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blackbekki
September 6th, 2014, 09:28 AM
So I had my 12 week scan yesterday and everyone has guessed boy, this will be my 3rd boy if it is (pic)
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/09/06/0e8463e6a53f35fe74f965bfa0005fba.jpg
I feel cheated as I had a daughter who was stillborn at 41 weeks. I am still holding out hope this is a girl and zoomed in on the nub which looks like a flat fork with a lump above(pic)
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/09/06/271228eeaf4366649fbbf176e0aa04c5.jpg
I know I am clutching at straws here and I will get used to the idea but doesn't stop me feeling disappointed. Any advice greatly appreciated. I'll include 12 week of my daughter as a comparison and see what others think xx
(My daughters)
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txmomof3beautifulboys
September 6th, 2014, 09:45 AM
I am sorry to hear about your daughter :( Did you sway this pregnancy? I guess all you can really do is wait until the gender scan to be certain. You never really know until then. I hope this turns out to be your girl!

blackbekki
September 6th, 2014, 09:55 AM
I did abstain for a month with one attempt at plus opk caught first month x


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hotdogz&boyz
September 6th, 2014, 02:37 PM
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I am sure that makes this so much harder. I can't even imagine what that would do to add to "typical" GD. I'd think it would really add a whole new facet to it.

But I do understand the grasping at straws aspect. I thought I didn't mind what my baby was. But on Thursday we had our NT scan and although baby was pretty wild and uncooperative, I thought I saw a stacked boy nub in one of the still shots on my DVD. And I'll admit, I feel a bit sad about it. Of course, I'm like...oh, baby was moving, it was upside down, maybe it was the cord, etc, etc. But I know this baby is probably a boy because of that shot. (It will also be my third son, although I do have a daughter as well). I think I had expected it to be a girl (we swayed pretty decently and my pregnancy is mimicking my daughters to the letter, and is very different from my boys). So it's a readjustment of expectations. As I imagine you are also struggling with at this point.

I wish I could tell you differently, but the nub does look boyish to me as well. It is "stacked" (much like what I saw) and that does tend to point toward boy. Although I have seen stranger things happen and boyish nubs turn proven into girls. And vice versa. I hope it's the case for you.

But I'm sorry you didn't get the girly nub you desired. It certainly doesn't mean that baby is for sure a boy though.

blackbekki
September 7th, 2014, 03:59 PM
Thank you all :) coming to terms with it, if I get told girl at 20 weeks I'll be shocked, if boy I know I'll cry but my main focus is walking out of the hospital with a baby. Thank you for the honesty least I've now 8 weeks longer to get used to the idea of a houseful of boys x


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Adia
September 7th, 2014, 07:37 PM
Thank you all :) coming to terms with it, if I get told girl at 20 weeks I'll be shocked, if boy I know I'll cry but my main focus is walking out of the hospital with a baby. Thank you for the honesty least I've now 8 weeks longer to get used to the idea of a houseful of boys x

I am sure after all you have been through a healthy baby trumps all. But be kind to yourself and if it is a boy, let yourself grieve.
Big hugs to you, honey, my heart aches for the loss of your daughter.
Will this be your last child?

blackbekki
September 9th, 2014, 05:36 AM
He wants it to be the last but hope maybe can convince him otherwise, I don't want to go on to have 3 plus more children all boys just for the sake of wanting a girl. I will love all my children no matter what sex but obviously it would be nice to have what I should. If I never had my daughter maybe I wouldn't feel the need to have one. X


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myurkanin817
September 14th, 2014, 06:53 PM
I just want to let you know I'm sorry for the loss of your daughter. I'm very sorry. And about the 12 week scan, I'm in the same boat as you. This is our first baby but I don't think we'd be able to afford anymore. I've been so depressed yesterday and today. Just know that you are not alone. :bighug: let's hope your hubby will try again... :fingers: let's hope we both can try to deal with all this, and have a happy and healthy 9 months. If you need someone to talk to just send me a message. I have no one to talk to except my hubby. It would be nice to chat with someone. :LotsofLove:

blackbekki
September 16th, 2014, 04:25 PM
Thank you very much hunni, I do hope maybe we are wrong, a few have questioned the nub being a nub but if not then I'll have 3 beautiful boys and 1 beautiful angel. Had a reading about her and it was amazing after blaming myself for the last 2 years in her passing away I was told she said it had to happen and nothing I did caused her to be born sleeping, also I will have a girl very soon. I told her I doubt this pregnancy and she just turned round and said my daughter loves me and I will have a daughter. Only time will tell. And I don't know how to message on here Hun will have to let me know x


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speacies
September 19th, 2014, 05:45 PM
So I had my 12 week scan yesterday and everyone has guessed boy, this will be my 3rd boy if it is (pic)
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/09/06/0e8463e6a53f35fe74f965bfa0005fba.jpg
I feel cheated as I had a daughter who was stillborn at 41 weeks. I am still holding out hope this is a girl and zoomed in on the nub which looks like a flat fork with a lump above(pic)
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/09/06/271228eeaf4366649fbbf176e0aa04c5.jpg
I know I am clutching at straws here and I will get used to the idea but doesn't stop me feeling disappointed. Any advice greatly appreciated. I'll include 12 week of my daughter as a comparison and see what others think xx
(My daughters)
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/09/06/2f361410cb33ad89522effa7239c2756.jpg


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I know exactly what you're feeling. Our youngest boy is 10 months old and we had hoped third time would be the charm but it wasn't. Now I am pregnant with number four and it's our final attempt for a girl and so far all guesses have also been a boy. It's very disappointing when you hear the wrong gender especially if this is your last. I hope that all guesses are wrong and you end up with the little girl you want. However if you do end up with a third boy I can tell you it is so much fun to have three boys and while you will grieve a little the moment you hold him you'll fall in love and forget everything else. Good luck, truly.

Shazza7429
September 26th, 2014, 02:27 PM
Hope all is healthy and you get your little girl x

Mrs.tinkerbell
September 30th, 2014, 03:19 PM
Tricky one. First pic I'd say boy second looks girl. Hope u get ur girl can't imagine how that must of been for you!! Good luck look xx

blackbekki
September 30th, 2014, 05:22 PM
Thank you Hun x


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Mrs.tinkerbell
October 3rd, 2014, 03:02 PM
Hey blackekki I posted scan the other day it wasn't mine but for my sis and had a few mixed guesses but Ingender said girl well she found out it's a boy!! My son and daughters nub were very similar you never know, could still be your little girl. My sis is pretty gutted.����

blackbekki
October 3rd, 2014, 05:28 PM
I retook pic of second scan for my own reference and made me even more confused
http://tapatalk.imageshack.com/v2/14/10/03/532367e5d74486dec272b2e05c37a191.jpg
Looks huge but am still thinking boy :( as soon as I get the confirmation out of the way I know my main focus will be to bring my baby home not a box like I did with my daughter, if I do get told girl I'll be estactic but honest wont believe it til I hold her if you get me x


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Mrs.tinkerbell
October 4th, 2014, 01:35 AM
I will keep looking out for update. Fingers crossed xxxx

blackbekki
October 4th, 2014, 03:39 AM
4 weeks on Monday :) x


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blackbekki
October 23rd, 2014, 03:29 AM
11 days to go excited to see baby again but slightly scared x


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amo
October 23rd, 2014, 04:10 AM
I have everything crossed for you to get your girl. I can't imagine going through what you've been through.
Hugs. X

blackbekki
October 23rd, 2014, 06:05 AM
Thank you hunni x


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Mrs.tinkerbell
October 23rd, 2014, 09:37 AM
I keep checking I feel nervous for other people lol. Fingers crossed not long now xx

Mommy3b
October 23rd, 2014, 01:34 PM
I am so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. I have three sons and my hubby and I thought we were done. Surprise surprise we got pregnant this summer. Waiting between scans is so hard (I know because I've been driving myself crazy analyzing my last sono pic) i literally loose sleep at night. I would go into it thinking boy and if you do hear girl it will be a surprise! In the meantime just think of how lucky this little guy will be to have two big brothers. My three boys are very close and fill our home with lots of laughter and love. If your is another sweet little guy I'm sure yours will do the same. x

blackbekki
October 25th, 2014, 03:38 AM
I am really thinking boy, rather go in that way then praying girl to feel devastated my last chance failed. If this ones a boy him and my youngest will be at a great age gap to play well :) thank you cx


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blackbekki
October 31st, 2014, 09:55 AM
Only the weekend to go :o not sure if I am worried babys going to be a boy or wishing everything's going to be ok x


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Leokat
November 2nd, 2014, 02:41 AM
Just wanted to say good luck for your scan, must be nerve wracking. I really hope you get your princess. Xxx

blackbekki
November 2nd, 2014, 05:28 AM
Thanks hunni 29 hours to go x


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amo
November 2nd, 2014, 02:14 PM
Gosh, I'm nervous for you! Can't imagine how I'll feel when my time comes, only 5 weeks (pahaha!) Huge good luck. I'll be checking tomorrow. :-) xxx

Dreamofpink
November 3rd, 2014, 04:22 AM
Good luck for today :)

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blackbekki
November 3rd, 2014, 05:17 AM
Thank you ladies only 4 more hours x


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blackbekki
November 3rd, 2014, 10:33 AM
Dreams of pink are gone :'( another blue bundle for me, not as clear as my other two boys and I never actually saw but she saw boy parts, rescan in 9 days as anterior placenta and baby wouldn't budge x


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Leokat
November 3rd, 2014, 08:56 PM
Logged in to see how things went, congrats on your beautiful little boy. Sorry you didn't hear pink, we have all been there in some way. This little boy will be just awesome xxx hugs xxx

amo
November 4th, 2014, 05:46 AM
Sorry you didn't get your girl... :-( I'll probably be in the same situation next month.
Hugs. xxx

blackbekki
November 4th, 2014, 01:26 PM
Thank you ladies hope you hear your desired gender amo xx


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amo
November 6th, 2014, 04:19 PM
Thanks hun. I hope you're feeling ok. xxx

blackbekki
November 7th, 2014, 07:05 AM
Surprisingly yes Hun, as long as baby is healthy and comes home what more could I wish for, there's always next time or adoption but if not 3 boys and an angel daughter is good enough for me x


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