No sign of AF

[meoab]

Hi ladies,

I have been actively swaying blue for a very long time which made me gain a lot of weight and this might have affected my O . I am on my third month with no sign of AF and it makes me extremely sad. I find myself crying during the nights and losing hope..Hope of getting pregnant. I have lost 5 kilo's by dropping most carbs and eating mostly salads, fruits and meats, nuts, rggs daily, yoghurt, cheese, dates, sometimes organic date bars and lots of English tea with honey.

My GP told me to come back in three months. This means I should lose more weight in those months and keep trying. I have bought pre seed and a ovulation kit. But since I dont know when I O (I guess no one really knows), should I use the ovulation kit daily?

Something in me is aching and I cant wait to get pregnant. My daughter is almost 1 year and 4 months. It feels as if she is much older and I dont want her to be old when I get my second child.

I really need your advice on what to do to boost my fertility and what you guys did to boost it. I was even thinking of acupuncture for fertility. Sorry to come of desperate. I have never had issues with being fertile..

[atomic sagebrush]

You WILL get pregnant again!

Your daughter is NOT old. She is still a baby herself. She will not be too old to enjoy the new baby when it comes and in fact, this very well may be God/the universe's way of making sure you are in good enough condition to have a baby boy.

I want you to keep doing what you're doing. Keep getting the weight off little by little. I want you exercising (especially weights). I DO NOT want you taking a bunch of stuff to "boost fertility" because I think you've got some PCO-tendencies due to the weight gain and since most things that "boost fertilility" will make those things worse, it's best to leave them alone.

You're on the right track meoab. Please keep fighting the good fight, I know it's hard to do but it actually WORKS, unlike taking a magic pill.

RE the acupuncture - proceed with caution with this as again IF it works it "boost fertility" which may end up making the PCO-tendencies worse, and it probably doesn't work anyway. Plus, the acupuncturists are very pushy with the herbs and if you go in there now, start taking a bunch of herbs, it will very likely make it take even longer for your cycle to come back. If they ARE able to fix it it will be by giving you stuff that will sway pink.

You're doing all the right things already.

Re when to BD, I'd just have regular unprotected sex every other day, every 2-3-4 days, whatever works for you guys. Then if you do notice EWCM, go to EOD if you weren't doing that already and start doing your OPK strips at that time. then if the OPK goes positive you can still be in with 2-3 more attempts then.

I'd save the Preseed to use when you need a lube (which you may since you're breastfeeding)

[meoab]

Thank you Atomic, this peptalk really does help. I have lost a little more weight as I can see a difference. I am doing yoga and kettle bell to lose weight, and I will start tae bo again. Taking my usual vitamine pills and after I do yoga I feel a pain in my pelvis. The same feeling I had before I got my AF.

I told the acupuncturist that I wont use any herb and she said she hardly uses it as she is an expert in pcos/infertility etc. She is specialised on that area.

I bd'ed ebery two\three days and will keep doing that. btw is it normal that the atrips dont show any line?

I must get pregnant!! It was so easy with my baby girl. We did the pull out and bd'ed just once et voila a baby girl. This baby just doesnt want to enter my world lol

[meoab]

BTW I am not breastfeeding anymore. Stopped since November

[atomic sagebrush]

Sometimes the strips don't show lines and other times they do!! You can even O and not get a line sometimes.

Baby is just waiting till the time is right. Keep up the good work, this will happen!

[meoab]

Hi Atomic, I went through 'swaying under special circumstances' and read that we need carbs to stay fertile, l'carnitine and Magnesium sways blue if taken under special circumstances (PCO tendencies or PCOS). I eat more fruit, is that ok? And should I take those pills mentioned above?

I eat meat everyday, is that fine? And should I avoid beans?

[atomic sagebrush]

Fruit IS carbs. That is what I want you to be getting carbs from. Fruit, fresh veg, and whole grains in moderation. What that means is that I don't want people going onto the Atkins diet with NO carbs. I do not mean that everyone should now start eating tons of carbs!! That will simply aggravate PCO-tendencies for people.

NO NO NO do not add in L-carnitine. I'll have to reread that but that would simply up your testosterone and AGGRAVATE the PCO stuff that you have going on. No L-carnitine!

If you're taking a prenatal or multi you'll be getting enough magnesium.

RE beans, they are somewhat carby. I think that they're ok for you as long as you're limiting carbs to some extent and still eating meat. The people who get into trouble with beans are generally vegans who have PCOS - they don't eat any protein from anything other than nuts and beans, both of which are very carby, and they have too many carbs. For you, you are eating meat and fruit and that is GREAT. If some beans are in your diet now and then, that's ok.

[atomic sagebrush]

I updated the thread re the L-carnitine. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.

[kittendreams]

Hi Meoab I just read through this post out of curiosity as I am 5 months pp and somewhat patiently waiting for my first ppaf to show up. I get the cramps and spots and pms and I feel like she's coming and then nothing it is frustrating!
I just want to say keep doing what you are doing you have a great boy sway going on and your sweet baby wants to come to you just when the time is right for him.
I also think the bigger spacing will only sway more blue for you too.
xx big hugs xx

[meoab]

Thank you atomic. You are very clear and confirmed it for me. I came here across something that draw my attention. Clomid is available in Spain over the counter, and I searched online that many people go there to buy it. I have someone there that can get it for me...What do you think Atomic? Will it benefit me at this stage if I get it and take it as it is described?

Hi Kittendreams, I feel you and have the same problem. Last month I felt the pain and the pms, but not AF. I was so sad and still am . But everything will be fine, for both of us. Sweet of you xx