Do non-swayers think you are ridiculous to sway?

[Christi]

I've only told my closest friends and family that I am trying to sway pink because I feel like most people who know nothing about swaying will think I'm just ridiculous for doing all these things to try to tip the scales in favor of a girl. I know my sister thinks that my attempts to sway pink are entirely silly and not worth the effort (or delay in getting pregnant). My sister has one son and is pregnant with DS#2, but thinks that it is just ridiculous that I would spend months tracking my cycles, doing the LE diet, taking various supplements, plus the one attempt at +OPK. My sister was hoping for a girl for her second child, but believes it is just "luck of the draw". Sadly, my sister is very competitive with me, so I think secretly she is trying to dissuade me from swaying because she really doesn't want me to have a little girl because she didn't get a little girl. (I say this because she told our mom that she thinks that I will have a girl because "I always get whatever I want." Not because swaying works, or that all my hard work to tip the balance in favor of pink are what will bring it about (I'm not even preggo yet), but because I just magically get "whatever I want"....she fails to acknowledge that most of "whatever I want" comes from hard work, diligence and patience, but I suppose jealousy doesn't work like that...)

I was just wondering if anyone else was getting any "swaying is ridiculous" feedback from family and friends. I am thankful my DH is onboard with all our swaying tactics, but my sister sometimes makes me want to keep our "swaying" secret.

[txmomof3beautifulboys]

I haven't been brave enough to tell ANYONE...not even DH. Mostly because their reactions would be the same as what you are thinking. "How silly"..."That's not going to work"..."WHY"...I don't want to hear it, so I've kept it secret from everyone. This site is my savior in all this because of the wealth of information. My husband doesn't understand why I eat so crappy now, but hasn't pushed the issue with me. And to top it off, my SIL is finding out the gender of her baby in a few weeks and I'm thinking she's having a girl I just know that this is my last attempt (3 boys/3 C-sections) and I want to know with all my heart that I did everything I could to get my little girl. Hopefully with all the swaying and praying I'm doing, I'll be successful. Good Luck to you, Christi!

[jmomof3girls]

I haven't told anyone but my mom and husband. My husband totally believes what I believe. He trusts my judgement, thank god. My mom looked at me like I'm crazy. She doesn't understand gender desire because she had me and then my brother. I haven't talked to her about it since.

[odd]

Not even my husband knows..he knew I was upto something lol..but never asked details and I never told him

He did get all scientific with me once and I just told him to go with me jist this once and if it's supposed to he a boy then at least I'd have tried. That was the only conversation we ever had

[Christi]

That is exactly how I feel.... At least I will know I tried. If it isn't meant to be, it isn't meant to be, but it won't be because I didn't try.

[hotdogz&boyz]

Yep. Because most people still think "timing" works for swaying. And are often even too much in denial to look up that its been disproven. If you start talking about maternal dominance and biological betting, they get freaked out and deny that any of that could be related to gender selection. I've heard "it's luck of the draw" or "you get what you're supposed to get" more times than I can count.

I am lucky, hubs was totally on board and never had an issue with anything I asked of him. I've told my mom a lot of the swaying facts and she agrees that a lot of it makes sense. But I've never told her that our daughter was conceived with a sway or that we swayed again for this baby. I don't think she would think I was nuts. But I don't know that she would totally think swaying was what got us a girl.

I mostly keep my mouth shut with other folks. I don't care what they think about swaying or the stats. But I also do it out of that sense of "embarrassment," that I wasn't content to leave it up to nature and that somehow makes me a bad person to want to select the gender of my children. So, yeah, it's not something I go around telling people I believe in. But I've gotten fairly good at guessing what others are going to have based on Martha/Mary and physical aspects. Lol.

[Christi]

Hotdogz--I totally do that, guess what people are going to have based on their Martha/Mary-ness or their diet (vegetarian vs high protein) or the circumstances under which they became pregnant (ie. the "oops" baby being more likely to be a girl). It is so funny the way swaying affects the way you see the world, huh?

[Junie]

Like some of the others I haven't told anyone but my mom as I don't want the judgement or comments beforehand or the pity/ see I told you so looks if we do have another boy.

[covered in blue]

I've only told my DH, sister, Mum, and one other school Mum who might sway for a boy. DH is a sonographer so he talks to his patients and the midwives and asks them all what their secret is lol. Though he mostly comes home and tells me things like "oh they said you need to eat a lot of citrus" or "you need to do an 8 day cut of" or "you should check your PH". He drives me mad coz he believes everything people tell him lol.

[Marika]

I haven't told anyone except my husband. I don't know how much he actually believes it, but he has been supportive.

Main reason I don't tell anyone is that I don't want to be open with my gender desire. People do assume that after two sons I would want a daughter, but I can't stand when people kind of feel sorry for me to only have sons. I do understand that it's not their intention, but it makes me so sad when what they say sounds like my sons aren't good enough. It's very double, obviously, that I feel this way and have the desire, but I would never want my sons or anyone else to know, just because it could be mistaken for not appreciating and loving my boys.