TTC boy this summer... sway buddies?

[Blue-dream]

When is your AF due Sora?

[Sora]

Couting delayed O, it should be around now. We'll see.

[tkelly621]

Fingers crossed for you ladies ������������ 5w3d today was the worst nausea wise :( I’m miserable already :( have my first appt on sept 8th with ultrasound :) I’ll be 8 weeks :)

[Sora]

Congrats tkelly and count the weeks, the nausea should soon go away !

Well, AF is here so I guess it didn't work. I wonder if I even ovulated at all since I had delayed O and it was way too hot and stressfull outside :rolleyes:

It hurts this time though. Very tired. I wonder if I try again next cycle since I've been a bit remiss in my diet during 2ww or if I wait next year... I did put a bit of weight and HE diet isn't cheap so I wonder...

[aira22]

I'm so sorry Sora! But don't worry, it will work next time when you have less stress. Just keep on trying! Now you're rolling with swaying and everything. I think it would be even harder to start all over from the bottom again next year? I'd love to see your BFP soon!!!

[Blue-dream]

Sorry about that Sora. I am waiting for my AF on Tuesday. I already have all the symptoms of it.

I agree with tkelly. If you postpone it to next year you will have to start all over again.

[Sora]

Prob is, it really has been hard for us lately, we had unplanned expenses and HE isn't a cheap diet with all the meat and nuts and such... I'd rather wait for better times than eat "wrong" and risk getting an opposite, especially since it may be our last baby.

Also, we have things planned for 2019 that we can't postpone. They would have been manageable while already pregnant but not while TTC and BD (DH may not be there some months) hence why I was thinking of postponing our attempts to next summer where he WILL be there for sure.

After a discussion with DH yesterday, we came to the conclusion that we can still try again in october/november (since O was delayed, next O day will fall at a time when he won't be home so BD next cycle will not be possible). But if this doesn't work, idk, but we may well have to wait for next summer. I'll keep you updated.

[tkelly621]

So sorry, Sora! i pray for your BFP soon and when the time is right.

[Sora]

Thank you girls !

[aira22]

I cross my fingers for you whatever decision you make!

[aira22]

It's so quiet... how is everyone?

[Sora]

Trying to get over the failed attempt. Trying to lose a bit of weight because I put on too much (for me) with the diet.

[aira22]

I don't know if I need to be worried, but I'm having constant brown spotting and on-and-off cramping (lightly). Only once the spotting turned into red blood but it was after BD and it went back to brown after a day. Did anyone experience something like this? (I never had any spotting in my previous pregnancies)

[Sora]

I don't know if I need to be worried, but I'm having constant brown spotting and on-and-off cramping (lightly). Only once the spotting turned into red blood but it was after BD and it went back to brown after a day. Did anyone experience something like this? (I never had any spotting in my previous pregnancies)

Lightly bleeding after BD a bit rough can happen, I had that once with DD2. But constant spotting and on and off cramping doesn't seem normal, you should go see a doc quickly aira. At best, you will be reassured, at worst, maybe something can be done. You're... what two months along ? Almost three ?

[Tharyla]

Hi Aira,

I had some cramping at around 10 weeks with DD. Not too strong but enough to feel uncomfortable. It was similar to period cramps. I went to the early pregnancy unit in my hospital and had a scan. Everything looked good and I was sent home ferling reassured.

[aira22]

Hi, thanks for responding. Today I was feeling really good, hardly cramping at all. If it's not getting worse, I want to hold out 1 more day till Monday (27th) when I have my appointment for the first scan anyway and hopefully get reassurance of everything being ok. I'm 8 wks and some days now.

[aira22]

just wanted to update, everything is fine. Heartbeat was seen :heart::D now another month of waiting till next scan. I will be quite nervous then hoping to see a nub lol

[tkelly621]

Had a visit to the ER while on vacation . Woke up bleeding red and enough to turn the toilet water red. They did a quick scan on the er machine . Baby measured a day ahead with a heart rate of 162. Can’t stand up with vomiting at the moment . Absolutely miserable ������

[Sora]

Oh no tkelly ! Praying hard for you ! :pray:

[Blue-dream]

Hope aira22 and tkelly621 feel better soon and see the nub.

Sora how are you going this month? I think you must have ovulated by now right?

[Sora]

Ah you're right I have but DH is not home so I can't do anything. Will maybe try in November. Maybe cause last check-up has shown I have put on way too much weight before and during the diet and I have to loose it all first. It won't do good to my health to add anymore pounds with a pregnancy. So... sad but no choice. I'm starting to think it will take til next summer, I suck at loosing weight. What about you Blue ? How are you ?

[Blue-dream]

Oh bummer!

I had a big party planned last weekend so was quite busy and may be stressed.
opk didn't come up with solid smiley on CD14 at all on the day I expected it to be! Didn't test it before CD14 though! But had ewcm. So just went ahead with BD. As per FF I am ovulating today so have BD'ed yesterday and day before.

I have asked atomic in a different thread. But I remember when this happened to you she suggested you to BD around expected ovulation time and then BD again if you get positive opk later on right?

I have only one CB stick with me now. So will have to start using internet cheapies. But to be honest I am tired of testing so will just stop and BD based on my body symptoms as I am super regular.

[Sora]

Oh bummer!

I had a big party planned last weekend so was quite busy and may be stressed.
opk didn't come up with solid smiley on CD14 at all on the day I expected it to be! Didn't test it before CD14 though! But had ewcm. So just went ahead with BD. As per FF I am ovulating today so have BD'ed yesterday and day before.

I have asked atomic in a different thread. But I remember when this happened to you she suggested you to BD around expected ovulation time and then BD again if you get positive opk later on right?

I have only one CB stick with me now. So will have to start using internet cheapies. But to be honest I am tired of testing so will just stop and BD based on my body symptoms as I am super regular.

Yes that's what I did to be sure. But I wonder if it helped since DH was tired in the end from all this BDs... I'm not sure for my part about stopping opks cause I'm super regular too, nailed ovulation for each of my pregnancies and it didn't get me a boy in the end... Oc each was a one attempt with very low frequency so I wasn't swaying blue anyway... But I'm too afraid of having a slight delay like the other time and ending up with one attempt and another DD2's scenario because I had my three attempts too soon. God I want that son ! So much has gone wrong in my life, especially these last few years... Can't I succeed in ONE little thing for once ?

[Blue-dream]

Yes that's what I did to be sure. But I wonder if it helped since DH was tired in the end from all this BDs... I'm not sure for my part about stopping opks cause I'm super regular too, nailed ovulation for each of my pregnancies and it didn't get me a boy in the end... Oc each was a one attempt with very low frequency so I wasn't swaying blue anyway... But I'm too afraid of having a slight delay like the other time and ending up with one attempt and another DD2's scenario because I had my three attempts too soon. God I want that son ! So much has gone wrong in my life, especially these last few years... Can't I succeed in ONE little thing for once ?

I know it's annoying! I am already tired with 2 back to back attempts.

I hope we all get our boy baby's soon.

[Throwaway_panther]

Yes that's what I did to be sure. But I wonder if it helped since DH was tired in the end from all this BDs... I'm not sure for my part about stopping opks cause I'm super regular too, nailed ovulation for each of my pregnancies and it didn't get me a boy in the end... Oc each was a one attempt with very low frequency so I wasn't swaying blue anyway... But I'm too afraid of having a slight delay like the other time and ending up with one attempt and another DD2's scenario because I had my three attempts too soon. God I want that son ! So much has gone wrong in my life, especially these last few years... Can't I succeed in ONE little thing for once ?

I have no advice Sora other than I understand and relate so hard to your statement. I hope you get your boy -- I hope we all get our boys!

[Sora]

Thank you Panther, how is it going with your pregnancy ?

[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you Panther, how is it going with your pregnancy ?

Since I started going to Physical Therapy for the low back pain, much better. Unfortunately our (male) dog of roughly 9 years got a diagnosis of Stage IV cancer that completely came out of the blue for us, so I'm feeling like I'm losing a son all over again. I'm devastated that our baby will never meet him, and that my DD is truly all alone right now...

[Amel]

Hi,
Anyone is going to TTC this October? My name is Amel and I would like to have some support. We can exchange food intake, new recipes, OPK questions....I am new to the site, I joined a month ago. I have 2 beautiful girls :ballerina: 8 months and :princess: 4 years and I am doing my MBA online while waiting to see if I can get pregnant again at 36 years old. Cant go to my previous job Industrial Hygienist due to the exposure to chemicals. I will be a stay home mom for a little while and finish my MBA. I started with a weight of 32 pounds and now I am 38 and sometimes i see 40 pounds lol. I am sure I am at 38 pounds at least, so this diet is working. I am pleased to see that I am finally gaining a little pounds. My weight at my DD1 was 114 and tI think 118 DD2. I hope by gaining weight will help my sway. Hope someone will join this journey and help each others.

[Sora]

Amel : Hey welcome ! I may be trying end of October/start of November so we can support each other... I'm not sure pounds are the only thing that sway. Some mothers of boys I know are very thin and I'm way overweight so if pounds were the thing, I would have 2 boys, not 2 girls. It's more about nutrients and regular meals really. Did you post your sway somewhere ?

Panther : Oh dear, it's terrible. I know what it's like to loose an animal. I've lost almost all the cats that grew with me these last few years and it's so hard to see them go ! I told myself the same thing, they won't play with my girls ! One of the last to go had almost the same kind of problem than your dog. She was feeling a bit unwell, was treated for some digestive illness. But she didn't bounce back after that, she continued to waste away. She was more and more tired, slept at all times, ate less... I knew she was at her wit ends but I was still suprised... They did lots of tests and didn't find anything. Then suddenly a young student thought about looking her lungs although she was breathing just fine... And there it was : terminal lung cancer, all silent and unnoticed but there. Her lungs were basically ruined. Came out of the blue. They asked what to do and my grandmother told them to end it. I was still numb. In 48 hours the cat was gone and I couldn't speak to her one last time. I miss her a lot. Sometimes you wonder why they can't live a full human lifespan at your side.

[Amel]

Amel : Hey welcome ! I may be trying end of October/start of November so we can support each other... I'm not sure pounds are the only thing that sway. Some mothers of boys I know are very thin and I'm way overweight so if pounds were the thing, I would have 2 boys, not 2 girls. It's more about nutrients and regular meals really. Did you post your sway somewhere ?

Panther : Oh dear, it's terrible. I know what it's like to loose an animal. I've lost almost all the cats that grew with me these last few years and it's so hard to see them go ! I told myself the same thing, they won't play with my girls ! One of the last to go had almost the same kind of problem than your dog. She was feeling a bit unwell, was treated for some digestive illness. But she didn't bounce back after that, she continued to waste away. She was more and more tired, slept at all times, ate less... I knew she was at her wit ends but I was still suprised... They did lots of tests and didn't find anything. Then suddenly a young student thought about looking her lungs although she was breathing just fine... And there it was : terminal lung cancer, all silent and unnoticed but there. Her lungs were basically ruined. Came out of the blue. They asked what to do and my grandmother told them to end it. I was still numb. In 48 hours the cat was gone and I couldn't speak to her one last time. I miss her a lot. Sometimes you wonder why they can't live a full human lifespan at your side.

Hi Sora,

Thank you for your reply. Yeah I have a sway body lol. Yes for me is mostly the nutrients. I used to eat one healthy meal and a lot of homemade soups, no breakfast just coffee or coffee with a cookie lol. Lunch was always around 3 or so but mostly leftovers/ soup or sometimes skipping it.
Dinner always healthy. Not eating salad a lots, no cokes or juices. I was maybe eating less than a 1200 calories.
I am following the 21- Meal plan Atomic sent me and I am stuffing myself. The hardest part was the nuts snack before meals. I take 1/2 c almond and I stay full. I just stay a little late to fit all the meals in.
I am excited that you are TTC this October and November. My ovulation starts the first week of every month around the 5th...... so hope we will stay in touch and :cheerteam: each other :bluesperm::bluecheer:. What do you mean by posting my sway somewhere?

[Blue-dream]

Hi Amel,

Welcome to the thread and good luck with your boy sway.

I am ttc since July still no luck. This month I have finished my ovulation but couldn't see any non flashing smiley on CB but still went ahead and tried based on FF predictions and also dtd EOD after that for 2-3 attempts. Now have stopped testing and in 2WW. I am trying not to raise my hopes up no any symptoms yet though other than minor twinges in my boobs and occasional light cramping in lower abdomen. But have had all these even in my previous cycles :D

I think what Sora meant about posting sway was few people post their attempts in swaying, similar format to successful sways, to get atomic's and other ladies comments on it.

[Throwaway_panther]

Amel : Hey welcome ! I may be trying end of October/start of November so we can support each other... I'm not sure pounds are the only thing that sway. Some mothers of boys I know are very thin and I'm way overweight so if pounds were the thing, I would have 2 boys, not 2 girls. It's more about nutrients and regular meals really. Did you post your sway somewhere ?

Panther : Oh dear, it's terrible. I know what it's like to loose an animal. I've lost almost all the cats that grew with me these last few years and it's so hard to see them go ! I told myself the same thing, they won't play with my girls ! One of the last to go had almost the same kind of problem than your dog. She was feeling a bit unwell, was treated for some digestive illness. But she didn't bounce back after that, she continued to waste away. She was more and more tired, slept at all times, ate less... I knew she was at her wit ends but I was still suprised... They did lots of tests and didn't find anything. Then suddenly a young student thought about looking her lungs although she was breathing just fine... And there it was : terminal lung cancer, all silent and unnoticed but there. Her lungs were basically ruined. Came out of the blue. They asked what to do and my grandmother told them to end it. I was still numb. In 48 hours the cat was gone and I couldn't speak to her one last time. I miss her a lot. Sometimes you wonder why they can't live a full human lifespan at your side.

I am so sorry about the loss of your cat! That sounds awful, and yes, very similar to our situation. We went from, 'Our dog picked up a bug' to 'We had to put him down from metastatic cancer' within 2 weeks, and he was only 9 or so :( He was a senior dog, but had always been in such good shape and healthy. It's the suddeness that is killing me. And I just can slowly feeling myself slipping into the antepartum depression -- with my first pregnancy, it was the GD. Now, it's the loss of my dog! I seem to have such a hard time hormonally resisting it. I was doing so well this pregnancy too...

[Sora]

Hi Amel,

Welcome to the thread and good luck with your boy sway.

I am ttc since July still no luck. This month I have finished my ovulation but couldn't see any non flashing smiley on CB but still went ahead and tried based on FF predictions and also dtd EOD after that for 2-3 attempts. Now have stopped testing and in 2WW. I am trying not to raise my hopes up no any symptoms yet though other than minor twinges in my boobs and occasional light cramping in lower abdomen. But have had all these even in my previous cycles :D

I think what Sora meant about posting sway was few people post their attempts in swaying, similar format to successful sways, to get atomic's and other ladies comments on it.

Yes that's what I meant, thank you Blue ! I'm sorry these last 2 weeks I've got no real time for myself between DD2 going to kindergarten and looking for a job... I'm sorry Blue, still nothing ? I'm starting to fear I will not be able to make my attempt at the end of October/November. A lot of bad news happened this week and my health is not really good right now. I fear TTC in this state will only result in a girl, if it works at all. Sadly, after that, we face months of DH not being home at the time of O (unless delayed) !:tissue: Seems like a pregnancy in 2018 is not meant to be... I'm praying for 2019 to be a better time all around because things are not looking too bright now.


I am so sorry about the loss of your cat! That sounds awful, and yes, very similar to our situation. We went from, 'Our dog picked up a bug' to 'We had to put him down from metastatic cancer' within 2 weeks, and he was only 9 or so :( He was a senior dog, but had always been in such good shape and healthy. It's the suddeness that is killing me. And I just can slowly feeling myself slipping into the antepartum depression -- with my first pregnancy, it was the GD. Now, it's the loss of my dog! I seem to have such a hard time hormonally resisting it. I was doing so well this pregnancy too...

Oh panther, I feel for you... I had bad antepartum with DD1 because the pregnancy was difficult, GD and reliving years of abuse. And DD2, well, I had to deal with the stress of a surprise pregnancy and an even worse GD, and then DH starting a new job and being absent from home most of the time.

You were doing fine and you will be doing fine, I'm sure. You just need to mourn your dog, give yourself some time. Maybe think of adopting a new one ? It may seem too soon but sometimes it helps. It does not replace your dog but taking care of another animal keeps you from thinking dark thoughts and helps you deal with the loss. An aquaintance of mine adopted two cats after the loss of her 16 years-old own and took in two more that her old neighboor had to leave behind when she had to move into her children's house because of health problems.

[Amel]

Yes that's what I meant, thank you Blue ! I'm sorry these last 2 weeks I've got no real time for myself between DD2 going to kindergarten and looking for a job... I'm sorry Blue, still nothing ? I'm starting to fear I will not be able to make my attempt at the end of October/November. A lot of bad news happened this week and my health is not really good right now. I fear TTC in this state will only result in a girl, if it works at all. Sadly, after that, we face months of DH not being home at the time of O (unless delayed) !:tissue: Seems like a pregnancy in 2018 is not meant to be... I'm praying for 2019 to be a better time all around because things are not looking too bright now.



Oh panther, I feel for you... I had bad antepartum with DD1 because the pregnancy was difficult, GD and reliving years of abuse. And DD2, well, I had to deal with the stress of a surprise pregnancy and an even worse GD, and then DH starting a new job and being absent from home most of the time.

You were doing fine and you will be doing fine, I'm sure. You just need to mourn your dog, give yourself some time. Maybe think of adopting a new one ? It may seem too soon but sometimes it helps. It does not replace your dog but taking care of another animal keeps you from thinking dark thoughts and helps you deal with the loss. An aquaintance of mine adopted two cats after the loss of her 16 years-old own and took in two more that her old neighboor had to leave behind when she had to move into her children's house because of health problems.

Thank you guys for your responses. I am sorry Sora things happen for a reason and I hope life gets better soon and you get to relax. I used to be just like that! I keep reminding myself that overthinking and stressing out over things will make think even worse. My problem was if I decide to stay home and be with the girls and have another baby OR go to work since I just graduated and worked for over 10 years to get those degrees. I asked God for a sign and whatever he shows me I go with it. My daughter woke up the next day crying telling me that she had a really bad dream. I asked her about the dream and she said Mommy you were gone in my dream and i kept looking for you but I couldnt reach you. The same time my God showed me this site and money came from nowhere from an account I forgot the password lol to cover my MBA tuition. I know its hard to believe but prayers have powers. Life is tough and please remember that even if you cry, stress over things it wont change anything. The problem is there you just have to ignore it. If there is anything we can help you with remember we are here for support. Hope you will get better soon and you get to focus on ttc. Always think positive even when all the odds are against you. Praying that your ovulation returns to normal this way you can get back in the game.
Panther very sorry for your loss :sad:

[Sora]

Thank you Amel but I don't believe in God's goodness anymore. I think He hates me and wants me gone from His Création. I spent years of my life believing there was a reason for so much suffering. But now I have to watch people, whom I know are liars, cheaters and even criminals get every dream I ever had handed to them on a silver plate while each month brings a new down or loss for me. After the things I went through that year alone, I've honestly given up on hoping for a better future. Things will just go down because that's the only path they seem to know and there's no end to this. Sorry for this depressing post but I went through some terrible times and I'm in a dark place right now. And I can't talk to anyone about it irl.

[aira22]

I'm back from our holidays -with hardly any internet or time for being on here- so I need to catch up on everything. I hope everyone is fine!!

Oh no.. so sorry to hear about you having such a bad time Sora! Don't say you have given up hope for a better future! Thats too sad. Especially when you are aaaaaall the way down, it can only go up again. There IS an end to sh**ty situations. Stay strong and try to see the bright moments in life. I mean if you have been in such dark places it surely has made you a stronger woman! Don't let bad things happen to you again! And if there is really nothing good in you life, at least you have your girls. They love you and need you to stay sane.

[Tharyla]

Hi Ladies

Welcome Amel and welcome back Aira!

Sora I can understand how you feel. But trust me there is light at the end of the tunnel. I know it’s easier to say but let’s just try to believe it even when we just want to give up.

I had my solid opk on 1st September. We BD’d that day and twice the day after.
I tested at 8dpo: bfn and 11 dpo: bfn. This made me so depressed so I decided to just stop testing and started looking at all the additional supplements I would adf for out next month attempt.

AF didn’t turn up on Sunday as expected so took a test on Monday and there it is BFP!
I was so happy but that joy was short-lived. I am now sitting here thinking about my sway over and over again and convincing myself that I didn’t do enough!
I thought swaying was hard, but these 9 months are going to be very long. I’m even asking myself whether I should just go team green.

[aira22]

Yay Tharyla, congrats to your BFP!!!! :pregnant:

I can understand you worrying about the sway!! I think it happens to all of us. You always could have done something better/different. But I believe it's not all swaying but also a huge portion of luck. There were women with the best sway ever getting the opposite and others were lucky with crappy sways. Try not to worry - I know easy written lol and enjoy you pregnancy. Going team green is an option too.. (not for me though. haha)

[Tharyla]

Thank you Aira, you're right! Swaying might change the odds but nature/God has the final word! Fingers crossed for our blue and healthy bundle! :babym:

[Amel]

Thank you Amel but I don't believe in God's goodness anymore. I think He hates me and wants me gone from His Création. I spent years of my life believing there was a reason for so much suffering. But now I have to watch people, whom I know are liars, cheaters and even criminals get every dream I ever had handed to them on a silver plate while each month brings a new down or loss for me. After the things I went through that year alone, I've honestly given up on hoping for a better future. Things will just go down because that's the only path they seem to know and there's no end to this. Sorry for this depressing post but I went through some terrible times and I'm in a dark place right now. And I can't talk to anyone about it irl.

Sorry to hear that Sora. I hope everything gets back to normal soon. Life is hard and we just have to live with it. Best of luck to your sway.

[tkelly621]

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[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you Amel but I don't believe in God's goodness anymore. I think He hates me and wants me gone from His Création. I spent years of my life believing there was a reason for so much suffering. But now I have to watch people, whom I know are liars, cheaters and even criminals get every dream I ever had handed to them on a silver plate while each month brings a new down or loss for me. After the things I went through that year alone, I've honestly given up on hoping for a better future. Things will just go down because that's the only path they seem to know and there's no end to this. Sorry for this depressing post but I went through some terrible times and I'm in a dark place right now. And I can't talk to anyone about it irl.

Please always feel free to PM me Sora. I relate very strongly to what you are saying.

[aira22]

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congrats on your sweet baby! do you have clues already??

[aira22]

are you going to post your picture in the ultrasound forum so the experts can guess?

I could not find out anything from my 13 weeks scan :shrug: ... so it's still exciting. I'm really nervous lol

[tkelly621]

I’ve decided to find out the sex . My anatomy scan is November 21 ������ I do feel like it’s another girl though �� owell

[Sora]

Fingers crossed for you tkelly !

[aira22]

I’ve decided to find out the sex . My anatomy scan is November 21 ������ I do feel like it’s another girl though �� owell
That's exciting!
My anatomy scan is November 16 and I too feel like it's another girl...this pregnancy is just the same as the previous ones. My daughters started to tell everyone that they are looking forward to having another sister soon...:suprise:
I still have my fingers crossed for both of us!!! I think it should be our turn now for blue! LOL :boybear2:

[tkelly621]

Thankyou

[aira22]

Only one more week till I probably will be finding out... :nails:
It's ridiculous, but I get my heart rate up thinking of the moment when the sonographer will be showing the gender. I seriously started considering staying team green... but then I know I couldn't resist to know. Oh my oh my LOL

At least I have a good feeling that baby is OK because I can feel it kicking now :awe:

[Sora]

:fx: aira ! Good luck !

[atomic sagebrush]

Good luck aira!! So excited for you!

[jesi0709]

Hello everyone!
I’m new here and I’m looking for a sway buddy! We are probably going to start to TTC in the spring or summer.
I have one daughter who is 2.5, and now we want our little boy to complete our family!
I am 30, hubby will be 31 next month.
I am on the implant and plan to have it taken out at the beginning of next year.
I do want to start supplements and dieting ASAP and would love a sway buddy to bounce ideas off of and maybe share meal ideas. Hubby is very supportive and is going to be dieting along with me!!
I’m so excited but nervous too.
Jessica

[aira22]

Hi and welcome Jessica! I'm sure there will be someone to join you in this journey. It's still early now if you want to start next spring/summer, but its best to be prepared in advance. There are A LOT of threads that you can read till then as well! good luck already :)

[violagirl87]

Hi everyone! I swayed blue! I am 31 DH is 34 and we have 2 DD aged 3.5 and 21 months . When we started TTC again for number 3 I had only read shettles and that was a failed month. Came across atomics essays and started my blue sway. Second month I got my BFP.
I hope we did enough for a blue sway, I have to admit I was more impatient for a pregnancy than a perfect blue sway.
My very minimal dinner only diet was changed to 3 meals a day with a lot of protein and salt, and minimising sugar, taking elevit tablets and using guafenesin. My exercise was mainly taking care of my daughters as I don’t have much energy for anything more as I work 3 days a week as well. The diet put 3 kg on me in 3 months so I’m thankful for a BFP
DH was taking menevit, didn’t do any diet changes.

My big regret is using baby oil instead of preseed as I got busy the day of my positive OPK and didn’t go out to buy any and I’m really worried about it now.

On our positive OPK we BD that night and the next night and weren’t able to do the third night so that’s a bit of regret for me too.


On the plus side DH is a radiologist so he’s super excited to do all my scans again and we plan on taking the NIPT test at 11 weeks.

Good luck and blue blue blue dust to everyone [emoji3531][emoji3531][emoji3531]


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[aira22]

violagirl, I have my fingers crossed for you. Try not to worry about things you think you should have done different in the sway. But I know everyone does after their BFP :giggle:

Sooooo cool that your husband is radiologist!! You will get THE perfect nub and potty shots - ok, with the NIPT test you won't need that haha
I only got crappy pics because my doc didn't care and wouldn't take the time for good shots.
Hopefully I can find out gender at my anatomy scan in 2 days.

As you said: blue dust to us!! :BabyBoy:

[violagirl87]

Good luck and let us know aira!!! I’m excited for u guys who r finding out soon! I’m still nervous to be past the first trimester and out of the danger zone

As for the sway I suppose there’s no going back now lol but I’m sure glad to be off the HE diet [emoji23]


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[violagirl87]

Btw if anyone wants to send me ultrasound pics I can always ask hubby to see what he thinks.
With Both my girls he whispered that they were girls to me before the sonographer told us.
With DD2 at my 12 week scan they said boy but he didn’t agree and said it was way too early to know, and he had the biggest smile when he told me it was a girl at the 20 week scan, he’s got zero gender preferences just wants a lot of kids lol.
But this time I want to do the NIPT and know for sure early on
Blue blue blue dust !


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[aira22]

I just found out: IT'S a BOY! I'm so happy! :bigsmile:

I hope everyone else here swaying blue gets her son too!!!

[violagirl87]

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Congratulations aira!!!!!
I’m so happy for you [emoji2]
Fingers crossed we all get our blue bundles of joy


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[sway_blue]

I just found out: IT'S a BOY! I'm so happy! :bigsmile:

I hope everyone else here swaying blue gets her son too!!!Congratulations Aira. So happy for you. [emoji3]

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[Tharyla]

Congratulations Aira! I'm so happy for you. Enjoy your blue shopping, lots of blessings!

[Sora]

Congrats Aira, glad the wait is over for you !

[aira22]

Thank you Sora. Yes, its so relieving to know what's going on. And of course to know that the sway really worked.
It's crazy but instead of being happy and calm, I'm nervous again for if everything goes right until his birth. I can't wait to hold him in my arms to actually believe that I have a son.

[violagirl87]

Thank you Sora. Yes, its so relieving to know what's going on. And of course to know that the sway really worked.
It's crazy but instead of being happy and calm, I'm nervous again for if everything goes right until his birth. I can't wait to hold him in my arms to actually believe that I have a son.

I think that’s totally normal lol
Fingers crossed the time will fly by! And soon u will have ur darling son [emoji7]


Btw were u able to BD 3* after a positive opk?
Slightly freaking out about my own sway


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[aira22]

Yes, I believe I had 3 attempts. I will reread my posts anyway soon so I can post my whole sway. Then you can read exactly what I did. One forgets things so fast :think:

[Bromedha]

I was waiting for your result :).. Very happy for you.. Please post your detailed sway soon.. Planning to sway December cycle

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[aira22]

violagirl: I had 4 attempt in 36h after +opk.

bromedha: I will post my sway as soon as possible! :)

tkelly: are there any news yet? I'm so excited for you!! keep us updated!

[violagirl87]

violagirl: I had 4 attempt in 36h after +opk.

bromedha: I will post my sway as soon as possible! :)

tkelly: are there any news yet? I'm so excited for you!! keep us updated!

Wowwowow u got 4 attempts !!! Good job!

I only managed 2 after the +opk cuz of DH work schedule and the fact that my girls are up by 6 am
Slightly freaking out about it and the fact that we used baby oil .... pls send some blue dust my way


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[Sora]

violagirl: I had 4 attempt in 36h after +opk.

bromedha: I will post my sway as soon as possible! :)

tkelly: are there any news yet? I'm so excited for you!! keep us updated!

Didn't tkelly said her scan would be on the 21st ? I think it's not done yet... She must be so stressed out :nails: !

Glad you got your blue girls ! So sad Blue and I couldn't join you with our own good news, still waiting for a good time TTC/a BFP :tissue:

[aira22]

Wowwowow u got 4 attempts !!! Good job!

I only managed 2 after the +opk cuz of DH work schedule and the fact that my girls are up by 6 am
Slightly freaking out about it and the fact that we used baby oil .... pls send some blue dust my way


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Yes it was hard work! :giggle: the evening attempt was no problem of course but in the morning I woke DH up at 6 am (kids get up by 7 am) and coerced him to BD lol it's not our favourite time but I was so nervous and couldn't sleep anyway so... later I made him come home on his lunch break (when DD3 was asleep) and of course there was bd in the evening again.

I don't know about the baby oil, but it can't be too bad. Why does it worry you so much?

Blue dust to you!! :bluecheer:

[aira22]

Didn't tkelly said her scan would be on the 21st ? I think it's not done yet... She must be so stressed out :nails: !

Glad you got your blue girls ! So sad Blue and I couldn't join you with our own good news, still waiting for a good time TTC/a BFP :tissue:


Yeah, you are right. Her scan is not done yet.

I hope your perfect time comes soon!!

[Sora]

Yeah, you are right. Her scan is not done yet.

I hope your perfect time comes soon!!

Thank you aira ! Ah your due date makes me so envious ! I hoped for a birth around March/April 2019 (or whatever year really). I myself am born in March but DH, DD1, DD2 and a good part of the people I work with and/or live near are Fall/Winter babies ! It feels quite lonely sometimes being the only Spring child >< ! It would be amazing to get a Spring/Summer birth for once ! :giggle:

[tkelly621]

Yay aira!!!! Congratulations!!! My scan is tomorrow but I’m really feeling girl

[Bromedha]

Good luck tkelly... I pray you hear boy

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[Blue-dream]

I am so happy for you aira22.

Tkelly good luck with your scan and I hope it's a boy for you as well.

I got my bfp girls in October but was so busy couldn't get on tot he forum to post it. I was so busy in October with wedding and was least expecting to be pregnant. I am planning on NIPT test in few weeks and will know what I am having.

Good luck Sora and I am sure you will get your bfp soon.

[Sora]

Oh Blue, what good news ! I'm happy for you ! Sending you a lot of blue dust !

[Blue-dream]

Thanks Sora....

[aira22]

Good luck today tkelly!! I'll be thinking of you :fx:

blue: congrats on your BFP! How exciting :)

[violagirl87]

Congratulations blue! Good luck tkelley! Let us know how it goes on ur scan:)

My doc called me today for an urgent appointment re: my blood tests done on Monday but wouldn’t say what about on the phone . Slightly freaking out at work, will find out tmr ... pls send good vibes my way


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[Sora]

Hey viola I hope it's not too serious.

[aira22]

hope everything is ok viola!

[violagirl87]

Thanks for your support! Doc says I’ve developed hypothyroidism secondary to pregnancy.... doing more tests before giving me meds.... I wonder if swaying led to this, I really doubt it but I just wonder cuz nothing else has been different. Maybe I’m just old now [emoji28]


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[aira22]

Glad it's nothing serious. I'm taking meds for hypothyroidism too, it's not a big deal.

[Sora]

Thanks for your support! Doc says I’ve developed hypothyroidism secondary to pregnancy.... doing more tests before giving me meds.... I wonder if swaying led to this, I really doubt it but I just wonder cuz nothing else has been different. Maybe I’m just old now [emoji28]


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Thought it would be the case, didn't dare voice it but since you weren't sent to the hospital asap, thyroid seemed the only thing that could appear "weird" in blood tests, enough for the doc to call you. It has happened to someone I know recently, in quite the same way...

Like aira said, it's really no big deal and don't worry, swaying didn't do anything. I was told at my last blood check re:thyroid that the more a woman age, the more likely she is to develop these kind of probs, especially after pregnancies (or something).

[violagirl87]

Thanks sora and aira

Yes I’m quite relieved and a bit annoyed they asked me to urgently come in like that but it’s all fine now.

How’s everyone’s thanksgiving


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[Sora]

Thanks sora and aira

Yes I’m quite relieved and a bit annoyed they asked me to urgently come in like that but it’s all fine now.

How’s everyone’s thanksgiving


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Better safe than sorry as they say !

We don't do Thanksgiving. Next holiday will be Christmas :hugs:

[tkelly621]

I am so sorry i didnt update. i totally blanked!!


I had my scan and a drs appt in the same day and i was literally there for 3 hourssssss!! ugh... theres 2 OB's in the office and the one is leaving on Nov 30, so my dr is taking all of the other ones patients so it has really gotten rediculous! hopefully it goes faster next appt.

Anywayyyy... so i went in fully thinking girl, i feel almost identical to my pregnacny with the girls. SO, she put the thing on my belly and i could see the legs and NOTHING in between... so im like oh its a girl... then shes moving it around more and i saw something poking out, and thought it was probably cord... so finally she says.... Well, as for the gender... its looks like a BOY!!!!!!!!! I screamed!! cried, laughed hysterically.... I made her check and double check ... told her we had four girls at home, apologized and said it was just unbleiveable. I am in shock! STILL!! haha... i still have the habit of saying IT instead of him because its so so soooo wierd!!! 11 years of being a girl mom, just never thought it would really happen.

Hope you are all doing well <3

[aira22]

YAYYYY!!!!! tkelly, I'm so happy for you!! :cheerteam: I kind of screamed when I read your post and my husband looked at me like I'd totally lost it LOL I'm so happy we are both that lucky!!!! SO unbelievable :celebrate::xy::celebrate: ours was truly a good sway time hahaha :highfive:

[MiaMelb]

Hey Ladies, I've been casually following this threat every so often just to see how the blue swayers are going. Just wanted to say congrats on the bfp we've seen over the last few months and some confirmed boys too :bluecheer::bluecheer::bluecheer:. Just wondering if there is a threat with 2018 blue sway results? I can't remember seeing one and it's always good to have some stats.

[atomic sagebrush]

huge congrats tkelly!!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Hey Ladies, I've been casually following this threat every so often just to see how the blue swayers are going. Just wanted to say congrats on the bfp we've seen over the last few months and some confirmed boys too :bluecheer::bluecheer::bluecheer:. Just wondering if there is a threat with 2018 blue sway results? I can't remember seeing one and it's always good to have some stats.

:agree: yes here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-boy-sway-/63964-add-your-blue-sway-2018-a.html

[violagirl87]

Congratulations tkelley [emoji177][emoji322][emoji322][emoji322]


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[Blue-dream]

wow congratulations tkelly. Very happy for you :bighug:

[Sora]

I am so sorry i didnt update. i totally blanked!!


I had my scan and a drs appt in the same day and i was literally there for 3 hourssssss!! ugh... theres 2 OB's in the office and the one is leaving on Nov 30, so my dr is taking all of the other ones patients so it has really gotten rediculous! hopefully it goes faster next appt.

Anywayyyy... so i went in fully thinking girl, i feel almost identical to my pregnacny with the girls. SO, she put the thing on my belly and i could see the legs and NOTHING in between... so im like oh its a girl... then shes moving it around more and i saw something poking out, and thought it was probably cord... so finally she says.... Well, as for the gender... its looks like a BOY!!!!!!!!! I screamed!! cried, laughed hysterically.... I made her check and double check ... told her we had four girls at home, apologized and said it was just unbleiveable. I am in shock! STILL!! haha... i still have the habit of saying IT instead of him because its so so soooo wierd!!! 11 years of being a girl mom, just never thought it would really happen.

Hope you are all doing well <3

Congrats tkelly !!!!!!! So happy you finally had your boy !!!!!

[Bromedha]

Congrats tkelly...so happy for you

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[tkelly621]

Thankyou all💙💙💙 we are truly shocked!!! So blessed and excited! I can’t wait to see what he will look like. Good luck to you all. I need to go back and read through and catch up on yall

[LMSM]

Congrats Tkelly!!! Lots of successful blue sways of late :D Mia, I was wondering the same _ so thanks for that link Atomic :)

[violagirl87]

Anyone crave meat or fried chicken all the time and end up with a boy? I feel nauseous and sick all day and as soon as 6-7 at night comes I would literally do anything for some ribs or steak or crispy chicken [emoji50][emoji1786][emoji1786][emoji1786][emoji1786]
Hubby is usually home late and girls are sleeping by 730 so I’ve been getting delivery 2-3 times a week to satisfy my craving if I haven’t already cooked something to my liking [emoji15]


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[Sora]

Anyone crave meat or fried chicken all the time and end up with a boy? I feel nauseous and sick all day and as soon as 6-7 at night comes I would literally do anything for some ribs or steak or crispy chicken [emoji50][emoji1786][emoji1786][emoji1786][emoji1786]
Hubby is usually home late and girls are sleeping by 730 so I’ve been getting delivery 2-3 times a week to satisfy my craving if I haven’t already cooked something to my liking [emoji15]


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Not sure if it means anything despite all the old tales. I craved chicken for DD1 and had so much hope at the time because I heard if you craved meat it meant boy... :worry:

But rather, you have heavy nausea right viola ? Isn't it your body's way of asking for more proteins ? If so, you should indulge as much as you can :giggle:

[Throwaway_panther]

Never pay attention to Old Wives Tales as symptoms. I didn't eat red meat for over a decade before DD then couldn't get enough hamburgers when I was pregnant with her! Not that craving meat means girl, either... it means "pregnancy," haha.

[Lilawt]

Hi,

My dr told me that nausea often goes hand in hand with low blood pressure. As salt is a way of increasing blood pressure we often crave salty things when pregnant. Don’t think it has anything to do with gender, more just how our bodies are coping with pregnancy.

Lil


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[Sora]

Hi,

My dr told me that nausea often goes hand in hand with low blood pressure. As salt is a way of increasing blood pressure we often crave salty things when pregnant. Don’t think it has anything to do with gender, more just how our bodies are coping with pregnancy.

Lil


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Very interesting Lil ! That would explain why I wanted so much salt while pregnant with DD2 and had less nausea !

[violagirl87]

Thanks guys! That’s really interesting and makes some sense too

I know it’s all old wives tales but I guess there is some slight fun in guessing and hoping .

Also my sense of smell is super super heightened. I work as a dentist and I’ve never ever ever realised how much odor came come from our mouths [emoji3061]




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[tkelly621]

With most of my pregnancies I’ve always wanted the same stuff. Meat , potatoes... real food. I think bc it fills me for longer and I’m less nauseous when I’m full. Still dealing with nausea at 23 weeks :(

[Blue-dream]

Hello girls I got my NIPT test results today and I am having a boy.
Thanks a lot to all who supported me and special thanks to atomic :bowdown:

I am hoping it's accurate. I got it done at 11 weeks.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks guys! That’s really interesting and makes some sense too

I know it’s all old wives tales but I guess there is some slight fun in guessing and hoping .

Also my sense of smell is super super heightened. I work as a dentist and I’ve never ever ever realised how much odor came come from our mouths [emoji3061]




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Oh gosh Viola that's rough. Not only the mouth smells but I found metal smells really set me off. I hope it eases up soon!

[atomic sagebrush]

Hello girls I got my NIPT test results today and I am having a boy.
Thanks a lot to all who supported me and special thanks to atomic :bowdown:

I am hoping it's accurate. I got it done at 11 weeks.

AAAa wooohooo!!! Yes it's accurate, so happy for you!!!! :bluecheer: :bluecheer: :bluecheer:

[Parying4agirl]

Hi,

My dr told me that nausea often goes hand in hand with low blood pressure. As salt is a way of increasing blood pressure we often crave salty things when pregnant. Don’t think it has anything to do with gender, more just how our bodies are coping with pregnancy.

Lil


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That makes sense with me - ive always been on the low end for blood pressure and been sick in all my pregnancies , boys and girl

[LMSM]

Wow, congrats ..another successful sway!
You girls have got a quite high success’ rate it seems...will have to do your stats, ladies´ ;)

[violagirl87]

Hello girls I got my NIPT test results today and I am having a boy.
Thanks a lot to all who supported me and special thanks to atomic :bowdown:

I am hoping it's accurate. I got it done at 11 weeks.

Congratulations [emoji322][emoji322][emoji322][emoji322][emoji322][emoji322][emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji3059]



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[Sora]

Hello girls I got my NIPT test results today and I am having a boy.
Thanks a lot to all who supported me and special thanks to atomic :bowdown:

I am hoping it's accurate. I got it done at 11 weeks.

Congrats Blue !

[Reline]

Im new here as well, and i want to sway for a boy sooo bad but im so scared to fail and kind of dont really know were to begin. When i read about boysways i get so much hope but then i read about the opposite and i get so scared, couse i dont want more then two kids. Any advice on how to think and get the courage to sway?

[Parying4agirl]

Im new here as well, and i want to sway for a boy sooo bad but im so scared to fail and kind of dont really know were to begin. When i read about boysways i get so much hope but then i read about the opposite and i get so scared, couse i dont want more then two kids. Any advice on how to think and get the courage to sway?

Firstly id say make sure you think about how you would feel and cope with if it ended up as a sway opposite, nothing is 100% and you’ve got a 50/50 chance it could be a girl. Think about whether you would like to find gender out before birth and how that would make u feel, or if itd be better for you to go team green.
You have every chance it could work out for you so if your happy to have 2 kids, then try the sway and see what happens- good luck with it. Have you read up on the key points for a boy sway, do u have a girl right now, what were your habits before u concieved?
I hope thing work out for you and you find your way forward. When i swayed i knew i wanted another child badly, yes a girl more than boy but the way i thought was that id try my best by changing habits/patterns to sway pink but then if i end up with boy then that is what was meant to be, so content with that i went ahead with it. Team green is what helped me (although my sway worked) but its not for everyone. Good luck x

[MiaMelb]

Im new here as well, and i want to sway for a boy sooo bad but im so scared to fail and kind of dont really know were to begin. When i read about boysways i get so much hope but then i read about the opposite and i get so scared, couse i dont want more then two kids. Any advice on how to think and get the courage to sway?

I only wanted two kids and unfortunately didn't know about swaying at the time and hence ended up with two DDs. They are beautiful together and I love watching their love of each other grow but I'd always imagined having a boy. If you know you want two kids and don't want to go down the HT route then swaying will only improve your odds (success of boy sways approx 70%). I enjoy my two DDs enough to say that if I do stop now then I'll have an amazing life as a mother, however, as many women here know when we don't get our DG we tend to be much more open to increasing the number of kids beyond our initial ideal.

[Sora]

Im new here as well, and i want to sway for a boy sooo bad but im so scared to fail and kind of dont really know were to begin. When i read about boysways i get so much hope but then i read about the opposite and i get so scared, couse i dont want more then two kids. Any advice on how to think and get the courage to sway?

Mia said it all. Like her, I always imagined myself with a boy. I knew about swaying but didn't believe in it much and thought I had all the time in the world to try that out. Prob is, DD2 came too fast (oops baby) so I never got around to changing my diet and I regret it immensely. I always wanted at least 3 kids so it's not over yet. Tried swaying last summer but failed to become pregnant and will now have to wait til next summer. Most of the girls in that group had successful blue sways. Like you, it gives me so much hope, and at the same time, I am scared of becoming the odd one out, the one unable to get pregnant or who will fail her sway altogether.

Sometimes, I think I should just give up and be happy with what I have. But I am surrounded by blue births and I know it will be impossible. I won't be able to live without my boy, even less so if I have to watch my friends' sons grow up. Like another girl here said, I may very well try to get my own blue bundle til the end.

One thing for sure : if you're too afraid to try, you will never get your boy. The rest is up to you.:cheerteam:

[MiaMelb]

I'm feeling you too Sora! Noticed that our two DDs are the same age. I always said I only wanted two and that I wanted them close in age, now I'm considering three and there would be a minimum of almost 4 years between #2 and #3 if we do go. Perhaps we'll end up swaying at the same time.
Sorry to hear you knew about swaying before DD2, can imagine that's so frustrating to know you missed the opportunity to sway. As with LMSM even great blue sways don't always go our way so even if you'd got too it's not a given. Think we're all due for some blue dust in future.

[aira22]

Hey, congrats Blue-dream!!! So happy to hear about another successful blue sway! Sorry I'm late with that post, but this pre-Christmas time is so stressful and I don't have time for nothing. I hope everyone here is doing well! :happy:

[Bluedust]

Im new here as well, and i want to sway for a boy sooo bad but im so scared to fail and kind of dont really know were to begin. When i read about boysways i get so much hope but then i read about the opposite and i get so scared, couse i dont want more then two kids. Any advice on how to think and get the courage to sway?

Hi Reline, we always wanted only 2 kids too. We currently have 10 and 8 year old daughters and were happy but as you can imagine the thought of maybe if we tried for one more it would have been a boy just maybe. As you can see its been many years and even thoigh i thoight yep the baby thing is over for us that thought still kept playing behind my mind so eventually took the bullet and we started ttc last month. I thoight about it for a long time and realised i would be happy if it turns out to be another girl so i wont be too upset ofcoarse ill be upset at the beginning but i know another baby either gender would be a blessing after a huge gap for us. I think if you're wanting 2 kids anywah maybe research this site and try your best and when you're ready start ttc. Unless you are thinking you would prefer to have 1 child if you knew they were both going to be girls? Maybe start your own thread and start asking questions you have so all your info is in one place to make it easy for you to keep going back and referring to :)
Goodluck either way!!

[Sora]

I'm feeling you too Sora! Noticed that our two DDs are the same age. I always said I only wanted two and that I wanted them close in age, now I'm considering three and there would be a minimum of almost 4 years between #2 and #3 if we do go. Perhaps we'll end up swaying at the same time.
Sorry to hear you knew about swaying before DD2, can imagine that's so frustrating to know you missed the opportunity to sway. As with LMSM even great blue sways don't always go our way so even if you'd got too it's not a given. Think we're all due for some blue dust in future.

Thank you Mia ! Yes I noticed too that our daughters are the same age. True, we may be ttc at the same time since I had to postpone too (cause DH will not be available at the time of O for the next few months... so no 3 attempts and I don't even want to try without those).

I try to console myself with DD2 thinking that, since I wasn't just quite convinced yet, I may have only done a light sway and not tried more attempts at O-day (was a firm believer of Shettles at the time). So I may have had a girl in the end anyway. Now I know better and I will do things really differently.

I know sways can still fail but the successes here of my summer buddies put a HUGE pressure on me. I really don't want to be the failed data that will balance the others out if you know what I mean... :nails:

[Reline]

Thank u so much for ur reply. Thats exactly what scares me, that i would find an opposite sway very hard and am afraid i want be able to handle it but at the other hand knowing there is a chance having a boy its a thought i cant get rid off and if i didnt try i will never have peace. I wanted a boy so badly when i got pregnent with my DD and even if i love here to death i was disappointed when i found out the gender and that was when i started to read about if there was a way to decide the gender. I then got obsessed, its something i think about 24/7, am always analysing all people who have kids and if someone tells me they got kids i always guess for myself if they got a boy or a girl and i actually often is guessing right, because i feel that its always the mothers personality that shows if its a boy or a girlmom and that is why i get so hesitant about that a diet would make u sway. I’ve seen sooo many boy moms who dont have boyfriendly diet and thats make me doubt. I would love to hear what Atomics opinion is on this? I also wonder if a sway/diet can change someones personality? And with that i mean, if i eat food that will increase testerone, will it change my personality? (Please excuse my bad english)

[Sora]

It's alright, english isn't your first language ? Other than diet, there are also two other things that seem to sway boy. First one is sorta linked to what you eat, it's supplements, vitamins, minerals... especially vitamin D. You say your friends don't have boy diets... Neither do some of mine who are vegan... But they do take a lot of them, vitamins, and also never miss a meal.

The other thing seems to be the amount of sex you get, especially the number of attempts around ovulation. That's something you won't know for sure about other moms unless you directly ask them how's it going in the bedroom. For all you know, these moms have been regularly DTD (thus getting good exposure to sperm which is great for having a boy) and had at least three attempts around O unlike many of us girls moms with our lonely attempt around or during O.

As for personnality we did notice a thread. Boys moms seem much more competitive for ex... They are also a bit of a control-freak. We have posts about it. But don't worry, you are who you were born as, what you were raised as, what you experienced. No amount of eating will change that. The thing is, you are more stressed, tired and agressive/depressed if you starve and happier and stronger if you don't. Since you want to go for blue, guess you will feel energized and happier if anything.

As for testosterone, it does raise it, more or less, but we're not sure how much it sways. The thing with swaying seem to boil down to instinct and old triggers ingrained in our bodies, all set around the idea of preserving the species.

Basically, make your body believe you're living through a golden era, with plenty of food and sex, and it will rather deliver a boy since they need quite a lot to survive, poor things... Tell it you're tired, afraid, hungry and it will favor a girl in a desperate bid to save humanity, cause you know, it takes one male to make a lot of children but a female can (usually) only bear one or two babies at a time. So if we were ever in danger of exctinction, it wouldn't matter if there are only two or three fertile men left as long as there are a dozen or so of women.

[violagirl87]

I know sways can still fail but the successes here of my summer buddies put a HUGE pressure on me. I really don't want to be the failed data that will balance the others out if you know what I mean... :nails:

I really worry too that I’ll be the “failed sway” too. I didn’t even know swaying was possible. I did a brief read of shettles and tried it and obviously didn’t get pregnant. Then I found atomics wonderful website and by the time I could get my head around everything I wanted to do for my boy sway we were already pregnant second month of swaying so I definitely don’t think my sway is strong, in fact it’s probably there equivalent of not swaying and leaving it upto chance.

Let’s see though. I am excited for number 3


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[LMSM]

HI ladies!
Not swaying yet, but with the New year, am getting myself ready to kick some goals and start my slow pace way into HE again.
Do any of you know if collagen is good? Assume so but can’t find a definite answer :)
Thanks!

[LMSM]

Oh and I was one of the “failed blue sways” with DD3... yes, it hurts, yes, it makes you feel like a failure and it seems unfair the “universe” didn’t give you that son too..BUT,fsway opposites are truly special. Hand on heart, and I used to resent hearing it because it hurt, but it is so true. They come about because they are the child we need, not necessarily the one we think we want :)
Having said that, am still keen for a son eh ;) good luck!

[3littleladies01]

Oh and I was one of the “failed blue sways” with DD3... yes, it hurts, yes, it makes you feel like a failure and it seems unfair the “universe” didn’t give you that son too..BUT,fsway opposites are truly special. Hand on heart, and I used to resent hearing it because it hurt, but it is so true. They come about because they are the child we need, not necessarily the one we think we want :)
Having said that, am still keen for a son eh ;) good luck!

Totally agree - DD3 was also a failed sway and she melts me - she’s so adorable and such a little personality. I thought I’d be done after 3 but she is so blooming cute it makes me more comfortable adding one more!! I guess I was just supposed to have 3 girls & 1 boy or 4 girls. My GD was quite bad so too look back from where we are now does help. She was just meant to be xx


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[violagirl87]

LMSM and 3littleladies, you guys make my heart melt [emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji3059]



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[MiaMelb]

HI ladies!
Not swaying yet, but with the New year, am getting myself ready to kick some goals and start my slow pace way into HE again.
Do any of you know if collagen is good? Assume so but can’t find a definite answer :)
Thanks!

What do you think are the critical things you want to do based on your experience last time?

[MiaMelb]

Totally agree - DD3 was also a failed sway and she melts me - she’s so adorable and such a little personality. I thought I’d be done after 3 but she is so blooming cute it makes me more comfortable adding one more!! I guess I was just supposed to have 3 girls & 1 boy or 4 girls. My GD was quite bad so too look back from where we are now does help. She was just meant to be xx


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Didnt realised your DD3 was also a "failed" sway. What did you leant from your last sway that you want to keep the same or change this time?

[aira22]

I also have to agree, that a "failed sway" hurts badly, but with time you understand why this little one came to your family. I can't imagine life without my two sway opposites and also see advantages in having more than one girl, because sisters are so sweet together :LotsofLove:

[3littleladies01]

Didnt realised your DD3 was also a "failed" sway. What did you leant from your last sway that you want to keep the same or change this time?

Hiya Miamelb

Yep - a failed sway - and I did what I thought was a really strong one at the time.

I am swaying again now and have changed a few things...

I never exercised last time - that was the one thing I didn’t do, so I am adding that this time. I walk 40 mins (broken into chunks for school run) 3 times a week and then do weights 3 times a week

I also took some supps that now are a bit questionable. I took pregnacare (I’m in the UK) and apparently that’s not great, so I’ve moved to a more balanced one. I’m adding vitamin D and COq10 and fish oil this time. I’ve removed evening primrose oil as I believe that now may sway pink?

I think I’m quite strongly set for girls, even though I’m very much a “boy mum” in terms of my personality and my diet - I’ve always had cereal, drank tea and grazed all day (I’m known to constantly pick from the fridge and finish the kids dinner and then have another of my own later on!)

Who knows if it’ll work this time. I was convinced it would last time, so only time will tell.

We are in fertile week now so am keeping everything crossed for a sticky blue one! [emoji1696]


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[LMSM]

Hiya Miamelb

Yep - a failed sway - and I did what I thought was a really strong one at the time.

I am swaying again now and have changed a few things...

I never exercised last time - that was the one thing I didn’t do, so I am adding that this time. I walk 40 mins (broken into chunks for school run) 3 times a week and then do weights 3 times a week

I also took some supps that now are a bit questionable. I took pregnacare (I’m in the UK) and apparently that’s not great, so I’ve moved to a more balanced one. I’m adding vitamin D and COq10 and fish oil this time. I’ve removed evening primrose oil as I believe that now may sway pink?

I think I’m quite strongly set for girls, even though I’m very much a “boy mum” in terms of my personality and my diet - I’ve always had cereal, drank tea and grazed all day (I’m known to constantly pick from the fridge and finish the kids dinner and then have another of my own later on!)

Who knows if it’ll work this time. I was convinced it would last time, so only time will tell.

We are in fertile week now so am keeping everything crossed for a sticky blue one! [emoji1696]


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Soo funny, am exactly the same! Strongly set for girls though personality wise am SUCh a boy mum :)
Mia, I truly thought I was getting my boy last time (especially since I fell pregnant
Naturally in 2 cycles..after infertility for me that was such a huge change that I was so sure it had to mean I was boy friendly !)...and think my sway was strong. Bbbbuuuut....My last sway I didn’t really go to town exercise wise and I think some foods (banana, peanuts) I had too much of...so will look at More nutrient dense foods to balance things. I definitely will exercise to do a slow and steady mass change so I can be strong and lean (rather than soft and squishy lol I.e add muscles ++! i am currently at my heaviest (non pregnant) weight so will aim to transform this to muscle mass instead of fat (am still breastfeeding so not going too hard 7ntil I wean though) . I want to use that goal as a competitive push too ;) I’ve given myself a year so we can sway early 2020 ;) I will do this steadily and add supps’ about 6-10 weeks prior to ttc (only doing the basic multi right now).
Supps wise I will change things slightly..more vit D, and simplify to focus on what seems to really help :) aaaand get into’ a BD pattern that will be as close to what I want it to be once we ttc (we use condoms right now so won’t get me any semen exposure but will hopefully make sure hubs can « perform »). Once my cycles return, we can BD without condoms when I am well outside of fertile days to get that exposure regularly ;) but I need to know when to expect O/fertile windows first and without a cycle’ thats impossible lol my AF had returned around 8-12 weeks pp, but since 5 m.o has stopped...sleep deprived because nursing all the time at night especially lol

Voilà! ;)

[violagirl87]

Girls I got my NIPT today and it says BOY!!! I’m so so excited and ecstatic but somehow I want to make sure until I see it with my own eyes! Although I am super excited to start collecting some sweet boys rompers too i feel like I should just control myself for now. I’ve got a favourite name in mind so now to convince DH ! Thanks to all you for your help and support [emoji177]


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[MiaMelb]

Girls I got my NIPT today and it says BOY!!! I’m so so excited and ecstatic but somehow I want to make sure until I see it with my own eyes! Although I am super excited to start collecting some sweet boys rompers too i feel like I should just control myself for now. I’ve got a favourite name in mind so now to convince DH ! Thanks to all you for your help and support [emoji177]


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OMG the swayers in this thread are amazing, congratulations :bluecheer::bluecheer::bluecheer:bet the feeling is a bit unreal.

Better get my sway on so I can take advantage of all the blue dust floating round here.

[Blue-dream]

Congratulations!!! So happy for you.

At how many weeks did you get the NIPT done?

[Blue-dream]

Wow congratulations. So happy for you.

Can I ask at how many weeks you got the NIPT test done? What was the fetal fraction?

[TA Sait]

Girls I got my NIPT today and it says BOY!!! I’m so so excited and ecstatic but somehow I want to make sure until I see it with my own eyes! Although I am super excited to start collecting some sweet boys rompers too i feel like I should just control myself for now. I’ve got a favourite name in mind so now to convince DH ! Thanks to all you for your help and support [emoji177]


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Ohh. Many congratulations..

[LMSM]

Congrats Viola! Must be so amazing indeed! Enjoy your blue bundle to be, and the shopping hehe
I somehow can’t imagine that ever happening here, and Be lucky enough to get a son..enjoy, truly- what a blessing :)

[LMSM]

Oh and’ you should totally do your stats, ladies, because that is an amazing winning streak so to speak ;)

[Sora]

Girls I got my NIPT today and it says BOY!!! I’m so so excited and ecstatic but somehow I want to make sure until I see it with my own eyes! Although I am super excited to start collecting some sweet boys rompers too i feel like I should just control myself for now. I’ve got a favourite name in mind so now to convince DH ! Thanks to all you for your help and support [emoji177]


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Wow congrats viola ! Everyone sure has been lucky on this thread !

[aira22]

Girls I got my NIPT today and it says BOY!!! I’m so so excited and ecstatic but somehow I want to make sure until I see it with my own eyes! Although I am super excited to start collecting some sweet boys rompers too i feel like I should just control myself for now. I’ve got a favourite name in mind so now to convince DH ! Thanks to all you for your help and support [emoji177]


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OMG violagirl! I'm so happy for you! I can totally understand the not being able to believe it yet LOL I still question the anatomy scan even when I saw "it" with my own eyes haha so unbelievable that finally happened what we wished for!

[MiaMelb]

Feel like this world is stacked against my blue sway today, found out DH is intending on taking up cycling to and from work again! :hair:

[LMSM]

SHoot Mia ! :( any chance he would do weights or some other mass building exercise to compensate maybe, if it does indeed balance things?

[MiaMelb]

I've just started Les Mills on demand so I can do pump classes and have tried to encourage him to do a few weights since we're all set up. My suggestion didn't go down very well.

[LMSM]

I've just started Les Mills on demand so I can do pump classes and have tried to encourage him to do a few weights since we're all set up. My suggestion didn't go down very well.
Maybe if he sees you doing it, he might consider at least trying?! Fx

[Sora]

Feel like this world is stacked against my blue sway today, found out DH is intending on taking up cycling to and from work again! :hair:

Welp Mia that sucks ! What's it lately with unhelping husbands I wonder...?

[violagirl87]

Hey girls can u guys see boy bits ? DH is just laughing and saying I’m silly to look now that we did NIPT

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[Blue-dream]

Yes I can definitely see it :BabyBoy: I am also waiting for my 20th week scan to confirm even though I got NIPT done. At what week did you get your NIPT?

[Lilawt]

Absolutely! I see boy bits in all pics. Congratulations to you
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[violagirl87]

Thanks bluedream and lilawt! I’m so glad that the bits are definitely see-able lol. I got my NIPT done at 10+6, they had a 17% fetal fraction .

I really can’t tell heads or tails on an ultrasound so I’m glad to know that you guys can see the bits.

DH is actually cackling away looking at me obsessing the meanie !


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[Blue-dream]

Oh ok. Now that makes me think if my NIPT results are accurate as at around same gestation my fetal fraction was just 6%.

[LMSM]

Definitely boy nub, you can relax Viola ;)
My Nipt I only had like 6% fraction, and it was accurate ..my girl is aaaall girl, just like her sisters ..so rest assured it is correct :)

[Blue-dream]

Thanks LMSM for the reply. That gives me an assurance.

[Lilawt]

I’ve no idea what a NIPT is, don’t think it’s available in my country. I see it mentioned a lot, what does fetal fraction mean?

Lil


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[LMSM]

I’ve no idea what a NIPT is, don’t think it’s available in my country. I see it mentioned a lot, what does fetal fraction mean?

Lil


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It stands for Non invasive prenatal testing ( amniocentesis for instance is an invasive prenatal testing). It involves drawing a blood sample from the mother (hence non invasive’, no risk to baby here contrary to amniocentesis) and segregating foetal DNA from that sample...the highest the %, the higher fraction of foetal DNA is present in the sample (which is what the lab analyses´ to determine gender, possible chromosomal abnormalities etc).
Hope that helps a bit !
Which country are you in, Lil?

[Lilawt]

Oh I see! Yes we have blood test at 12 weeks which shows our risk of Down syndrome and other chromosome disorders. No indication of gender. I guess if you want to know gender you ring up and ask? Because surely not everyone wants it on the letter.

I’m in England.

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[Sora]

Oh I see! Yes we have blood test at 12 weeks which shows our risk of Down syndrome and other chromosome disorders. No indication of gender. I guess if you want to know gender you ring up and ask? Because surely not everyone wants it on the letter.

I’m in England.

Lil


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In France it was not used til year 2017 and even now, it's rarely done and only for women who are 35 years-old or older. And like you say, it's mainly telling you about Down syndrome and other disorders, no mention of sex.

I heard once that they stopped mentionning the sex in England because there were too much abortions in families whose cultural backgrounds deem a male heir more important than a baby girl.

As for France, I don't think you can ask the gender with your NIPT (when you're allowed to do one at all). Even people going through IVF aren't told what embryos they are transplanted with. And when you ask about gender at the 12 weeks scan, you're more often than not given cold stares. After that, it depends. Some gynecologists are pretty open-minded and will try to answer you but others will just shrug and say "Why the hell would you want to know so soon ?" and get all suspicious.

[Lilawt]

In France it was not used til year 2017 and even now, it's rarely done and only for women who are 35 years-old or older. And like you say, it's mainly telling you about Down syndrome and other disorders, no mention of sex.

I heard once that they stopped mentionning the sex in England because there were too much abortions in families whose cultural backgrounds deem a male heir more important than a baby girl.

As for France, I don't think you can ask the gender with your NIPT (when you're allowed to do one at all). Even people going through IVF aren't told what embryos they are transplanted with. And when you ask about gender at the 12 weeks scan, you're more often than not given cold stares. After that, it depends. Some gynecologists are pretty open-minded and will try to answer you but others will just shrug and say "Why the hell would you want to know so soon ?" and get all suspicious.

Yes you’re right! It depends on what NHS trust you fall under... so basically where you live in the country. If you want to know gender then you have to pay for a private scan. Where I live they will tell you at hosp at 20 weeks, but they make it very clear that it’s not a priority.

A few years ago there was a higher number of people aborting girls in some ethnically diverse parts of London which is why it became hush hush is some areas.

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[LMSM]

The 1st trimester screening is different to the NIPT.
The Nuchal scan (12 week scan) measurements are correlated with PappA and BHCG levels etc bloodtest and these give you your risk of Down syndrome result (1:300 or above is low risk usually). It is a probability result (I.e screening j not a diagnostics result. You can choose to do further testing if your reading comes back as possibly high risk (your age, etc also influence this result so may be skewed easily).
The NIPT is a blood test that will allow to do an actual genetic analysis, though it is not considered a “diagnostic test” per se, it is 95-99% accurate in detecting trisomies (main things it tests for T13/18/21) and gender (so XX or XY)- which is actually as accurate as most amniocentesises.
This is not standard yet in most places though.
I did it with my #3, but only did the nuchal scan test screening (bloods plus ultrasound) for my two first. I didn’t have risk factors as such (though my SIL had a T18 girl after I had #2- that she had to terminate at 12w because not viable) so wanted reassurance ASAP, as didn’t want to get attached too long if there was an issue - knowing gender early was an added bonus.

Hope that helps :)

[Sora]

LMSM je crois que c'est ça oui. Mais je m'étais renseignée pour la France et non seulement ils n'utilisent le NIPT que depuis une poignée d'années (des rapports encouragent à l'étendre à toutes les femmes mais bon, connaissant le pays, dans 10 ans on y sera encore) mais en plus cela t'es encore systématiquement refusé si tu as moins de 35 ans sauf historique de maladies génétiques graves... Et même comme ça c'est cas par cas. On avait demandé à ma première grossesse parce qu'il y a un cancer de l'oeil génétiquement transmissible du côté de mon mari qui peut être dépisté par NIPT mais ils nous ont tout de suite dit "non inutile le risque n'est que de 15%"... Pour les personnes que je connais qui l'ont fait parce que + de 35 ans ou des risques sérieux, le sexe n'était pas mentionné. Je crois qu'il ne l'est pas non plus pour les amnios. Une connaissance avait demandé en avec son NIPT si on pouvait savoir le sexe et elle s'était fait jetée en mode "oui mais là n'est pas la question madame, c'est juste pour savoir si tout va bien, vous pouvez attendre l'écho pour le sexe.". D'ailleurs il me semble avoir vu dans les rapports et recommandations des paragraphes demandant aux médecins de ne pas utiliser le NIPT pour le sexe pour cause de risques d'avortements sélectifs. C'était récent donc pas sûre que ça ait changé.

[LMSM]

Ici c’est très recent aussi, mais ça se voit de plus en plus car ça s’est démocratisé bien que ça reste cher (j’ai payé +/-$500 je crois)... beaucoup pour savoir lecsexe tot, pas (ou pas principalement du moins) confirmer la bonne sante du bebe ce qui est triste :(
ici ce n’est de toute façon pas remboursé par la Sécu donc il suffit d’avoir une ordo de son medecin pour le faire....qui me l’a donnésans souci bien que perso pas d’antécédents directs. J’avoue une fois les résultats en main, j’étais plus sereine! Malgré le choc du sexe qui a été dur, dur, dur à encaisser :P j’ai pu investir la grossesse sachant qu’au moins, pas de trisomie ou anomalie génétique flagrante (écho parfaite soutenant la santé de ma puce)..ouf quoi! Je le referais pour #4 si #4 il y a ;)
Après c’est comme tout, il peut clairement avoir des dérives c’est sur..j’ai su le sexe avant 11sa, en France c’est avant les 14sa légales pour lavortement..certains en abuseraient :(

[Sora]

En même temps, si je ne me trompe pas, dans certains pays l'avortement est légal au-delà de 14sa, je crois que la France est parmi les pays avec une limite très basse... Donc s'il n'y a pas une explosion mondiale d'abus avec le NIPT alors que les gens ont tout le temps de s'organiser, ils pourraient bien faire un effort ici aussi. Mais bon il y a encore une grosse chape de plomb sur la question de la génétique, de l'IVG, de l'IMG... Même lorsque l'enfant est diagnostiqué avec de graves malformations, les mères ont encore des gens, médecins ou non, pour leur dire "Et vous allez l'avorter juste parce qu'il est pas 100% parfait ? Ah l'eugénisme...". Donc ouais, très coincé encore les mentalités ici. De toute façon les plus malins et ceux pour qui culturellement c'est vraiment pesant de ne pas avoir de fils trichent déjà avec la complicité de médecins et d'échographistes pour savoir très tôt et faire de la sélection, quitte à aller en Espagne pour avorter puisque le délai est plus élevé. C'est connu mais tout le monde regarde ailleurs donc autant ouvrir le droit de savoir à tout le monde, que les gens honnêtes et simplement curieux en profitent aussi.

Je te comprends parfaitement pour la déception pour le sexe. J'avais déjà été déçue pour la première mais le plus dur ça avait été la deuxième, et encore j'ai pas accusé le choc tout de suite (c'est même mon mari qui était le plus déçu sur le coup)... Mais le lendemain... Tout le monde autour de nous disait tellement que ça allait être un garçon, sûr de sûr (à nous ressortir les contes de grands-mères et autres calendriers chinois) que j'avais fini par espérer un peu malgré mes doutes. Alors quand l'échographiste m'a dit "bon bah rien de nouveau, c'est ce que vous connaissez déjà, même modèle"... ouille ! Surtout que ce jour en particulier je priais fort pour qu'on nous annonce un garçon et que cette grossesse surprise ait enfin un sens, une raison d'être... Là je me demandais juste en gros : pourquoi si c'est pour avoir deux fois la même chose ? J'ai déjà une fille, ça me suffit ! Bon maintenant on fait avec, elle s'est accrochée, elle est là, c'est qu'elle voulait vraiment vivre cette petite puce.

[Sora]

Bumping the thread since summer is coming and there are new blue swayers ! Come and talk about your sways girls, don't be shy !!!!! :prof:

[tkelly621]

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Good luck ladies. If I can have a boy, I’m convinced anyone can :)

[Sora]

He is so cute tkelly ! How are you doing ?

I feel so lonely here :tissue: I'm the only blue this time around bwah :tissue: