Do non-swayers think you are ridiculous to sway?

[Christi]

I've only told my closest friends and family that I am trying to sway pink because I feel like most people who know nothing about swaying will think I'm just ridiculous for doing all these things to try to tip the scales in favor of a girl. I know my sister thinks that my attempts to sway pink are entirely silly and not worth the effort (or delay in getting pregnant). My sister has one son and is pregnant with DS#2, but thinks that it is just ridiculous that I would spend months tracking my cycles, doing the LE diet, taking various supplements, plus the one attempt at +OPK. My sister was hoping for a girl for her second child, but believes it is just "luck of the draw". Sadly, my sister is very competitive with me, so I think secretly she is trying to dissuade me from swaying because she really doesn't want me to have a little girl because she didn't get a little girl. (I say this because she told our mom that she thinks that I will have a girl because "I always get whatever I want." Not because swaying works, or that all my hard work to tip the balance in favor of pink are what will bring it about (I'm not even preggo yet), but because I just magically get "whatever I want"....she fails to acknowledge that most of "whatever I want" comes from hard work, diligence and patience, but I suppose jealousy doesn't work like that...)

I was just wondering if anyone else was getting any "swaying is ridiculous" feedback from family and friends. I am thankful my DH is onboard with all our swaying tactics, but my sister sometimes makes me want to keep our "swaying" secret.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I haven't been brave enough to tell ANYONE...not even DH. Mostly because their reactions would be the same as what you are thinking. "How silly"..."That's not going to work"..."WHY"...I don't want to hear it, so I've kept it secret from everyone. This site is my savior in all this because of the wealth of information. My husband doesn't understand why I eat so crappy now, but hasn't pushed the issue with me. And to top it off, my SIL is finding out the gender of her baby in a few weeks and I'm thinking she's having a girl :( I just know that this is my last attempt (3 boys/3 C-sections) and I want to know with all my heart that I did everything I could to get my little girl. Hopefully with all the swaying and praying I'm doing, I'll be successful. Good Luck to you, Christi!

[jmomof3girls]

I haven't told anyone but my mom and husband. My husband totally believes what I believe. He trusts my judgement, thank god. My mom looked at me like I'm crazy. She doesn't understand gender desire because she had me and then my brother. I haven't talked to her about it since.

[odd]

Not even my husband knows..he knew I was upto something lol..but never asked details and I never told him

He did get all scientific with me once and I just told him to go with me jist this once and if it's supposed to he a boy then at least I'd have tried. That was the only conversation we ever had

[Christi]

That is exactly how I feel.... At least I will know I tried. If it isn't meant to be, it isn't meant to be, but it won't be because I didn't try.

[hotdogz&boyz]

Yep. Because most people still think "timing" works for swaying. And are often even too much in denial to look up that its been disproven. If you start talking about maternal dominance and biological betting, they get freaked out and deny that any of that could be related to gender selection. I've heard "it's luck of the draw" or "you get what you're supposed to get" more times than I can count.

I am lucky, hubs was totally on board and never had an issue with anything I asked of him. I've told my mom a lot of the swaying facts and she agrees that a lot of it makes sense. But I've never told her that our daughter was conceived with a sway or that we swayed again for this baby. I don't think she would think I was nuts. But I don't know that she would totally think swaying was what got us a girl.

I mostly keep my mouth shut with other folks. I don't care what they think about swaying or the stats. But I also do it out of that sense of "embarrassment," that I wasn't content to leave it up to nature and that somehow makes me a bad person to want to select the gender of my children. So, yeah, it's not something I go around telling people I believe in. But I've gotten fairly good at guessing what others are going to have based on Martha/Mary and physical aspects. Lol.

[Christi]

Hotdogz--I totally do that, guess what people are going to have based on their Martha/Mary-ness or their diet (vegetarian vs high protein) or the circumstances under which they became pregnant (ie. the "oops" baby being more likely to be a girl). It is so funny the way swaying affects the way you see the world, huh?

[Junie]

Like some of the others I haven't told anyone but my mom as I don't want the judgement or comments beforehand or the pity/ see I told you so looks if we do have another boy.

[covered in blue]

I've only told my DH, sister, Mum, and one other school Mum who might sway for a boy. DH is a sonographer so he talks to his patients and the midwives and asks them all what their secret is lol. Though he mostly comes home and tells me things like "oh they said you need to eat a lot of citrus" or "you need to do an 8 day cut of" or "you should check your PH". He drives me mad coz he believes everything people tell him lol.

[Marika]

I haven't told anyone except my husband. I don't know how much he actually believes it, but he has been supportive.

Main reason I don't tell anyone is that I don't want to be open with my gender desire. People do assume that after two sons I would want a daughter, but I can't stand when people kind of feel sorry for me to only have sons. I do understand that it's not their intention, but it makes me so sad when what they say sounds like my sons aren't good enough. It's very double, obviously, that I feel this way and have the desire, but I would never want my sons or anyone else to know, just because it could be mistaken for not appreciating and loving my boys.

[blueeyedguys]

I haven't told anyone other than dh, who seems on board. There are people who know how much I want a girl, but I haven't mentioned swaying to them. I don't really have friends, anyway.

[QueenB3blue]

I have only mentioned it to 2 of my closer friends. But honestly I rarely talk to them. My one friend has 3 boys also and is now pregnant with another son after reversing DH vasectomy. I shared a little more with her.
The problem is people are to quick to judge. I hated going places after ds3 was born, the comments were ridiculous. "You went for a girl, didn't you". I am so nerves it is going to hurt one of my boys feeling one of these days:(

I keep mostly to myself about it. When I first talked about it to DH he was an ass. Then I told him he wasn't being very supportive. I kept pointing out single gender families and explained why it was, that's when I think he started believing swaying a little.

[ratcliffe1811]

We are secret swayers, DH and only DH knows and ever will :wink:

[Linzshine32]

I have told a few friends but I don't talk about it all the time with them because they will think i'm nuts. My sister is EXACTLY like yours and she is giving me the same reaction that yours has... it's so annoying. But I know its because she wants to get pregnant with her first soon and she's hoping to have a girl just to "beat" me to it. So we'll see!

[Mamato3?]

I have only talked about it with my husband, mainly because I think people will say that we are trying to play God and that people shouldn't mess with these stuff. Plus all the people I could ever bring up such a matter already have mixed families so I don't think they would understand. If I knew anyone really really close to me with GD I'd probably try to help them by sharing the information.

[The Anchor]

Never told anyone I was swaying, never even talked to anyone about what you MIGHT :wink: do if you WANTED to sway, not even DH. He would think I was mad.

[Boysway]

I have mentioned the diet to people. Some believe the man determines the gender, some believe it's timing. Others are actually very interested :) Regarding gender comments from people. When I eventually get my bfp, I am expecting people to ask if we decided to try for a boy. I'm seriously thinking of throwing them all off and tell them we're trying for another girl, lol.

[kitkat18]

No one not even DH!! Xx
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[Adia]

Dh is the only person I really talk to about it. I don't even tell him much, just "hey babe, time for sex!" He's happy with that.
I have gained a lot of weight over the millions months of swaying so I just tell people I am having hormone issues...which is true, sort of...
I did have a conversation with some dance class moms once about 'improving/declining maternal condition' but that was it. Interesting to hear that the theory rang true for them, lots of confirmation there!

[atomic sagebrush]

I have an essay about it here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/swaying-studies-scientific-research/32383-defense-swaying-part-1-a.html

I actually have the second part of this very nearly done, should finish it one of these years LOL

[foxymrsg]

My DH knows about swaying he still thinks he only makes 100% xy sperm!! I will get him to read the amazing info on here one day!!
My mum knows so does my sister. She has a pp but has said if her DH agrees to one more them she'll sway girl. I have of course pointed her in this direction! My eldest sister has three girls and I know she'd have loved a son. If her DH hadn't have had the snip I'd have sent her this way for sure!
I was guided over here by an old member who had 2 girls and got her ds through swaying on this site!!
With other oriole no I don't mention swaying. I always get told to do timing next time to guarantee a girl and I just tell them that that's not true. They of course argue because it's scientifically proven!! Lol! Oh and I also have a 75% chance of having a boy next time due to hashing toe boys apparently!! Zzzzzzzz can you tell I get bored of the comments?!?
Some people you can't mention swaying to as they are mean about it and give the you should be grateful for what you have (as if I'm not!!) or the you only get what you're meant to have so I choose to keep stchum. However I do believe in paying it forward -as I'm lucky enough my friend did for me- so if anyone I know was ever to mention about having another she swaying I will tell them about this site and help them anyway I can! I have a friend with three boys and her third is a 'failed' Shettles so I know she's not against tipping the odds in her favour, so if she ever mentions again in the future about trying again I truly hope I can point her here and that her dream comes true!!

And atomic there are no words for the amount of time effort and work you put into all of this! That essay above us just amazing yet again and is so informative! I think it's fantastic and I just want you to know it's honestly so appreciated all you do! :)