Due Date Club for Lil' March Hares, April Bunnies & May Pikas

[iwonder]

Good luck with your hubby's job interview, @gurly. :fx:

I had my nt scan this morning. Thank goodness the little bean looks healthy so far. For some reason I had a lot of anxiety about that. We did get one nub shot...good luck to everyone with upcoming scans. They are exciting! Here is a link to mine if you want to have a guess...

http://http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/33960-12w5d-nub-any-guesses.html (http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/33960-12w5d-nub-any-guesses.html)

[Ribenaberry]

God i feel ill, sorry ive no energy to reply to everyone, i hope you are doing better than me!!!

Appt this morning was a first contact appt, got to go back in 2 weeks for booking in appt.

Xxx

[Tiggerian]

Well... My GBS infection is back =( My 2 courses of antibiotics have done nothing other than knocking it back and its back in full swing. Its such a concern for me as the midwife and doctors have said this infection is VERY heavy for me to be both symptomatic and for it to show up in urine samples. I'm terrified.. as If you don't get enough worries during pregnancy, now I have to worry about baby getting sick AFTER birth as well... aargh!

I'm already freaked out about having the exact same due date as I had with Lily, my daughter who passed away at 17+5. I do NOT need this... sigh =(

[iwonder]

Hugs to you, Tiggerian. And prayers too that you and your sweet baby will be just fine.

[Kitty0911]

Just thought I'd come and post since I haven't really been keeping up on these posts. I had a lot of brown bleeding this morning (a full pads worth) :( I will be 9 weeks tomorrow. I lost a previous pregnancy at 5w 5d and it started the same way so I am very worried. I have an ultrasound for tomorrow to check viability and I'm hoping this isn't what I think it is. I've had a feeling since the beginning of this pregnancy that it was too easy. I got pregnant on the first try with 1 attempt. I haven't had ANY of my usual pregnancy dreams (I had a bunch with both boys). My nausea stopped at 8 weeks. I think my body just knew from the start this wasn't meant to be :( I read 8 and 9 weeks is when most chromosomal abnormalities surface so I'm right on for something like this. I'll update tomorrow. My scan is at 8am so pretty much 12 hours from now...wish me luck!

[gurly]

Oh no kitty, I will keep you in my thoughts

And tiggerian I hope that infection clears up soon

[Tiggerian]

Try to stay positive, Kitty, and remember that brown blood equals old blood! I'm in a due date group on facebook and almost all the girls there have had atleast one bleed - I know its insanely hard, especially after a miscarriage but try to keep your chin up!

I got a scan today at 2 pm (its 11 am now, so 4 hrs) after I called the Early Pregnancy Unit to discuss my symptoms - they want to scan to make sure my symptoms are a flare up of my infection, so it can be treated (again) and not anything wrong with baby. Fingers x'ed that I'll get to see a bouncy baby and a strong heart beat!

[Tiggerian]

Just came home from my scan and little one is perfect =D Just lying there with its little hands scratching its nose lol =D

Didn't get a picture tho - said it was against company policy in the early pregnancy unit =/ my due date has been moved by 3 days, so I'm now 12+2 instead of 11+6 =D

No nub shot that I could see either and its thrown me completely on gender guessing :P got another scan monday so will be closely scrutinising it :P

[sugarNspice]

Just wanted to say goodbye to you all. My NT scan showed multiple abnormalities, and Maternit21 gave a trisomy 18 result. Terminated the pregnancy yesterday.

I'm actually pretty much okay with this, as it wasn't out of line with my expectations for the pregnancy. I am very glad that I already have two healthy children, and I think in a lot of ways our family is better off as a family of four.

I wish all of you all the best, and hope that everyone's pregnancy is healthy!

[Northern_Shutterbug]

I'm so sorry SugarnSpice. Thoughts are with you xx

[Kitty0911]

Well I had my scan. The baby had a heartbeat of 192bpm! So I was in total shock to see his heartbeat. He was measuring 9w 3d. However, they did find a Subchorionic Hematoma between the baby and the placenta. My doctor explained it to me and said they would put me on progesterone and baby aspirin daily to hopefully get rid of it. She said that there are risks of the placenta completely detaching or a clot coming lose and crossing the umbilical cord. So I have a 50/50 chance of continuing this pregnancy. I'm slightly relieved, but still worried. I have another ultrasound in 3 weeks to see how things are going.

[gurly]

Yay kitty so glad everything is okay for now! I had a SCH with dd at exactly 9 weeks. I had 2 heavy gushes out of nowhere and was sure I had lost the pregnancy. Everything was fine in the end! Take it easy, try not to lift or over exert yourself

[gurly]

Just wanted to say goodbye to you all. My NT scan showed multiple abnormalities, and Maternit21 gave a trisomy 18 result. Terminated the pregnancy yesterday.

I'm actually pretty much okay with this, as it wasn't out of line with my expectations for the pregnancy. I am very glad that I already have two healthy children, and I think in a lot of ways our family is better off as a family of four.

I wish all of you all the best, and hope that everyone's pregnancy is healthy!

I'm so sorry for your loss. All the best

[Bella29]

Sorry sugar..... I hope you continue to process this loss in a positive way.

Kitty, good luck love. Does knowing what you are dealing with and having a plan help you to feel better??

Afm, 5+4, still no nausea. Still feels a little bit to easy after my last two. Trying to stay positive. Wondering if no nausea is more of a boy sign?? Dunno. Hpt, still getting darker when I tested a few days ago. Will wait and see.

[ambrown5]

I didn't get nauseated until 7weeks this time around!... and most of my other ones as well! Good luck!

[gurly]

Hate to complain...I really am grateful to be pregnant, but this pregnancy has been so uncomfortable so far. I'm having sharp pains in my breasts (keeping me up at night right now) it could also be a side effect from the progesterone supps, I don't know. I'm also nauseous all the time. Saltines usually help but they didnt tonight. How is everyone else feeling?

[tmbabcock]

Sugar- I am so soo sorry for your loss. >hugs<

Kitty- I am glad to hear everything is okay and baby is doing good.


7 weeks today. No morning sickness. Quite the opposite actually. I haven't been able to stop eating. I actually feel faint if I don't eat something every 30 minutes and I am eating full meals and snacks. Don't get me wrong I love to eat, I am getting tired of eating something and having to go and eat again because I' still not full. I have been trying to eat higher calorie meals and snacks and that does seem to be helping a bit so I'm not having to eat as often. I'm also very, very tired. I'm usually tired to begin with chasing two girls around all day and I have really bad problems falling asleep at night but I have way more tired than usual. The other day I actually fell asleep sitting up on my couch watching a movie with my girls. 5 1/2 more weeks till I go to the dr. Hope everyone else is doing good.

[Tiggerian]

Sugar - I am so desperately sorry for your loss =(

Kitty - I'm glad to hear baby is okay and I'll be having my fingers x for you being okay and baby sticking =D

[HopefulMonster]

Sorry I've been a bit AWOL I've been feeling like crap, constant nausea and lots of puking, not very fun at all. Hoping it fades out faster as it started at 5 weeks and the thought of it lasting past 12 weeks is horrifying!!!

Really sorry to hear your sad news sugar spice, I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I hope you find peace and for what it's worth I'm sending you lots of love and prayers xxxx

How scary kitty, I really hope that it's good news for you and these 3 weeks pass quickly for you.

On the plus side I had a scan on Wednesday and everything looked good, baby measured up exactly with my dates at 7+4 and had a strong heartbeat (they wouldn't tell me the bpm but never mind) so I feel slightly better now. Going to book in with midwife on Monday. The dating scan seems forever away but then this nausea is making every day feel like forever!

Cant stop wondering about the sex. It's so silly isn't it, half of us want boys, half want girls, so why can't we just choose so everyone is happy , it would be so much fairer!!

[Kitty0911]

I feel so bad, I haven't been reading these posts like I should. I'm so sorry, Sugar for your loss. I hope you are doing okay.

Bella, I do feel somewhat relieved knowing what I do. I researched it a lot and it has made me feel a bit better. I'm still a bit nervous though.

Thanks everyone for the positive thoughts! I'm hoping these next few weeks go by quick and I get some good news.

[SoulSister]

Oh gosh, so much sad and scary news :(
Thinking of you all.
Same ol, same ol here. Morning sickness go away!!!

[Ribenaberry]

So sorry s'n's :(

Fingers crossed it goes away for you kitty.

Fed up of being tired lol!! You can tell we are all mostly in the first trimester and suffering!

Had some really concerning cramps this morning, but theyve not reappeared this afternoon so i think everything is okay, i figured cramps are okay, cramps and blood are a bad sign.

Hope everyone is starting to recover

Xxx

[bunnywabbit]

I'm so sorry, sugar :bighug:

Gurly, I can understand. It's early days yet so hoping the nausea sorts out for you soon.

[gurly]

Things have been crazy over here. Between dealing with an energetic toddler and DH being MIA. He's studying for his interview, the agency gave him a long list of things the company expects him to be familiar with, stuff he hadn't dealt with since school. So I'm exhausted, but at least it's making the first trimester go by quicker. My next appointment isn't for another 3 weeks.

[Tiggerian]

Well, had my 12 weeks scan and got moved yet again, so I'm now 13+0 with a new EDD of the 17th instead of 18th. Baby was so hyper they could barely take a picture - unfortunately that also meant the picture I got was very poor quality (i won't upload because although you can see what it is in real life, the pictures ive taken just look like nothing). All looked good =D

[Ribenaberry]

Told my headteacher tiday, he was lovely and gave me a hug, said we'd deal with any issues as they arise etc. got my appointment next wednesday with the midwife, but (tmi) had some stringy cm today which had me a bit worried, nothing else since but i dont like anything out of the ordinary!!

Hopefully its just because ive been stood up a lot the last few days and nothing more sinister - but im about to attack google lol!

Xxx

[SoulSister]

The gender thing is occupying my mind again! Wish I could just KNOW already. I was feeling so certain it was a boy earlier, but now craving sweet stuff like crazy, which I only did with my daughters pregnancy. Trying not to get my hopes up. It's driving me mad!! Can you tell? Lol.

[iwonder]

I am so sorry, Sugarnspice. Thinking of you and your family.

[iwonder]

@kitty0911- I too had an SCH with my last pregnancy, diagnosed at 9 weeks as well. It got really long/narrow (I think this is not as common) and they gave me a 30% chance of loss at 13 weeks, but I did modified bedrest as much as possible and it absorbed by 20 weeks. It is scary though when you have gushes and frequent spotting. But I read so many stories with good outcomes, that helped. They are actually super common, but most of the time they just go away on their own. Babycenter.com has an SCH support group that I found really nice. Will keep you and baby in my thoughts.

@tmbabcock-that sounds like my pregnancies with my boys. SUPER hungry, no m/s, really really tired. This is my first experience with m/s and it is NO fun at all!

In fact, for those of us struggling with nausea, my widwife suggested taking B6 and it really turned my life around beginning last week. I just take a sublingual B6, B12 and folic acid tab and I swear it has helped so much. Look it up if you want relief and like me you don't like ginger or it doesn't work for you. There is research to support it for nausea in pregnancy.

[iwonder]

Glad to hear all is well, @Tiggerian!

[Bella29]

How is everyone? I am going for an early scan on Monday, ill be 7 weeks I think. All very exciting! Can't wait to see the little heart beat! Anyone else getting scans done soon? To early for nub shots :)

[XXPlease]

I will be going next Saturday for a private ultrasound to find out the gender of our baby!

[XXPlease]

Also I forgot to mention I pretty much feel like poo I still very much get morning sickness everyday though it is more of a all day sickness...

[Northern_Shutterbug]

We've got our 12 week scan on Thursday, but I'm more and more convinced it'll be bad news. Before our last 20 week scan (when we were told we'd lose our girl), we had had a few pieces of good news, it seemed like things were beginning to line up in life, and now this week we've had things turn and go our way. It seems good news is rolling in again, so its got to balance out, no doubt on Thursday.

Was speaking with OH this morning too and was saying that how with Evelyn I had a deep down feeling it was a girl, but this time I don't have it at all - he said he felt the same. It really upset me, stupid really as its how I felt, but it was like confirmation.

On a good note, our camper was registered super quick and within a few more days it'll be ready to roll.

[gurly]

I'm getting my next scan in 2 weeks, I'll be 11.5 weeks along. Then I've got cvs (prenatal testing) at 12 weeks and I should find out the results (including gender) 2 weeks later.

Still been really sick and nauseous basically all day and all night. I really don't have any kind of feeling as to what I'm having, it's just so strange how different this pregnancy is to my last one.

[Bella29]

Why are you getting the cvs done gurly?

[gurly]

There is a congenital disease on DH's side that a few family members died from or are sick from so we saw a genetic counselor about it years ago and he had testing done confirming that he is a carrier. Once I got pregnant we decided to do the cvs to make sure DD was healthy, so I'm going to do it again. Finding out the gender early is just a bonus

[BlueMom]

Hi ladies, I'm sorry I haven't been reading this post lately, so forget me if I'm missing something. Just wanted to give a little update. I went for a private us last Friday to find out gender and I'm pregnant with my third boy. Totally devastated, although I was expecting it. I can't stop crying and asking why I couldn't get just one out of three...
I truly wish you all get your dg and of course, healthy babies. Fx for you ladies.

[Bella29]

Ah gurly, that's hard. But fingers crossed your baby is safe and well. And yes what a nice bonus to have the gender confirmed 100% so early.

And blue mum, sorry that you didn't get the girl that you wanted :(. Hugs.

[BlueMom]

Sorry Gurly, I didn't read that, good luck with the scan and cvs

[gurly]

Is anyone taking zofran? I'm thinking about asking for a prescription for it because I've been so sick I can't stand it anymore. It's all day and all night

[HopefulMonster]

I'm trying my best to soldier on. I am really against medication in pregnancy if it can be avoided so I'm suffering and miserable but Im 9 weeks now so the end is in sight. Longest month of my life, but im hoping it might end sooner than 12wks because it started fairly early at 5 weeks. I puke over 10 times a day/night, dry heave more times I can count. The nausea is 24:7 even while wearing sea bands constantly. It's been a nightmare, im so ashamed but I even started thinking it wouldn't be so terrible if I lost the baby because at least I'd feel better. I find tarty oranges help, I suck the juice out of the segments without actually eating it. Hard boiled glacier fruit sweets in orange and Lemon flavour help too. Eat something every hour. I know it's the last thing you feel like doing but it honestly helps. Dry cereal with no milk. ice pops. Oh I also read that taking vitamin b6 can really help, as can stopping your prenatal if it has iron in it (keep asking folio acid though.)

Whatever you decide to do, I really hope you feel better soon, it's awful isn't it! My midwife said as long as I can keep something down in 24 hours no matter how small, they don't recommend taking anything - easier said than done though, especially with a toddler to run round after!

[Bella29]

Yeah gurly I have taken zofran once so far. I don't like taking it more often, because it can make you more constipated. So just when I can't stop vomiting.

And hopefulmonster , I remember thinking that I wished that I could abort my first baby, cos I literally just felt so horrible till 18 weeks with her. I never would have, but I think when you feel that terrible, that it is a normal think to feel. You know you don't really mean it. Or at least you wouldn't think it if you were feeling normal.

[gurly]

Are there bad effects from zofran? I thought it was safe during pregnancy. I'll try b6 but I'm embarrassed to say I have skipped my prenatals a few times because I have gagged and thrown it right back up or just couldn't stomach trying to swallow it. I'm more concerned about not getting the folic acid than being on a medication that has been approved for pregnancy. I have plenty of lbs to spare so I'm not really worried about the weight loss but I'm miserable and uncomfortable and worried about dehydration. I'm also going diarrhea a whole lot. I think it started at 6 weeks, so it's been almost a month now.

[HopefulMonster]

Thanks so much Bella, I feel a lot better about it now I know I'm not the only person who's thought that!

Gurly I would seriously skip the prenatal while you are so sick an just buy folic acid tabs on their own, I find I feel much less sick if I take that over a full prenatal, and it's really that which is important anyway. If you're worried about dehydration keep an eye on the colour of your wee (lol no nice way of saying it!) and those sachets of rehydration solution for kids, dioralyte it's called over here, are fab for boosting you up with only a few tiny sips needed.

I honestly don't know about zofran. My thing is, and this sounds silly, but when my grandmother was pregnant she was terrible with morning sickness. Her doctor kept telling her to take this wonder drug that was proven to make your sickness a million times better, and that it was perfectly safe. She refused, and did eventually feel better, but the point of the story is that the drug was called thalidomide. I'm sure you've heard of it but if not it basically caused lots of terrible birth defects. I know things were different back in the 60s and medicine has come a long way but it makes me really wary of taking anything while pregnant. God knows what could have happened if took her drs advice and taken it.

If you look there are actually no drugs properly certified/approved as safe for stopping sickness while pregnant. Zofran actually has official warnings on it that they are not guaranteed safe while pregnant as it has not been studied enough to know. Zofran even has a few studies that show a potential association with a couple of nasty things like cleft palette and a heart condition called QT prolongation, and the current safety data is based on less than 200 births. That all makes me very spooked about it, but I'm a huge worry wart about things like that. Even when not pregnant I don't even take tablets for headaches or colds or anything!

[tmbabcock]

Gurly - I would talk to your Dr. He will have the best advice for you. You just need to sit down and compare the risks to the benefits. If it were me and I was just feeling miserable but everything else was good I would pass. However, if it's an issue of losing weight and dehydration it might be better to get the medicine because that can cause health risks to you and the baby. Especially dehydration. That is a very, very bad no no during any point in pregnancy. I know personally how conflicting it is to take medicine when pregnant. I have chronic migraines and during pregnancy I cannot take my prescription migraine medication. It is known to cause birth defects. So with both my previous pregnancies and this one I have had to take vicodin. I try not to take it if I can but when I get migraines they're not just really bad headaches. They are head splitting, vomit inducing, passing out from the pain migraines and I can't take care of my children or myself when I get one. So even though I don't like taking it the benefits out weigh the risks. I say if you trust your Dr then explain to him/her what is going on and discuss the options. Your Dr will know what is best for you and baby and might have some other alternatives for you as well.


8 weeks and 3 days today and I'm feeling okay so far. It's weird not feeling pregnant even though I know I am. I'm still over exhausted on a daily basis and sleeping anywhere from 12 to 15 hours a day. I just don't feel like I am really getting enough sleep. Still constantly hungry and feeling like my blood pressure is dropping way to low if I am not constantly eating something. I've always had low blood pressure growing up but it has never really affected me this bad. It's nuts. My boobs aren't really sore anymore but in my previous 2 pregnancies they only hurt for the first couple weeks and then didn't start hurting again till the end of my pregnancy. Other than that nothing really new.

[gurly]

I decided against the zofran for now. I've had a few moments (not full days, but moments) where I was ok and able to eat. I get crazy heartburn and feel gross afterward but at least I can eat a little sometimes

[Ribenaberry]

I had my booking appt today, soooo many forms to fill in! So should hopefully get my scan date through the post soon :)

Ive got to meet with a consultant because i lost 1300mls blood after dd2, so im hoping they will let me go on the birth centre. No homebirth for me then lol!

I need to dig all my hypnobirthing stuff out too, its too early yet but the way time flies these days ill be 30 weeks and still meaning to dig it out lol!

Sickness has gotten much worse, the awful taste in my mouth keeps making me puke, so ive been eating far too many sweets, im gonna lose teeth to this pregnancy i can just see it!

Hope everyone is as well as can be, roll on 2nd trimester lol!

Xxx

[tmbabcock]

Gurly- I have gotten crazy heartburn before too. I know this is gonna sound gross but mix 1tbsp of baking soda with an 8oz glass of water and chug it. It tastes nasty but it works almost immediately. I don't why but it does.

Riben- That is a lot of blood! I am glad you were okay after that. That must have been scary! My teeth were DESTROYED after DD1 from all the vomiting. They're like falling apart now since I had DD2. I have a long list of dental work I have to get done after this one is born now that I have dental insurance again. I just want the second trimester to come so I can hopefully get some energy back.

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Well, we had our 12 week scan and baby is looking well. Organs look to be in the right place, but obviously certain things aren't developed enough yet to give the full picture.

I got excited at first because the profile shot gave a lovely girly skull:
http://farm3.staticflickr.com/2879/9815382426_a9220c1244.jpg

But then the sonographer panned out and it was the most boy nub I've ever seen! This was the best print to see it
http://farm6.staticflickr.com/5522/9815342224_182466fa1d.jpg

The sonographer (who is the most experienced there and as its the detailed machine the best they have) asked if we wanted to see if it was a boy or girl, even though its still early, and she said she'd put money on it staying/being boy.

It's what I've felt all along, but I'm devastated. My dream of a daughter is over, I was so close to my little girl and she was taken away from me. I'm a big believer in karma, and I know I've done wrong in my life, so I guess I deserve this. I don't deserve a girl.

I'll post this on the ultrasound board but I know the results, it's obvious and its what deep down I knew all the time. But I think I need to stop coming here for a bit now. I tried so hard with my sway, I put chemicals into my body that were not natural and against my better judgement. I lowered my health and put my husband through a hard time with expecting him to be like a machine, but it just wasn't meant to be.

Good luck everyone waiting for their next scans, I hope you have better luck than me.

[Bella29]

Oh northern :(. I'm so sorry. I don't think that anyone does or doesn't deserve to be happy. Inspite of mistakes you have made. We all deserve happiness......

[Ribenaberry]

Im sorry it doesnt look good northern, but its not set in stone yet hun, it could just be one of those exception nubs.

Ive been sent home from work with bad cramps and the epu have told me to go in for a scan tomorrow morning, which has scared the hell out of me if im honest. The cramps feel like early labour cramps, not like af cramps, in fact they feel like horrendous braxton hicks but theyve been coming and going for 2 days so i thought id better phone them, expecting them to say its prob a uti and to drop a sample off. But they said they cant tell anything until they scan me.

So now im doing my best to stay off google!

Keep your fingers crossed bubba is just snuggling in ladies.

Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

Double post

[gurly]

Northern, I'm so, so sorry :(

Tmba - thanks for the tip, I don't know of I'm brave enough to try that as nauseas as I've been but if it gets bad enough I will!

AFM, DH's job situation is stressful. The good news is he got a call back for a follow up interview for this job he's going after. There's no guarantees so I'm not getting my hopes up. In the meantime his boss is making life hell for him. It's so obvious she's trying to build a case for HR so she's constantly blind sighting him and calling meetings to discuss his "performance". Her latest complaint? He didn't answer her call immediately because he was on a call with a client. I hate that he's going through this. I wish this would come to an end soon. We need his salary to survive, I just hope he gets this other job so he can move on.

[HopefulMonster]

Oh that is a fab scan pic Northern, sorry it points up Hun but don't lose hope yet I've seen very clear nubs go totally the other way, I even had a real life friend who got told boy at 3 different scans from 16 weeks to 32 weeks but gave birth to a girl who then had to wear blue for the first few weeks!!

I'm so sorry your hubby's job situation is still rubbish girly, I will cross everything the follow up interview goes really well.

Ribera What does hypnobirthing entail? I really really hope everything looks perfect at your scan, I'm sure it is just a UTI xxxxx

[Ribenaberry]

Hypnobirthing is amazing!!! I used a home study kit (ill find the link to it) and i had a totally natural birth with no gas and air til i was pushing and even then i didnt want it it just gave me something else to focus on lol. Much better than my induced epidural and ventouse birth with dd1 :)

My scan is at 11.20, so not long to wait. Im getting nervous now though, i dont think i can cope with bad news :(

Xxx

[Bella29]

How did u go ribenaberry??? Thinking of you.

[Ribenaberry]

Baby is fine!! A tiny jellybean with a beautiful heartbeat :) we are measuring 9+1, there seems to be no reason for the cramps so ive been told to rest and go back if they get worse.

I cried.

I feel like i can relax now and look forward to the 12 week scan, rather than dreading it. We didnt get a photo this time, we will wait til the next one, but baby was beautiful :)

Thanks ladies :)

Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

Hypno 4 Birth Home Study (http://www.tums2mums.com/index_files/hypno4birthhomestudy.htm)

This is the hypnobirthing link. It really worked for me, it makes a lot of sense and this time im looking forward to getting through transition without nearly killing my husband lol!

[HopefulMonster]

AHHH so so happy your scan went well, that's brilliant news! Maybe try and rest a bit more, I walked a bit too much the other day and had such bad cramps that evening I honestly thought I was going to miscarry.

Thanks for the link, I've not looked yet but will as soon as I get the monster asleep tonight. I managed a natural birth with no pain meds last time but mostly just because I only made it to hospital when I was 7cm and by the time I got examined I was ready to push so there was no time! It's a bit of a worry because this birth has a lot to live up to now, if that makes sense! Have my booking in appointment on Tuesday to do the forms and bloods etc. what colour are your notes? Mine are green this time, my last ones were yellow!

[Ribenaberry]

They are green, my others were white! These ones are rubbish, no space to stick anything lol!

I think it just teaches you to keep calm and not panic, it really helped me, i fell asleep at 5cm lol!

Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

No idea why it keeps double posting sorry!!

[nurse2003]

User name: nurse2003
Due Date: May 2013 (exact date not decided yet)
Swayed: girl
Expecting: unknown

[HopefulMonster]

Did hypnobirthing really make it pain free Ribena? I had a posterior (back to back) labour with a nuchal hand that gave me awful tearing and the pain was immense, I hate to sound so cynical but I'm struggling to imagine anything other than actual drugs making that much difference?

[Ribenaberry]

It was pain free up until transistion, then i thought i was dying lol! But i gave up on the hypnobirthing then as i was tired and didnt know how close i was, i got stroppy and got out of the pool at 10cm, then decided i wanted drugs - clearly too late but i thought i was only about 7cm ha!! The weird thing is i didnt need them as there was no pain, i was just so tired from the contractions i wanted to have a rest. My labour was 17hours from start to finish and id been up since 7am and it was now midnight.

Its a strange feeling, the contractions get intense, but its almost breathlessness rather than pain, its like someone sitting on your chest and you cant breathe in for a few seconds longer than youd like - if that makes sense?

Transition was a bitch though, but she was 9lb4oz and had her hand on her face. So this time i'll be concentrating on getting through that without pulling hubby's arm off haha!!

Xxx

[iwonder]

Well girls, I had my gender scan today...it's a girl! Here is my thread with pics on the third page! I think post #27.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/33960-12w5d-nub-update-its-3.html

I did a gentle (aka. lazy) sway, basically didn't eat breakfast for that month, ate very little meat for a few months, drank a lot of CL, lots of carbs, lowered my ph with cranberry, took Vitex, and I have PCOS and am definitely a 'dominant type A female' as they say, so I tried to lower my testosterone as much as possible by staying stress-free and avoiding food sources of testosterone. I had also just finished nursing and had lower T than with my boys, I'm SURE of it. The things that were against me: I had just finished a course of antibiotics from a UTI, I did have a big O (accidental) and I O'd on or the day before that big super moon, so that was a false theory for me. I did do a lot to counteract ions though, just in case. Also used rephresh to keep ph low. Lots of praying!!!!! Good luck to everyone for healthy babies!

[XXPlease]

User name:XXplease
Due Date: March 7
Swayed::ttcgirl: (lightly)
Expecting::ttcgirl:

[gurly]

Congrats on your baby girl, iwonder!
So exciting!!

[Ribenaberry]

Congrats iwonder!! Fabulous news :) xxx

[HopefulMonster]

Aaahh congrats!! Hope this good luck continues for all of us!

[iwonder]

Thank you! I was so excited I could barely sleep last night. Though I had been in prayer a lot about it the past few weeks and I did have peace that either way I would be happy. I was even a bit sad that I won't have another son...I love my boys dearly and I am comfortable with raising boys. But it is nice to know now so I can do some planning. Can't wait to hear about everyone else!!

[HopefulMonster]

Me either! The worst part about the due boards being in groups of 3 months is that 16 weeks seems foreeeeeeever away for us near the end compared to those at the beginning! I've not even had a 12 wk scan yet!

[SoulSister]

Got my nuchal scan in 2 hours. SO SO SO SO nervous! Eeeep.wish me luck ladies, hoping to see a healthy happy baby.

[SoulSister]

Baby looked good :)
Boths hand up by face the whole time, very laid back didn't move much.
The umbilical cord was right between the legs and still very thick compared with even the legs, so it was hard to see. I thought boy, tech said nothing obviously boy. Posted a link to a TERRIBLE video from my phone in the ultrasound area. I didn't get to see the tech screen, only a tv screen on the opposite wall, very far away! So I had to video that.
Can't see anything on my phone at that distance :D
ARRRGH it's going to be a long wait till the anatomy scan!

[tmbabcock]

9 weeks and 3 days today. I've got another 3 weeks before I go to my first Dr. appt. I have been feeling like crap so bad the past week. I haven't had any morning sickness but I have been really, really, extremely tired. I have to eat every 30 min or my blood pressure drops (I've always had problems with low blood pressure) and I feel like I'm going to black out. If I go longer than 30 min (usually and accident I try to stay on top of eating) after I eat I still don't feel better and then I just feel like crap the rest of the day. This first trimester is do different from my first two it's nuts. With DD1 I had raging ms, with DD2 I didn't have any morning sickness but I did have heartburn a couple times. Other than that I felt totally fine in the first trimester). This time I am constantly hungry, everything smells gross, and I am 3x as tired as I was the first two times. I can't wait. Another 3-4 weeks and I should start feeling better. Hopefully. Hope everyone else is doing good.

Congrats iwonder on your little girl!

[HopefulMonster]

Had my booking in appointment and it took ages. The midwife managed to mess up my bloods so she stabbed me once in my left arm, and 3 times in my right arm before she managed it, and I have great big visible veins so she's got no excuse for making such a mess of my arms!! Then she couldn't get through to the scan department so I have no idea what date my scan is going to be booked for, which I was really excited to find out :(

On the plus side because my first was a 35 weeker I'm apparently getting consultant led care starting with an appointment at 18 weeks to discuss management options because I'm classed at high risk of having another preemie and they might recommend steroid injections to mature baby's lungs. Pleased that they are at least on top of things this time, though hopefully we'll manage to reach term this time!

[Ribenaberry]

I think im coming out of the sickness now, which would be nice becuse i had it til 15 weeks with the girls! Not been sick or heaved for a few days so fingers crossed. I am however still soooo tired and have boobs as big as my head lol.

Got my scan date, 11th oct at 13:40 :) hope you get yours soon hm. I only know coz it was in my notes after the scan on friday, still havent had a letter!

So glad your scan was good ss, and i hope your sickness disappears soon tmb.

Sorry if i missed anyone, ive been lurking whilst too ill to post and have forgotten who said what!

Xxx

[Precious3]

Username: Precious3
Due date: March 31
Swayed: No (surprise pregnancy) but hoping for a Girl
Expecting: Unknown

Hi everyone, mind if I join in? I'm going crazy
obsessing over this LO's gender and I would love some due date friends!


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Me (29) and DH (30)
DS1 - 2010
DS2 - 2012
Expecting #3 (and last!) by March-April 2014

[Bella29]

Hi precious :). Welcome!!

Hi everyone else. Nice to hear that ms is easing for some and that scans are abounding :).

Afm, well ms def not gone yet!! I am 8+5 today. Vomiting most mornings. My sense of smell which wasn't ever effected like this before, has suddenly gone nuts and I am sooo sensitive! I can't bare the smell or sight if meat. I just can't deal with it atm, and even some textures are doing my head in! I have had to spit mouthfuls if food out cos suddenly I know I will vomit if they stay in my mouth... It makes me hopeful that the gender is different, but I am not to hopeful. A little, but not overly.

[HopefulMonster]

Soooooooooo annoyed, my scan date is for when I'm 13+4 which feels FOREVER away, and is cutting it very close to the cut off for being able to do the NT measurements so I'm pretty upset :( going to keep phoning up to see if they have any cancellations because it's made me super anxious.

[gurly]

Has anyone else been having trouble getting on the last couple of days? I thought maybe the site was down

Anyway, still lots of stress on the job front. DH didn't get the job he was going for, there were candidates with more experience. He's still looking...hopefully finds something before this one ends so we can continue paying the bills. Ugh

I have my CVS test on Friday. Even though I had it last pregnancy they had me see the geneticist which was awful. She was so rude and was fresh out of school and practicing on me. Started spewing off stats about the risks of m/c. It's something that was already decided between the doc and I, all she did was bring up a whole lot of anxiety. Then she kept pushing me to get the first tri screening which is so unnecessary when I'm getting the cvs done before I'd even get the results back.

[retrolove1]

Sorry I haven't been on for ages. Had a gender scan and it's another boy. I cried at first but have come around to it. I will love this little boy lots but I know my jealously of others with boys and girls won't ever go.

Hope everyones pregnancy is going well and good luck to those who still have 12 week scans xx

[Ribenaberry]

Im sorry its no the girl youd hoped for retrolove1, but glad baby is healthy :)

I spoke too soon :sigh: still as sick as a dog, although it is getting a bit less now.

This pregnancy is gonna have my teeth though, i cant get enough sweet stuff in me and extra strong mints are the only thing that stops me chucking up!! I think i need to brush my teeth 4 times a day lol!

I hope the cvs goes well gurly, i hate it when professionals make you feel like youve not done your research when youve made a hard decision, but i suppose or every 20 people that have there is 1 that hant so they are just covering themselves ( they should ask if you know rather than tell though!!)

Bleurgh ..... There are enough hours in the day for the sleep i need!!!

Xxx

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Retro, I know how you feel. I just know this is another boy and the tech was 99% sure at our 12 week scan. I know its still stupidly early but the nub was just SO obvious.

I've got lots more scans booked though, privately and with the consultant. We've got a private one next week and I'm hoping they can have a good look then and get me another nub shot - I need full confirmation so I can really start getting my head round it :(

[Gizzyntaz]

Hi, we found out today that our sway worked! I didn't know how badly I wanted this until I cried as soon as she told me it was a girl. My stats can be updated to indicate that we are expecting a girl! A very spoiled little sister to two big brothers...

[HopefulMonster]

Huge congrats on hearing pink! Did you post your sway?

Tiggerian - I know this might sound daft but for those that swayed can we post a link to their sway in the stats? So like username, due date, swayed, expecting, *sway link*
I thought for people coming in and looking it's a really convenient way to read up on what everyone did. Just an idea xxx

[Gizzyntaz]

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/31291-gizzyntaz-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Here is my successful sway. I still can't believe it! This is the first girl on DH's side since his great-aunt!!! I just thought it would never be possible (as did all of my friends with all boys). Of course I doubted all of my little cheats while swaying and thought I still probably hadn't done enough... but I changed my condition somewhat and something worked. A little luck didn't hurt either!

I will say that this pregnancy has been SO different than the ones with my boys... My DH really didn't have a doubt that it was a girl because of how different the pregnancy has been. I know they say that doesn't necessarily matter, but in my case, it may have.

[luvlyjewels]

User name:luvlyjewels
Due Date:4/20/14
Swayed:no swaying(hoping :babyf:)
Expecting:

[Kitty0911]

Retro, I'm sorry you didn't hear girl. I'm pretty sure I'm having another boy as well. I had my 12 week scan to check on my SCH and saw a very boyish nub. I am trying to come to terms with it by the time I have my gender scan. I've realized I am noticing the cute little girly clothes more since the scan. It really sucks :(

Gizzy, congrats on the little girl! I get so happy when I hear that someone's sway worked. Have fun with all the girl shopping :)

Gurly, I hope you get good results with you CVS!

Nothing new with me. This pregnancy has been so easy! I'm happy that my last is turning out to be the best. No morning sickness, no aches, nothing. I do have terrible cravings though...I just ate a whole bag of sesame seaweed snacks. Japanese food has pretty much been my staple diet for a few weeks. My doctor told me to slow down on the seaweed since it can cause dehydration...I've just up my water intake another 16 oz. :)

[gurly]

Went to the regular ob for my monthly check up today and the heartbeat was 150's. I know, I know it's an OWT and not factual but my DD's heart rate was 160-180 so I can't help but get anxious. I don't have a good feeling about it

[Tiggerian]

Huge congrats on hearing pink! Did you post your sway?

Tiggerian - I know this might sound daft but for those that swayed can we post a link to their sway in the stats? So like username, due date, swayed, expecting, *sway link*
I thought for people coming in and looking it's a really convenient way to read up on what everyone did. Just an idea xxx

We can, but only if you provide me with the links yourselves. I don't think I got the patience to go through every single person on the list to find their sways. I'll be happy to update though.

So far we got 2 boys and 1 girl confirmed in this thread =D I'm hoping to be told what we're having the 31st oct and its waaay to far away!

[Tiggerian]

Right! Thread should be up to date now! Grats to the ones who've found out what they're having, even if it wasn't what you hoped to hear =D

[HopefulMonster]

No problem I had a free half hour so did some digging and here's the ones I found:

Retrolove1
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/33249-retrolove1-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Iwonder
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/27222-iwonder-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Sushi kitty
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/31962-sushikitty-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Northern shutterbug
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/32849-northern-shutterbugs-sway-attempt.html

Thehappypixi
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/31609-thehappypixi-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Bloom78
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/32346-bloom78-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

Tmbabcock
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-boy-sway/33080-tmbabcock-ttc-boy-sway-attempt.html

Ribenaberry
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-boy-sway/33120-ribenaberry-ttc-boy-sway-attempt.html

Kitty0911
http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/32499-kitty0911-girl-sway.html

[HopefulMonster]

Which reminds me I need to actually add mine at some point too duh!!

[Breithjs]

Hi everyone. I'm 6.5 weeks today, although I had an early ultrasound and was told I'm measuring farther along. I had a scary week last week. Had some bleeding and found out it was a SCH. The bleeding only happened for a couple of hours and nothing since and my HCG levels are great. So, everything seems good now. I have horrible nausea though and contemplating taking Zofran. My sister said it was a lifesaver with her daughter and my Dr. recommends it. I feel like I can't even get up without being sick. Hope the nausea eases up!


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[atomic sagebrush]

I don't really "like" that but I'm glad that's all it was :heart:

[Breithjs]

I don't really "like" that but I'm glad that's all it was :heart:

Thanks Atomic! Me too. I had the same thing happen with DS1 but it was much worse of a bleed. It was nice to search the posts and see that SCH is fairly common and from what I read it seems that most of the time it heals itself and everything is fine.


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[gurly]

I had an SCH with DD at 9 weeks -- 2 heavy bleeds. It was very scary but she's healthy as can be :)

[Tiggerian]

I'll be updating the thread in just at mo.. right now I just need to get todays bad news of my chest...

I've suffered from abdominal pains since I was 4 weeks. We've been back and forward with theories - anything from UTI's to anterior placentas to SPD and god knows what else, but the last few days its been rough and unfortunately as it is, its been confirmed that the cramps I'm experiencing now are contractions. They are pulling down my cervix and the doctors can't do anything. They won't do a scan to check the cervix in fear of provoking further contractions. So far not bleeding and we are hoping and praying these contractions stop and we get to keep Roo..

Roo's heartbeat is strong and s/he's moving loads.

Now its a waiting game... Hope, pray, wait. We're hoping it'll stop and if not, then we're hoping to get atleast to 20 weeks where the doctors will actively start to act on it if it hasn't stopped or if my cervix is effacing or I'm dilating.

Every little wince of pain brings floods of panic now and ofc stress is the one thing I have to avoid.

Trying to keep upbeat. Our doctor is feeling fairly hopeful and said she sees no reason why we won't get our baby by the end of it, but she admitted, at the moment it doesn't look good. Any bleeding and its hospital immediately, but they won't be able to stop anything from happening before 20 weeks :tissue:

[Northern_Shutterbug]

I'm really sorry to hear that, and I keep my fingers crossed for you that little Roo stays put, safe and sound.

[Precious3]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I am praying for you starting right now Tiggerian!!

I can imagine how hard it must be to try and relax. One thing that helped me relax a lot with my first were the Hypnobabies tracks. They are designed to help you program yourself to keep relaxed during pregnancy and childbirth to have a painless natural epi free birth, but I am sure they would help you keep your body relaxed through these weeks. They are basically guided imagery and self hypnosis tracks for relaxation, if you are interested I could find a way to share mine with you.

Our minds are powerful things, just keep visualizing your healthy baby and contractions stopping.

I send you a big virtual hug and my prayers will stay with you until you deliver a healthy baby.





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Me (29) and DH (30)
DS1 - 2010
DS2 - 2012
Expecting #3 (and last!) by March-April 2014

[HopefulMonster]

Oh my god what a nightmare I'm so so sorry Tiggerian, I am truly going to be sending you tons of prayers and luck that everything works out and the contractions stop. It seems so wrong they won't/can't do anything till 20 weeks. When can they perform a cerclage (the stitch on the cervix)? Xxxx

[Ribenaberry]

Oh T, what an awful thing to have to go through and 4 weeks can feel so long :(. Ill also be praying Roo stays put for a long time yet.

Xxx

[Tiggerian]

They could technically do a cerclage now, but there's a massive gap in the care in my trust. Between 16 and 20 weeks I belong to no one - no consultant, no department. It took me 3 days to convince someone just to see me because the departments and doctors kept throwing me around. This doctor only saw me because I broke down in tears and couldn't speak through the sobs out of pure desperation.

There's a very good chance they won't intervene before it gets so bad there's no return and thats pretty damn scary! I'm seeing my regular doctor on tuesday, and hopefully it'll have stopped by then, but until it stops completely and I reach the 31st Oct for my next scan where they've promised to check my cervix I think its going to be a struggle.

At the moment we're just trying to keep positive. We're joking around that this must be another boy, causing as much trouble as his brothers do in the day time. To be honest, I don't care if it is a boy or a girl anymore - I just want this to stop and for Roo to come out safe and sound in March!

[Gizzyntaz]

Tiggerian, I'm so sorry you are going through this! Have you put yourself on bed rest?

[Kitty0911]

Tiggerian- I know how you are feeling. I had contractions with my second son starting at 14 weeks and they said they couldn't do anything until I was 24 weeks. I put myself on bedrest and took some magnesium supplements to stop the contractions. Sometimes you have to take you and your baby's health into your own hands. I realized that if the doctors didn't consider my baby a baby until 24 weeks, then I had to protect my child myself.

I'm sorry you are going through this. It is very scary and the unknown is the worst! I hope everything turns out alright for you and your baby! You are in my prayers.

[gurly]

Tiggerian, I hope everything is ok.

[Tiggerian]

I'm on bed rest as much as I can be, but with two children to take care its not always possible, especially as I have to pick up my eldest from school everyday. Its not ideal, but at the moment it can't be different.

Our home is a mess - and that won't change. Baby trumps my urge to deep clean! It annoys me, and it does add to the stress a little bit, but my partner is helping out loads and doing what he can to alleviate. He's even bought plastic cups and cutlery and paper plates so I won't have to do dishes, lol! He is sweet really :P

[gurly]

Don't worry about the cleaning, that can wait! Do you have family or friends who help out for a bit? I know it's virtually impossible to properly rest when you've got little ones to care for

AFM, CVS in just a few minutes. I told DH to wait with DD outside the room, I don't want to risk the doctor getting distracted and making any wrong moves. Last time I had DH holding my hand through it so I'll have to be a big girl lol.

[retrolove1]

Oh no T, I hope everything is OK. At my 16 week gender scan she said that I was contracting but apparently it is normal? I am only getting the odd tightening feeling.

Nothern-I always try to follow your post and read your blog on Evelyn, I really hope that it is another girl. Life is so unfair taking your daughter away from you. It worries me that your 16 week gender scan showed everything fine.

I have my 20 week scan detailed scan on the 14th. My little man is always giving me little kicks now too :) xx

[Tiggerian]

Yeah Braxton hicks are normal - Only these ones seem to actually be affecting my cervix, but how much we don't know atm. I'm so disappointed by the antenatal care provided in my trust!

Gurly - How did the CVS go? When will you get the prelim. answer?

I don't really have anyone. I've never been great at making friends, and since coming to the UK I've constantly felt like the odd one out. I never seem to fit in anymore - at the school gates its divided into British mums, Eastern European mums, the Indian/Pakistani mums (I'm not sure where they are from) and the Chinese mums. And I'm Scandinavia! So I fit in nowhere despite trying to talk to the other mums =/ At the very most I get questions about Danish pastries and that's about it :P

Family is terrible complicated, so its really just me.

[tmbabcock]

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through Tiggerian. I am crossing my fingers and toes for you that everything turns out all right. I don't know what your financial situation but would it be possible to to hire a part time maid/nanny. Just so you have some extra help around the house when when DH isn't home? Don't worry about what your house looks like. You should see mine! LOL I have had zero energy and if I try to get up and clean I start to feel sick and nauseous. I will keep you and your little one in my thoughts.


11 weeks today and I have not been feeling to hot at all. I haven't been vomiting but I have been constantly nauseous whether I eat or not. I am soooo tired! No matter how much sleep I get. I am actually feeling like a horrible mom and wife lately cause I haven't been cleaning or cooking. If I try to get up and clean or do anything around the house I feel so sick. I feel like a lazy person because the past couple weeks I have been barely able to get off my couch. Mainly from the exhaustion. Sigh. I hope I really start to feel better in the next few weeks.

[Breithjs]

I am so sorry to hear what you're going through Tiggerian. I am crossing my fingers and toes for you that everything turns out all right. I don't know what your financial situation but would it be possible to to hire a part time maid/nanny. Just so you have some extra help around the house when when DH isn't home? Don't worry about what your house looks like. You should see mine! LOL I have had zero energy and if I try to get up and clean I start to feel sick and nauseous. I will keep you and your little one in my thoughts.


11 weeks today and I have not been feeling to hot at all. I haven't been vomiting but I have been constantly nauseous whether I eat or not. I am soooo tired! No matter how much sleep I get. I am actually feeling like a horrible mom and wife lately cause I haven't been cleaning or cooking. If I try to get up and clean or do anything around the house I feel so sick. I feel like a lazy person because the past couple weeks I have been barely able to get off my couch. Mainly from the exhaustion. Sigh. I hope I really start to feel better in the next few weeks.

I'm feeling the same exact way! I can't get out of bed. CONSTANT nausea. I was going to ask anyone if they've found and good cures for nausea. I almost can't function.


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[gurly]

The actual CVS went ok. It was quick and only hurt/cramped for a short time.

The appointment was a nightmare though. The geneticist ordered a test we didn't request, when I walked in the receptionist demanded a check for over $1,000. I said insurance covers the test (minus the co-pay). She had a snotty attitude and called the geneticist in the other office who insisted I HAD to get that test done. She was on some ego trip and wanted to call the shots I guess. That was stressful and wasted time but I got it sorted out.

Then I got back there and was reprimanded by the tech for not (and I quote) "asking permission" before going potty. Turns out I didn't even need a full bladder for the procedure. And it gets even better. DH took off half a day to come with me so I wouldn't have to drive home and in case something happened, so he came in for the u/s and then took DD out in the hall during the procedure. He accidentally walked out with my pants and underwear in the diaper bag so when it was over I couldn't get dressed. The rude tech who yelled at me for peeing told me I had to wipe off the gel and go empty my bladder even though I couldn't get dressed. I had to go to the bathroom with that paper wrapped around my waist while carefully walking with my back facing wall since half of my ass was uncovered. Then I came back to the room and cried while I tried to pull myself together. I poked my head out and told one of the receptionists that DH was just out in the hall and could she tell him to come in with my clothes. No one would do it. Finally I caught the doctor who said I could call him on the phone in the room - wouldn't you know it, there was no cellphone reception.

Eventually DH just came back figuring it was over and I told him what happened. He said he was literally outside the office in the hall and no one tried to get him. Obviously we decided to never go back there. Thankfully they are not delivering me, they are just supposed to do the testing and specific scans because I'm high risk but I'm going to find someone else for the rest of it because they are so awful.

That was a long story but boy I needed to get that out! So, for now I'm just resting and hoping everything is okay after the CVS. I'm supposed to get the results in a week, hopefully they don't screw me around with that. The baby was super cute though. It had it's legs up in the air and was doing this bouncing motion after the doc made my uterus bounce up and down with the probing. I got a cute u/s pic, maybe I'll post it to get gender guesses for fun.

[HopefulMonster]

Oh god gurly that sounds just awful I would have been mortified, I can't believe they treated you like that. Definitely don't go back there!! I'm really glad you feel ok after the cvs, I will cross everything for you that your results come back perfect, will they tell you gender? Oh and definitely post your u/s pic I want to seeeee!!! Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

Aw what a fab pic, im so sorry they made you feel like that Gurly, som places are all about the money!!

Tmb, i know how you feel, i thought i was done a few weeks back, apparantly not!! Lol.

Tiggerian, there is no gap in care if you are in the uk - up to 16 weeks the epu deal with you, after that its the hospital birth unit. As a EU member you are entitled to the same as us im sure, and that is what both my midwife and the epu told me. They may not like dealing with someone so early on but its tough!!

Plus there is always a&e, they get hold of the right department for you if you go there (although they tend not to be as sensitive - just as they have so many things to do in a day!)

Fingers crossed they stop soon!

Ive got my 12 week scan on friday, excited about it this time, no doubt ill be a bag of nerves friday morning!!

Xxxx

[Tiggerian]

Ribena - thats just not true where I live. Trust me! I called the EPU, I called antenatal, I called triage (birth unit), I called out of hours GP, A&E and NO ONE would see me. I ended up seeing my GP who confirmed there is NOWHERE i can go at this stage unless I start bleeding - if its spotting I'd have to go back to my GP and she'd TRY to send me to the gynae department, if its proper bleeding its A&E to confirm miscarriage. That's how it is. I got this confirmed later at the hospital too.

Between 16 and 20 there is a gap in care and they admitted that too - but due to cost and cuts they couldn't do anything about it.

We've decided to buy a private scan and will be going on Tuesday to see how baby is doing. Still cramping but they don't last as many hours and are shorter in duration, hopefully that's a good sign.

Gurly - I'm mortified at the treatment you received! Its in no way dignified and I don't even know what to say... =( Good its over and done with so you won't have to go back there again!

[Tiggerian]

This is my second baby in the UK, so I know I'm entitled to the same care - that's never been an issue. No one has ever questioned my entitlement, the problem is that the care simple isn't there. They refuse to see you - if you turn up they send you home.

[gurly]

I got a message from the geneticist (glad I missed the call cause I really don't want to talk to her!) Anyway, she said the preliminary FISH results came in and it all looked normal which is good news. DH is upset now because the FISH results are not covered by insurance and we didn't request it, we were planning on waiting the 1-2 weeks for the full results, but this geneticist is always trying to get us to spend more money. So we will be getting a big bill.

She did not say the gender which of course I'm curious about. I'm going to get DH to call back tomorrow when they open and find out. Do FISH have gender results? I thought they did test for the sex chromosomes....

[gurly]

Did some googling and I should get the gender results from FISH so I guess we'll find out tomorrow. Eeek!

[Tiggerian]

How can she do tests you haven't approved? Surely that's neglect and isn't lawful! =/ I do hope you hear gender though!!

We will be finding out what we're having today at 12.10 pm - which is about 5 hours from now! I'm so excited!!! I've been awake since 4 am (it's nearly 7 now) and feel like a kid at Xmas!

[HopefulMonster]

Oh my god Tiggerian I'm so so excited for you!!!!!! I'm going to be stalking the hell out of this post all afternoon! Crossing everything for you that everything looks perfect and little roo is pink! I'm still waiting for my NT scan :( I'm 12+3 xxxxx

[gurly]

Wow good luck I hope we both hear pink!

[Tiggerian]

Just got back and we are having a....


GIRL!

So excited! Definitely NO boy bits there! She was being SO stubborn and kept squishing into the placenta and crossing her legs, then bended them up under her butt, but we got there in the end!!

Our eldest will be SO happy!!

Picture quality isn't great, but here's the potty shot:

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[HopefulMonster]

I commented on your sway thread but just wanted to say again how truly happy for you I am!! Such brilliant news, enjoy your little princess!!! xxxxxxxxxxx

[HopefulMonster]

Oh and here's my sway for the stats page, I finally posted it! xxx

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/35107-hopefulmonster-ttc-girl-sway-attempt.html

[Tiggerian]

Thanks =D I'll post your sway thread right away

[gurly]

Congratulations!! So exciting!!

[Ribenaberry]

I actually find it quite shocking T that it can be so different depending on where you live! This country is getting worse by the minute!

Ive never been turned away by A&E, but they dont do much other than tell you if you are miscarrying and that all the blood is normal (so i dont know why we get told to go to a&e if we bleed heavily because they dont do anything!)

I hope you dont need any of them anyway!

Congrats on the pink as well!

Fingers crossed you hear pink too gurly.

Onlyb3 days til i can finally come clean to everyone!!! :D

Xxx

[gurly]

Ugh, I'm so irritated that the geneticist won't return my call. IDK if they're going to send it in the mail or if I have to wait for the full results in 2 weeks to be sent. So dumb that they have it in the office but I can't know.

Anyway, I saw the regular ob today and baby had a nice string heartbeat (159) so it's looking good.

[Settastone]

Yay! Congrats on the girl news T!! That is so exciting!

[gurly]

my nerves are thru the roof. I'm starting to get a sick feeling in my stomach and anxious about how badly I want to hear pink. I wish the darn geneticist wouldn't keep me hanging on like this

[Tiggerian]

That geneticist of yours is horrible! Smack 'er with a wet newspaper! I hope you hear pink TODAY!!

Ribena - I know!! Everyone I've talked to have told me they got round the clock care available to them, if not to go in - then at least someone they can phone up and talk to! But here all I've heard is "We've had to make cuts" or "Oh but we need to save money somewhere." DOes it HAVE to be my baby!? Are we cutting the budget for our children already before they are BORN!? It doesn't sit right with me at all!

and thank you all so much! Its starting to dawn on me and I've been bursting into tears all evening (from just being overwhelmed with emotions). I thought I'd lost every chance of ever having a little girl,so now she just better stick it and hang on in there until March so we can get her out!!

[SoulSister]

Really feeling for you ladies with poor maternity care :(
It's not right!

Big congrats on hearing pink! Keep safe little one Xxxx

Fingers crossed for you gurly

[gurly]

Seriously? How can they hold my test result hostage like this??? I've been trying to find out since Monday and she just won't return my calls. I tried calling the regular ob office because they were supposed to be sent a copy of the results.
the moronic medical assistant gave me a talking to about how you don't find out until 20 weeks. She wouldn't listen to me or look to see if it was in my chart. Obviously she didnt understand what test I had and what I was asking about. Who else can I call? I don't even know which lab it what sent to or I'd call the lab

[Tiggerian]

You have a RIGHT to know what's in your charts - That's how it is. it's YOUR medical records, so I'd call up that assistant again and say either you give me the results of the test or let me speak to your supervisor. You've PAID for that test..! I'd be furious!

[gurly]

DH thinks I should leave a message for the doctor to call me back directly but I don't want to piss her off by bothering her with something that's not urgent or health related.
I'm out of ideas.

[gurly]

I've decided to report them to the insurance company. We'll see if that gets me anywhere

[gurly]

OMG that was wild, my heart's still pumping hard!
I spoke to the insurance rep who called on my behalf with me on the line. I guess they were avoiding me with caller ID because she got right through! The geneticist says that I only wanted to know the gender and she's been calling people back who have real medical concerns. Mmmmkay so she admitted to withholding the information from me.
Long story short she said its a girl!!! Im excited and relieved for now but (and call me paranoid) a part of me thinks she could be messing with me so I'm waiting to see it in writing before I announce it IRL. I asked for it to be mailed and she said she would...lets hope she does.

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Congratulations! Looks like everyone's sway worked but mine.

[Tiggerian]

Shutterbug - a girl from my due date group was told 100% boy at 14 weeks and she went in for a scan today at about 18 weeks and its very clearly a girl, so don't loose hope completely.

Congrats Gurly and irregardless, she is NOT allowed to withold information - I seriously doubt you ONLY wanted to know the gender, but ofc you'd like to know and she should've given you EVERYTHING the test showed without making such a fuss!

[Tiggerian]

And if you look at the first page, you'll see that Retrolove swayed pink and is expecting a boy too.

[atomic sagebrush]

gurly, I would just like to point out that in their defense, they have no way to know why you wanted the information. There are people (and not a few) who want to know gender in order to have an abortion of the "wrong" gender baby and I think most people in the medical field assume that people are aborting girls and in favor of boys. I agree totally that it's your medical info and you have a right to it but please don't judge them too harshly, it may be that they were trying to protect your daughter by postponing you finding out till it was too late to schedule pregnancy termination.

Congrats on your girl.

[gurly]

gurly, I would just like to point out that in their defense, they have no way to know why you wanted the information. There are people (and not a few) who want to know gender in order to have an abortion of the "wrong" gender baby and I think most people in the medical field assume that people are aborting girls and in favor of boys. I agree totally that it's your medical info and you have a right to it but please don't judge them too harshly, it may be that they were trying to protect your daughter by postponing you finding out till it was too late to schedule pregnancy termination.

Congrats on your girl.

She was definitely on a power trip, that was all. She was irritated that I didn't agree to the added, expensive testing.

[gurly]

I want to add that I had the cvs done last pregnancy and had no issues getting the (full) results. I'm sure gender termination is an issue but it can't be common enough that they would consider withholding information from patients. They had no idea I wanted a girl, only DH and strangers online know that lol

[Settastone]

Shutterbug - I am pretty sure I am having a boy as well and I was hoping to hear pink too. The technician would not confirm until the next appointment but told us what to look for when she showed us the "nub shot"...both my husband and I said "so, boy!!" and she just started laughing. She didn't know I was really hoping it was a girl, but she totally gave it away. I posted my 13 week scan (link below) and pretty much only got boy guesses. :) So you are not alone here and you have every right to feel disappointed.

My mom just walked a 500 mile pilgrimage through spain and each day she would post a quote of the day along with a picture from her journey. I thought I would share today's quote because it spoke to me and changed my perspective.

"The pessimist complains about the wind;
The optimist expects it to change;
The realist adjusts the sails."

It made me realize it was time to stop complaining about not getting the girl I wanted or hoping that the penis will magically disappear by the 20 week scan and to just accept my reality and adjust my sails. :) I think I and everyone around me will be a lot happier for it.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/34891-13-week-2-day-nub-skull-pictures-please-guess.html

[atomic sagebrush]

It's a HUGE issue around the globe right now. They may not have been aware of it the first time through. So much so that several hospitals in Canada will no longer give out baby's gender info until 20 weeks. Google it.

You are completely missing my point, they don't HAVE to know what you want. They DO know that there are literally millions of missing girls worldwide and so when someone shows up for an early gender test, who doesn't want any other testing done, I think it is completely understandable that they might balk at revealing that information until said person is out of the range of when a pregnancy could be terminated. The vast majority of the time it is people terminating girl pregnancies and so I do not think it was unreasonable for them to assume that.

If the biggest problem you have is that someone didn't give you your test results for your desired gender fast enough, you are very very lucky and you should count your blessings because there are people on this site and in this group who have gone thru some real heartbreak lately. :(

[Ribenaberry]

There is a congenital disease on DH's side that a few family members died from or are sick from so we saw a genetic counselor about it years ago and he had testing done confirming that he is a carrier. Once I got pregnant we decided to do the cvs to make sure DD was healthy, so I'm going to do it again. Finding out the gender early is just a bonus

It wasnt just an early gender test.

Xxx

[gurly]

It wasnt just an early gender test.

Xxx

Thank you :) And the geneticist was aware of this as well

[tmbabcock]

Gurly- I am so sorry you had to go through all of that. That is just horrible. I am glad to here though that so far your test results have all come back good and congratulations on having a girl!

Atomic- Please do not take my response to your post the wrong way. I and I am sure everyone else on this website appreciates all the hard work you do here. You truly are amazing when it comes to that. However, I am actually offended by your response to Gurly and the response was not even directed toward me. First, I do not know if you read Gurly's story on page 37?, I think, but she has had a problem with the geneticist and the geneticist's office being completely rude and unprofessional to her since her appointment. Second, whether or not the geneticist felt that Gurly's request for the information was important or not does not give her the right withhold any test result. As someone who has worked in the medical field, it is illegal according to HIPAA laws for any Dr. to withhold any result from a test whether that result is insignificant or not. The geneticist fully admitted on the phone in front of the insurance company that she was avoiding Gurly and that is just the same thing a purposely withholding the results. So even if the Dr. thought that the reason Gurly wanted the results for the gender part of the test was to abort her unborn child because it was the wrong sex (which I don't believe Gurly is a person to do that) she still could not legally withhold the result because it is an actual test result. The fact that some hospitals and Dr's won't tell you the gender of your child during an ultrasound till at least 20 weeks is completely different. The result of finding out gender during an ultrasound is not a test result, it is an added bonus to find out from the procedure. So legally, no Dr. has to tell you gender during an ultrasound, however, like I stated, the result of finding out gender from a specific test result is a completely different story. And last, I feel that your last comment towards Gurly was extremely inappropriate as it sounded like you were judging her for the way she was feeling and trying to make her feel guilty for the way she was feeling. Since I have joined this website I was shown that everyone has different feelings regarding every situation and we are all here to support each other, not judge. Your comment telling her that she should be counting her blessings and to feel very lucky because other people have gone through serious heartbreak this year sounds like you're saying that she should be ashamed of her feelings because other people have had it worse. I do not think it is right in any way to be telling her that and find it quite rude. Gurly has nothing to be ashamed for the way she is feeling or wanting to know the information so badly. I also don't think you should be comparing her situation to anyone else's in any way.



Also, I don't know if Gurly did or not, but unless Gurly signed a specific form stating that she could it is also against HIPAA laws for Dr's to leave test results over an answering machine, whether they are good or bad, which is what the geneticist initially did.

[HopefulMonster]

Tmba just had to say the pic of your girls is heart melting they are so gorgeous!

Gurly, congrats on hearing girl!! Sorry it was such a hardship getting the results. Have you posted your sway? I'd love to read it xxxx

[SoulSister]

Congratulations Gurly! If you have the energy, you should put a compliant in writing.

Atomic- do you worry about posting gender guesses in case it leads to termination? I stopped posting my guesses after seeing a few requests that made me feel uncomfortable. It's a sad truth, but I don't feel I can judge someone for their own personal decision to terminate based on gender or otherwise. Anyway, this thread is for sharing our pregnancy journey so Private message me if you prefer.

As for me, I got to hear baby's heartbeat :) love it. Was in the 160's like my daughter so feeling hopeful. And starting to feel a bit calmer when I consider another boy. Even looking at boy names and feeling good about it. Maybe it's because I am feeling more positive about my chances for a girl haha. Still a few more week till the anatomy scan. Feels so far away!

[Ribenaberry]

Had my 12 week scan this afternoon!! It was the senior sonographer and he kept saying he lol, and when i was concentrating on looking i am pretty sure the nub was a boy nub, but he kept moving it too fast for me to be sure.

Im not sure you can see the nub on the photos we got, but ill post it later and hopefully get some guesses :)

But honestly, i dont care either way, weve made it to 12 weeks without having to suffer an mc first, thats miracle enough for me ;)

Xxx

[lorenali]

User name:Lorenali
Due Date: 4/22/14 - csection on 4/15
Swayed: Partner wants boy - I am good with the blessing
Expecting:Hopefully

[retrolove1]

Congratulations! Looks like everyone's sway worked but mine.

I had a private 16 week scan and I am expecting my 3rd son too Shutterbug. Will have it confirmed Monday. I really thought it was a girl this time but I've come to terms with it. xx

Congratulations to those who are expecting girls xx

[SoulSister]

Hormones have hit this week, feeling very emotional, tears one minute, raging anger the next. Somewhat funny...if it weren't so unsettling.

[Kitty0911]

I get to have an ultrasound at 17 weeks (October 31st) for cervical length (I've had a few LEEP procedures). Does anyone know if there is a chance I could see the baby or will it just be a quick cervical check? My clinic doesn't even guess on gender until at least 19.5 weeks, so I know they won't check for that, but I'm hoping to get a peek... I just need to confirm that this baby is indeed another boy so I can start shopping (and drowning my disappointment with adorable clothes). If I don't find out in two weeks I have to wait until I'm a little over 21 weeks before I get my next ultrasound and appointment. And I have to admit, I don't think I can wait that long!

[Bella29]

I think it is pretty hard to see the cervix without seeing the baby :). They are gonna be side by side. Obviously they will focus on the cervix, but it would be a mean sonographer who wouldn't let you see your baby just a little.

[HopefulMonster]

Hiya ladies finally had scan and all looked good, please have a look at my pics and have a guess at the gender for me? Thanks so much xxxx

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/35033-update-14-0-11-5-nub-shots-please-guess.html

[Tiggerian]

Kitty - they usually show you the heartbeat at the very least! They may not show you more than that, it depends on whether the ygot a separate screen for parents to view, but they should show you the heart!

Hopeful - I think yours could go either way. Its straight, but has a slight angle to it! Be interesting to find out what you're having!

[SoulSister]

I am dying to know too, if only to take advantage of the sales!
Hope they do let you see baby. Bit mean if they don't.

[tmbabcock]

First dr's appt tomorrow and I am do nervous. Don't know if I'll even be able to sleep tonight. The secretary said she wasn't sure if the dr would do a dating ultrasound but I don't see why he wouldn't. The billing department already told me that they he always does a 1st trimester dating ultrasound. I've just got my fingers crossed for a good nub shot!

[Kitty0911]

Good luck Tmba! I hope your appointment goes well!

Thanks everyone for your replies. I have my fingers crossed that I at least get to see the little one, even if it is for a moment.

[iwonder]

Congrats, Tiggerian!! So thrilled for you. I am still reading the thread to catch up on everyone. I just posted that we are having a girl. :)

[Bella29]

Hi girls :). We are getting our 12 week scan done on Wednesday. Very excited!! So tempted to find out babies sex, or get a nub shot. But we never found out with the other two, and we always have loved the surprise. But we do want a little boy this time. So torn. Hubby says let's not do it. But I don't know. I don't want to be disappointed at the birth. Cos my initial feeling is that I might be having a boy this time, but then, I probably just think that cos we would love a boy.

[tmbabcock]

So my dr's appointment went well. No ultrasound though, I guess their machine in the office I was at wasn't working so they had me schedule an appointment for an ultrasound for tomorrow. Tomorrow happens to be my birthday. I definitely know I am not going to be able to sleep tonight. I will be 13 weeks 4 days tomorrow and the office I am going to tomorrow has an amazing ultrasound machine so I am anxious to see a nub. Today is gonna be a long day and tonight is gonna be a long night. I scheduled my appointment for 10 am so basically we'll wake up, get the girls ready, and have to go because it's a 40 min drive. So unless I wake up at the crack of dawn tomorrow my morning it shouldn't really drag.

[Hokievol]

User name: hokievol
Due Date: April 6 2014
Swayed: Blue
Expecting: ?

[Tiggerian]

Glad to hear everything went well, Tmbab!! How did you scan go? And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!

[tmbabcock]

Haha Tiggerian! It's Tuesday morning. And thank you for the birthday wishes! 26 as of midnight central standard time! Less than 12 hours till my ultrasound!

[tmbabcock]

So just left my ultrasound. I got some pictures but no nub shot. The tech was completely clueless, she looked pretty young and fresh out of school. When I mentioned nub she was like"Oh I heard about that. I would think a 3d-4d ultrasound would be better for that." She didn't like it very much when I said no, you need a 2d ultrasound for that. Baby is measuring a week ahead at 14 weeks 3 days instead of going off my last period. So I scheduled an appt for Sunday which would put me at 15 weeks 1 day for an elective. So we'll see this Sunday.

[HopefulMonster]

Aww happy birthday!! I replied on your nub post but couldn't make out what was what tbh so didn't actually guess. Crossing everything you hear blue. I have an elective booked for monday so take my blue dust and send me your pink haha xx

[tmbabcock]

Yes! I am sending all pink your way!!

[SoulSister]

How frustrating tmba! Better luck for Sunday!

[Bella29]

Hi girls :) well I had my scan done today, and the tech seemed to think that we may be lucky and have a little boy. We told her that we didn't really know if we wanted to know, but that we would like a nub shot to guess. She showed me between the legs, and there did seem to be a strong white line pointing out between them, but not knowing really what I was looking at I just stared at her blankly. She seemed to think it was pretty obvious :) I said I dunno!! so she became a bit more explicit and said that she thinks if she had to guess, that we might have a different gender this time!! yayayayay!!! lol!! trying not to get to exited atm. not even sure if we want to confirm it. We will def have to think about it, and i am not sure if we would want to tell anyone IRL what we would be having.

I put up some nub shots if anyone wants to have a go guessing?? I don't know if they are any good tho :( but let me know what you think from what is there. I will have to google the scull theory to

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/ultrasound-gender-prediction/35704-anyone-help-me-guess-12-3-nub-guess.html

[tmbabcock]

Bella I looked but I didn't see a nub. I did comment though from the skull I would say maybe boy. Since I had my ultrasound yesterday morning and didnt get a nub (I think the tech was trying to keep me from seeing during the ultrasound too) I have been looking at skulls like crazy.

[SoulSister]

FIngers crossed it's your little boy Bella!

[Bella29]

Thanks tmba and Stella. I think we will find out this time. It has made me realize that we want this quite badly. I don't want to be dealing with disappointment when the baby is born. Better if we don't get what we want that we know now not later. Although we have never found out before. Something a bit different for us.

[tmbabcock]

So I am 14 weeks 6 days today and I am going in for an elective ultrasound. The place we're going to starts at 15 weeks but said 1 day early should be fine. I know there is no nub but does anyone have a skull guess? I hate skull guesses but I'm desperate. LOL
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[Ribenaberry]

The skull to me is boyish, it has that flat lift then almost a corner ( if you see what i mean) girl skulls seem to be more rounded like tennis balls.

But i could be wrong and the angle of the photo might be off. :)

Good luck!

Xxx

[thehappypixi]

Hey everyone! Quick update, had my 20wk scan... It's a girl! Over the moon, so excited!

http://i17.photobucket.com/albums/b99/thehappypixi/01f2931c39b863514df136a716b6044f.jpg

[tmbabcock]

Congrats Happypixi! Just left and IT'S A BOY!!!!! There was no denying it! I will post picture when I get home!!

[tmbabcock]

ALL BOY!!

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[Precious3]

Huge congrats tmb!!! So exciting!! Have you told your girls?


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Me (29) and DH (30)
DS1 - 2010
DS2 - 2012
Expecting #3 (and last!) by March-April 2014

[SoulSister]

Woohoo tmba! Congratulations on your wee man.

[SoulSister]

Yay happypixie! This thread is on a roll :)

[tmbabcock]

Thanks guys! Charlee's is still a little to little I think to grasp the idea but probably will by the time little man is here. Madi wanted another baby sister. LOL! When we explained to her that now she will get to have have a baby sister and a baby brother she was like "Oh! I guess that's okay." LMFAO! #thingsfouryearoldssay haha

[thehappypixi]

So cool! Congrats tmb! It's gonna be a whole new ball game after two of one gender isn't it?! Buzzing :D

[Ribenaberry]

Congrats happypixi and tmb, so pleased for you both!!

Xxx

[Precious3]

Pixi! Just saw your update, congrats!!! I can imagine how exhilarating it must feel! I hope I get similar news in 2 weeks time...



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Me (29) and DH (30)
DS1 - 2010
DS2 - 2012
Expecting #3 (and last!) by March-April 2014

[HopefulMonster]

Awww such fab news for both of you!! Glad my blue dust helped tmba haha, I have my scan on Monday, I so hope this lucky streak continues for our group!!! I am super anxious about it xxxxxx

[Ribenaberry]

I'm getting all jealous that I won't find out for another 4 weeks!!!!!!! Ha!

*must stay strong and wait*

Xxx

[Tiggerian]

Congrats TMBA and Pixie =D Sooo happy for both of you!!

[Tiggerian]

Quick tally of the thread shows we got 4 confirmed girls and 3 confirmed boys on the way =D

[SoulSister]

I've got mine in 2 days hopeful monster, and I Am a mess! It's pure torutre waiting :( keep swinging between the tech was right, and it's a girl, and no he can't have been I was right it was a boy nub, moods are all over the place and I can't sleep! Ridiculous! Wishing the next 48 hours away!

[HopefulMonster]

I feel for you soul!! I keep doing the exact same thing, feeling good and thinking of course it's a girl, I feel like it's a girl, I swayed and prayed so hard, of course god has listened, even my toddler insists it's a little sister... To feeling totally depressed thinking oh my god they're going to tell me it's a boy and I won't even be able to look DH in the eye and everyone will tell how disappointed I am and think I'm a terrible mother, I don't even want to find out my dream is over...

Aaarrgrrghh!! I have 24 hours to go, it's at this time tomorrow. I don't even know how I'm going to get through today. Xxxxxx

[Kitty0911]

Good luck Hopeful! I hope you hear "it's a girl"!

[Bella29]

Good luck hopeful monster! I hope you get to hear that you are having a girl!

[HopefulMonster]

Aww thank you ladies, I can't freaking sleep I'm so anxious! Even worse, my entire family is convinced it's a girl this time so I feel like if I hear boy, not only am I going to be disappointed, but everyone else will be too. It's 2.30am and I get the feeling it's going to be a very long night for me.

[thehappypixi]

I feel for you! I was so nervous too, and I had my mum with me who I know really wanted to hear girl but knew she was the right one to support me if it wasn't. Good luck!

[Ribenaberry]

Good luck today hm!!

I had a dream last night that I had a completely different 12 week scan, with a women who said her specialism was in determining gender early and that we were having a boy - nothing like your subconscious doing it's own little role plays lol!

4 weeks tomorrow ... Although I feel a bit like the longer we wait, the longer I can keep dreaming lol!

Not long for you either soulsister! Fingers crossed we stay on a roll!

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

Aahhhhhh thanks so much for all the support ladies, I am still numb from the scan, the tech said 100% GIRL!!!!!!!

I was only measuring 15+5 so slightly worried a penis might appear by a later scan. Would you be confident from this pic???

http://i992.photobucket.com/albums/af45/smudged_horizon/image_zps459adc93.jpg (http://s992.photobucket.com/user/smudged_horizon/media/image_zps459adc93.jpg.html)

[Kitty0911]

Aw congrats! I can see the three lines very clearly. I don't think that would turn into boy parts. Enjoy buying pink!

[HopefulMonster]

Aww thank you so much kitty!! It still hasn't really sunk in yet. My 14 week nub was angled, so I was expecting to be told boy. When are you finding out? Xx

[thehappypixi]

Yippie! Congrats on your twirly girly! I have a potty shot of my second son at 15 weeks, you can't miss it of its there ;D

[Ribenaberry]

So pleased for you hm!!

Defo all girl, nothing going to appear there!! :)

Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

So pleased for you hm!!

Defo all girl, nothing going to appear there!! :)

Xxx

[Ribenaberry]

I've been looking at nub videos on youtube, and the more I see the more I think what I actually saw at my 12 week scan was the fork of a girl nub. I was thinking a straight line was a girl and a little bit sticking up was a boy. But now I think the little bit I saw sticking up was the top fork in the girl nub.

I feel a bit deflated, only because I'd convinced myself I'd seen a boy nub and was getting a son, and now I'm convinced the other way! Half term clearly gives me too long to think about things lol!

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

Aww Ribena I wouldn't count anything on that, my nub at 14 weeks wasn't super clear and I even got a ton of boy guesses on another site because it seemed angled up. I think the nub is really accurate around 13-14 weeks IF you have a good shot of it. I think we're due a couple of boys after all these girls so don't count yourself out yet xxxx x

[Ribenaberry]

You're right, I know, I think I'm just getting the wobbles!! I know once I'm back at school it will only be 3 weeks to wait and they will fly as we have to pack up to move to the new building, it just seems such a long way away! I know if I pay for a gender scan I'll be annoyed at myself for not just waiting what is really just a few more days, and I also feel like it's tempting fate! I know I will not care if it's another girl really, I think it's just because I'd been so sure of what I'd seen and I was excited that the sway might have worked etc ... It's all very silly as it's all set in stone no matter what now lol!

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

No I totally understand, I was praying all the way to my scan today please let it be a girl - like it could change last minute if it wasn't lol!! I think it will be lovely if you hear boy but i also think it will be so special to have three girlies to be best friends too.

If it was me I'd pay for the scan lol, I have my anatomy scan in 3 weeks I'm hoping they can confirm girl then. I also don't know if you're uk but I am and last pregnancy the NHS scan couldn't tell me the gender so I ended up having to pay for a private scan anyway after waiting all that time to find out, so I just thought sod it and got it straight away this time. Xxxxx

[thehappypixi]

I saw a fork on my first scan and went googling - apparently boys and girls nubs appear forked that early, so I wouldn't count yourself out yet!

[SoulSister]

Congratualtions hopeful! That looks girly to me :)
Fingers crossed the same for me. Couple of hours to go till scan and I feel physically ill. Lol.

[HopefulMonster]

Aww crossing everything for you soul sister that you hear pink too xxxxxx

[Ribenaberry]

Good luck soul sister!!

I have to admit now to being totally confused, as i have seena few boy nub videos which lookmlike what I think I saw, as well as the girly ones!! so i officially give up trying to tell from what I can remember and by no-nub scan pics haha! Even better, one pic has a boy skull and the other has a girl skull!

I am also a little bit worried in case they can't tell at the anatomy scan, ill be 19+1 so I suppose I have a few weeks after to get a private one if I need to. Although I am slowly convincing myself I need to know now!! Lol.

I think you are right happypixi, there are too many similarities to be sure unless you know for sure what you are looking for!

Xxx

[Precious3]

OMG!! I'm getting sick to my stomach from the excitement and anticipation by reading all of your accounts from **Scan Day**, LOL!! Congratulations to everybody!! I'm imagining this will be me in exactly 2 weeks...

Soul sister I guess you are being told about right now!! Good luck and congratulations no matter what you are blessed with!!



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Me (29) and DH (30)
DS1 - 2010
DS2 - 2012
Expecting #3 (and last!) by March-April 2014

[Tiggerian]

Congrats Hopeful =D =D So happy for you!!!

SoulSister, how's it gone?

[Tiggerian]

Pretty impressive so far with 6 successful sways and only 1 failed sway! :bluecheer: :cheer:

[SoulSister]

Well I have never been happier to be wrong! That boy nub I saw was indeed the umbilical cord. Although we didn't get a wonderful potty shot, it was very obvious during the scan we are expecting another little girl. There are 2 sad little boys who didn't get the brother they wanted, 1 oblivious little girl, and 3 happy people in our house today. I feel so guilty for being SO SO SO lucky! And dreading telling the people I know in real life who have GD. I feel relief for myself and sadness for my friends and family who didnt get their longed for daughter/son.

[HopefulMonster]

Aahhhhhh I'm so happy for you soulsister!!!! Huge massive congrats on hearing pink!!!! Please don't feel guilty, enjoy every moment of your little princess xxxx

[tmbabcock]

Congrats Hopeful!! that is definitely a girl!!! You saw my little man's penis at 14+6 and that is something you definitely can't miss! I can see her girly parts perfectly!

Congrats Soulsister!!! Do not feel guilty at all. You just enjoy the happiness of having your little girl!

Riben- I would go pay for one. LOL I am psycho and have zero patience what-so-ever. I give you props for being able to keep yourself from going. I would be going nuts! I was and first chance I got I ran to the fastest elective ultrasound possible!

[Ribenaberry]

Ah congrats soul sister!! Brilliant news!!

We are certainly on a roll!

Today I have woken up quite happy to wait lol! I've got a consultants appointment on the 7th Nov so hopefully I'll get to hear the heartbeat then, then my midwife appt on the 17th, so I'll get to hear it again, which is the most important thing to me really. Don't get me wrong I'm still dying to know, but this is the first attempt we've had to have a baby that hasn't meant miscarriages and months of mental torture! So I thought I'll just be grateful that we will get to take this one home no matter what, and enjoy the not knowing for a while longer.

Remind me of that tomorrow ha!!

Xxx

[thehappypixi]

Congrats soulsister! Fab news!

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Pretty impressive so far with 6 successful sways and only 1 failed sway! :bluecheer: :cheer:

Great :(

[Tiggerian]

Congrats soul.

Northern - has yours been confirmed boy, because I haven't taken your sway into account as I wasn't sure whether it ahd been confirmed or not.

[Northern_Shutterbug]

Yes

[HopefulMonster]

Aww thanks so much tmba, I really appreciate you saying it's definitely a girl!! I know the tech said 100%, and I have a photo, but I still kind of feel like it's too good to be true, there must be some mistake! silly isn't it!!!!

[Tiggerian]

So that's 10 babies confirmed so far. 6 girls, 4 boys. 2 didn't sway, 6 successful sways, 2 unsuccessful.

Congrats to all of you =D

[Tiggerian]

Aww thanks so much tmba, I really appreciate you saying it's definitely a girl!! I know the tech said 100%, and I have a photo, but I still kind of feel like it's too good to be true, there must be some mistake! silly isn't it!!!!

I'm exactly the same ;) We got our 20 week scan on Friday and I'm halfway expecting the sonographer to turn around and say "Oh look, boy parts" even though we got a very clear potty shot with no mistaking her gender! it feels all 'wrong', in a good way, and I think its only just starting to dawn on me that I'm actually having a little girl =D

I don't think it will really feel real before she's out and I hear the consultant say "its a girl!" :twins:

[Kitty0911]

Congrats SoulSister!

All this good news is making me so nervous for my scan!! Exactly 45 hours away! I'm pretty sure I'll be added to the "failed sway" list. I am almost 100% certain I'm having another boy. But at least I can start buying cute clothes :)

[HopefulMonster]

Aww sending you tons of luck kitty!!

[Kitty0911]

Thank you, Hopeful!

[Ribenaberry]

Good luck kitty, fingers crossed its a girl for you!!

I don't like "failed sway" - I know technically it is, but no baby is a fail so maybe we could change it to something else? "Nature's choice"? Or something better lol my brain won't work!!

I've been cuddling my friends 2 week old bubba today, he is such a gorgeous little man, just brings it back all those new mummy feelings, I can't wait to have thise again!

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

You know, I really struggled with the newborn stage. My first was premature, and I had never even held a baby before, I was terrified of this tiny red thing that looked like it was going to break. I got covered in poo every nappy change, I poppers the babygrows up wrong every time without fail, I spent all my time worrying if I was doing it wrong, or if they were going to die in their sleep, or if they were getting enough milk, too hot, too cold, etc etc!!!!!! I didn't really enjoy it until much later. I love it now!! I kind of wish I could skip to 6 months in or so, or even to the toddler stage, this is the part I'm good at and I feel settled in!

[Bella29]

Congratulations hm and ss!!! That is awesome news!!!

Northern, sorry to hear your bubba was confirmed as a boy. It must be really hard hearing everyone else get such good news.

Ribenaberry I feel exactly like you. Until the tech said that she thought it was a boy, despite us saying we didn't really want to be told, that we hadn't decided to find out, I felt ok waiting. Now I really want to know! I am thinking of paying for a gender scan at 16 weeks. Dh and I have kinda decided that now that we have our hopes up, we will be more disappointed with a girl than we otherwise would be, cos to be honest, we have two beautiful, beautiful girls, and a third little girl will be treasured here. But we really would like a boy to.

So currently we have an 80% success rate with the sways. I reckon that is pretty good! Fingers crossed our sway was enough....

Oh and kitty, good luck on your scan in 39hrs ;)

[tmbabcock]

I'm exactly the same ;) We got our 20 week scan on Friday and I'm halfway expecting the sonographer to turn around and say "Oh look, boy parts" even though we got a very clear potty shot with no mistaking her gender! it feels all 'wrong', in a good way, and I think its only just starting to dawn on me that I'm actually having a little girl =D


I don't think it will really feel real before she's out and I hear the consultant say "its a girl!" :twins:

I am the same right now! I don't have my anatomy scan until Dec 3rd. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have watched the ultrasound DVD because I was afraid it was the cord and I'm gonna be told it's a girl at my 20 week. In some of the shots depending on the angle of the ultrasound wand you can see cord and some you see penis but you see it so many times in the 8 min video and from different angles there is no denying it. My husband and I are still in disbelief. We both went into the elective scan expecting to hear girl. It's still so unreal to me that it's a boy and not a girl. Even though I KNOW it's a boy in the back of my mind I still sometimes catch myself doubting.

[Tiggerian]

I don't like "failed sway" - I know technically it is, but no baby is a fail so maybe we could change it to something else? "Nature's choice"? Or something better lol my brain won't work!!

Xxx

I know, its not a nice term, but its not saying the baby is a fail - its the sway itself that wasn't successful. Its not coined at the baby, if my baby girl had been a girl I'd still say "failed sway" even though I'd be happy with a boy. Its really nothing more than that. We aren't saying the baby is a failure or mistake, but the things the parents did to sway the gender failed to do what the parents hoped it would do.

I'd be happy to use another phrase if you ladies can think of something that sounds nicer. I'm only writing it as a percentage thing, but I can stop if you want me to?

[Tiggerian]

Congrats SoulSister!

All this good news is making me so nervous for my scan!! Exactly 45 hours away! I'm pretty sure I'll be added to the "failed sway" list. I am almost 100% certain I'm having another boy. But at least I can start buying cute clothes :)

We're being scanned at the same day then! I got my 20 week scan tomorrow too =D

[thehappypixi]

My second was a failed shettles sway; I've never taken the term to have any negative reflection on my awesome son! But I can see how the word failed is more negative than needs be. Perhaps sway opposite?

[Dreamofpink]

Just popping in from the other dd board. I know just how hurtful these terms are without there being any intent behind it at all, so I really feel for you Northern. There is no ideal term but I like to think that you're getting what fate intended and your sway just gave things a helping hand or not. Atomic herself says just how much luck is involved in it all, so perhaps take that into consideration. It's awful having any negative connotations tagged onto your pregnancy & innocent remarks celebrating the 'success' of the group cuts to the core. Northern has been through sooo much already & did a super stellar sway. Please read the thread that Atomic started in the DD boards about this topic. Sorry I'm on my phone or I'd post a link. Please no-one take offence at my post, it's not intended but I know how it feels from the other side & I haven't been through a fraction of what poor Northern has. Thanks for reading :)

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[Northern_Shutterbug]

Thanks but I'm not against using the term, my sway did fail, as did my body at producing a healthy girl, and I failed at giving my family a much wanted baby girl. It seems that no matter how small the percentage to be on the wrong side of where we want to be, my path leads that way. I had a 0.00009% chance of conceiving a child with Evelyn's condition, yet there we go.

[Tiggerian]

The term wasn't coined at Northern at all - she isn't the only one with an opposite. But yes, Sway opposite is a better term for sure, I'll use that in the future, but if people with opposites find it too painful then of course I won't be posting stats anymore =)

I've also been on the other side of where Northern is - I lost my daughter and had two sons, my second son we very much would've liked to have been a girl and I was upset when I found out it was a boy, especially as my partner didn't want any more children after our second son was born, so I get how she feels completely.

Northern - have you considered doing PGD after this baby? (hope u don't mind me asking).

[Northern_Shutterbug]

I didn't take anything as aimed at me or taking anything personally.

I won't be having any more children, 1, I am already struggling with the two I have before even adding this one into the mix and 2, we couldn't afford it.

[Ribenaberry]

Sorry I didn't mean to imply you were aiming it at people or meant it in a negative way Tiggerian, I literally meant I don't like the term, even though I know it gets used all over the site as technically it is (hope that makes more sense!) i just thought maybe someone had a good idea of a nicer way to put it (I like sway opposites)

I can only imagine how it must feel for those who've lost their DG to then sway opposite, nature can be a complete bitch at times!

Sorry again - I hope I didn't offend anyone, it wasn't my intention!!

Xxx

[Tiggerian]

I didn't take anything as aimed at me or taking anything personally.

I won't be having any more children, 1, I am already struggling with the two I have before even adding this one into the mix and 2, we couldn't afford it.

I understand. We won't be having anymore either, no money for it and I don't think we'd be able to cope with more children either. Especially our eldest is a bit of a handful and both of our boys are very temperamental.

I just gotta say, I do worry about you Northern, because i know how much you hurt - I hope you got good people around you who are being super supportive!

Ribena - I knew you didn't =D it was a response to a post by a different user. Sway opposites is a better term, I only used Failed because (like you) it was the term I'd seen used around this site.

[tmbabcock]

I was terrified when I found out our second was a girl. I cried horribly. To make matters worse my mother and sister came with us and scorned me for being so upset. I was upset because my husband said there was no way he would go past 2 no matter the sex. It was very difficult for me at first to handle. Only after many days of tears did he say we could try again. If this one would have been a girl we would have been done. The only way we would have gone for a fourth would have been if it was 10 years down the road and we were rich and could afford high tech gender selection. I really didnt even think this time around we would be able to conceive. I have a condition with my ovaries and my dr told me as I get older it would be increasingly difficult to get pregnant. It took us a lot to get pregnant with our second. DD2 was a "failed sway" and I never really liked that term either. Even though I know there is nothing behind it just made me feel like I was calling her a fail and she definitely was not. So I understand the feeling on the term.

[Ribenaberry]

I asked hubby about a gender scan last night, I found a place that will do it for £50, and he said no, because you only want one coz everybe on the forum is having one lol!! He's right, unfortunately, I only want one when I'm reaing about everyone else finding out ha!

3 weeks and 5 days now!!!!!

:)

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

I didn't think I'd be back here much once I found the gender but I keep re-reading all the comments on my potty shot saying "it's definitely a girl" because I keep getting panicked that it was wrong and there's a hidden willy and it reassures me, so silly!!

Haha aaawww Ribena maybe explain how they might not be able to tell at your NHS scan so you'll end up needing to pay anyway, may as well be early saving you 3 weeks of wondering?

Mine was £40 and I got two gorgeous scan pictures of her, as well as a potty shot, and it was honestly worth every penny, not just to ease my stressing over the gender but just to get an extra chance to see baby was wonderful too. I'm hoping to hear at my NHS scan in 3 weeks that it's a girl again as confirmation but not holding my breath. I've known NHS scans be wrong for quite a few people too. Xxxx

[Tiggerian]

Well, we've just got home from our NHS scan and I'm SO happy we paid for our private gender scan. She refused to stretch her legs! She was lying the whole time with her legs crossed, tucked under her bum! She did that at the gender scan too, but eventually moved them so we got a nice potty shot.

We have to go back in 2 weeks time as they couldn't get a proper look at her legs or her face (she had her hand up in front of her face the whole time). But everything else looks perfect! Because our DD1 had a severe heart defect they spend a long time looking at the heart and luckily her heart looks perfectly healthy and like everythings doing and looking like its suppose to!

We got 3 free pictures tho - for the "inconvenience"! And I got to prove to my OH what it actually means to have a baby on your bladder as she was tapdancing away (legs crossed!) on my bladder!

[thehappypixi]

Good news bubba looks all healthy!

[SoulSister]

Actually all 3 of our boys had their legs wide open, and both girls have had them crossed politely hiding their bits hahaha.