naomihp
March 23rd, 2014, 07:48 PM
Hi
i have just found out i am having another girl and instead of crying with joy i broke down because i was so disappointed.
I had convinced myself it was a boy and due to the fact every baby born in my husbands family has been a boy i thought it was bound to be.
I had created this fantasy about my son and was in love with him. Finding out its a girl has left me feeling like i have lost him and i feel nothing for the child inside me. My husband is very happy as he already has a son. I already have a daughter and she loves my husband and calls him Daddy, they have a great relationship. However his son and i do not get on, there is no affection let alone love in our relationship and i feel like i've lost the opportunity to have a beautiful boy. I have always wanted a boy but never experienced this disappointment with my daughter as always thought i would have more. I am due to have a hysterectomy after this baby and it breaks my heart knowing that i won't have a son.
I resent my husband and everyone around me is telling me to be grateful and get over it but i feel broken by this knowledge. She kicks and moves and instead of being happy it makes me cry.
I've been told that as soon as she is born i will love her but i'm so scared i won't and that i won't want anything to do with her.
Has anyone struggled to bond with their baby after this kind of experience? Should i talk to someone? I'm so glad i found this site i've been feeling very isolated and like a terrible person.
i have just found out i am having another girl and instead of crying with joy i broke down because i was so disappointed.
I had convinced myself it was a boy and due to the fact every baby born in my husbands family has been a boy i thought it was bound to be.
I had created this fantasy about my son and was in love with him. Finding out its a girl has left me feeling like i have lost him and i feel nothing for the child inside me. My husband is very happy as he already has a son. I already have a daughter and she loves my husband and calls him Daddy, they have a great relationship. However his son and i do not get on, there is no affection let alone love in our relationship and i feel like i've lost the opportunity to have a beautiful boy. I have always wanted a boy but never experienced this disappointment with my daughter as always thought i would have more. I am due to have a hysterectomy after this baby and it breaks my heart knowing that i won't have a son.
I resent my husband and everyone around me is telling me to be grateful and get over it but i feel broken by this knowledge. She kicks and moves and instead of being happy it makes me cry.
I've been told that as soon as she is born i will love her but i'm so scared i won't and that i won't want anything to do with her.
Has anyone struggled to bond with their baby after this kind of experience? Should i talk to someone? I'm so glad i found this site i've been feeling very isolated and like a terrible person.