What am I doing wrong in my sway?

[girldreaming0915]

Hi Ladies!

I am still fairly new to swaying (we've only been swaying for 3 months) but not new to TTC. We've been TTC for 8 months now with no success. At this point, My husband and I just want to get pregnant. Of course a girl would be nice, but right now we just want a healthy baby. We have a 2.5 year old son and didn't sway for him. At first, I was doing a lot to sway (I thought I could get pregnant immediately since it only took 2 months to get pregnant with my son). I went overboard and used a lime douche, lime tampons etc and I think I killed everything and I ended up with a UTI. Lesson learned, I cut out all of that the next 2 months to sway. My husband also had a SA done before we conceived my son (back in 2017) and it came back with him having low sperm count, abnormal morphology and motility. We suspect that this is still the case but we aren't sure.

This was my sway for the past 2 months:

Supplements for me:
-Myo-Inositol (I took this on my doctor's recommendation for better egg quality)
-Cranberry
-Peppermint

Supplements for DH:
-Cranberry
-Spearmint
(He was using LR but we read some really bad things about how it can permanently damage sperm and we immediately stopped).


Diet:
LE (the best I could- I have a BMI of 20 and I am anemic so I didn't want to go overboard). I also cut out red meat, potatoes, tomatoes and bananas.
Drank crystal light and diet coke (1-2 of each everyday- I noticed that my pH would go down a few hours after CL)

BD:

1 BD the day before ovulation only, took Zyrtec 1 hour before BD, used Sylk (about 1 mL) before BD. (I am also thinking of purchasing some Acijel- it's expensive though, and not the easiest to come by, and not sure if it's a great idea because of our fertility issues)

Can anyone suggest anything to up my pregnancy chances? If they sway girl, that's even better, but like I said, that's a bonus to me at this point. We are going to be going back to a fertility specialist to get a SA done and possibly get on Clomid or Femara (I have a history of a few anovulatory cycles in the past).

Thank you ladies so much!

[BunnyGirl19]

If it were me in your place, I’d cut out the supplements except the inositol, cut out the lubes that are hostile to sperm, and not worry about pH. Inositol seems to sway pink, but those others make it harder to conceive in general.

[girldreaming0915]

Thank you, Bunnygirl! I have been hearing of some people getting pregnant without taking anything, and I am going to give it my best shot without these. I just hope its enough to get my girl that way!

[atomic sagebrush]

Ok. Mentally, I want you to take those month(s) you were using the lime douche and no longer think of them as months you were trying. It's SUPER hard to get pregnant doing that stuff - so hard that I suspect a fair number of people who claim to have gotten pregnant that way are fibbing or exaggerating about the amount of douche they were using and when they were using it.

There is no reason why a woman with BMI of 20 is taking myoinositol. Do you even have any reason to suspect your egg quality is low? We may end up continuing it if you want to but I would not ever have recommended it for you.

You both need to drop cranberry and the mints as they do not work and are likely cutting odds of conception to nothing. STay far away from LR as that's not only terrible for sperm, it has not worked at all, with only 33% of people using it getting girls.

Tell me about your "LE Diet" you're doing. Many people do not understand what LE Diet is, and I need to be sure you are eating adequate amounts of food to conceive.

Immediately add in 30-60 mg iron, take it for 6 weeks daily, then reduce to 3x a week maintenance dose.

Cutting out tomatoes, potatoes, and bananas does nothing for your sway. It's fine if you want to so long as you're getting enough potassium for your survival. On all sway diets you're meant to be getting enough potassium to live on every day, and that's a whopping 2500 mg daily. So I do want to be sure that in limiting potassium, you're not limiting it to such extent you can make yourself ill.

Drop the Zyrtec (you were not taking it at the right time anyway). It hasn't worked and cuts odds of conception considerably.

Drop the jellies. Now is the time to DROP things like Acijel, not add them! The jellies have not worked, with the same number of people getting girls with and without them.

Are you doing anything additional like shallow release, abstain, tight underwear for DH, hot baths, that sort of thing?

What is your age?? Depending on how big a hurry you are to conceive I'd love to see you give it a couple months without all this stuff but with keeping one attempt. You may as well have been taking a birth control pill doing all this stuff together, so I hate to see you move on from one attempt before you've at least had a chance at conceiving with it.