Here after two blue sways -- pink sway, got BOY <3

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Thanks LMSM pregnancy is going well so far, fx!! But tired as can be expected being first trimester with 3 kids, but they're bigger now, it's quite ok. I won't know the gender soon though- I'm going in for my first trimester ultrasound in a bit, and in France they tell you the gender at the second trimester ultrasound when they are 100 percent sure - so that's like 12 more weeks away lol. I don't mind the suspense though lol, so far as the pregnancy goes OK

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Hi everyone! Realized I haven't updated on here - I'm past 33 weeks and due in September and finally, I decided to go team green, so I don't know who we're having. Previous births were very positive experiences, hoping for the same here and to welcome whoever the baby turns out to be with open arms. a close friend is having her third any day now (overdue..) and her second is disabled from birth. Which really makes me be thankful for what I have and fervently accept healthy over gender, God willing.
Best of luck to everyone who is pregnant now or TTC <3 i will update after the birth!

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Hi everyone!

One month postpartum already, i better update! It's been so busy. Ill give the long and short versions

The short of it is we have had a sway opposite (!) after going team green (i legit had no idea of the gender till ten seconds after pushing him out) But we love our new guy to bits - in fact i think it's the fastest that I've had from birth and till experiencing the surge of love <3

Long version now, and definitely a trigger warning first - going to go into details about labor and all. This was my fourth pregnancy and fourth labor and definitely the hardest labor (which took me by surprise ngl..) basically all of the previous three, labors were identical - each faster than the previous one - unmedicated and straightforward. I'd dilate till seven cm or so and then go very fast till a ten and ready to push (we are talking 10-20 mins to reach full dilation). And pushing was faster and easier for each consequent baby. This time though dilation was about a cm an hour till 7cm - and then just stagnated at 7 for a few hours while contractions were full on (aaaaarrrrgggh) finally reached full dilation after dilating for hours and was ready to push. Thanks be DS came out in just a couple of puahes, but geez was i exhausted and so over the pain by then. The midwife cheerfully asked DH to announce that it was a boy to me - i was so over labor by then that i didn't care if it was an ape, i was just grateful labor was done and we were both fine <3 i tried to think about it somewhat after - i guess i was surprised as i expected that the sway would work, as did my previous (blue) ones. My analytical side is taking over though and i am really glad i did it though, the sway i mean, for Atomic to keep collecting data - long story short, for various reasons (DH's job schedule and the like) i was panicking when i didn't fall pregnant after two months of trying and pretty sure we had at lesst 3 attempts during month 3 when i did fall pregnant ' and you all know as Atomic said, what's gold for pink swaying is one attempt.

I can't really feel bitter or disappointed though atm - for one, DS3 is a real sweety and we all love him. For another, i had two friends gove birth just before me, one had her 3d and another had her 4th, and each of them have health conditions. I can't help but feel as i try to support them through these seasons how lucky we are, i woild def choose healthy over gender, and i can't imagine how i'd manage an LO with a health condition with no help and DH's very demanding job. As it is, DS3 has been thriving, thank God, and only had his routine health checks so far. He has come along to the appointments and stuff i had for the other kids with no complaints, sleeping through peacefully. So that is a relief. Also of course, i have my DD, and there are plenty of pink swayers here without a single DD who keep trying. I can't help but feel it's best if eavh of them scores one DD especially as some have been at it for years.

And also,.while we have been swamped with comments like 'oh dear, is she (DD) disappointed she didn't get a younger sister?' My DD in actual fact ia very happy to remain the only girl and that the baby turned out to be a boy.

My eldest DS (who no one thought to ask as everyone somehow thinks kids want sibs of the same.gender) is the one who expressed some wistfulness and told me he would have liked a little sister. He came along to see me and spoke to me of 'if i would consider having another later' (i did tell him it could be another boy then). He is fast bonding with the baby though and finds him cute, so that's cool.

So here we are. I really really don't know if I'd try for another - on the one hand we are doing well where we are now. Number 4 hasn't rocked the boat much, we are settling into our routine, and the icky labor is fading into memory. On the other, i feel a bit wistful, like I'd have it in me for one last sway maybe. On another note, none of us are getting younger and i am terrified of the higher risks any consequent pregnancy would have for like side effects and all (i am 36 and DH is 39, so, given I'd have to recover from DS3, we'd be at least 38 and 41). I have never miscarried or had pregnancy issues, but so many of my friends have. (Is there any way to counter this Atomic?)

We are getting into life with 4 kids, recovering from postpartum now. I will keep updating whether we decide to sway again or not in the future. Very grateful for the support on here <3

[treens]

Congratulations!I am so happy for you!!

Trigger warning (loss )

I was 41 with my healthy baby boy that we swayed for. he was my 4th healthy pregnancy.
We swayed for a girl for our second (my first 3 were with other father) I was 42 I did not take prenatal vitamins and i regret that even if it did not cause any issues. We had genetic testing done because we wanted to know gender and we shocked when they came back with issues. We had to make a huge decision quick and quality of life was going to be a big issue if she survived long enough so we decided to TFMR. Hardest decision I have ever had to make but it was she would be best for her.

Exactly 1 year later we were pregnant again swaying girl with prenatal and folic acid. We got our little girl at age 43 and a half. She is so perfect healthy and strong.

I hope that helps you in any decision when you come to it.