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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, I'd have him drop hot tubs and extend the amount of time between releases to every 2 days.

I agree that was not a close enough attempt. FX for better chances next month!

[sassy86]

Thank you, I'll get him to avoid hot tubs and make sure we do once I get a positive.....is it as soon as I get a line or do I wait for the darkest line? Also is it still ok to use a tiny amount of ky jelly?
Thank you

[atomic sagebrush]

The first positive. The OPK is positive when the test line is as dark or darker than control.

KY Jelly does cut odds of conception. If you need a lube that doesn't kill sperm you may want to try a very small amount of Preseed or Conceive Plus. Larger amounts may sway blue so please use the barest minimum for comfy intercourse.

[sassy86]

I honestly feel like I could give up, dh was keeping on about bd more times as he has a high sex drive I explained that I only want to bd 1 during my fertile window so we agreed to bd earlier in the cycle and then just 1 attempt in fertile window, I usually ovulate day 16/17 so we bd cd10 and cd11 and though that would be ok as then if I bd day 16 that would still be 1 attempt but I just did an ovulation test and it starting to get dark now at 17.30 on CD 12 and now I'm not sure whether to add another attempt this month or not, I really wish I had waited but I felt pressured by dh, I'm really hoping that it's still another couple of darks before i get a true positive and then i can have another attempt but by looking at that I'm wondering if it will go positive tomorrow?

[atomic sagebrush]

I can't tell you when it will go fully positive. I would just wait for the true positive and have attempt at that point. I suspect it won't be till tomorrow at the soonest, which would put your O Day CD 14. The attempts from CD 10 and 11 would no longer count then.

[sassy86]

Ok so I have got my first positive today its 4pm uk time ( I never get a positive opk this esrly in my cycle) and I'm on CD 13 my last 2 bds were cd10 in evening and cd CD 11 in the evening so shall 8 go ahead and have another attempt this evening will it still be only one attempt in my fertile window, amd also should he have a hot bath and a release first just to lower the sperm count or not to worry about all that?

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes please have an attempt today. I do think it could technically end up being 2 attempts CD 11 and 13, but with a CD 14 or even 15 ovulation your chances of conception would be microscopic without this attempt.

As we already discussed, you need to drop things like hot baths and too frequent releases now.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, I'd have him drop hot tubs and extend the amount of time between releases to every 2 days.

I agree that was not a close enough attempt. FX for better chances next month!

Please do not ADD in hot bath or another release now. it is time for you to drop these things

[sassy86]

Thank you we went ahead with our attempt this evening and will just have to wait and see what happenes. Last month I ended up having an attempt 2 days before positive opk and didnt conceive so hopefully it will just work out that its 1 attempt amd like you say its probably unlikely to conceive without todays attempt.....I cant change it now its just typical that this is the only month we had extra bds and I end up ovulatimg early.

[atomic sagebrush]

Honestly, you guys have been at this for a while (even tho I know you took some time off) it makes sense to have an extra attempt anyway!