ttc a girl

[atomic sagebrush]

It probably just wasn't the month. Unless you did something that drastically cut odds of conception like douching or shallow release, it just didn't happen for some reason. It takes fully fertile couples doing nothing to sway an average of 3-6 months to fall pregnant so it just doesn't work some months.

[sassy86]

Nope didnt do anything else.
How do you think i should go about with attempts this month as obviously last month i had multiple bds?

[atomic sagebrush]

In terms of conception, or a sway?

[sassy86]

A sway i guess

[atomic sagebrush]

If you're trying to sway then I would do the e4d method, unprotected sex every 72 hours (Monday/Thursday/Sunday, etc) and it does not need to be those number of hours, that's just how you count the days. Start this after your period ends, and carry on till you're sure you've ovulated even if that means going straight on thru till your next cycle begins.

If you're aiming at best chance of conception, I would do that pattern and then add in one more attempt at positive OPK (or the day before you expect to ovulate, if you think your cycles are that predictable). This will be somewhat more blue friendly than just e4d alone.

Or, you can even do SMEP - the Sperm Meets Egg plan, but this may be more blue friendly. https://pregnancyloss.info/sperm-meets-egg-plan/

[sassy86]

Ok thank you

[sassy86]

I just feel like im potentially messing things up again. I think not fallen pregnant last month has thrown me.
So we bd Friday which was cd 11 and last night we both went out a drank alot and ended up bding again we definitely used ky jelly. This morning which is cd 13 i had a negative opk but this evening i had my first pos opk. I really dont know whether to bd again and use to ky jelly to keep sperm low as we bd last night and night before. Im just worried i wont fall pregnant again. Should i have another attempt this evening?

[atomic sagebrush]

Use this rule of thumb: For best chance of conception, have another attempt. For best odds of pink, stick with the attempts you've had. I can't know what is best, and when I really do not know, I have to throw the decision back to you guys!

[sassy86]

We decided to have another attempt last night. I just hope i haven't ruined my sway too much. My dh is keen to fall pregnant asap so i dont have much time to waste. Im gutted as i have been planning so long to do things the correct way but i just feel so much pressure to conceive quickly. I feel like i am never going to conceive a girl.
Sorry for rambling on!

[atomic sagebrush]

No not at all, it's such a hard situation to be in. Whenever a husband is reluctant to TTC, I think it's best to just do things his way.