How hard did you sway?

[Sp4rkl3s]

And how much do you think your sway affected the outcome, the gender and how you feel emotionally?
I swayed quite well for about 6 months, lost a lot of weight, but after many bfns, desperate for a bfp and finding the pressure of ttc and swaying difficult, I relaxed my sway a lot over the following few months until it was almost non existent. Now im full of what ifs and wondering how much effect swaying or relaxing a sway has.

[Kittybear]

I swayed as hard as I could (and for quite a long time - 6 months total, 4 months hard); I'd give it an 80% on atomic's sliding scale of nothing at all to everything and the kitchen sink. I had my beautiful opposite. He isn't a 'fail' and neither am I; my experience and his reality is another chapter in my life.

I still believe is swaying, just not for me.

Hope that helps xxx

[Sp4rkl3s]

Thankyou so much for sharing your experience. Was your strongest sway at the end or did you relax it for 2 months just before conceiving?
I had convinced myself that I'd be happy with either gender as long as I'd done all I could but I let myself down by not sticking to the diet until I conceived and im scared I may have swayed blue by increasing calories and nutrients after 6 months on LE diet.
I will make peace with all of this eventually but it's such a roller coaster!

[pink_bean]

Thankyou so much for sharing your experience. Was your strongest sway at the end or did you relax it for 2 months just before conceiving?
I had convinced myself that I'd be happy with either gender as long as I'd done all I could but I let myself down by not sticking to the diet until I conceived and im scared I may have swayed blue by increasing calories and nutrients after 6 months on LE diet.
I will make peace with all of this eventually but it's such a roller coaster!

Not to worry you, but what you described is exactly what happened to me and I did get an opposite. But I agree with Kittybear, he is not a failure he is my beautiful opposite that I never knew I wanted but am so glad to have him.

That being said, it doesn't mean your sway didn't work but just on the chance it didn't I want you to know you will be in love either way.

[Kittybear]

I swayed hardest at the end Hun. But my baby boy wanted to exist more, and now he is here, I wouldn't have it any other way.

Best of luck xx

[Dreamofpink]

Unfortunately, like the other ladies here, I too was a kitchen sink swayer & had to loosen up in the month in which I conceived as I'd stopped ov through dieting too hard. I used Clomid for my sway too, but ds3 was just meant to be - my beautiful, funny sweet little opposite :)

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[hotdogz&boyz]

I swayed twice.

On a scale of 0-100, i would've put my first sway at a 50% sway. It wasn't super strong, but was much more than "letting what happens, happen." I felt I incorporated what I wanted, some of the important tactics and left what I either couldn't do or didn't want to. My first sway resulted in my DG.

On the same scale, my second sway was probably a 60% sway. I added a couple aspects. I was in a better place emotionally with swaying, thus not obsessing about it. I actually was more confident in my second sway than my first. My second sway resulted in an adorable opposite.

I believe in swaying. But I also believe that sometimes our bodies or our children are more powerful. Sure, if you let up your sway, you *might* be more likely to have an opposite. Or maybe not. I don't think we know these things. Like a previous poster said, in the end, it won't matter. The baby you get will be the one you want. Even if you are sad before you meet him/her.

[Sp4rkl3s]

Thankyou so much for taking the time to post. Reading your replies is really helping me to put things into perspective a bit more. I seem to have convinced myself that because I increased what I was eating after dieting that my body will see that as improving conditions and I'll get a boy for sure, and it will be my own fault that I won't get a DD. If I believed it was fate or a 50/50 chance then I wouldn't feel responsible but I really feel like I've let myself down. I know I'd love another DS, and I'd never think of a child as a fail but I already feel like I've failed.

[Magical22]

When will you find out the gender?


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[Sp4rkl3s]

I haven't yet decided whether to find out the gender or wait untill birth.

[Magical22]

I'm good at staying around 1200 calories but snacking will be my downfall!!!


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[Myloves]

I did a half assed sway with dd1 but I quit because I couldn't stand the girl diet. The twins I didn't bother at all - but then again they were a surprise!
I believe in swaying, but I also believe that sometimes our baby's need to exist triumphs over any sway.

[keepthefaith]

I did 100% sway if I'm honest as I'm such a worrier I knew if I didn't I would always be annoyed at myself. I did the 60 mins daily exercise and le diet, sups etc and believe its mainly the exercise that did it for us. We are having a girl so it worked for us. I always was happy with a boy knowing that I had given the sway my all. For me that was the only way I was going to be ok with it. Everyone is different in what they believe. I have a friend who is psychic who told me I would always have a girl anyway so who knows!

[pink_bean]

Thankyou so much for taking the time to post. Reading your replies is really helping me to put things into perspective a bit more. I seem to have convinced myself that because I increased what I was eating after dieting that my body will see that as improving conditions and I'll get a boy for sure, and it will be my own fault that I won't get a DD. If I believed it was fate or a 50/50 chance then I wouldn't feel responsible but I really feel like I've let myself down. I know I'd love another DS, and I'd never think of a child as a fail but I already feel like I've failed.

I felt much the same as you after finding out I was having another boy. I took a "break" from swaying, thinking it would still take us a few months to conceive as I'm older. Nope got pregnant that same month. But who knows? Maybe I wouldn't have conceived if I kept swaying the way I was. It was honestly making me depressed and tired. So I gave myself a break. And now, even though I still wish I could also have a daughter someday, I'm so glad I got my snuggly sweet little boy. He is the light of my life and I feel so much love for him. It's crazy I was ever disappointed. I hope you feel the same way regardless of how things turn out.