gizmo's boy sway

[Foxy]

Congratulations on a sweet baby girl, gizmo! I'm sorry you didn't hear boy, but happy that you are doing well! xx

[boyjoy]

HGizmo, big congrats on your baby girl. As a 3 girls mom, i would say if i did remember how joyfjul a baby girl, i wouldn t ve sway ever. The moment i hold her time stopped and fall in love with that lil princess. I never did care "others" opinions. They are just others. You ll know what i mean when you get her. After 3,5 years i was completely forgot what does it mean. If i go for a 4th one, i ll hope for a boy but ll not sway. Because baby girls are too beautiful to avoid from When she looks at you and smiles you just forget about the gender. You are being the happiest women in the world. I am sure i would not be any happier than now if i had a baby boy. Just focus on you and your lil one.
This is to all same gender moms. The desire of your DG ll be in your heart but don t let it ruin your unique moments with your baby. She/he is gonna cure your GD.

[gizmo77]

I thought you had a perfect sway, too. Seriously, the entire time we were swaying, you were the standard I measured myself to. I just kept thinking your sway HAD to work! So I hope you don't have any regrets--you really did all you could!

I am glad you are at peace with having another little girl! You sound so grounded and level headed--I'm jealous! Glad your DH is being so great, too.

yeah real level headed//the last few days ive been mulling over getting PGD for the next one. even tho i cant wait to meet DD3 and im resolved with it, its making my dream of having the 4 kids ive always wanted a reality. DH had a HUGE fight (wahy before before conceiving DD3) about #3 and #4. his number was always 2 and mine was always 4 and somewhere he thought 3 would be a good compromise. but i dont feel like a person can compromise on a LIFE/CHILD and nor did i feel it was his decision (this is how i USED to feel) bc *I* would be the one to carry and primarily raise the kids. but in the end he said he wasnt totally against it and i said i wasnt totally against not having #4. (he was just fighting me with #3 so that i would stop at 3..even tho he had already agreed to a 3 a while ago).

ANYWAY...honestly i was considering stopping at 3 (tho i had been mourning that idea for month sbefore i even got pg with DD3) but now i feel like DD3 was meant to be so that i COULD have my 4th. this is still in early stages...as i dont know how id feel after DD3 arrives and the hectic life to come and money too of course. but i feel like if we are going for #4..id really really want to try gender selection. DH has already said he s against it (bc its against nature and something might happen to the kid, etc). but i explained..all they do is test gender just like they test for genetic conditions and tons of ppl get IVF (for infertility reasons)..so we 'll see. this all could be part ofmy grievig tho.

i AM happy about DD3 but at the same time im pissed i gained all that weight and ate all that food for nothing...and had DH take all those supplemenst which didnt do anything. i truly feel its bc of his caffeine habit. he s been drinking coffee since he was like 18 (he s 36 now). bc i did everything! my pH was 8-9, i had ew, i orgasmed. it was deep penetration. i kept my blood sugar up by eating constantl;y i ate POTAOES AND BANANAS EVERYDAY!!! hahahah! i mean...carbs and protein..barely had dairy...magnesium..whatever i even decreased my nuts close to TTC.

the only thing i can think of is we DTD 3 times in a row (afternoon and night and then the following night). and it was even a waxing moon (or a full moon going to new). laptop, cellphone, microwave..etc. lemon water all day every day. weights 3 days a week.

so what was it???

[gizmo77]

Gizmo I didn't have much time earlier but wanted to tell you your post above is really encouraging; I'm glad you are handling it well so far. My GD definitely had waves, and it got MUCH worse before it got better ... I posted it in another thread but to be totally honest it was pretty bad the weeks just prior to her birth. And it really wasn't ever about HER, it was more just the gender DESIRE. I got over the gender disappointment much, much sooner; in fact I really do appreciate having my girls, probably now more than I ever did before. But the gender desire beat me down for awhile during the pregnancy. I have 3 friends due just prior to or just after my own DD3, who were ALL expecting DS after 2DD. That was tough.

The comments from other people also fed into and reinforced my feeling that I was somehow lacking w/o a DS. That somehow 3 healthy DD wasn't a "good" family make-up, and when I was pregnant I really fell for that lie. Also, like you, I'm very much a perfectionist, and the fact that my sway "failed" meant I wasn't "perfect" and I felt hugely disappointed in myself. We might have a 4th but I'm 90% sure I won't sway, I'll just let the chips fall where they may, because for me ... swaying set me up for disappointment in a way leaving it to chance wouldn't have. I think swaying took some of the pure joy and excitement of having another child out of the equation for me, and I was so focused on getting a DS that I forgot the overall goal of just expanding our family... that goal we successfully accomplished! So I definitely learned that my personality and swaying don't mix I'd for sure be hoping for a DS if we have a 4th, but I won't have a 4th if I'm not OK with another DD.

Comments suck and I get a ton of them, but now that she's here I really, truly don't care a bit what people have to say. Because I see her now as a person, not just a "girl" baby in my belly. She's going to be an individual unlike either of her 2 sisters, someone new to love and appreciate and drive me crazy So people's comments really don't get to me and I typically either say something sassy or just smile and don't say anything, which always unnerves the commenter Whenever someone says something to DH about being surrounded by all girls he laughs and says that for YEARS he prayed for girls to love him and God answered it abundantly, so he considers himself lucky. Your DH sounds like he's doing really well with it too and that is fantastic, because if you have a low day he can pick you up. I really don't know what I would have done if DH had GD as badly as I did ... he was totally my rock through it.

Anyhow I hope you stick around! There were several times in my pregnancy I had to take a break from this place, but overall ... the support and encouragement from people who really do understand was invaluable.

thanks begonia you said it well. and ido have to say this site i think has helped me get the severity of any gender disappointment that i may have had, had i NOT had you guys and read about others gGD (did that make sense). basically by reading your posts, it helped me re think things. when youre IN it tho, now i totally understand how you and others with GD felt. when youre outside its easier to think more logical.
it really is the ppl ithink for ME and also the perfectionism in me that makes the GD appear. i also feel like i failed. the thing is our family is going thru a move right now and things have really lined up for us thank God in a "lucky" sort of way. i.e. we sold our house, we found a new house fast, they accepted our offer fast, etc. so i feel like everything else went our way except for this one thing (that was the most impt for ME).
but things you guys say REALLY help anytime i start to fall again soi have to continuously thank you for all that. ;-)

[gizmo77]

Congratulations on your healthy baby !!!!
I'm in the same boat, it seems it's girl#3 for us, but I'm coping very, very bad with it so far

I'm glad you're practically over GD ( if there was any?) and I love the way you think, helped me a lot.
I never wanted more then 3 ( DH wanted only 2 ) but I caught myself thinking about the possibility of 4th baby

Only thing is: what if it's a girl again? I think that might prevent me to try for #4. DH is strongly against anyway, says we can't afford another baby.

I would do IVF/PGD in a heart beat if I had money, I would go for twin boys. I even found a clinic VERY near where we live. Maybe if I get BINGO or something....

Like you said, I know I should be grateful there is no down syndrome, chromosome issues, heart abnormalities etc. My DH said it's a blasphemy that I'm so unhappy for getting a healthy child.

Can't wait your next sway

oh zivic, im sorry for this. but im extremely happy you and your baby are healthy! congratulations. i know its been a long raod for you too so im glad that you were able to get pg and at least have some hope. would you rather have not been able to get pg if you knew for sure this #3 was a girl? i think once you see her (like me) you will forget a lot of the GD (hopefully for me to). im up and down. what helps me is reminding myself that tehre are those out there that cnt have babies at all and/or have kids with genetic abnormalities and that ihave a great family and 2 great kids before this pg....all the good things.i hope you get there too zivic!!!

[gizmo77]

gizmo-congrats on your baby girl! Im sorry you didn't hear boy but it's so great you don't really have GD!
You can see Im pregnant and already thinking it's a girl for sure and it makes me very sad! really who got 5 girls?
Also I think your sway is so good and it still didn't worked so why would it work for me, right? I think some of us just can sway forever and it's not going to work for us no matter what.
Today is just bad for me...I feel very stupid trying again I should have learned already. I just hope I will be like you when I hear girl again.I don't want DG I want to be happy for a new baby.
Your DH is very nice he is right don't listen to the stupid comments.

thanks flava and CONGRATS on your pgcy! imso happy for you!!! well you dont know for sure anything yet so dont set yourself up for nothing! just behappy it happened. this was all meant to be! youre right about some of us who sway it prob wont ever happen for whatever reason. thats why i think this is mostly God;s choice..not really ours (for us where swaying doesnt help!)
goodluck!!!!

[gizmo77]

HGizmo, big congrats on your baby girl. As a 3 girls mom, i would say if i did remember how joyfjul a baby girl, i wouldn t ve sway ever. The moment i hold her time stopped and fall in love with that lil princess. I never did care "others" opinions. They are just others. You ll know what i mean when you get her. After 3,5 years i was completely forgot what does it mean. If i go for a 4th one, i ll hope for a boy but ll not sway. Because baby girls are too beautiful to avoid from When she looks at you and smiles you just forget about the gender. You are being the happiest women in the world. I am sure i would not be any happier than now if i had a baby boy. Just focus on you and your lil one.
This is to all same gender moms. The desire of your DG ll be in your heart but don t let it ruin your unique moments with your baby. She/he is gonna cure your GD.

thanks boy joy you said this really well and it made me really smile and feel stupid for even having GD. you girls know all the right thinsg to say! this is perfect and ill try to always remember this!!
thank you!

[Hobbermittens]

i AM happy about DD3 but at the same time im pissed i gained all that weight and ate all that food for nothing...and had DH take all those supplemenst which didnt do anything. i truly feel its bc of his caffeine habit. he s been drinking coffee since he was like 18 (he s 36 now). bc i did everything! my pH was 8-9, i had ew, i orgasmed. it was deep penetration. i kept my blood sugar up by eating constantl;y i ate POTAOES AND BANANAS EVERYDAY!!! hahahah! i mean...carbs and protein..barely had dairy...magnesium..whatever i even decreased my nuts close to TTC.

the only thing i can think of is we DTD 3 times in a row (afternoon and night and then the following night). and it was even a waxing moon (or a full moon going to new). laptop, cellphone, microwave..etc. lemon water all day every day. weights 3 days a week.

so what was it???

I wouldn't think it was the frequency of BD. In fact, I am kicking myself for not doing it MORE than we did. Every day I find a new regret about my sway. That was the thing I wanted most (well, besides a BOY or course!!)--to have NO REGRETS about my sway, so I can say I did all I could. I definitely have regrets.

I think you DID do all you could. I don't think it was the caffeine. I know several people that drink a ton of caffeine and have boys. And I know people who don't drink any coffee and have girls. As for the moon, I O'ed right on the full moon and I still think my baby is a girl! You can't control all that. I don't know if I believe in ions anyway. I took short showers, burned incense, turned off all our ceiling fans, etc. and I don't think it helped!

I really think your sway was perfect. So try not to over think what you did/didn't do.

[gizmo77]

well you might think so and i guess i WOULD have thought it was perfect except that i didnt get the desired gender!! ;-)

i could have went back on ACV (i stopped bc it gave me the runs), i coul dhave BSF'd more i only did it once 3 days before attempt but then the following days my pH was 9ish anyway so i thought why bother and increase risk of BSF killing off sperm which is what happened i think on 1st attempt..so whatever i did there was a reason but it was just my subjective reason. my dh wasnt eating like me (he just cant). i sort of blame his eating style (i dnt tell himthis) bci feel like i did the most and followed it the most. but youre right all in all, it was perfect in my eyes did the best i could with what i thought was right at THAT time...and thats it. i get what i get!
good luck hobbers, you still wont know for sure until i you get a true gender scan and besides you have nmore of a chance since you have a boy. id kill for just ONE!!!!
;-)

[Hobbermittens]

I wouldn't worry about the BSF--BS has a pH of 8. If your pH was 9, then the BSF would have brought your pH down!