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    Okay thank you! If I wanted to have a cheat day now would be an okay time right since if we did conceive this month the gender would have been determined already?
    And when can we resume bdíing?


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    Cheat days happen when they happen, but yes in the 2WW, particularly the week before your period is due to arrive, is a good time for one. But if you have a cheat day some other point, that's ok too. We take cheating now and then into account.
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    So I ended up pregnant and had a week of positive tests and was eating all the meat and snacks. And stopped exercising. Sadly it ended as a chemical pregnancy.
    So now Iím worried if we try again this month that I will have messed up the diet. I was on it 6 weeks prior to that. I will resume the diet now as I am on CD 1 again. But where do I go from here with the exercise since I stopped for over a week.
    Also itís hard not to question why it happened but I donít think this time I will get hubby to abstain 7 days again. Is it that much of a sway factor?


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    Oh I'm so sorry to hear this.

    I would just pick it up now with diet and exercise and still try. It's your call to make of course but most of the time when people fall off the wagon they're really doing a lot better than they thought they were.

    Chemicals happen. I'm fine with you dropping abstain as it does nothing but chemicals are just something that occur sometimes and have nothing to do with anything we did or didn't do.
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    Hi again, Iím wondering if youíve seen women that are on the lower end of bmi that have had issues with spotting during their cycle. The last two cycles Iíve had spotting for about 5 days after, basically until I ovulate. It seems weird that the month I was going to start trying thatís when the spotting started and Iíve never had issues before.
    Iím wondering if excessive exercise maybe is contributing to the spotting. Iím still ovulating and getting my period but Iím just under 18.5 bmi right now and Iíve been eating more than usual. I have decided to wean from breastfeeding since Iím worried about the bmi being too low and I canít physically eat anymore than I am unless I start to snack which I donít want to do. My baby is 18 months so I feel ready to quit even though I know it sways girl, but after my chemical I want to try and prevent having another one if I can and my doctor told me breastfeeding and the spotting could have contributed to it as my hormones arenít level.
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    Yes, if you lose too much weight, and you HAVE absolutely lost too much weight, particularly when breastfeeding and exercising, you can have spotting. You are not giving your body enough raw materials to make sex hormones with and so it's causing that spotting because your estrogen levels are lower than they're meant to be at this point.

    You need to immediately be eating 60 g fat daily (not counting protein and fat in fruit and veg) and do whatever it takes to stop weight loss (eating as many cals as it takes to stop that.) I'm not saying you should regain weight per se - tho if you do gain a small amount, that is ok - but that the weight loss needs to stop and more fat needs to be eaten. Drop fiber if you were taking it.

    The cutoff for stopping weight loss is BMI 21. And my "do not go below this weight ever" is 18.5. So you're below that.

    Breastfeeding did not cause your chemical and it's not causing the spotting (if you don't start eating more, that spotting will likely continue with or without breastfeeding). It's fine if you're ready to stop nursing, but I don't want you to stop for reasons that aren't an accurate assesment of what's going on. Doctors love to blame everything on breastfeeding but chemicals are not caused by breastfeeding an 18 month old baby, that's nonsense. After having seen tons of people lose too much weight and have issues with their cycle, that is what the cause of your spotting is and so you need to fix the actual problem.
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    Quote Originally Posted by atomic sagebrush View Post
    Yes, if you lose too much weight, and you HAVE absolutely lost too much weight, particularly when breastfeeding and exercising, you can have spotting. You are not giving your body enough raw materials to make sex hormones with and so it's causing that spotting because your estrogen levels are lower than they're meant to be at this point.

    You need to immediately be eating 60 g fat daily (not counting protein and fat in fruit and veg) and do whatever it takes to stop weight loss (eating as many cals as it takes to stop that.) I'm not saying you should regain weight per se - tho if you do gain a small amount, that is ok - but that the weight loss needs to stop and more fat needs to be eaten. Drop fiber if you were taking it.

    The cutoff for stopping weight loss is BMI 21. And my "do not go below this weight ever" is 18.5. So you're below that.

    Breastfeeding did not cause your chemical and it's not causing the spotting (if you don't start eating more, that spotting will likely continue with or without breastfeeding). It's fine if you're ready to stop nursing, but I don't want you to stop for reasons that aren't an accurate assesment of what's going on. Doctors love to blame everything on breastfeeding but chemicals are not caused by breastfeeding an 18 month old baby, that's nonsense. After having seen tons of people lose too much weight and have issues with their cycle, that is what the cause of your spotting is and so you need to fix the actual problem.
    Thank you for giving me clarification that Breast feeding did not cause my chemical.

    So at this point I am hopefully doing my one attempt this weekend for a girl sway as long as this whole weaning process doesnít screw up my ovulation timing. I have stopped exercising the last three days and as soon as I stopped my spotting stopped too- whether it was coincidence or not I donít know.
    My best bet is to stop the exercise portion of my sway then and just continue on doing the diet.?

    I am eating three meals a day and one snack at bedtime am reaching my daily limits for the most part and now that i am weaning because my bmi is still under weight should I Carry on the diet with the breast feeding limits of 1800-2000 Cals a day?


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    I would wait till ovulation occurs, then pick up exercise at a more moderate amount and eat more. The exercise has been very effective, and if you eat enough, you can still exercise (even tho you may need less exercise than others). The problem is that this stuff is cumulative so if you don't eat enough and you're exercising a ton and you lose gobs of weight, you will see these problems arise. The solution is not to then turn around and stop doing this thing or that thing, but to ease back on EVERYthing - stop losing weight, exercise less but keep exercising, eat more, and you'll see the problem fix itself without dropping anything.

    Yes, please eat however much you need to keep weight on. even if you need to surpass the 2000 calories, just eat enough to stop that weight loss.
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    Okay thank you so much for your guidance. The weight loss hasnít been a huge amount- normally Iím about 118lbs and since doing the diet Iím at 114lbs. My exercise that Iíve been doing for the sway has only been walking anyway so itís not super hard core. I didnít want to be on the diet that long because I was on the lower end of the bmi scale so I only did it for 6 weeks before our attempt but thatís when the spotting started so now that you explained everything about problems arising it makes sense.


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    The thinner you are, though, the more every pound "counts". It's a higher % of your body weight. So while someone else who weighed more could lose that 4 lbs and it would have no effect, because you're already thin it really packs a punch.
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