of those guys you've mentioned may need a bit of dragging along to ttc again. He says he's happy with our 2 DDs and I believe him but I still think if he had his own son that would be the icing on the cake. Kind of like getting something you didn't really know you wanted but once you have it you couldn't imagine not.
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January 24th, 2017, 06:22 AM
#37
This is such an interesting thread! Do some of the blue swayers tend to be a little older atomic? (and/or have older DH's?) I know this is not really applicable to me, but the reason we have a short age gap between no2+3 was at my DH's request.. he is older (45) and wanted to be done with the baby stage asap! lol. I personally would have preferred a bigger gap between the littlies, but this was his only 'condition' to trying for a 3rd, so I did not want to deny him it.
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January 24th, 2017, 08:20 PM
#38
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Originally Posted by
coralsky
This is such an interesting thread! Do some of the blue swayers tend to be a little older atomic? (and/or have older DH's?) I know this is not really applicable to me, but the reason we have a short age gap between no2+3 was at my DH's request.. he is older (45) and wanted to be done with the baby stage asap! lol. I personally would have preferred a bigger gap between the littlies, but this was his only 'condition' to trying for a 3rd, so I did not want to deny him it.
This is sort of us! I'm 27, but DH is 36 (which I know isn't really old), and he's not wanting to have kids too old for a variety of reasons but would like at least 3. I wanted the spacing close for "planning" reasons, but he's definitely balked when I point out I have another good 15 years of baby making in me probably haha. He doesn't care what we have though, and has a preference for girls. I'm dragging him kicking and screaming into the sway territory (which, since he's very "boy dad" material, is poo pooing his occasional alcohol intake and begging he not "relieve" himself every morning )
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January 26th, 2017, 02:46 PM
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Originally Posted by
coralsky
This is such an interesting thread! Do some of the blue swayers tend to be a little older atomic? (and/or have older DH's?) I know this is not really applicable to me, but the reason we have a short age gap between no2+3 was at my DH's request.. he is older (45) and wanted to be done with the baby stage asap! lol. I personally would have preferred a bigger gap between the littlies, but this was his only 'condition' to trying for a 3rd, so I did not want to deny him it.
Ah, that's an interesting take, but no, I have actually found the opposite to be true. The blue swayers are on average younger and quite a lot of them are younger than 30. That is one thing I hear again and again from blue swayers is that they want their babies close because they want to be done by 30.
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January 26th, 2017, 03:54 PM
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