Part 3: Due January, February and March 2019

[Raining]

I got an email saying my results were sent to my doctor. So today should be the day. I can’t even begin to describe how nervous I feel :worry:

[Eighme]

I got an email saying my results were sent to my doctor. So today should be the day. I can’t even begin to describe how nervous I feel :worry:Yay Raining! I am so excited!

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[Pretty]

Congrats raining!! FYI, I called my doctor so I didn’t have to wait for them to call me, I’ve heard stories about some places sitting on results so I was (admittedly) obnoxious but it worked lol

[Noemi2017]

Good luck Raining:awe:let us know

[Raining]

It’s a healthy baby GIRL!!! :awe:

[Eighme]

It’s a healthy baby GIRL!!! :awe:YAY!!!! CONGRATS! So excited for you and your sweet baby girl!

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[gafan]

Congratulations Raining!!!!

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[gafan]

I am having some genetic testing today and can find out the sex on Friday. I am pretty sure I want to know but also a little hesitant. I feel like I will be ok either way but if I hear boy now it will give me more time to adjust.

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[Eighme]

I am having some genetic testing today and can find out the sex on Friday. I am pretty sure I want to know but also a little hesitant. I feel like I will be ok either way but if I hear boy now it will give me more time to adjust.

Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkAgreed, Gafan! I just booked my appointment for Tuesday.

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[Pretty]

Congrats!!!

[ABC.2606]

It’s a healthy baby GIRL!!! :awe:

Aww YAY!!! Congrats!!!! [emoji322]


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[ABC.2606]

Agreed, Gafan! I just booked my appointment for Tuesday.

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Excited for you to find out!!


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[ABC.2606]

I am having some genetic testing today and can find out the sex on Friday. I am pretty sure I want to know but also a little hesitant. I feel like I will be ok either way but if I hear boy now it will give me more time to adjust.

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Can’t wait to hear, Gafan!!


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[ABC.2606]

Lol I'm sure he'll come around if it is indeed another son. I've named the first 3 so why not the 4th ;) Have you guys agreed on names for both your girl and boy? So awesome getting to pick one of each!!

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We’re thinking Eloise for the girl, Jonah for the boy... but not set in stone yet. Eloise probably will be the girls name - my DH’s mom, who died 12 years ago, was named Lois and the 4 middle letters of the name Eloise are “lois”, so it would be to honor his mom. Jonah is just a boy name I’ve always loved and DH likes it, but we’re not sure yet.

I know they’re not matching, “twin-y” names but I’m not really into that :)


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[hopper]

Massive congrats raining [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]

Oh Gafan everything crossed for you! So exciting!

Lots of us finding out this week! Really hope we see lots of DGs ladies! Everything crossed for all [emoji173][emoji170]

ABC I l love both those names!! And Eloise in tribute is sooooo special! I wouldn't be into matchy names either though funniest enough my girl and boy names both are a bit matchy lol (I don't want to post here cause I know at least one friend of mine IRL joined here not too long ago!) Both begin with the same letter - saying them together kinda makes me wish it was twins I was carrying! Lol, DH would lose his head!

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[Raining]

Agreed, Gafan! I just booked my appointment for Tuesday.

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Excited to find out!!

[ABC.2606]

Hope you all are doing well!! I’ve been out of it the past few days as we had a super busy weekend. My anatomy scan is next Monday! Can’t wait!!

So fun hearing about and waiting for all these scans and gender results!! So excited for you Raining!!!


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[ABC.2606]

Massive congrats raining [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173]

Oh Gafan everything crossed for you! So exciting!

Lots of us finding out this week! Really hope we see lots of DGs ladies! Everything crossed for all [emoji173][emoji170]

ABC I l love both those names!! And Eloise in tribute is sooooo special! I wouldn't be into matchy names either though funniest enough my girl and boy names both are a bit matchy lol (I don't want to post here cause I know at least one friend of mine IRL joined here not too long ago!) Both begin with the same letter - saying them together kinda makes me wish it was twins I was carrying! Lol, DH would lose his head!

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Yea every other boy name I like begins with the same letter as one of my current boys and sounds too matchy with their names, LOL!! Names are so hard!! Such a big decision!


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[Mommy2apples]

You already know I love those names ABC!
Congrats Raining!!
Can’t wait to find out Eighme and Gafan!!


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[Mommy2apples]

Lol mine all end in n. Logan, Ashtyn, Kolton, Braxton, and Emmalyn. Wasn’t intentional, but I guess we just like that ending... lol


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[LMSM]

We’re thinking Eloise for the girl, Jonah for the boy... but not set in stone yet. Eloise probably will be the girls name - my DH’s mom, who died 12 years ago, was named Lois and the 4 middle letters of the name Eloise are “lois”, so it would be to honor his mom. Jonah is just a boy name I’ve always loved and DH likes it, but we’re not sure yet.

I know they’re not matching, “twin-y” names but I’m not really into that :)


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What lovely names! :D
Eloise is my DD2’s name so love it extra much hehe

[mummaofboys]

It’s a healthy baby GIRL!!! :awe:

Congratulations!!! How exciting [emoji4]


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[ABC.2606]

What lovely names! :D
Eloise is my DD2’s name so love it extra much hehe

Awww nice!! It’s becoming more popular here in the US but I still think it’s very unique!!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Congrats Raining, so lovely to get some good news ♡

[gafan]

The doc who did my CVS is super experienced and told me there would be some bleeding. I have had some bleeding. more than spotting but not super heavy. So I am worried, even though everything is likely fine.
Heartbeat was 179, so thats good and the scan looked good. FX I am not the 1 in 1000 who miscarry after this procedure.


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[Kelbear]

The doc who did my CVS is super experienced and told me there would be some bleeding. I have had some bleeding. more than spotting but not super heavy. So I am worried, even though everything is likely fine.
Heartbeat was 179, so thats good and the scan looked good. FX I am not the 1 in 1000 who miscarry after this procedure.


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Hoping the bleeding stops and everything is ok

[Kelbear]

Congrats on your little girl raining, that is fantastic news:happy:

[simkan]

It’s a healthy baby GIRL!!! :awe:Congratulations!! So exciting :D

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[ABC.2606]

The doc who did my CVS is super experienced and told me there would be some bleeding. I have had some bleeding. more than spotting but not super heavy. So I am worried, even though everything is likely fine.
Heartbeat was 179, so thats good and the scan looked good. FX I am not the 1 in 1000 who miscarry after this procedure.


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Hoping everything is OK, Gafan!! Sounds like the bleeding is normal after the procedure. Definitely would call if it doesn't ease or is making you anxious. My doctor last week told me it's always better to just call if you're worried!

[Kelbear]

Good luck Eighme and Gafan. Hope you both hear pink :fingers:

[Noemi2017]

Congrats Raining, wonderful news:HH:

[Noemi2017]

Gafan i hope bleeding stopped, think of u:heart:

[gafan]

I called and they want me to come in for an ultrasound. It is probably fine, and checking will help me worry less.

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[Raining]

I called and they want me to come in for an ultrasound. It is probably fine, and checking will help me worry less.

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I’m glad you’ll get some reassurance and a peek at baby. Good luck!

[Throwaway_panther]

Hoping everything is ok Gafan. That is a really strong (girly :P!) heartbeat, so hoping all is well for you <3

[Eighme]

Do ladies have any energy? I keep hearing "Oh, in this x amount of weeks/time you'll feel great." WHERE IS MY MAGICAL SECOND TRIMESTER? [emoji12] I am a revolving door of "today this is wrong." I swear my pregnancy with my son was not this hard.

Sorry ladies. I feel like I complain in here more than not. This pregnancy has just kicked my butt and I am so ready for some relief.

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[Noemi2017]

Eighme i have a lot of energy, i washed all windows in big house and i did big cleaning:D but now i have pain of my back:(

[gafan]

The scan showed baby is fine. I have a subchorionic hematoma. So I might start bleeding more now or at a different time in pregnancy. It might interfere with baby's blood supply but might not. They said lots of women have this, and they didn't seem alarmed.
Has anyone else experienced a subchorionic hematoma?


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[Pretty]

I’m so waiting for that magical second trimester too!! Absolutely no energy and honestly my constant bathroom breaks are the only exercise I’m getting. I feel like I’ll hit the third trimester and still never have gotten that energy burst. I have no idea how we’re going to get the house or nursery ready...

[Eighme]

The scan showed baby is fine. I have a subchorionic hematoma. So I might start bleeding more now or at a different time in pregnancy. It might interfere with baby's blood supply but might not. They said lots of women have this, and they didn't seem alarmed.
Has anyone else experienced a subchorionic hematoma?


Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkI haven't, Gafan. But I know women who have and their babies came out perfectly fine. I'm glad baby is good. Are you going to find out the gender Friday?

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[Eighme]

I’m so waiting for that magical second trimester too!! Absolutely no energy and honestly my constant bathroom breaks are the only exercise I’m getting. I feel like I’ll hit the third trimester and still never have gotten that energy burst. I have no idea how we’re going to get the house or nursery ready...I'm glad ( not really glad, but you know) someone else is feeling the same. You and I seem to be on the same wave length syptoms wise! Hoping this gets better for us soon.

My poor husband has seriously had to take on just about everything because I am so exhausted and sore.

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[ABC.2606]

The scan showed baby is fine. I have a subchorionic hematoma. So I might start bleeding more now or at a different time in pregnancy. It might interfere with baby's blood supply but might not. They said lots of women have this, and they didn't seem alarmed.
Has anyone else experienced a subchorionic hematoma?


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Mamabird in the October due date group has this - you might ask her, or atomic, as I think she knows a lot about those too! I think a lot of ladies on here have had this. It's been a scary situation for Mamabird (she's been on bedrest), but last I heard baby is doing well.

Glad baby is ok!!!!

[Raining]

Eighme I feel the same. Still so nauseous and exhausted. I’m supposed to be starting to feel better soon. This pregnancy has by far been the most difficult so far. My skin is a mess, hair is falling out, I look horrible. All worth it! You’re not alone though! Vent away!

[gafan]

I haven't, Gafan. But I know women who have and their babies came out perfectly fine. I'm glad baby is good. Are you going to find out the gender Friday?

Sent from my SM-G950U using TapatalkI think I will find out the gender, if it looks like all is well with my pregnancy. The doctors say it is likely I will have a healthy term delivery.

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[LMSM]

Awww nice!! It’s becoming more popular here in the US but I still think it’s very unique!!!


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I think it’s gaining in popularity everywhere! I’ve come across a few over here in Australia though we chose it as we are French and wanted a timeless name that worked in French too ;) in France its a classic :)

[LMSM]

Gafan, just to give you some reassurance, you can have a healthy Bub at the other end of a SCH.
I had one with both DD2 and dd3, and they resolved enough by 20 weeks that all was ok but do try to take it easy. Bleeding can happen, and may not be a bad sign, merely the SCH draining itself which is actually good. Mine never did but still had healthy girls born at term. Fx!,

[ABC.2606]

I think it’s gaining in popularity everywhere! I’ve come across a few over here in Australia though we chose it as we are French and wanted a timeless name that worked in French too ;) in France its a classic :)

I love French girl names!! They’re my favorite!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Haha, we actually have very French names picked out for a boy -- and we've had one in particular we will name our first boy no matter what at this point! And we're not even French, just very influenced by French and French-descended philosophers and writers :)

Love the names you ladies are sharing though. I'm such a name nerd.

And SCHs -- yes, I'm glad ABD mentioned Mamabird! Hers was so bad they thought she was even losing the baby :( -- but now she is quickly approaching term and is scheduled for 37 weeks I believe! I think we've had a fair few SCH mamas here. I know we had someone have one so bad that she was on bedrest for the majority of her pregnancy, but she gave birth to her healthy boy and updated us awhile back! I think the only recommendation is if you are on any blood thinners or baby aspirin to stop/wean those, otherwise SCHs can often resolve and are fine on bed rest and most likely lead to healthy delivery!

[Georgia_Peach]

Just jumping on here for gafan on the sch topic.
Yes it's very scary but from what I have learned it's very common and it's really the location and overall size of the Sch that matters. Bc mine is behind the placenta and caused a part to detach.. and bc it did not clear up at 20 weeks this is higher risk. Mine luckily hasn't grown from the 5cm (which is considered smaller in size) and only a very small part of placenta lifted not affecting baby at all. I did go on full bedrest for over 5 weeks and have been on pelvic rest my entire pregnancy.
I am now 33 weeks and will have her in less then 28 days!! I demanded more ultrasounds and tests though bc I was terrified.
I will say this... they will not take you seriously until you get to viability (24 weeks). Unfortunately there is nothing they can do before then so drs seem to push us off with our concerns.
But honestly your sch size is smaller and depending on location you should be just fine. Just take it easy for a little bit and up your water intake. I was drinking a lot of water to help heal the sch.
Praying for you and little baby!! Here for you with any questions.

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[Pretty]

Eighme, I agree!! I hope we all get to feeling better! I will say, you look EXACTLY like my best friend in the whole wide world in your profile picture, so I’m not surprised we’re twinkies lol!

[Eighme]

Eighme, I agree!! I hope we all get to feeling better! I will say, you look EXACTLY like my best friend in the whole wide world in your profile picture, so I’m not surprised we’re twinkies lol!I love it! Hopefully I get a girl too then we are really Twinkies!

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[Pretty]

Fx!!!:cheer:

[gafan]

Just jumping on here for gafan on the sch topic.
Yes it's very scary but from what I have learned it's very common and it's really the location and overall size of the Sch that matters. Bc mine is behind the placenta and caused a part to detach.. and bc it did not clear up at 20 weeks this is higher risk. Mine luckily hasn't grown from the 5cm (which is considered smaller in size) and only a very small part of placenta lifted not affecting baby at all. I did go on full bedrest for over 5 weeks and have been on pelvic rest my entire pregnancy.
I am now 33 weeks and will have her in less then 28 days!! I demanded more ultrasounds and tests though bc I was terrified.
I will say this... they will not take you seriously until you get to viability (24 weeks). Unfortunately there is nothing they can do before then so drs seem to push us off with our concerns.
But honestly your sch size is smaller and depending on location you should be just fine. Just take it easy for a little bit and up your water intake. I was drinking a lot of water to help heal the sch.
Praying for you and little baby!! Here for you with any questions.

Sent from my SM-G950W using TapatalkYeah, I feel that doctors say not to worry when there is nothing they can do. I am a little confused at their conflicting instructions. one doc told me pelvic rest this week and while bleeding and another said pelvic rest until at least 20 weeks. At least they were both clear about no strenuous exercise. I will rest, stay extra hydrated, and stay on pelvic rest until at least my Oct. 1 checkup.
Thank you for your support. You are so close to getting to meet your little one, how exciting!

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[Kelbear]

Good luck to those of you finding out gender soon. I should know within an hour if my dreams are shattered. Can't stop shaking this morning. Finally very real that I will know for sure today. Trying to prepare myself to see/hear boy but know I will just burst into tears. I hope the tech is understanding, would rather they write it down for me but I know they won't as it's against hospital policy.

[ABC.2606]

Just jumping on here for gafan on the sch topic.
Yes it's very scary but from what I have learned it's very common and it's really the location and overall size of the Sch that matters. Bc mine is behind the placenta and caused a part to detach.. and bc it did not clear up at 20 weeks this is higher risk. Mine luckily hasn't grown from the 5cm (which is considered smaller in size) and only a very small part of placenta lifted not affecting baby at all. I did go on full bedrest for over 5 weeks and have been on pelvic rest my entire pregnancy.
I am now 33 weeks and will have her in less then 28 days!! I demanded more ultrasounds and tests though bc I was terrified.
I will say this... they will not take you seriously until you get to viability (24 weeks). Unfortunately there is nothing they can do before then so drs seem to push us off with our concerns.
But honestly your sch size is smaller and depending on location you should be just fine. Just take it easy for a little bit and up your water intake. I was drinking a lot of water to help heal the sch.
Praying for you and little baby!! Here for you with any questions.

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Glad you and baby are doing well and that you'll get to meet her soon!!

[Pretty]

Good luck Kelbear!!

[hannahptrussell]

The scan showed baby is fine. I have a subchorionic hematoma. So I might start bleeding more now or at a different time in pregnancy. It might interfere with baby's blood supply but might not. They said lots of women have this, and they didn't seem alarmed.
Has anyone else experienced a subchorionic hematoma?


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Gafan, two. I have had two. One that bled and bled and another that was gone before I even knew it. No complications. They were just a bother.


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[Kelbear]

Just came out of my scan. Baby still small and something unusual with placenta but working ok for now. Will have to have scans every 4 weeks.
Asked to check gender.... can't believe it but it's a GIRL!!! I'm still in shock and shaking.

[ABC.2606]

Kelbear - OMG!!! SO EXCITING!!!! HUGE congrats!!!! I hope everything is ok with the placenta and size (do they have any thoughts on what's going on?), but YAY! So happy for you!

[Pretty]

Ahhhhhhh!!!!! Congrats!!!

[Eighme]

YAY!!!! Congrats, Kelbear! I am so excited for you!

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[Raining]

Kelbear!! So happy for you!! :cheer:

[sunstars]

Raining and Kelbear, congratulations with your GIRLS! :)

So happy for you, Kelbear, I hope everything with the baby will be fine and your husband will become very supportive from now on. I was rooting for you so much.

Gafan, I had SCH too with my first, had a few episodes of bleeding, each time I thought it's over, but I tried to rest two weeks and stay well hydrated, and a few more episodes of brown discharge, and SCH was gone. Good luck!

As for me, I was searching internet for a little bit of hope that my boy will "turned out girl", but seems no way, and seems my doc is almost never wrong, at least not with boys turning out girls, there are a few opposite stories of early gender prediction (11-12) indicating girl, then becoming boy, but none the other way around. So I'm a bit depressed about not having a girl again, but still happy for a healthy rainbow baby. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow, still a long way to go, I wish it would happen sooner, so I wouldn't dwell over the gender much. Also I wish I could have another scan sooner, so there won't be even 0,01 percent of doubt and hope, which make it harder to embrace reality, but I'll need to wait till around 20 weeks I think to have a scan.

[Noemi2017]

Kelbear soo happy for u, your dream came true:ballerina:now we will pray your placenta is ok:pray:

[Noemi2017]

Sunstars i understand u... i wish u can hear girl but we must be happy for healthy baby:heart:

[gafan]

Just came out of my scan. Baby still small and something unusual with placenta but working ok for now. Will have to have scans every 4 weeks.
Asked to check gender.... can't believe it but it's a GIRL!!! I'm still in shock and shaking.Congratulations Kelbear!!!! Wonderful!!

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[gafan]

Raining and Kelbear, congratulations with your GIRLS! :)

So happy for you, Kelbear, I hope everything with the baby will be fine and your husband will become very supportive from now on. I was rooting for you so much.

Gafan, I had SCH too with my first, had a few episodes of bleeding, each time I thought it's over, but I tried to rest two weeks and stay well hydrated, and a few more episodes of brown discharge, and SCH was gone. Good luck!

As for me, I was searching internet for a little bit of hope that my boy will "turned out girl", but seems no way, and seems my doc is almost never wrong, at least not with boys turning out girls, there are a few opposite stories of early gender prediction (11-12) indicating girl, then becoming boy, but none the other way around. So I'm a bit depressed about not having a girl again, but still happy for a healthy rainbow baby. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow, still a long way to go, I wish it would happen sooner, so I wouldn't dwell over the gender much. Also I wish I could have another scan sooner, so there won't be even 0,01 percent of doubt and hope, which make it harder to embrace reality, but I'll need to wait till around 20 weeks I think to have a scan.

I know, waiting until the 20 week scan feels like so long.

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[Throwaway_panther]

Omg congratulations Kelbear!!! I knew that looked like swollen vulva :P It must feel so surreal for you!!

I feel like more and more though as you all get girls that I will get a girl too. I'm already buying up red meat to freeze dor postpartum since I guess I'll be trying to figure out what to do again... I know that depression has fully kicked in for me since my dog, so that could be coloring my perception of things, but I had a dream last night that I had a 10 year old daughter trying to kill me? Granted, it was not my DD, nor was I myself -- but for some reason Ashley Judd?? Lol. Who knows, but just not feeling like this life has much positive for me anymore.

[simkan]

Congratulations kelbear! Hope everything turns out ok with the placenta, and that she continues to grow. But still- what happy news to hear girl

Sunstars I can imagine how you're feeling. Though I thought the nub theory is not generally used by medical professionals to determine gender. Here in NZ they are not allowed to tell you anything gender related till 20 weeks because they can be wrong. I'm not trying to give you false hope. Probably best to think it's a boy for now. Just dont paint any walls blue yet.

TP I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. I dont have any advice to make those feelings go away. But I'm here for you!,
Dont worry about what others are having. I'd be taking comfort of lots of people were having what I wasnt hoping for cuz then thered be more odds in my favor.

Though I think this group is around 50/50 boys and girls. X

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[ABC.2606]

Raining and Kelbear, congratulations with your GIRLS! :)

So happy for you, Kelbear, I hope everything with the baby will be fine and your husband will become very supportive from now on. I was rooting for you so much.

Gafan, I had SCH too with my first, had a few episodes of bleeding, each time I thought it's over, but I tried to rest two weeks and stay well hydrated, and a few more episodes of brown discharge, and SCH was gone. Good luck!

As for me, I was searching internet for a little bit of hope that my boy will "turned out girl", but seems no way, and seems my doc is almost never wrong, at least not with boys turning out girls, there are a few opposite stories of early gender prediction (11-12) indicating girl, then becoming boy, but none the other way around. So I'm a bit depressed about not having a girl again, but still happy for a healthy rainbow baby. I'll be 13 weeks tomorrow, still a long way to go, I wish it would happen sooner, so I wouldn't dwell over the gender much. Also I wish I could have another scan sooner, so there won't be even 0,01 percent of doubt and hope, which make it harder to embrace reality, but I'll need to wait till around 20 weeks I think to have a scan.

I’m sorry you’re feeling a bit down about gender, sunstars. Hugs!!

When is your due date again? Just realized I haven’t added you to the list!


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[ABC.2606]

Omg congratulations Kelbear!!! I knew that looked like swollen vulva :P It must feel so surreal for you!!

I feel like more and more though as you all get girls that I will get a girl too. I'm already buying up red meat to freeze dor postpartum since I guess I'll be trying to figure out what to do again... I know that depression has fully kicked in for me since my dog, so that could be coloring my perception of things, but I had a dream last night that I had a 10 year old daughter trying to kill me? Granted, it was not my DD, nor was I myself -- but for some reason Ashley Judd?? Lol. Who knows, but just not feeling like this life has much positive for me anymore.

I’m sorry you’re still feeling down. Hang in there. It’s still very unknown as to what you’re having. And like simkan said we are getting about 50/50 so far in this DDG, just as it is IRL so you have every chance!!

I had a dream the other night my twins were born 10 weeks early. Probably had the dream bc I’m constantly worried about preterm labor. I think we just tend to dream about things we’re anxious about.

And I’ve had some REALLY weird dreams this pregnancy!! I guess it’s hormones!!!


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[Kelbear]

Omg congratulations Kelbear!!! I knew that looked like swollen vulva :P It must feel so surreal for you!!

I feel like more and more though as you all get girls that I will get a girl too. I'm already buying up red meat to freeze dor postpartum since I guess I'll be trying to figure out what to do again... I know that depression has fully kicked in for me since my dog, so that could be coloring my perception of things, but I had a dream last night that I had a 10 year old daughter trying to kill me? Granted, it was not my DD, nor was I myself -- but for some reason Ashley Judd?? Lol. Who knows, but just not feeling like this life has much positive for me anymore.

Thank you TP (and everyone else too) for the congratulations, yes surreal is the only way to describe how I feel. I was shaking and in tears in the waiting room before the scan as I was so sure it was going to be a boy. The tech (a male for a change) was so lovely and very thorough and got the consultant ultrasound tech in to check placenta too. He double checked that I wanted to find out gender before looking at that area and had asked what genders I had at home. I told him two boys and that I thought this was another boy and he responded by saying "you might need to buy some new clothes, it's a girl". Words I never expected to hear. Thank you all so much for your support as this has definitely been a rough ride and I know it may not be smooth sailing from here with my strange placenta issues but I know I can face this now the uncertainty of gender is gone.
TP I am so sorry you are feeling like this, I hope things improve for you. I still have everything crossed that you have a little man onboard. Have you considered getting another dog? A little boy puppy to give you something to help get you through this? I know it is still really raw and so soon after losing your beloved dog and a puppy and a newborn would be a handful but maybe you need something extra right now just to keep you going. My thoughts are with you.

[sunstars]

Abc, my due date is 23rd of March.
Simkan, I think my doc looked both at nub from profile and potty shot, and there was such a clear protrusion between legs, even I was convinced it's a boy. Here docs are pretty good at telling gender at 12-13 weeks, at some cases even at 11 weeks. I would love to have some hope, but realistically after what I saw and read on Internet about boy potty shots, there is no way. After I asked about chances, my doc said well, 99%, but I'm sure it's 100 :) From time to time I started to think about maybe trying for number 4, which should happen pretty soon after this one, since I already will be 40 when DS3 will arrive. Ahh, I don't know, I guess I just need to have some hope that I still have a chance of having a girl some day :)

[Happymommy1987]

Omg congratulations Kelbear!!! I knew that looked like swollen vulva :P It must feel so surreal for you!!

I feel like more and more though as you all get girls that I will get a girl too. I'm already buying up red meat to freeze dor postpartum since I guess I'll be trying to figure out what to do again... I know that depression has fully kicked in for me since my dog, so that could be coloring my perception of things, but I had a dream last night that I had a 10 year old daughter trying to kill me? Granted, it was not my DD, nor was I myself -- but for some reason Ashley Judd?? Lol. Who knows, but just not feeling like this life has much positive for me anymore.

TP, your dreams are intriguing!
Btw, I remembered the movie Double Jeopardy with Ashley Judd... the one that she’s falsely charged for murdering her husband, then after her time in prison she goes out and actually kills him?
Haha your dream may be more profound than you think 🤣 (im kidding)


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[Noemi2017]

Sunstars there is still some hope, im also praying every day for baby girl:pray: i need her so much in my life, i wish to have with her the same relationship like i have with my mother and i want to give her my mothers name...

[sunstars]

Oh, sounds wonderful, noemi, I also prayed and still pray you will get your girl, you deserve it so much! You know I was just looking to our due date group results, and there is already a lot of sway opposites, so there should be more successful ones on the way, so it would make to 30/70 site ratio :) good luck!

[simkan]

Abc, my due date is 23rd of March.
Simkan, I think my doc looked both at nub from profile and potty shot, and there was such a clear protrusion between legs, even I was convinced it's a boy. Here docs are pretty good at telling gender at 12-13 weeks, at some cases even at 11 weeks. I would love to have some hope, but realistically after what I saw and read on Internet about boy potty shots, there is no way. After I asked about chances, my doc said well, 99%, but I'm sure it's 100 :) From time to time I started to think about maybe trying for number 4, which should happen pretty soon after this one, since I already will be 40 when DS3 will arrive. Ahh, I don't know, I guess I just need to have some hope that I still have a chance of having a girl some day :)I totally understand what you mean. We had always said no more than 3. But I know if this one had been a boy I would've wanted to try for a fourth.
It became a little running joke with DH when he'd ask me what if this was a boy and I'd say- well we're gonna have 4 boys then (the joke being we'd try for a 4th and it will be a boy too)
I think I would've needed that hope to get through gd this time... even if it was pretend, if you know what I mean.


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[Noemi2017]

Oh really many sway opposites? I hope we will blessed with baby girls:HH::hugs:

[Throwaway_panther]

TP, your dreams are intriguing!
Btw, I remembered the movie Double Jeopardy with Ashley Judd... the one that she’s falsely charged for murdering her husband, then after her time in prison she goes out and actually kills him?
Haha your dream may be more profound than you think �� (im kidding)


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Omg this actually made me lol!! Thank you for this ��

And Kelbear, I'm glad you mentioned that, because I have definitely been thinking of getting another dog (boy, haha). DH seems reluctant at the moment, though he is a huge dog person and I know would eventually love any dog. Our grief has actually healed some stuff between us, to the point I have wondered if our dog did this for us :(...

And I know he was my "heart dog," and I'll likely never get that bond again, but I'm realizing I'm just totally a person who needs a dog in their life. And DD is definitely having a time adjusting...

BUT, is getting a new dog at 24 weeks pregnant with a 2 year old wise? Is it too soon to be rushing in?! Etc. I keep weighing pros and cons over and over...

[Kelbear]

Omg this actually made me lol!! Thank you for this ��

And Kelbear, I'm glad you mentioned that, because I have definitely been thinking of getting another dog (boy, haha). DH seems reluctant at the moment, though he is a huge dog person and I know would eventually love any dog. Our grief has actually healed some stuff between us, to the point I have wondered if our dog did this for us :(...

And I know he was my "heart dog," and I'll likely never get that bond again, but I'm realizing I'm just totally a person who needs a dog in their life. And DD is definitely having a time adjusting...

BUT, is getting a new dog at 24 weeks pregnant with a 2 year old wise? Is it too soon to be rushing in?! Etc. I keep weighing pros and cons over and over...

No doubt it would be hard with a puppy but I think now would be better than with a new born, you have 4 months to get through puppy toilet training etc and then the puppy will be just that bit older when Bub arrives and both will get used to each other very quickly. Plus your DD will have something to occupy her when Bub arrives and you are busy feeding etc. just seems like you need something else in your life to try to fill the gap left by your beloved dog to help you through this tough time. Each dog that graces our lives is different and can't replace the one before but takes its iwn special place in our hearts.

[simkan]

I understand. A house just needs to have a dog to be a home!
We actually got one of our dogs a week before DS1 due date (our other dog had died when I was 8 weeks pregnant and we did already have a tiny chihuahua/maltese). I made the mistake of looking at the spca fb page and his photo just called out to me! I won't lie there were times in the beginning that I thought- maybe this wasnt the best idea. Though he is a very big, boisterous, clumsy dog. Even now at 4 years old. No spacial awareness. Just bowls down the kids (and adults) but I wouldn't change a thing. Our little boy growing up with a puppy was the best thing. If having a dog in your life is something you need to for it! My only advice is choose something with delicate paws. Our dogs paws are literally the size of a newborns face and so heavy when he would jump up. Choose a bread that will suit you with little kids. :)

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[SurroundedByBoys]

I adopted this big goon at 5 months old when DS1 was 10 months old. 2 months later I found out I was pregnant with DS2. Its closing in on them both being 8 years old, and they are the best of friends. And Odie was a total s**t until he turned two, but we love him.


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[simkan]

Hey guys, so I had my 20 week ultrasound today. Everything looks good with the baby.
The only thing that wasnt great is whatever they saw with my bowel at 12 weeks looks the same... but the MRI came back clear so the tech was quite puzzled. I'm expecting my OB to make a thing of it at my appointment tomorrow and I plan to tell them that since I'm feeling fine, everything is working fine, what ever it is hasnt changed in 2.5 months that I want to leave it for now and revisit trying to find out what it is after the baby is born. We know it's not a tumor or cyst as the mri would have picked that up. So in my mind whatever it is can wait as I don't want to cause any risk to a perfectly healthy baby fiddling around there.

Ofcourse even though the NIPT showed girl I was so paranoid it was wrong. The tech did say it looks like a girl and showed me the 3 lines. (I'll attach pic) but I kept being convinced I could see boy parts throughout the scan... shows you what I know. But for those of you team green... I'd be 100% convinced i was having a boy right now if i didn't already know the gender! P.s can't believe how amazing the technology is with these pics even in comparison to my second 18 months ago! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180917/96431ffec1c1b86102233e6da58cdce2.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180917/25a24584b90bf7390330c1cb775d9183.jpg

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[Girlswaylondon]

Deffo a girl! Congrats simkan :)

[Kelbear]

Beautiful pic of your sweet little girl Simkan. I was the same at my scan thinking I kept seeing boy bits but was clearly a girl when the tech showed me the potty shot. So glad all is well with Bub, hoping the bowel issue isn't a problem and all goes well for the next 20weeks.

[Eighme]

She's beautiful, Simkan!

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[Eighme]

Well, I have my gender ultrasound tomorrow evening and i am nervous wreck. I keep googling girl pregnancy syptoms [emoji1787] and rereading my sway. I totally realize it's all circumstantial and every pregnancy is different.

I am just so ready to know so I can either rejoice or start the process of moving forward and coming to terms with another boy.

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[ABC.2606]

Hey guys, so I had my 20 week ultrasound today. Everything looks good with the baby.
The only thing that wasnt great is whatever they saw with my bowel at 12 weeks looks the same... but the MRI came back clear so the tech was quite puzzled. I'm expecting my OB to make a thing of it at my appointment tomorrow and I plan to tell them that since I'm feeling fine, everything is working fine, what ever it is hasnt changed in 2.5 months that I want to leave it for now and revisit trying to find out what it is after the baby is born. We know it's not a tumor or cyst as the mri would have picked that up. So in my mind whatever it is can wait as I don't want to cause any risk to a perfectly healthy baby fiddling around there.

Ofcourse even though the NIPT showed girl I was so paranoid it was wrong. The tech did say it looks like a girl and showed me the 3 lines. (I'll attach pic) but I kept being convinced I could see boy parts throughout the scan... shows you what I know. But for those of you team green... I'd be 100% convinced i was having a boy right now if i didn't already know the gender! P.s can't believe how amazing the technology is with these pics even in comparison to my second 18 months ago! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180917/96431ffec1c1b86102233e6da58cdce2.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180917/25a24584b90bf7390330c1cb775d9183.jpg

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Lovely, Simkan!!! Definitely a girl!!!!!!!

I’m sitting in the MFM’s office right now waiting for my anatomy scan!! Really nervous!!!


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[Pretty]

Beautiful pics!!
Good luck ABC and Eighme!! This little one was not coorperative during my anatomy scan, so we’ll finish it next appointment. Grrr...

[Eighme]

Yay, ABC!! Can't wait to confirm! And pretty, I'm sorry! When is your next appointment?

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[Noemi2017]

Good luck Abc with anatomy scan and :fingers: for u Eighme. Let us know:heart:

[Pretty]

Not til next month, I’m pretty sure we’ve seen her upper lip before so I’m just trying to not panic since that was one of my last fears.. she is sooooooo active, just couldn’t get her to flip though. Figures.
so excited for your scan tomorrow!! I was such a mess the day I found out! It’s such a relief to know though!

[ABC.2606]

Baby Boy and Baby Girl are doing well!! Measuring almost exactly the same still and approximately 12 ounces each!

Pretty - my boy was also not fully cooperating and I have to go back in a few weeks too!! He was in the “wrong” position and there were a few shots they couldn’t get. Guess it’s fairly common!

Eighme excited to hear about your scan!!!


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[simkan]

Thanks everyone.
That's great news ABC.
Goodluck Eighme. Hoping you hear girl. x

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[gafan]

Update: The genetic tests came back normal, good news! My bleeding stopped, and there has been less spotting. For now it seems all is well.
I decided not to find out the sex yet- I just didn't feel ready. I might wait 2 weeks, or until 20 week scan.

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[Kelbear]

Update: The genetic tests came back normal, good news! My bleeding stopped, and there has been less spotting. For now it seems all is well.
I decided not to find out the sex yet- I just didn't feel ready. I might wait 2 weeks, or until 20 week scan.

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So glad genetic tests came back all good and the bleeding has stopped , that must be such a relief. Fingers crossed you hear pink when you do decide to find out.

[Kelbear]

Good luck Eighme, thinking of you. Hoping you hear pink.

[Kelbear]

Beautiful pics!!
Good luck ABC and Eighme!! This little one was not coorperative during my anatomy scan, so we’ll finish it next appointment. Grrr...

Hopefully Bub cooperates next time for you. Think it is quite common to need to come back again, hard to have to wait though.

[Kelbear]

Baby Boy and Baby Girl are doing well!! Measuring almost exactly the same still and approximately 12 ounces each!

Pretty - my boy was also not fully cooperating and I have to go back in a few weeks too!! He was in the “wrong” position and there were a few shots they couldn’t get. Guess it’s fairly common!

Eighme excited to hear about your scan!!!


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So glad to hear the twins are both growing well. Hopefully your little boy cooperates at the next scan.

[Pretty]

Wonderful news gafan!! Thanks ladies, waiting for anything during pregnancy just seems cruel! I kept thinking I saw boy bits numerous times... I’m pretty confident in the NIPT, but those scans sure can be misleading!

[ABC.2606]

Update: The genetic tests came back normal, good news! My bleeding stopped, and there has been less spotting. For now it seems all is well.
I decided not to find out the sex yet- I just didn't feel ready. I might wait 2 weeks, or until 20 week scan.

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Great news gafan!!!!!

[Noemi2017]

Gafan what a great news:celebrate:

[Throwaway_panther]

I'm so happy to hear gafan! How great!! And I definitely understand on waiting to find out gender ;)

I'm also actually glad to hear so many of your anatomy scans had a stubborn baby, too! The techs made ME feel like it never happened that I had to come back and get so many scans (and nearly had to come back for a third). Glad to hear it's more common than that :P

[Eighme]

This is me today. I'm just ready to know, hopeful for girl, preparing for boy. My appointment is at 6:00 standard time. So I will update once I've composed myself and am ready to say what we are having!

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[Eighme]

Gafan, wonderful news! I am so glad baby and you are healthy!

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[Happymommy1987]

This is me today. I'm just ready to know, hopeful for girl, preparing for boy. My appointment is at 6:00 standard time. So I will update once I've composed myself and am ready to say what we are having!

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Eighme.. thinking of you and I think you are on the right track on hoping for a girl, expecting a boy. Remember whatever you hear today you will eventually come around and love this little munchkin. Fingers crossed!


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[Pretty]

Yay!!! So excited for you eighme!! We’ll be rooting for you no matter what!!

[gafan]

Eighme good luck!!

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[gafan]

I'm so happy to hear gafan! How great!! And I definitely understand on waiting to find out gender ;)

I'm also actually glad to hear so many of your anatomy scans had a stubborn baby, too! The techs made ME feel like it never happened that I had to come back and get so many scans (and nearly had to come back for a third). Glad to hear it's more common than that :PTP my tech said now they do 18 week scand at 20 weeks because this is so common that repeat scans are needed to get all the measurements.

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[Raining]

This is me today. I'm just ready to know, hopeful for girl, preparing for boy. My appointment is at 6:00 standard time. So I will update once I've composed myself and am ready to say what we are having!

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So excited!! Good luck and I hope you hear pink!

[Kelbear]

This is me today. I'm just ready to know, hopeful for girl, preparing for boy. My appointment is at 6:00 standard time. So I will update once I've composed myself and am ready to say what we are having!

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Good luck, keeping everything crossed you hear pink

[Eighme]

Unfortunately, he's all boy. I'm having a rough time right now. I'll come around to the idea of a boy, but I was just wishing for a girl.

I've already googled and I don't see how he could be anything but.

So, this is just going to take some adjusting to for me to be okay with the possibility of never having a girl. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180918/43e3e3608ad4b19c7c68590e6abd9048.jpg

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[Pretty]

I’m so sorry! We are all here for you, your little man is surely meant to be!!

[Throwaway_panther]

Oh Eighme, I can't believe it :( I'm so sorry it didn't turn out like you hoped!

[ABC.2606]

Eighme - I'm really sorry :(

Give yourself time and allow yourself to feel what you feel - it's ok. While I didn't really sway with DS2, I had pretty awful GD after we found out he was a boy. It was not an easy time.

I don't know if you're ready to hear this yet (and I understand if you're not), but I'll say it anyways in case it helps you as you adjust to this being a boy... There really is something special about seeing two brothers together. My boys - while they certainly have their bickering & battles - completely adore each other. They're best friends. The relationship between two boys is a really unique and fun thing to watch. As atomic always says... boys should come in pairs, like shoes :) And you're giving your son an incredible gift by giving him a little brother. That doesn't make your GD over not having a girl any easier, I know, but trust me, you will find so much joy in seeing your boys together. Even when they're wrestling and trying to destroy each other :) :)

[gafan]

Eighme, I am sorry. Be extra kind to yourself while you go through GD.

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[Kelbear]

Eighme I'm so so sorry you didn't get your little girl. Sending big hugs and hoping your boys will be best mates for life. I know that doesn't help right now but hopefully in time you will be ok.

[Eighme]

Thanks ladies. So I will stop googling, we are all 100% he's a boy. Right? I'm doing that googling comparing thing.

I already am feeling better after just allowing myself to cry and realize it isn't a girl for us this time.

Hope everyone else's scans turn out great and you get your desired genders! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180919/c51839a51dd733c1f102a4bf22ca9ca7.jpg

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[Raining]

I’m sorry you didn’t hear pink, Eighme. I’m glad you’re already feeling better about it! Your boys will be the best of friends.

[sunstars]

Eighme, I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl. Yeah, i think you can stop googling, my ultrasound looked exactly the same, I did googling for several days and there is almost no chance we can hear girl. My doc said 99 percent boy, but I think he doesn't like to tell 100 per cent at that gestation (12 weeks).
I agree with abc and atomic, boys close in age are so good at playing together. And especially if you plan for another baby and get your girl, after 2 -3 years, you will be happy that things turned out this way.
Well, I also had GD after my DS2, but now I think it is really how it is meant to be.

I just can't imagine how how things will turn out with DS3, since the age difference will be about 4 and 5.5 years, and I think that's a lot for them to become close playmates or mates. So besides GD this bothers me much now.

[Noemi2017]

Eighme first of all big hug:hugs::heart: i understand u are sad, i was also crying one day after i stopped and realized how i was silly. If it is other boy God sent him to me for some reason. But i dont stop to believe and pray for my baby girl now or one day:pray:

[Throwaway_panther]

Eighme, I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl. Yeah, i think you can stop googling, my ultrasound looked exactly the same, I did googling for several days and there is almost no chance we can hear girl. My doc said 99 percent boy, but I think he doesn't like to tell 100 per cent at that gestation (12 weeks).
I agree with abc and atomic, boys close in age are so good at playing together. And especially if you plan for another baby and get your girl, after 2 -3 years, you will be happy that things turned out this way.
Well, I also had GD after my DS2, but now I think it is really how it is meant to be.

I just can't imagine how how things will turn out with DS3, since the age difference will be about 4 and 5.5 years, and I think that's a lot for them to become close playmates or mates. So besides GD this bothers me much now.

Please, please don't let that age gap bother you! There might be rough moments, but I am very close to my sister who is almost 8 years younger than me (I have another sister in the middle, too, who is 5 years older than her and not close with her at all). It all comes down to personality vs age. My husband is an Irish twin with one brother and they aren't close at all and never have been -- he's much closer with his next youngest brother who's 2-3 years younger than him.

[simkan]

I'm sorry you didn't hear girl Eighme.
I totally agree with ABC about brothers though. My boys are so close. And ds1 is such a huge help with entertaining ds2. But I get it. I had a bit of GD t ds2s birth and felt a bit panicked over the possibility of never having a daughter. Just let yourself feel it. X

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[Eighme]

I actually love that a lot of you ladies have two sons! I'm hopeful in a few years we can try again for our girl. I am MUCH better today. My son has been asking for a brother, so it's sweet!

Sunstars, my nephew's are 7, and 9 years younger than their older brother! He's the best big brother and a HUGE help to my SIL. Age gap doesn't mean they won't be close. Personalities do. My sister and I are 7 and are super close

Thanks again for all your words of encouragement. I am not excited to hear from my in laws (this will be boy #5) on their side. But, they already thought this was a boy due to history, so not much pressure. My mom is excited.

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[mummaofboys]

I actually love that a lot of you ladies have two sons! I'm hopeful in a few years we can try again for our girl. I am MUCH better today. My son has been asking for a brother, so it's sweet!

Sunstars, my nephew's are 7, and 9 years younger than their older brother! He's the best big brother and a HUGE help to my SIL. Age gap doesn't mean they won't be close. Personalities do. My sister and I are 7 and are super close

Thanks again for all your words of encouragement. I am not excited to hear from my in laws (this will be boy #5) on their side. But, they already thought this was a boy due to history, so not much pressure. My mom is excited.

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I also have 2 boys and completely agree with everyone else... boys do belong in pairs. My boys adore each other, and I know that I by having them I gave them a best friend for life. Obviously they have their moments but for the most part they are gorgeous to watch together.

I’m so glad you’re feeling better after a big cry. Crying is so cleansing. I hope that one day you get your baby girl [emoji4]


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[hopper]

Huge hugs Eighme. You sound in a good place today. Just let yourself feel it. It's ok to feel how you feel. When we found out our DS3 was on the way I was so upset. I honestly just thought I was "owed" a girl. I know practically no one IRL with 3 sons, everyone I know who had two boys went into have a girl. But he is here and the most fabulous two year old you've ever laid eyes upon. He holds my heart!
One thing I will say about your second son - they come with a BIG personality! Anyone I know who has two boys agrees with me. They are fun fun fun!

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[Happymommy1987]

I actually love that a lot of you ladies have two sons! I'm hopeful in a few years we can try again for our girl. I am MUCH better today. My son has been asking for a brother, so it's sweet!

Sunstars, my nephew's are 7, and 9 years younger than their older brother! He's the best big brother and a HUGE help to my SIL. Age gap doesn't mean they won't be close. Personalities do. My sister and I are 7 and are super close

Thanks again for all your words of encouragement. I am not excited to hear from my in laws (this will be boy #5) on their side. But, they already thought this was a boy due to history, so not much pressure. My mom is excited.

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Eighme, Im sending you big hugs, I know what you feel and as women we get most of the pressure to give birth to a certain gender.
When I got severe GD with my 3rd son, I googled uplifting phrases and one that specially got me is, that the problem knowing mid pregnancy what youre having, is that you extract one sole fact of the human inside you and nothing else.
When you meet this little miracle, you will see his smile, his eyes, his chubby hands, his personality, your others sons joy, his laugh, etc. The fact that he’s a boy will be one fact out of a million. Right now, it’s the one thing you know about him.

Thats part of the reason I’m going team green ;)


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[ABC.2606]

Huge hugs Eighme. You sound in a good place today. Just let yourself feel it. It's ok to feel how you feel. When we found out our DS3 was on the way I was so upset. I honestly just thought I was "owed" a girl. I know practically no one IRL with 3 sons, everyone I know who had two boys went into have a girl. But he is here and the most fabulous two year old you've ever laid eyes upon. He holds my heart!
One thing I will say about your second son - they come with a BIG personality! Anyone I know who has two boys agrees with me. They are fun fun fun!

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YES, Hopper - I agree too!!! My DS2 is CRAZY, lol!!!! And SO different from his big brother!! Everything I thought I learned about parenting with DS1 went out the window with DS2 because he marches to a very different beat! (And a much more stubborn one!!). :). It’s great though!!


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[Eighme]

You ladies are such an amazingly supportive group! I am so lucky to get to speak with each of you individually! You have all made this pregnancy journey that much better for me!

So from the bottom of my heart, thank you to all of you!

Can't wait to see pictures of all these little ones as we get closer to our due dates [emoji1]

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[Kelbear]

Huge hugs Eighme. You sound in a good place today. Just let yourself feel it. It's ok to feel how you feel. When we found out our DS3 was on the way I was so upset. I honestly just thought I was "owed" a girl. I know practically no one IRL with 3 sons, everyone I know who had two boys went into have a girl. But he is here and the most fabulous two year old you've ever laid eyes upon. He holds my heart!
One thing I will say about your second son - they come with a BIG personality! Anyone I know who has two boys agrees with me. They are fun fun fun!

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Completely agree - my DS2 has only just turned 1 but already has the most amazing personality, so loving, adventurous and cheeky. He and his brother are best mates (DS1 calls him "little buddy" often. I was so disappointed to see DS2 was a boy but now I can't imagine my boys not having each other.

[hopper]

Completely agree - my DS2 has only just turned 1 but already has the most amazing personality, so loving, adventurous and cheeky. He and his brother are best mates (DS1 calls him "little buddy" often. I was so disappointed to see DS2 was a boy but now I can't imagine my boys not having each other.Boys should totally come in pairs! I think that's why I'm not as caught up in having a girl this time. I see the friendship DS1 and DS2 have and I think DS3 could use a buddy like that so I don't overly mind if this is DS4! Either way 4 is the magic number for us! I suppose part of me will be sad at never having a daughter but my boys are ages 6, 4 and 2 so at this stage I really do understand the beauty of rearing boys! I didn't think I'd ever understand them having come from an entirely female household but I come to learn more and more every day. And the idea that I'm shaping these wonder little men into some day being husband's and fathers makes me incredibly happy. I think my GD has always stemmed from listening to what other people have to say but as I've gotten older and the boys have gotten bigger I've come to care a helluva lot less what anyone else thinks. I think my only trigger now is pigeon pairs which seems to be getting less and less over time thankfully!

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[DesiG]

ABC- So so happy for you hun, I had forgot my password, but I often thought you! Twins such wonderful news.

[hannahptrussell]

Thanks ladies. So I will stop googling, we are all 100% he's a boy. Right? I'm doing that googling comparing thing.

I already am feeling better after just allowing myself to cry and realize it isn't a girl for us this time.

Hope everyone else's scans turn out great and you get your desired genders! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180919/c51839a51dd733c1f102a4bf22ca9ca7.jpg

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Eighme, I’m going to be really honest with you here. There was a part of me that really believed that I was going to be the only one not hearing my desired gender. And although I am so happy that I’m not alone, I am still so sorry that you didn’t hear girl. I’m happy that you have such a good attitude about it though! I’m almost glad I now know just so I can stop hoping for the opposite outcome. That little boy is going to steal your heart!!!


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[Eighme]

Thanks, Hannah! I absolutely agree with you. It's difficult to watch everyone get their GD's, and there has still been moments throughout the days since where I wonder "Well MAYBE..." But I know he's s boy.

He was just meant to be and I am still coming to terms with it. But it's a lot easier for me to focus on the positive than the might have been (just a personal thing because otherwise I'll go insane).

So, please feel free to message or talk to me if you want/need to because I know exactly how you're feeling! Hoping you and your little one are happy and healthy!

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[ABC.2606]

ABC- So so happy for you hun, I had forgot my password, but I often thought you! Twins such wonderful news.

Thanks Desi! I just replied to you on another post but please let me know how you’re doing!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Today a cashier said, "So getting closer, aren't you?" I said, "Not really!" and felt pretty offended. But then I overanalyzed and sort of registered that I'm now in my 26th week... so maybe I'm not as a far from the end as I feel? I don't know, pregnancy is so quick and so slow at the same time. Just feel like it was my first implied BIG size comment and now O feel self conscious!

[ABC.2606]

Today a cashier said, "So getting closer, aren't you?" I said, "Not really!" and felt pretty offended. But then I overanalyzed and sort of registered that I'm now in my 26th week... so maybe I'm not as a far as I feel? I don't know, pregnancy is so quick and so slow at the same time. Just feel like it was my first implied BIG size comment and now O feel self conscious!

Oh, girl - I'm preparing myself for those comments to start any day now. Only 20.5 weeks but I'm huge! I look like I'm 30+ weeks right now. My immediate, self-conscious response to anyone who asks how far along I am is "I'm only _ weeks.... But there's TWO!!". I can't imagine what people are going to say when I get further along.

[simkan]

Today a cashier said, "So getting closer, aren't you?" I said, "Not really!" and felt pretty offended. But then I overanalyzed and sort of registered that I'm now in my 26th week... so maybe I'm not as a far from the end as I feel? I don't know, pregnancy is so quick and so slow at the same time. Just feel like it was my first implied BIG size comment and now O feel self conscious!Tp people just feel the need to say something. I actually dont think they even really think about what they're going to say. Its like - pregnant lady, I must mention something about the size of her stomach.
With ds2 in the same day I had a stranger comment about how am I sure it isn't twins, and another say that my stomach was so small am I sure the baby is ok!
Just go with- ummm I'm not pregnant! That'll shut them up.


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[Eighme]

I always say pregnancy is the only time in a woman's life when people of all walks of life, age, ect feel like they get a right to comment on your body or just touch you without asking.

I got flustered with my first pregnancy when people made remarks, but now I flat out tell them they are being rude. It really makes people shut their mouths. I don't think they intentionally mean to be rude, but, I wouldn't walk up to anyone (pregnant or not) and make a comment on their body.


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[hopper]

I hear ya ladies! I got asked yesterday if twins run on my side of the family. I'm barely 13 weeks but I'm huge! I'm normally very slender but honestly I look (in the words of my DH) "about 5 months along"! I'm so conscious of people asking that I'm wearing super baggy clothes and DHs hoodies!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Thanks guys, and yeah, I had some REALLY shitty things said to me when I was pregnant with DD about my size I wish I had been braver to say things about -- and would have people even in the same day say I'm "too small to be __ weeks." And truly, in hindsight, I was pretty small with her -- my fundal measurement always lagged a few weeks behind even! Not this time, not after the shit I've been through lol. Even my "not really!" made the cashier kind of get quiet.

[SurroundedByBoys]

I had a cashier look at me and say 'Having a boy, huh?' and all I could do was blink at her. Im plus sized and just starting to look more pregnant than an extra fat belly. I looked down, then back up and she smiled and said she could tell by how high the bump was. I eventually nodded and said yes it is. I had always thought the OWT was high was girly. Im kind of thankful that she didnt say that. Im still having a bit of a tough time of it, even though a bunch of his clothing and items Ive ordered are showing up, and are awfully cute. I still look at them and ache for the headbands the pinks & purples and more feminine things. GD is a real... well, you know.

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Awwwwww, I’m sorry ladies. I feel like I’ve been huge since conception but let’s be honest here it’s all DH’s fault. He feeds me constantly (and himself, which is why he plans on taking his own baby bump pics too :rofl:) my weight loss plan is breastfeeding which doesn’t come across as a plan so much as wishful thinking but I’m trying to be optimistic here. Is everyone else ready? Like, I feel like I have so much to do and time is dwindling, especially with the holidays.... I’m basically starting from scratch and the only thing I’ve bought so far is clothing :nails:

[SurroundedByBoys]

I'm starting from scratch too. I had forgotten how much babies need! I made a list and have pretty much everything on it except some small things like pacifiers and the nasal aspirator and a stroller because I havent decided which way to go with that yet.

I think this little guy is confused. First trimester I felt totally fine most of the time. Lately, Ive had a constant feeling of nausea, fuzzy/dizzy feeling behind my eyes, headache lurking, and I just dont want to eat even if I feel hungry. Not to mention all I want to do is sleep all day :sleeping:

I'll be 21 weeks on Monday and he is thumping me like crazy. Hes getting in some good ones too, I fear when he gets bigger! DS2 bruised my inside around my rib and I think Oops is following suit. He also seems to like my bladder area because I feel like I need to pee 24/7.

[Throwaway_panther]

I had a cashier look at me and say 'Having a boy, huh?' and all I could do was blink at her. Im plus sized and just starting to look more pregnant than an extra fat belly. I looked down, then back up and she smiled and said she could tell by how high the bump was. I eventually nodded and said yes it is. I had always thought the OWT was high was girly. Im kind of thankful that she didnt say that. Im still having a bit of a tough time of it, even though a bunch of his clothing and items Ive ordered are showing up, and are awfully cute. I still look at them and ache for the headbands the pinks & purples and more feminine things. GD is a real... well, you know.

I am so sorry Surrounded, that I DEFINITELY relate to. i also had multiple complete strangers open conversations with, "So having a boy huh?" when I was pregnant with DD -- and it made my already bad GD even worse. When I asked why they thought that, I got a lot of "because you're all out front and just baby." I always let them know I was having a girl so they hopefully won't make some other poor woman's silent GD worse with their assumptions!

And I've heard both high and low for the OWT, which is why I maintain it's a crock of shit... though I had spent 20 min earlier this evening looking up bump and gender pics again since I don't follow my own logic lol

[Girlswaylondon]

I’ve carried my bumps exactly the same and they are boy and girl! It’s a load of poop! X

[SurroundedByBoys]

I need to get on the bump pictures... it literally came on out of nowhere. I actually took a comparison pic at 17 weeks with Oops and DS2. I was a WHALE with him. Maybe I'll take another one tomorrow since Ill be 21 weeks. DH said I should have acted like I wasnt even pregnant when the cashier said something, fluster her a bit.

17 week 'bump'
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I forgot to post this when I had my anatomy scan... this little stinker, SO stubborn. Hands in front of face, legs smushed together, in the corner by my hip and would not come out so she could get a particular shot of his heart. He is going to be trouble. From the half second of 3D I saw before his hands went up again, he looks JUST like my DS1 did. I have another scan at 30-32 weeks and Im hoping to get a 3D picture.

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And randomly... how adorable is this little outfit?
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[Pretty]

Soooooo adorable!!

[mummaofboys]

You look great surrounded! Oops is beautiful even if he is super cheeky already!! My bump is by far the biggest one I’ve had. I did weigh more when getting pregnant this time though, so more padding to begin with I guess!! This is my 16wk bump.
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[Throwaway_panther]

Surrounded, I can't believe you're on your third baby in that pic! You seriously don't even look pregnant. I feel like I'm just monstrous this time around -- mumma, like you I definitely weighed more before this pregnancy! With DD at 25 weeks I was JUST popping. Now I have people thinking I'm almost due at the same time?! lol

And Surrounded, this baby was in the exact same position and did the same thing as yours at anatomy scan -- we had to come in for a whole second scan and almost needed a third because so stubborn. Definitely gets that from their father... lol

Love that outfit! Reaaaally into owls for this LO too. DD is even being an owl for Halloween!

[ABC.2606]

Cute bumps ladies!!!!

Surrounded I had the same thing with my boy at the anatomy scan - they couldn't get a certain shot of his heart (as well as his profile and mouth), so we have to go back! He was in a difficult position for getting those pics and he would not flip around. And my girl has her hands up at her face every ultrasound!! Crazy little beans!

That outfit is so cute!!! I don't know if you've been on Carter's website lately but they have some really cute boy PJs & onesies right now!! Trying hard to resist buying too much!!

[Eighme]

Love the bumps ladies! I would post mine but I'm in that super awkward phase where you can't tell if I'm just fat or pregnant.

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[hopper]

Fabulous bumps ladies! Surrounded that scan pic of Oops is the cutest!!! I'm so excited for my scan on Oct 5th! It's getting here slowly but surely!

This is me a little over a week ago at 11+5. I'm normally straight up and down lol so the curves are a bit of a change!!
Feeling more and more human every day. It's starting to sink in that we are having our 4th little bambino, I don't think I really copped on before now!
Oh and I felt quickening movements in bed last night. I forgot how strange that felt!! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180924/08c9a19687c99b844b1c48c9d733555c.jpg

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[Eighme]

Fabulous bumps ladies! Surrounded that scan pic of Oops is the cutest!!! I'm so excited for my scan on Oct 5th! It's getting here slowly but surely!

This is me a little over a week ago at 11+5. I'm normally straight up and down lol so the curves are a bit of a change!!
Feeling more and more human every day. It's starting to sink in that we are having our 4th little bambino, I don't think I really copped on before now!
Oh and I felt quickening movements in bed last night. I forgot how strange that felt!! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180924/08c9a19687c99b844b1c48c9d733555c.jpg

Sent from my EVA-L09 using TapatalkThat is the cutest little bump, Hopper!

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[SurroundedByBoys]

Thank you all! Im loving all the bump pictures!

Eighme- I was like that for a long time haha What you see in the 17 week picture is pretty much what I was from the time I got pregnant until 18 weeks, I started actually looking pregnant then. Even so, its still not *super* noticeable. I'm going to try and get a picture today.

TP- TY! I was expecting to be even larger than I was with DS2 this time around, but turned out to not be the case. Weight wise with DS1 I steadily gained 24lbs, DS2 I was sick all the time and gained 14lbs over the course... this time, 21 weeks today and have been sticking within the same 3lb range since May. Not gaining or losing.

And I love all things owl! As well as foxes. Those two and elephants seem to be my biggest draws with things I buy for him. I actually have a sleeper out for deliver today I had ordered, with a fox on it and suddenly the picture when I checked tracking is showing dinosaurs so Im wondering if they switched it without telling me. Returns are always fun. :rolleyes:

[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you all! Im loving all the bump pictures!

Eighme- I was like that for a long time haha What you see in the 17 week picture is pretty much what I was from the time I got pregnant until 18 weeks, I started actually looking pregnant then. Even so, its still not *super* noticeable. I'm going to try and get a picture today.

TP- TY! I was expecting to be even larger than I was with DS2 this time around, but turned out to not be the case. Weight wise with DS1 I steadily gained 24lbs, DS2 I was sick all the time and gained 14lbs over the course... this time, 21 weeks today and have been sticking within the same 3lb range since May. Not gaining or losing.

And I love all things owl! As well as foxes. Those two and elephants seem to be my biggest draws with things I buy for him. I actually have a sleeper out for deliver today I had ordered, with a fox on it and suddenly the picture when I checked tracking is showing dinosaurs so Im wondering if they switched it without telling me. Returns are always fun. :rolleyes:

Omg, we were ALL foxes with DD! I even had a fox themed baby shower haha! We always were big fox fans because our dog looked like a fox -- now I am so heartbroken every time I walk into DD's room! Hopefully the dinosaur thing for you is just a computer glitch!

And oh man, I am jealous of your weight gain. I'm already feeling so huge and have so much more to go :(

[ABC.2606]

Fabulous bumps ladies! Surrounded that scan pic of Oops is the cutest!!! I'm so excited for my scan on Oct 5th! It's getting here slowly but surely!

This is me a little over a week ago at 11+5. I'm normally straight up and down lol so the curves are a bit of a change!!
Feeling more and more human every day. It's starting to sink in that we are having our 4th little bambino, I don't think I really copped on before now!
Oh and I felt quickening movements in bed last night. I forgot how strange that felt!! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180924/08c9a19687c99b844b1c48c9d733555c.jpg

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Cute bump, hopper! That’s impressive for 11 weeks! I’m sure being your 4th time around it’s very normal to “pop” much earlier!!


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[hopper]

That is the cutest little bump, Hopper!

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TY Eighme! I feel giant lol.


Cute bump, hopper! That’s impressive for 11 weeks! I’m sure being your 4th time around it’s very normal to “pop” much earlier!!


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TY ABC! I'm hoping you're right! I had that scan at 6 weeks and DH is adamant they must have missed a baby lol! If he's right I'll just drop off altogether! I'm reasonably sure though it's just cause I've had my previous 3 in relatively quick succession so my body is just ready to pop into preggo mode easier now!! I'm embarrassed to tell people I'm only currently 13 weeks, I'm wearing super baggy clothes so I don't need to explain!!


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[SurroundedByBoys]

A quick pic before I go pick the boys up from school... 21 weeks today. Much different from 17 weeks haha. Yes hubby collects toys :hide::bigsmile:

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[Eighme]

Okay, I want to play too even though I'm 17 weeks and got nothing but this weird square thing going on. It's like my abs are already out but my uterus isn't yet. I'm so awkwardly shaped right now. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180924/8b5e08d27457c8e9df3e27e5e98f3e94.jpg

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[ABC.2606]

Beautiful, surrounded & eighme! Eighme you definitely have a little bump there! Honestly I felt like I went from no bump at all to a huge whale overnight - lol!! I refused to even look at the scale today at the doctor’s office! I’ve already gained more this pregnancy than I did the whole pregnancy with my boys!!


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[simkan]

Ah ladies I'm loving seeing your bumps! I'll try remember to take a photo tomorrow. Though sometimes I feel like it's so obvious and other times you can't even tell.
I noticed another mom at my sons swimming lesson today glancing at my stomach. I ignored it though.... feels awkward to randomly go- yeah I'm pregnant... lol
Anyway DH is away for work and I'm so tired. The kids were crazy today and DS1 sobbed all night that he wants to go on the airplane and see daddy's hotel room. Major fomo! Heehee


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[Throwaway_panther]

Here's my bump pic from this morning before eating at 25+5 -- and oops you guys are getting an eyeful of leg and no bra with it haha. I'm cheating and sucking it in -- it hangs lower and looks more beer bellyish when I slack on my ab tightening lol

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[Eighme]

Here's my bump pic from this morning before eating at 25+5 -- and oops you guys are getting an eyeful of leg and no bra with it haha. I'm cheating and sucking it in -- it hangs lower and looks more beer bellyish when I slack on my ab tightening lol

https://i.imgur.com/kG7s8vK_d.jpgTP, you're 25 weeks already?! Where has the time gone? You look amazing for being over half way!

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[Kelbear]

Gorgeous bumps ladies! Wow, I am so envious of your weight gain surrounded, I seem to be putting on more this pregnancy despite having horrible morning sickness most of the pregnancy, but trying to make myself feel better by thinking maybe it's because I started off 10 kg smaller than I was when I had DS1. I already feel huge, will try to take bump pic when DS2 wakes from his nap. I have definitely popped quicker this time.

[Kelbear]

25 weeks...
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[Throwaway_panther]

I know Eighme, the time is sort of sneaking up on me here too. DH has sort of surprised me and has been nesting, super affectionate and kind, etc. -- even texted me the other day, "We're having a baby!!!!" I am blaming the full moon lol! But I think it clicked with him how close we're actually getting.

Kelbear, you look great! I'm of course obsessing now that I think our bumps look so similar I must be having another girl... gah!

[Noemi2017]

Girls u have so nice bumps:pregnant: im 17 weeks and i dont have any bump yet.

[Noemi2017]

Tp im happy it is better with DH:LotsofLove:

[Eighme]

This is completely random and I know a very personal decision, however, I just wondered how you ladies felt or what you thought about it adopting a specific gender?

Husband and I want a girl, eventually. He's actually thrilled to be having another boy and I've gotten used to the idea and love our little guy already.

Is it taboo to want to adopt a specific gender to complete our family? IVF isn't an option due to price and location. However, adoption was something my husband mentioned in passing and it got me thinking.

It would be guaranteed where as swaying will always be just the toss of a coin. I can't mention this to anyone in real life without a scoff or eyebrow raise.


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[Throwaway_panther]

I don't think it's taboo at all -- I don't think adoption is ever taboo, it's such a wonderful thing, and I think it really was the way people got around GD back before IVF and having babies until they hit their DG!

There are people that have done it on here btw, both embryo adoption and traditional adoption. And people talk about it often!

I think it's lovely to do. I personally wouldn't just because I truly have some big hang ups on having a boy from me (which is why I was full on considering sperm donors there for a second!). I'm not sure what you are, but be aware adoption can be more difficult and expensive than IVF. In our state, my husband and I technically could be barred from adoption because of our religious views since the agencies are run by a specific religious org, and many other places have this too. BUT I think it is obviously so worth it.

[Eighme]

TP, we are in TX. What state are you in, if don't mind me asking. I would love to do IVF but all the clinics are literally over six hours away. I was wondering if adoption was the easier, cheaper route. Obviously, I haven't looked into it fully.

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[Pretty]

I’ll send a personal message

[hopper]

@Eighme I think that adoption is a wonderful way to get your DG. We looked into it here (I'm in Ireland) and there's so many hoops to jump through, massively expensive and fostering seems to be the way they encourage you to go but I think the U.S. seems to be much more amenable to adoption. Best of luck with whatever you decide xxx

Had a little bit of GD rear it's super ugly head today! A very popular social media influencer, who is due a couple of weeks before me, had her gender reveal. She has a boy at home and is of course having a girl this time. Those PPs are such a trigger, grrrrr!!

Onto another different topic - girls there's some fab bumps on our group isn't there!! I think the OWT is completely debunked cause we are all carrying so differently even those of us with the same gender on board lol.

DH took a little bump snap earlier. Here's my up to date bumpie at 13+4. I'm proper huge! I had a mom at the school gate ask me how far along I was today. I added another week to my gestation lol! Even at that I was embarrassed! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180926/0705c0ab72d4e2b7c550ebbafa579548.jpg

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Love the bumps ladies!!

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14 week bump!
Love all of the bumps ladies :pregnant:

[Noemi2017]

Eighme i am also thinking about adoption...here u dont pay anything but it takes long time for a couple with children, they prefer couples that cant have children.

[simkan]

I'll join in on the bump pics since the house is quiet and I have a chance... I think it gets bigger at night. 21 weeks...
Bigger than with ds1, but smaller than I was with ds2.https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180927/1e62294ed9af7ba645d6f09a7fa6ef6c.jpg

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[gafan]

Love the bumps ladies! I would post mine but I'm in that super awkward phase where you can't tell if I'm just fat or pregnant.

Sent from my SM-G950U using Tapatalkme too! i had a belly before baby #1 and kind of looked preg (i think) ever since.

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[ABC.2606]

Awww I love all the bump pics ladies!!!! Can't wait for all these babies to be born!!!

[Kelbear]

TP I think my bump this time looks similar to how I was with both my boys so don't read anything into bump shape. I got told by so many people I was having a girl with DS1 because of how I was carrying him and boy were they wrong. I carried DS2 the exact same way.

[hopper]

Awww I love all the bump pics ladies!!!! Can't wait for all these babies to be born!!!Me too ABC!!! I'm so freaking excited! I can't wait to meet my bundle whether it's blue or pink. And our scan is 8 days away so I'm super excited to see bubba on the screen and just please God see that everything is ok!
I was looking at my DS3 this AM and just thinking to myself "wow, you'll be a big brother real soon" and it's just made me so excited [emoji170][emoji173]

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[SurroundedByBoys]

I love seeing all the bump pictures!

GD is still lurking as always. I am hoping it goes away at least for a little while. Doesnt help that I went shopping yesterday and everywhere I turned was a baby/toddler girl. One was in this rainbow tutu outfit and I nearly turned into a puddle. This little guy has been beating me up like crazy. I dont think either of my others were this active so early on. I keep telling him to enjoy the room while he can.

I would definitely consider adoption of a specific gender. I dont think its absurd and Id quite frankly not be so nice to anyone who wanted to say different. You are doing a great thing giving a child a home no matter what. I know here in North Carolina, there are religious agencies so I dont think we would get picked by them. However, if you adopt from the state its much less expensive or even free.

[Throwaway_panther]

I'm sorry the GD is so bad Surrounded. Mine got stoked today hardcore.

The good news: we're fostering a (boy) dog!

The GD news: one of the rescue workers said she was an old nurse in the maternity ward and was always 99% right and said I'm having a girl. "Oh, definitely having a girl." I actually kept ignoring her and she KEPT pushing the topic and kept very obviously looking at my butt. I said, "Are you looking at my butt?" And she said, "Yeah, girls always sit lower and make your butt wide. Boys carry high."

I literally turned and said, "My butt hasn't changed size at all this pregnancy" and she went, "Oh, it's ALWAYS that size?"

What nerve, am I right? As if the GD wasn't bad enough from her comments, but a dig at my big butt -- which doesn't bother me as much if only because it's been DH's pride and joy lolol. But man... here I thought fostering could help how I've been feeling, and now I feel even worse.

[ABC.2606]

I'm sorry the GD is so bad Surrounded. Mine got stoked today hardcore.

The good news: we're fostering a (boy) dog!

The GD news: one of the rescue workers said she was an old nurse in the maternity ward and was always 99% right and said I'm having a girl. "Oh, definitely having a girl." I actually kept ignoring her and she KEPT pushing the topic and kept very obviously looking at my butt. I said, "Are you looking at my butt?" And she said, "Yeah, girls always sit lower and make your butt wide. Boys carry high."

I literally turned and said, "My butt hasn't changed size at all this pregnancy" and she went, "Oh, it's ALWAYS that size?"

What nerve, am I right? As if the GD wasn't bad enough from her comments, but a dig at my big butt -- which doesn't bother me as much if only because it's been DH's pride and joy lolol. But man... here I thought fostering could help how I've been feeling, and now I feel even worse.

What the...?!?!? Why on Earth would someone say something like that?!! How RUDE!!!!! Sounds like you kept your cool - I’m not sure in my crazy hormonal state right now that I would have been able to, lol!!


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[Girlswaylondon]

TP WTF?! I almost want to laugh! My ass definitely didn’t look any different both times LOL

[simkan]

Tp that's ridiculous! I can't believe someone would think it's ok to talk to a stranger about their but! She must have some screws loose and I'd be surprised if she ever guessed a gender correctly.
Sounds like the type that got it right once and is living in the glory of that one correct guess telling people they're always right.


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[Throwaway_panther]

Thank you all SO much. I am so thankful for all of you -- all I could think was, "I need to get home and rant about this."

HER take? "I knew I was carrying a boy first because he was high, then knew I was having a girl next because I carried low, and I was right," when I pushed. I pointed out that would be intuition, just coincidence with the carrying and that her take doesn't even follow the Old Wives Tales, proving how BOTH are just coincidences at times. She shrugged and said, "I'm correct 99% of the time." I pointed out that EVERYONE thought my first was a boy, especially because of how I carried (DD was not there, as well, so she had no idea I had any other kids), and she wasn't and she went, "Hm." I so agree with you simkan -- she really struck me as a, "I was right with myself and for some other people, so I'm overinflating my accuracy." Like, definition of confirmation bias. I don't want to seem super rude here, but she was a sort of "trashy" persona and had the most awful smoker's voice... which doesn't mean anything, I just was as put off by HOW she was saying stuff as WHAT she was saying, lol, and I imagine it impacted how someone would TELL A WOMAN HER BUTT WAS BIG. If a MAN had done it, right? That's full on sexual harassment. So why did she think she could tell it to someone she JUST met. And lol, I did think of how my own dear SIL's hips and butt got PAINFULLY wide with her last -- a boy. It literally looked uncomfortable even from an outside perspective!

If I was less tired I would have pointed out, "Thanks bitch, I have SPD from fucking 10 pregnancies, so my hips are wide because THEY ARE DAMAGED." But I have had wide hips since puberty! Guess now they're meaning I was only going to have girls? Ugh. Eff her.

Her attitude reminds me of the people who would argue with me about DD though -- the, "No, you're having a boy, I'm always right" strangers (and my old boss) who always insisted DD was going to be a boy because of x, y and z (how I carried, how my hair looked, how I seemed, etc.). So by that logic, I COULD think, "Maybe that DOES mean I'm just the opposite of what people peg and this is a boy." But I'm just done hoping. I feel like she WAS right and that's why it slowly made me more upset -- and I know I felt more upset as I drove home too because even though I'm happy I have this distraction of helping this dog and he seems sweet so far, it just hit home how much I miss MY dog and I nearly cried.

If there's one boy OWT I've got this pregnancy, it's the fact that I DIDN'T fly off the handle from these comments or end up crying home. Lol, yet again I marvel at how I am emotionally lately. But even then, my therapist had thought boys OWT = mood swings based on her own pregnancy, so even that means nothing :P

[Girlswaylondon]

Everyone always guesses boy for me this pregnancy from the way I’m carrying! she’s been triple confirmed as a girl :p

[Babybeaublue]

TP people just talk sh!t. That's about all I have to say on that lol

[Eighme]

I would have just said, " Awww, thanks! My squats are really helping shaping up my ass. Thanks for noticing!"

I'm telling you, people are so freaking rude to pregnant women.

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[gafan]

TP- my jaw dropped when I read what that person said to you. Ridiculous!!

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[hopper]

Wow TP, just WOW! I didn't realise there were people in this world that were so blatantly rude!!! I mean, I get that people like to say something but her comments and pushiness were WAY over the top! Hope you're ok! And on the fostering a doggy news - huge congrats!!!

How are we all feeling? I'm now 14 weeks, scan is in under a week yay!
I got a fetal doppler today! Have had a lovely cry hearing babas heart beating! It was around 157-165 consistently. I think my boys were around the same around this stage which further reinforces the idea I'm having another boy.

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[Kelbear]

TP hope you are ok, some people are so rude and insensitive. So glad you have fostered a little boy dog, hope he gives you so much happiness.
Hopper this little one had a heart beat almost exactly the same as both my boys and it's a girl so hopefully heartbeat doesn't predict gender for you either. Good luck for your scan.

[Eighme]

Hopper, my son was always 140 and this baby boy has yet to drop below 160. Heartbeat definitely isn't an indication of gender.

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[hopper]

TP hope you are ok, some people are so rude and insensitive. So glad you have fostered a little boy dog, hope he gives you so much happiness.
Hopper this little one had a heart beat almost exactly the same as both my boys and it's a girl so hopefully heartbeat doesn't predict gender for you either. Good luck for your scan.




Hopper, my son was always 140 and this baby boy has yet to drop below 160. Heartbeat definitely isn't an indication of gender.

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Thanks ladies [emoji173] Good to know it's not a done deal and I can kinda hold a little hope. Tho I think hope is dangerous and part of me would love to accidentally (on purpose!) find out or get an inkling at our scan next week lol! I'll try remain strong and keep team green. I don't think I can imagine being team pink. It's awful cause I know in my heart deep down I'm content with whatever gender this baby is but it's so hard remember that when your pregnancy hormones make your well controlled, underlying GD rear it's ugly head way more than usual! My friends sister and another friend of mine have had their gender scans and both carrying their boys. They have little girls at home. I am just not able for pigeon pairs and it seems like they are rampant at the minute - yes, possibly cause I'm more sensitive to them but still. Grr, angry at myself now. Don't mind me venting. It's those darn hormones!!!

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[Eighme]

Thanks ladies [emoji173] Good to know it's not a done deal and I can kinda hold a little hope. Tho I think hope is dangerous and part of me would love to accidentally (on purpose!) find out or get an inkling at our scan next week lol! I'll try remain strong and keep team green. I don't think I can imagine being team pink. It's awful cause I know in my heart deep down I'm content with whatever gender this baby is but it's so hard remember that when your pregnancy hormones make your well controlled, underlying GD rear it's ugly head way more than usual! My friends sister and another friend of mine have had their gender scans and both carrying their boys. They have little girls at home. I am just not able for pigeon pairs and it seems like they are rampant at the minute - yes, possibly cause I'm more sensitive to them but still. Grr, angry at myself now. Don't mind me venting. It's those darn hormones!!!

Sent from my EVA-L09 using TapatalkI'm totally with you on the pigeon pairs! It's so frustrating to watch others get two of the same gender without trying. I hope you do get your little girl in the end, if not, we are all here and understand!

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[Happymommy1987]

Thanks ladies [emoji173] Good to know it's not a done deal and I can kinda hold a little hope. Tho I think hope is dangerous and part of me would love to accidentally (on purpose!) find out or get an inkling at our scan next week lol! I'll try remain strong and keep team green. I don't think I can imagine being team pink. It's awful cause I know in my heart deep down I'm content with whatever gender this baby is but it's so hard remember that when your pregnancy hormones make your well controlled, underlying GD rear it's ugly head way more than usual! My friends sister and another friend of mine have had their gender scans and both carrying their boys. They have little girls at home. I am just not able for pigeon pairs and it seems like they are rampant at the minute - yes, possibly cause I'm more sensitive to them but still. Grr, angry at myself now. Don't mind me venting. It's those darn hormones!!!

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I agree that hope is so dangerous!!
Im really hopeful right now and I wish I didn’t have a slight feeling this baby is a girl.
A friend that has one of each told me about how She did sperm selection for a boy and how great it felt to have her dream gender.
I got really sad about leaving my fourth and last try up to chance and a bit of natural swaying.
But then this is how Im comfortable.

When I had my boys I had lots of friends with boys. Now out of 10 pregnant friends/people I know, 9 are girls...
So they are all thinking Im going to join them, cause theres a “wave” of girls...
Who knows...



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[hopper]

I'm totally with you on the pigeon pairs! It's so frustrating to watch others get two of the same gender without trying. I hope you do get your little girl in the end, if not, we are all here and understand!

Sent from my SM-G950U using TapatalkThanks Eighme xx I know you ladies are the only ones who understand! I try to tell myself how unusual it is to be a single gender family but it's not really cutting the cheese these days. My SIL is also due her fourth later this year. She has 3 boys at home and has never hidden the fact she'd love a girl. I would love to see her get her girl - but part of me feels like if she gets a girl then there's not enough to go round for me to get mine - if that even makes zero sense?! And then another part of me would be gutted for her to get another boy cause I'd feel it'd spell the end of my chances of having a girl. I dunno, I think this is a boy and I just need to be ok with that and push all hope out of my head!

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[hopper]

I agree that hope is so dangerous!!
Im really hopeful right now and I wish I didn’t have a slight feeling this baby is a girl.
A friend that has one of each told me about how She did sperm selection for a boy and how great it felt to have her dream gender.
I got really sad about leaving my fourth and last try up to chance and a bit of natural swaying.
But then this is how Im comfortable.

When I had my boys I had lots of friends with boys. Now out of 10 pregnant friends/people I know, 9 are girls...
So they are all thinking Im going to join them, cause theres a “wave” of girls...
Who knows...



Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkI get what you mean. Everyone I knew who was pregnant when I had DS1 had boys. There was like an overflow of them or something! Even now his clothes size can be hard to find in local stores and I know it's cause there are SO many boys his age in our locality. When I had DS2 there was an outpouring of girls. They were EVERYWHERE! And when I had DS3 there were even more baby girls. I joined a local due date group and we did a chart out of curiosity. 73 girls versus 52 boys! I haven't joined anything this time and I'm being quite reclusive about this pregnancy. I don't think I can face the "oh you must be hoping it's finally the girl" remarks! One of my oldest bestest friends (though we have become quite distant in recent years) really hurt me when I told her I was pregnant. She was the only person who remarked anything about gender. She goes "oh you best get used to the idea that nothing pink Will ever grow in your womb" Shes the mother of daughters and has a blatant preference for girls so I shouldn't have been surprised. It just kinda took the wind out of my sails a little.
Anyway, yeah hope is dangerous. I need to try move past hoping and embrace the blue.

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[Happymommy1987]

I get what you mean. Everyone I knew who was pregnant when I had DS1 had boys. There was like an overflow of them or something! Even now his clothes size can be hard to find in local stores and I know it's cause there are SO many boys his age in our locality. When I had DS2 there was an outpouring of girls. They were EVERYWHERE! And when I had DS3 there were even more baby girls. I joined a local due date group and we did a chart out of curiosity. 73 girls versus 52 boys! I haven't joined anything this time and I'm being quite reclusive about this pregnancy. I don't think I can face the "oh you must be hoping it's finally the girl" remarks! One of my oldest bestest friends (though we have become quite distant in recent years) really hurt me when I told her I was pregnant. She was the only person who remarked anything about gender. She goes "oh you best get used to the idea that nothing pink Will ever grow in your womb" Shes the mother of daughters and has a blatant preference for girls so I shouldn't have been surprised. It just kinda took the wind out of my sails a little.
Anyway, yeah hope is dangerous. I need to try move past hoping and embrace the blue.

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When moms who have girls say an awkward comment, or a shameful one.. I always add that Im SO GLAD I have my boys. That I even swayed for the first two (which is true) and they end up giving a shocked face, its not as common to sway for blue as much with your first or second pregnancies. Most people sway for girls (in my area at least!) so people usually give me a startled look... like what?!?! You WANTED this??

What I plan to do , to prepare myself if I hear boy again, is print out newborn pics from my sons, and place them somewhere Visible.. whenever I see those pics my hearts melts with nostalgia and I think, how can I not want another one of these? [emoji170]


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[gafan]

I am shocked because I accidentally just saw the results if genetic testing, and I am having a boy. Part of the shock is boy in part of the shock is accidentally finding out by seeing it on my computer chart. I wish I had been more careful. This morning I'm going in for a prenatal appointment and will hopefully hear a heartbeat (SCH condition greatly increases odds of missed miscarriage.) I was hoping to find out about having a healthy baby before finding out the sex. So my sway failed again and this means I will never have a daughter. I wasn't ready to hear that.
And now I have to go to work in one minute. I'm kind of in shock. I know this will be okay in the end but right now I just feel alarmed. Deep breath. I'll let you know how the appointment goes soon.

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[Eighme]

I am shocked because I accidentally just saw the results if genetic testing, and I am having a boy. Part of the shock is boy in part of the shock is accidentally finding out by seeing it on my computer chart. I wish I had been more careful. This morning I'm going in for a prenatal appointment and will hopefully hear a heartbeat (SCH condition greatly increases odds of missed miscarriage.) I was hoping to find out about having a healthy baby before finding out the sex. So my sway failed again and this means I will never have a daughter. I wasn't ready to hear that.
And now I have to go to work in one minute. I'm kind of in shock. I know this will be okay in the end but right now I just feel alarmed. Deep breath. I'll let you know how the appointment goes soon.

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Oh Gafan, I'm so sorry you didn't get your girl. I'm also sorry for the shock that this caused. I completely understand the shock and having to put a game face on for work.

I found out with my first son on my lunch break and had to go back to work and struggle through GD while pretending everything was fine.

Please give yourself the time to wrap your head around and process as you need. We will all be here if and when you feel like talking.

But most of all, I'm sending good thoughts for a strong heartbeat and healthy baby for you.

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[simkan]

So sorry gafan. That you found out before you were ready and that you're not getting your girl. Hopefully the shock wears off soon. Take it easy at work today. x
I am shocked because I accidentally just saw the results if genetic testing, and I am having a boy. Part of the shock is boy in part of the shock is accidentally finding out by seeing it on my computer chart. I wish I had been more careful. This morning I'm going in for a prenatal appointment and will hopefully hear a heartbeat (SCH condition greatly increases odds of missed miscarriage.) I was hoping to find out about having a healthy baby before finding out the sex. So my sway failed again and this means I will never have a daughter. I wasn't ready to hear that.
And now I have to go to work in one minute. I'm kind of in shock. I know this will be okay in the end but right now I just feel alarmed. Deep breath. I'll let you know how the appointment goes soon.

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[Pretty]

Im so sorry! That’s such a tough situation and I hope you get some time to yourself! We’re all here for you! Hugs!

[ABC.2606]

Wow TP, just WOW! I didn't realise there were people in this world that were so blatantly rude!!! I mean, I get that people like to say something but her comments and pushiness were WAY over the top! Hope you're ok! And on the fostering a doggy news - huge congrats!!!

How are we all feeling? I'm now 14 weeks, scan is in under a week yay!
I got a fetal doppler today! Have had a lovely cry hearing babas heart beating! It was around 157-165 consistently. I think my boys were around the same around this stage which further reinforces the idea I'm having another boy.

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My boy/girl twins have had very similar heart rates this whole time. They both started in the 170s/180s, slowly dropped down and now they both seem to hover in the 150's. I truly think the heart rate thing is crap :)

[ABC.2606]

I am shocked because I accidentally just saw the results if genetic testing, and I am having a boy. Part of the shock is boy in part of the shock is accidentally finding out by seeing it on my computer chart. I wish I had been more careful. This morning I'm going in for a prenatal appointment and will hopefully hear a heartbeat (SCH condition greatly increases odds of missed miscarriage.) I was hoping to find out about having a healthy baby before finding out the sex. So my sway failed again and this means I will never have a daughter. I wasn't ready to hear that.
And now I have to go to work in one minute. I'm kind of in shock. I know this will be okay in the end but right now I just feel alarmed. Deep breath. I'll let you know how the appointment goes soon.

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Gafan - I'm so sorry that you both found out when you didn't want to and that you didn't see "girl". Huge hugs. I'm hoping that the sound of a healthy heartbeat today will give you a little bit of peace and lift your spirits a bit. It's so hard though to deal with GD. We are all here whenever you need to talk/vent!!

[Pretty]

Oh yes, mine did the same thing with the heart rate. By 14 weeks she was definitely into the 150’s.

[hopper]

I am shocked because I accidentally just saw the results if genetic testing, and I am having a boy. Part of the shock is boy in part of the shock is accidentally finding out by seeing it on my computer chart. I wish I had been more careful. This morning I'm going in for a prenatal appointment and will hopefully hear a heartbeat (SCH condition greatly increases odds of missed miscarriage.) I was hoping to find out about having a healthy baby before finding out the sex. So my sway failed again and this means I will never have a daughter. I wasn't ready to hear that.
And now I have to go to work in one minute. I'm kind of in shock. I know this will be okay in the end but right now I just feel alarmed. Deep breath. I'll let you know how the appointment goes soon.

Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkOh Gafan I'm so sorry on both counts - not hearing girl and most of all finding out so unexpectedly before you were ready! I'm sending so much love your way. I hope everything went ok at your scan today afterward xx

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[Raining]

The heart rate thing is completely false. At my first scan (9wks) her heart rate was 175, at my last appointment via doppler her heart rate was 150. My two boys were always in the 150's.


gafan- I'm so sorry you had to find out before you were ready. Be kind to yourself today as you process everything. I hope your scan went well!

[atomic sagebrush]

heart rate is meaningless. my daughter was the lowest of the 5.

It is NORMAL for babies' hearts to go from 180 range down to the 150 range. That is due to gestation and not gender.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh Gafan - so sorry. I hate that you found out before you were ready and I so wish I could have helped this to happen for you. :heart:

[Noemi2017]

Gafan big hug, take your time...:heart:

[gafan]

Thanks, everyone. I saw a healthy heartbeat today. And the SCH may be clearing up, so that is good news. I am less in shock and more ok. A lot to take in at once!


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[Noemi2017]

Gafan i also have 1boy 4years old and next year i will 39. I pray so much for baby girl. Im afraid i wont get her and i will long for her the rest of my life...but everything is done for some reason:pray:

[Noemi2017]

Nice u saw heartbeart and baby is healthy. Big hug:LotsofLove:

[ABC.2606]

Gafan that’s great news!!!! Glad you are feeling a little better too. It takes time I know to adjust.


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[kittendreams]

Girls... I'm first going to start with an apology.
I know I completely checked out of here when I found out about ds3 and I am truly sorry to have worried any of you- it was not my intention it was just my only coping strategy unfortunately!
This site was my place of hope and when the hope was gone it was just too painful to come here until I was in a better place mentally. It was selfish of me but I had to do something to ease the pain so I can could carry on for my boys and husband.
I know most of you will understand and if I've upset anyone I really do apologise xxx

I'm doing better. I'm 21 weeks and slowly getting excited to meet our little man. Our 20 week scan was great and he looks just like his big brothers!

Family and friends have been mostly positive with their comments which really helps too.

I am going to go back and read the thread to catch up on you all- I have missed you all!

Congratulations in advance to all of you who have found out they are having their desired gender and heartfelt hugs to those who have not and are dealing with the pain associated with that. I hope I can help you find peace xxx

[Eighme]

Girls... I'm first going to start with an apology.
I know I completely checked out of here when I found out about ds3 and I am truly sorry to have worried any of you- it was not my intention it was just my only coping strategy unfortunately!
This site was my place of hope and when the hope was gone it was just too painful to come here until I was in a better place mentally. It was selfish of me but I had to do something to ease the pain so I can could carry on for my boys and husband.
I know most of you will understand and if I've upset anyone I really do apologise xxx

I'm doing better. I'm 21 weeks and slowly getting excited to meet our little man. Our 20 week scan was great and he looks just like his big brothers!

Family and friends have been mostly positive with their comments which really helps too.

I am going to go back and read the thread to catch up on you all- I have missed you all!

Congratulations in advance to all of you who have found out they are having their desired gender and heartfelt hugs to those who have not and are dealing with the pain associated with that. I hope I can help you find peace xxxSo glad to hear from you, Kitten! I'm glad you're doing better and I hope it continues to improve for you. I'm also happy your little guy is doing great!

I also understand the GD, I still have bouts of it from time to time. My sway didn't go my way and I'm having my second son in March.

I think it's very admireable you took a step back for you, your well being, and family first! Hope we get to see you around from time to time!

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[kittendreams]

So glad to hear from you, Kitten! I'm glad you're doing better and I hope it continues to improve for you. I'm also happy your little guy is doing great!

I also understand the GD, I still have bouts of it from time to time. My sway didn't go my way and I'm having my second son in March.

I think it's very admireable you took a step back for you, your well being, and family first! Hope we get to see you around from time to time!

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Thank you eighme. I'll definitely be around to see all these special babies make their entrance into the world xx
Congratulations on your little man!
How are you feeling? Have you had your 20 week scan yet? I found that helped me bond with ds3.
I'm sorry your sway didn't work- it's such a tough place to be and I hope you have found a place of peace xx

[gafan]

Girls... I'm first going to start with an apology.
I know I completely checked out of here when I found out about ds3 and I am truly sorry to have worried any of you- it was not my intention it was just my only coping strategy unfortunately!
This site was my place of hope and when the hope was gone it was just too painful to come here until I was in a better place mentally. It was selfish of me but I had to do something to ease the pain so I can could carry on for my boys and husband.
I know most of you will understand and if I've upset anyone I really do apologise xxx

I'm doing better. I'm 21 weeks and slowly getting excited to meet our little man. Our 20 week scan was great and he looks just like his big brothers!

Family and friends have been mostly positive with their comments which really helps too.

I am going to go back and read the thread to catch up on you all- I have missed you all!

Congratulations in advance to all of you who have found out they are having their desired gender and heartfelt hugs to those who have not and are dealing with the pain associated with that. I hope I can help you find peace xxxIt is good to hear from you, Kitten. I am glad to hear you are bonding with this baby.

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[ABC.2606]

Kitten - it's so good to hear from you!!! I know a lot of us were really worried - not upset of course - just worried if you were doing ok!!! I totally understand needing to take a break and be away from here. I'm glad you've been able to focus on your husband and boys and work through some of the painful emotions. GD sucks so badly - I wish no one had to go through it. And I'm glad you're getting more excited about your new little guy!! I agree - anatomy scans do seem to help with the bonding process. And I know the minute you meet him you'll fall even more in love! I can tell you are a wonderful mother and these three boys are very lucky to have you as their mom!!

[kittendreams]

Oh ABC thank you so much for your kindness I've missed you immensely!
I also distanced myself from social media, some activities and even some family and friends and it allowed me to get perspective and time to heal without triggers and I'm so glad it worked- I just want to be a good mum it's all I've ever wanted to be.
I read so many books over the last 10 weeks purely fiction (mainly Jodi Picoult lol she's good for putting problems in perspective) and took the boys to so many new places we would never normally go like exploring creeks, having picnics, going on bush walks and visiting new deserted beaches and sometimes we just stayed home and played all day- it was the best escape for me. I just wanted to reconnect with my boys and get to know them more- sort of get back to the basics of mothering without the wanting/desiring/waiting. I guess I just decided to enjoy the now without the what ifs.
I have thought of you so much and sent positive thoughts your way.
How are those beautiful twin bubbas?

[hopper]

Girls... I'm first going to start with an apology.
I know I completely checked out of here when I found out about ds3 and I am truly sorry to have worried any of you- it was not my intention it was just my only coping strategy unfortunately!
This site was my place of hope and when the hope was gone it was just too painful to come here until I was in a better place mentally. It was selfish of me but I had to do something to ease the pain so I can could carry on for my boys and husband.
I know most of you will understand and if I've upset anyone I really do apologise xxx

I'm doing better. I'm 21 weeks and slowly getting excited to meet our little man. Our 20 week scan was great and he looks just like his big brothers!

Family and friends have been mostly positive with their comments which really helps too.

I am going to go back and read the thread to catch up on you all- I have missed you all!

Congratulations in advance to all of you who have found out they are having their desired gender and heartfelt hugs to those who have not and are dealing with the pain associated with that. I hope I can help you find peace xxxI recognise your name from my previous sway and I've gathered a little of your story from bits I've read by the wonderful ladies in this group so although you are likely unfamiliar with me I just wanted to say I'm glad to see you have found the strength and inner peace to come back. I too had a "failed sway" (hate that term!) with my DS3 and after being a super active member for a long time prior to that I just left and felt I couldn't come back. I know the girls here would have understood more than anyone else but, also like you, I put myself on a social media ban and just embraced the moment. It helped immensely. I think part of my GD stemmed from being unable to handle the almost disappointment of others at hearing I was having yet another boy. (Another reason I have not and will not be putting anything on any social media platforms about this pregnancy. It's much easier when you just go with it and live in the now)
And then meeting DS3 and experiencing the beauty of Who he is and how he has healed my heart has made GD so much easier to manage. He is the light of our lives and as another member told me at the time when I found out we were having a third boy "They may not always be the gender we want but we always get the child we need" and it's proven to be so true for us.
I truly hope you enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and I look forward to seeing you around here again xx

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[Pbn3]

Kittendreams I can't tell you how happy I am to see you post. I never stopped thinking of you [emoji173]

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[simkan]

So glad to see you back and feeling better Kittendreams! I totally understand where you were coming from going off for a bit.
Dont think anyone would of ever been upset with you! Just happy to know you're ok!

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[kittendreams]

Your kind words and support are so humbling thank you girls this is such a special place xx
Hopper your story gives me so much comfort thank you for sharing. I had a failed (hate that term too) sway with ds2 as well and I took that a lot better than this time- I'm not sure why but he is the light of our lives so when I feel down I just look at him and remind myself how lucky I am to have him and remember that as soon as I saw him I fell head over heels ( same as ds1 really too) and I know I'll do the same this time too.

Pbn I think of you so much too- I'm sure you are still being a beautiful angel to everyone on these boards and I look forward to reading your sweet and thoughtful posts again xx

Simkan how are you? Hoping your pregnancy has been uncomplicated so far and that your beautiful girl is cooking away nicely! Have you had your 20 week scan yet?
Xxx

[Throwaway_panther]

Oh gafan, I am so, so sorry not only that your sway didn't go your way but that you found out that way! I wish they had flagged the report somehow better :( I am so glad you are feeling a bit better now. You are so strong to have gotten through the day after that shock <3

kittendreams, I am so happy to see you back on! I don't think there's a single one of us who was offended! We all just were worried, since we know how awful GD can be. I totally understand you needing to take the time to yourself and am really pleased to see you back. I'm glad you are getting good support from DH and aren't needing to weather awful GD comments either! I know how much of a difference that can make.

As always in this journey, it always seems so cruel that you both get what I've put myself through hell for, when I'd do anything to give YOU all what you want so much and keep it far away from me! GD is such a U&$*&%!

[gafan]

I am feeling a bit better today. When I woke up I just felt less anxious knowing I am still pregnant and forgot at first anything about boy/girl.

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[Noemi2017]

Kittendreams good u r back:heart: i like your attitude and im sure u r perfect mother to your kids and new baby will bring much more joy to your family:LotsofLove:

[hopper]

Your kind words and support are so humbling thank you girls this is such a special place xx
Hopper your story gives me so much comfort thank you for sharing. I had a failed (hate that term too) sway with ds2 as well and I took that a lot better than this time- I'm not sure why but he is the light of our lives so when I feel down I just look at him and remind myself how lucky I am to have him and remember that as soon as I saw him I fell head over heels ( same as ds1 really too) and I know I'll do the same this time too.

Pbn I think of you so much too- I'm sure you are still being a beautiful angel to everyone on these boards and I look forward to reading your sweet and thoughtful posts again xx

Simkan how are you? Hoping your pregnancy has been uncomplicated so far and that your beautiful girl is cooking away nicely! Have you had your 20 week scan yet?
Xxx

Oh I hear you on your DS2 kitten! Mine was a relatively mild IG sway (Shettles, douching etc) as I hadn't found these forums. I discovered here a few months into my second pregnancy though I didn't handle the news of another boy in a bad way at all and became obsessive on planning my sway for my girl which ended up being DS3 lol. I have to say I took that one a lot lot harder probably as a result of all the effort I put into that sway. I started the LE diet the day after my 6 weeks check with DS2. I was too caught up in it. And we had another sway last year that I just felt was successful but ended in a mc at 6 wks. I try remember how lucky I am to have my three healthy fabulous sons and most days that's enough. Most days. Still doesn't mean it's easy tho, as you well know I'm sure. You sound like you're in a really good place now though so well done to you, it's not easy.
You've made me excited to our 20 week scan, I'm hoping that despite staying team green and living with that inkling of hope (that stupid hope!) that I will really bond with baby regardless of gender after that scan.

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[ABC.2606]

Oh ABC thank you so much for your kindness I've missed you immensely!
I also distanced myself from social media, some activities and even some family and friends and it allowed me to get perspective and time to heal without triggers and I'm so glad it worked- I just want to be a good mum it's all I've ever wanted to be.
I read so many books over the last 10 weeks purely fiction (mainly Jodi Picoult lol she's good for putting problems in perspective) and took the boys to so many new places we would never normally go like exploring creeks, having picnics, going on bush walks and visiting new deserted beaches and sometimes we just stayed home and played all day- it was the best escape for me. I just wanted to reconnect with my boys and get to know them more- sort of get back to the basics of mothering without the wanting/desiring/waiting. I guess I just decided to enjoy the now without the what ifs.
I have thought of you so much and sent positive thoughts your way.
How are those beautiful twin bubbas?

That sounds amazing and I'm sure your boys have loved all that special time with you! I am so terrible at disconnecting from all the stresses and worries of life and just being present in the moment. If you have any tips on how you did it let me know!!! :) Sounds like you have done a great job avoiding a lot of the triggers too that trip all of us with GD up! Social media can be terrible with that too.

Twins are doing good so far - 22 weeks now. I'm counting down the days until we hit 28 weeks when I feel like my fear of going into labor too early will ease a bit. I joined a FB twins group and soooo many of the moms there delivered before 35 weeks... So it makes me pretty anxious and I wonder all the time about how long they will be able to "stay in". But so far, things are going well and they are measuring on track!

[ABC.2606]

Ladies I realized we went well over the 50 page limit atomic likes us to stay at for these threads :) Whoops - my fault!!! So I created a new thread. Feel free to hop on over there whenever :) :)

Link:
https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/due-date-buddies/68235-part-4-due-january-february-march-2019-a.html?highlight=January+due

[kittendreams]

Oh gafan, I am so, so sorry not only that your sway didn't go your way but that you found out that way! I wish they had flagged the report somehow better :( I am so glad you are feeling a bit better now. You are so strong to have gotten through the day after that shock <3

kittendreams, I am so happy to see you back on! I don't think there's a single one of us who was offended! We all just were worried, since we know how awful GD can be. I totally understand you needing to take the time to yourself and am really pleased to see you back. I'm glad you are getting good support from DH and aren't needing to weather awful GD comments either! I know how much of a difference that can make.

As always in this journey, it always seems so cruel that you both get what I've put myself through hell for, when I'd do anything to give YOU all what you want so much and keep it far away from me! GD is such a U&$*&%!


Thank you TP! I wish nothing more than for you to get your son after all you have been through! Well done for staying team green all this time you are amazing xx

[kittendreams]

Oh I hear you on your DS2 kitten! Mine was a relatively mild IG sway (Shettles, douching etc) as I hadn't found these forums. I discovered here a few months into my second pregnancy though I didn't handle the news of another boy in a bad way at all and became obsessive on planning my sway for my girl which ended up being DS3 lol. I have to say I took that one a lot lot harder probably as a result of all the effort I put into that sway. I started the LE diet the day after my 6 weeks check with DS2. I was too caught up in it. And we had another sway last year that I just felt was successful but ended in a mc at 6 wks. I try remember how lucky I am to have my three healthy fabulous sons and most days that's enough. Most days. Still doesn't mean it's easy tho, as you well know I'm sure. You sound like you're in a really good place now though so well done to you, it's not easy.
You've made me excited to our 20 week scan, I'm hoping that despite staying team green and living with that inkling of hope (that stupid hope!) that I will really bond with baby regardless of gender after that scan.

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Wow hopper we have such a similar story! Right down to starting our second sway at 6 weeks pp! My first sway with ds2 was mix of ig, gd and shettles. Ds3 just pure gender dreaming with exercise, Le diet, 1 attempt, clomid and everything lol! So if we try again I will not sway I just don't think it works for me.
I really really hope this is your girl and if not well we both know how these little opposites steal our hearts so we can take comfort in that xx

[hopper]

Wow hopper we have such a similar story! Right down to starting our second sway at 6 weeks pp! My first sway with ds2 was mix of ig, gd and shettles. Ds3 just pure gender dreaming with exercise, Le diet, 1 attempt, clomid and everything lol! So if we try again I will not sway I just don't think it works for me.
I really really hope this is your girl and if not well we both know how these little opposites steal our hearts so we can take comfort in that xx

Wow I didn't realise you did a mixed sway the first time. I remember finding here and being like "Ugh, I'm so having a boy" lol, so he wasn't a shock to me when I realised I was totally going against the findings on here. I think my third son really threw me cause I was ON IT lol. I really thought he was my girl cause it was a kitchen sink sway! But I was at it for too long I reckon. I needed to add in more dairy and protein etc as the diet went on cause my cycle was all over the place. I didn't sway as such this time - the main difference this time was Clomid. We were both ill when ttc so despite saying we'd do e4d it ended up being O-5 and O day (I think - this was the first time we ttc-ed where I didn't use OPKs! So I was kinda winging it!) I'm ok with whatever gender this child is, obviously I'd love a daughter but my third boy has made me really appreciate this whole boy mom business :) Hes heavenly! I'm after surprising myself actually, I really want to stick being team green and I'm terrified I'll see boy bits at my scan on Friday cause I'm a PRO at spotting them now haha! I just don't want to know. There's a small piece of hope there but it's mostly nice to just enjoy this last pregnancy for what it is!

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