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    Finally TTC but confused on timing

    Alright, husband and I are finally TTC our last babe. So exciting and nervous. However, Iím confused. Iíve read The BDM and they say to have sex 2 ish days before ovulation but Iím reading here that timing ultimately doesnít matter. Iím not sure when i conceived my first son but my second was conceived by BD the day I got a peak OPK. Now Iím breastfeeding and my cycles are kind of everywhere but I seem to get peaks anywhere from CD 16-21 What should I do?


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    Babydust Method is garbage. They stole our one attempt, combined it with Shettles, went and found a ridiculous and sketchy "study" (using the term very loosely) to "prove" it, and started selling it. There are tons of opposites on their FB page and people showing up here after having tried the method for years, plural (and since it only came out in 2016 that's quite an amazing feat, LOL) And they ignore the huge body of evidence that has come out debunking timing.

    If you've got an irregular cycle you're not going to be able to use timing. What you could do instead, if you're sold on doing timing, is get a fertility monitor and have your attempt the second "high" day. (do NOT use an app, it must be a fertility monitor. The apps are not reliable when it comes to highs and peaks) That is a way we've had many people use to do timing with irregular cycles. Now it's not going to be great chances of conception, and it's possible to get many days of "high" or go right to "peak" without any highs at all. But it is going to for sure be a cutoff that way.

    BTW I LOVE GoT, I'm rereading it right now.
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    Quote Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush View Post
    Babydust Method is garbage. They stole our one attempt, combined it with Shettles, went and found a ridiculous and sketchy "study" (using the term very loosely) to "prove" it, and started selling it. There are tons of opposites on their FB page and people showing up here after having tried the method for years, plural (and since it only came out in 2016 that's quite an amazing feat, LOL) And they ignore the huge body of evidence that has come out debunking timing.

    If you've got an irregular cycle you're not going to be able to use timing. What you could do instead, if you're sold on doing timing, is get a fertility monitor and have your attempt the second "high" day. (do NOT use an app, it must be a fertility monitor. The apps are not reliable when it comes to highs and peaks) That is a way we've had many people use to do timing with irregular cycles. Now it's not going to be great chances of conception, and it's possible to get many days of "high" or go right to "peak" without any highs at all. But it is going to for sure be a cutoff that way.

    BTW I LOVE GoT, I'm rereading it right now.
    Thatís so good to know. Honestly, Iím kind of glad to have read up on timing here. Itís a bit stressful trying to guess when to have sex since well...I donít know when Iíll even get a positive OPK. Some times itís on regular schedule and sometimes itís later. And only BD one time makes sense. I did it twice in my fertile window when we tired for baby #2.

    Iím not totally sold on timing so now I think Iím just going to wait for a positive OPK. Makes things a lot easier for me and I think my chances of getting pregnant will go up a ton.

    Sorry for rambling on here and sorry if I didnít make any sense. Itís the end of a busy day for me

    And GoT is the best. One of my favs, although I was a little bummed about how the show ended.


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    Have you found our "timing debunked" essay here? https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...le-timing.html It can be a big help in letting go of timing. So many of us on here (myself included) have 2-3-4 or even more timing opposites so it's easy for us to give up on, but we want you guys to be able to let it go BEFORE you have to go through what we did LOL.

    And, sex at first positive OPK is a bit of a cutoff anyway so there's that!

    Yes, just a wee bit bummed here too LOL A wee bit.
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    LE Diet PCOS idea thread here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/trying-to-conceive-a-girl/47264-le-diet-pcos.html

    PLEASE STOP SENDING ME SWAYING QUESTIONS VIA PRIVATE MESSAGE. Post swaying questions in the forums ONLY.

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    Quote Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush View Post
    Have you found our "timing debunked" essay here? https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum...le-timing.html It can be a big help in letting go of timing. So many of us on here (myself included) have 2-3-4 or even more timing opposites so it's easy for us to give up on, but we want you guys to be able to let it go BEFORE you have to go through what we did LOL.

    And, sex at first positive OPK is a bit of a cutoff anyway so there's that!

    Yes, just a wee bit bummed here too LOL A wee bit.
    I read through it last night and read it again now. Great info and like I said before, definitely takes some stress off of me, in regards to swaying. Thanks for all the hard work and wonderful information


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