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    2WW anxiety - Did I drain DH/low sperm count?

    Hi Atomic,

    I hope you and yours are safe and well

    Currently I’m in my 2WW (exactly today I’m 7 DPO) and I’ve been thinking what if I had messed up our sway at the end by DTD every other day - about a week leading to ovulation? Even though we did so well HE diet wise and supplements wise. But I’m still kinda worried coz what if by that BD frequency I had lowered his sperm count (which could sway girl!). Worth noting that he would finish every time, but at the few times before our last attempt he’d take longer to finish, is that concerning? (but he did finish every single time). I’d reassure myself that’s it’s all good because I’d find sperm dropping from me every single time even after lying down for a few minutes, so I’d tell myself that that’s a good sign that the sperm count was a lot?

    I’m gonna run by you the number of times we DTD and the dates, and if you could please tell me, do I still have a good chance for a boy or not really? At least I can psychologically prepare myself for the outcome.

    Here are our BD details:

    We aimed that he releases every 2-4 days during my AF (I’d swallow during those days). After AF we BD every 2 or 3 days till we hit my fertile window, then we BD every other day during my fertile window, and we attempted at least 3 attempts during my micro fertile window.

    So for reference, my AF started October 22 and ended October 26. So he released on October 22 and October 25. I’d swallow there.

    I had a positive OPK on November 7th, now here’s how my attempts looked like after AF (these attempts he released inside of me)

    - October 27 at night
    - October 30 at night
    - November 1 at night
    - November 3 at night

    - November 5 afternoon (this day would be 3-O)
    - NOVEMBER 7 (tested Positive OPK!) We BD twice; once in the morning and once at night. This day would be 1-O)
    - November 8 at night (this would be ovulation day)
    - November 9 afternoon (this would be O+1)
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    Here is my sway 6 weeks before TTC:

    Supplements I was taking daily:
    1. Prenatal multivitamin
    2. Probiotics
    3. Folic acid 2000 mcg (prenatal included. I'd take 500mcg with breakfast, 500 with lunch, 500 with dinner. And the prenatal with a snack)
    4. Vitamin D 1000 (which is 1 pill with 25ug)
    5. Omega 1000 (every other day not daily)

    My husband was taking daily:
    1. Multivitamin for men
    2. Magnesium 250 mg
    3. Probiotocs
    4. Omega 1000 (every other day not daily).

    THE DIET:

    (My husband had quitted smoking about 5 years ago.
    DH wasn’t really on the diet, he’d eat whatever he liked! But definitely would eat meat or chicken or fish almost daily, also peanut butter)

    I was following the HE diet to the best of my abilities.

    I'd have 3 big meals (breakfast, lunch and dinner) and 2 snacks.

    Breakfast usually would be any of the following;
    1. Granola with full fat milk
    2. Oats with full fat milk
    3. White Toast and full fat gouda cheese.

    Lunch and dinner usually included protein and carbs. If no protein was there I'd have some peanut butter with a spoon right after the meal as the protein source, or sometimes chuck down few handful of salty peanuts.

    Snacks would be fruits + spoonful of peanut butter, or salty peanuts or salty mixed nuts (without dried fruits), or oats with full fat milk ( I made sure to have at least one bowl of oats per day, sometimes I'd have 2)

    I was drinking 2 cups of instant coffee with full fat milk and 1 tsp sugar per day for the first 3 weeks of my 6 weeks before TTC. Then I learned that tea is better for blue sway so for the remaining 3 weeks I replaced my second cup of coffee with black tea with full fat milk and 1 tsp sugar.

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    Am I being too anxious for nothing? Should I still have high hopes that we did a good boy sway? Or should I lower my expectations?
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    Hubby taking longer to finish is meaningless. If anything that may be BOOSTING his sperm numbers because the whole time his body is "thinking" huh, something is going on here, better put out as many sperm as I can here, LOL.

    As far as I can see, you had a perfect attempt. Nothing wrong with any of that!
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    Thank you so much! Your support means so much to me, thank you so so much Atomic! Iíll keep you posted after BFP hopefully in a few days, and definitely after we know the gender

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    Hi dear Atomic,

    I just got my period today at exactly 12 DPO. We will try again next cycle.
    Is there anything you’d recommend that I add to my supplements or my husband’s to help conceive the next cycle? I did have a positive clearblue Opk and I did see some EWCM but not that much. Could that have anything to do with me not getting pregnant this cycle? Also I’m breastfeeding a 21 months old boy.

    My second question is the next cycle I’m gonna stick to DH releasing starting today every 3-4 days until the positive OPK, then at positive OPK we will aim at least 4 or 5 attempts as follows: 2 times on the positive OPK day, 2 attempts the next day, and maybe one the following day. Does this sound better than what I did the last cycle?
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    I also actually remember you had recommended for DH
    500 mg arginine, 1000 mg carnitine.
    Do you still recommend that he adds those to what he has been taking? Would it make a difference if we are going to try again after my AF (which started today)?
    Last edited by Nora Aaron; November 20th, 2021 at 04:15 PM.

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    Nope. I already recommend everything right from the start, I don't hold anything back to add in later.

    Some months just aren't the month. Either the egg wasn't quite right, the sperm wasn't quite right, they didn't find each other, or something went wrong very early on. These things are all super common and for most people there's about a 20% chance of conception each month. So don't immediately jump to the conclusion that anything was wrong per se, it just didn't happen this time through.

    People really overthink CM. It doesn't take TONS of CM and so if you saw some then that was likely plenty.

    What you did this month was fine, and if you manage to stick to the schedule you have set this month that's also fine. Both are good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nora Aaron View Post
    I also actually remember you had recommended for DH
    500 mg arginine, 1000 mg carnitine.
    Do you still recommend that he adds those to what he has been taking? Would it make a difference if we are going to try again after my AF (which started today)?
    Yes those are good additions to blue sways. Sure!
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    Quote Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush View Post
    Yes those are good additions to blue sways. Sure!
    Do these sound like the arginine and Carnitine youíd recommend? (I live in Sweden and sometime things can be different so I wanna make sure)

    Arginine
    https://www.apotea.se/solgar-l-argin...-mg-50-kapslar

    Carnitine
    https://www.apotea.se/swedish-supple...rte-60-kapslar

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    Yes, both of those are fine!!!
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