UK SMOG Wannabes - March [Archive] - Page 2

littlemisswilko

March 14th, 2012, 03:16 PM

Did anyone see that girl on This morning who had a craving for sucking then developed into eating sponges whilst pg with her ds? it rang so many bells for me when pg with both ds's. apart from hers was more extream than mine. i never ate the sponge i just loved the smell of a soapy sponge and would fill it will boiling water and suck it. Dp was watching it upstairs and came down after the interveiw and said 'your double was on the tele' and i burst out laughing! although i never kept my addicition from him, im sure he thought i was crazy. i would wake up in the night wanting a fix and then go back to bed and dp would be asking what the hell i was messing about at in the toilet with the constant running water. it was so embarressing but i just couldnt help it. i never had any other type of craving for food etc just that one. it stopped striaght away after i had them, it was just whilst i was pg. now ive googled it and it seems that its quite a normal craving. lol i hope you all dont think im crazy :rofl:

i havent yet felt the need to buy any sponges yet tho! :)

Sunset

March 14th, 2012, 03:29 PM

Hi ladies. I am so physically drained today since ds2 got rushed to A&E last night. He is doing much better today and we got the good news that his eye is not infected but it's only the surrounding tissue that is affected so he should hopefully only need another 48 hours or so of iv antibiotics... it was so scary last night, it all went so fast :( i put him to bed at 7pm and all you could see then was a tiny red mark next to his eye and 3 hours later his eye was the size of a golf ball, no kidding! OH is with him at the hospital tonight and i'm home looking after ds1 and dd.. hoping he will be able to come home tomorrow evening or friday

chocolate congrats on your boy! i'm so sorry you didnt hear pink.. seems like you must have had a real strong gut instinct though. ((hugs))

chocolate

March 14th, 2012, 03:37 PM

Thanks everyone, had a good cry a few times now, poor DS1 saw some of it and has been trying to be really good and make me happy which just makes me feel guilty. OH rang but I had to hang up as I just didnt want to talk about it.
My mum rang and I just said 'I knew it was a boy all along so cant really be disappointed' but then had a bit of a rant about how if my boys turn out like the men I know then she won't be saying in 10years time that they are lovely.

Def. can't ever get pregnant again if there is a chance its a boy as I have been so bloody moody the last 3 months, can't wait to not be pregnant again, Im sure once I have an actual baby in my arms to cuddle it will be ok, but right now I just dont feel particularly positive about anything in my life right now. Boys are giving me a hard time, work is crap, family etc. are all selfish, just can't be bothered with much. Roll on September.

Anyway, thanks for the sympathy and sure Ill be back on at some point, Charlie I hope we have done the fair share of boys for this thread now.

xx

Kell

March 14th, 2012, 05:16 PM

Sorry you didn't hear pink chocolate, hugs.
Hope you are ok xxx
When he finally arrives all will come right hun

Lavenderlime

March 14th, 2012, 05:44 PM

Inglewood. I had this happen to one of my pushchairs and mould and mildew spray (stuff designed for cleaning bathrooms smells bleachy) got it all out and didn't bleach the fabric. You can do a little test patch. I would def give it a go!

Chocolate congrats on your little boy, sorry you didn't here girl. xx

Sunset hope your poor ds feels better soon. xx

It's all a little manic here. Bathroom being fitted, trying to fit in grouting tiles, piles of clothes everywhere, DS2 screaming cuddle at me every 5 minutes ......

I've taken a break off the diet. I was making me feel lousy.
Taking a break off TTC going to keep having tests to monitor my fertility. Just going to try and focus on other things for a while.

threelittlemenandcounting

March 14th, 2012, 05:56 PM

Chocolate sorry you didn't hear girl but congratulations on your beautiful little boy xx

Lavenderlime

March 14th, 2012, 06:01 PM

Chocolate how is your ds1?
My ds1 was going through a really naughty stage when he was about 3 ish and the H/V said to praise him A LOT all through the day, for really simple things like 'Thankyou for drinking you drink so nicely', 'What a good boy for holding my hand when crossing the road' 'Well done for getting out of the bath when you were asked', etc. Also try and ignore the bad behaviour as much as possible unless it's dangerous because they are doing it to get your attention good or bad. So will cotton on that they get more attention if they are good. Also to have a little treat bag and fill it with loose balloons, stickers, bubbles small treats etc. If they have a really good day allow them to pick one thing out of the bag.

It really actually worked for my DS. She also sugested To have some one, on one time with just him for at least 30 minutes of each day.

So I would get him to sit on the counter top whilst I washed up and he'd chat to me, or i'd just sit and play with him whilst ds1 was napping (instead of running around doing housework) or we'd bake together etc. Until she said it I didn't reaslise that I rarely did things just with him that didn't involve ds2.

deaks66

March 14th, 2012, 06:18 PM

Chocolate, I'm so sorry you didn't hear girl. Congrats on your blue bundle though, he is going to melt your heart.

Sunset, hope ds improves very soon, very scary for you both! What caused the infection? Can't believe how quickly it grew, you must have been terrified.

Babymad, sounds like you have really been through it what with illness and dh being insensitive. Hopefully you will catch up on much needed sleep very soon and then everything else will start to feel more manageable. It's so frustrating that the only cure to gd is the actual baby being born but pregnancy just lasts so long. You will get there soon though and holding your baby will be wonderful.

Hi to everyone else as always. Got my parents here but hoping to catch up on posts properly tomorrow sometime.

Maybe, I hope all is well with little Dave.

X

Sunset

March 15th, 2012, 03:18 AM

Lavenderlime I think it sounds like the right thing to do if the diet makes you feel lousy. Hopefully you will get on top of your fertility soon so you can get that magic bfp!

Deaks ~ i'm hoping he will be able to come home tonight or tomorrow. getting ready now to go to the hospital and see him. It was very scary indeed.. it was an ear infection that spread and probably didnt help that his nose was blocked as well.

chocolate

March 15th, 2012, 04:48 AM

cocos-mum

March 15th, 2012, 07:33 AM

charlieispy

March 15th, 2012, 08:40 AM

Thanks Lavenderlime, that's really helpful, DS1 is 3.5 years and to be fair I am so snappy and he just loves it when Im positive and is better behaved. Ive got so much going on right now that I find it really hard to just be chirpy with everyone and everything and people are starting to notice.
Im going to give that treat bag a go because at the moment we reward with food treats which I dont want to do.
Im such a nagger, all the boisterous play like jumping on sofas, rough and tumble I tend to stress straight away, maybe because I see it as 'girls wouldnt do that' type of thing which is un-logical and unfair.

Sunset hope your little man is better today xx

Hi and thanks to everyone else xx

HUGS again hun x wish i could make it all better x and i think when they are here we will be ok - i am feeling ok about a boy now i mean if i could change it i would in an instant but i am 'ok' its just sent me spiralling with everything else x i too feel like you and blame the boisterous behaviour on them being boys x we will love them no matter what and its funny as no one knows its another boy i have actually had a few positive comments about how lovely all boys would be which is a first for me anyway. I dont agree but it is still nice x

sorry rambling a bit head all over the place DH has gone to NYC for 5 days, my mood is shit, i have an appointment with the mental health team tomorrow but no babysitter and work is badder than bad at least the sun is shining!!!

Sunset - hope your little man is home soon x poor mite x

indigoviolet

March 15th, 2012, 09:12 AM

Sorry you didn't hear girl chocolate ((hugs)). At least you had prepared yourself, same as me but it still hurt as there was always that teeny bit of hope. Hope you having a better day today.

charlie- so glad to hear you signed off, that is something at least. Good luck with your appt, hopefully they are sympathetic and can help.

Petal

March 15th, 2012, 09:14 AM

Hi ladies,

Oh maybe, little Dave is just perfect!!! adorable. How are you?

Sunset, hows your little boy? poor thing, sounds just awful for him :-(

Congrats on your baby boy chocolate, i think we all understand how you are feeling, thinking of you x

Charlie, glad you are feeling better :-)

Babymad, sorry you are still poorly. I hear you about the dh's not understanding, i dont bother to talk about my feelings anymore, he just thinks that because i love our little boy so much that those 'daughter' feelings have suddenly vanished!! They so dont get it do they.

Ds3 is poorly again, hes got a cold n finds it hard to breath at night, he coughed so much this morning he was sick all over our bed, and there was just loads of it! so 4am there i was changing our bed. He wouldnt settle and kept us awake most of the night. I breast feed him during the night but he is just using me a dummy and i cant sleep, he wont have a dummy, just dunno how to get him out of this agghrr.

Inglewood, such a shame about the buggy, have you looked on kiddicare.com? x

littlemisswilko

March 15th, 2012, 10:52 AM

i'm ready to join you properly now. i'm starting my diet tommorrow and coil is coming out in a month ready to start in 6 weeks.
i'm really hoping i can do this girl diet.
i'm looking forward to getting to know you all and hoping i can keep up with the posts.

welcome coco and gd luck with the swaying. were all here to help and advise! :)

charlieispy

March 15th, 2012, 01:05 PM

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not sure which m&p buggy you have hun but this popped up nearish me x thought it was a good price and if the seller was prepared too would probably only cost £15-25 for a courier x x

charlieispy

March 15th, 2012, 01:06 PM

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mothercare offer for free vests too x the 'girl' one is actually unisex in my opinion x

Sunset

March 15th, 2012, 03:03 PM

i'm ready to join you properly now. i'm starting my diet tommorrow and coil is coming out in a month ready to start in 6 weeks.
i'm really hoping i can do this girl diet.
i'm looking forward to getting to know you all and hoping i can keep up with the posts.

hi how lovely of you to join us! :) and good luck with your sway! i'm looking forward to reading all about it :D

Sunset

March 15th, 2012, 03:10 PM

Petal ~ ds2 is still in hospital but he is getting better. His temperature is still spiking which is why he wasnt allowed home today but hopefully tomorrow he'll get the green light to stop with iv antibiotics and to continue with oral antibiotics. it was so horrible today because this morning his thing in the hand came out so they had to put another one in. they numbed both his hands with cream and did both his feet as well and in the end the only really good vein they could find was of course one that hadnt been numbed with cream so i had no choice but to hold him down while they inserted the iv with only cooling spray to help ease the pain. it was horrific! and i dont think i have ever felt like a worse mum in my life :( on top of all this ds1 is now poorly as well with a super high temperature... there is just no end to the sickness in my house :(

Kell

March 15th, 2012, 04:17 PM

Oh sunset your poor boys, I really hope they both get better soon! And that ds2 is home safe and abound asap.
Poor little mite and his iv, I can't imagine how awful this must have been for both of you. Hugs x

indigoviolet

March 15th, 2012, 04:26 PM

Sunset- praying for your little boy. what a brave little man, hope he can come home tomorrow :HH:

chocolate

March 15th, 2012, 05:09 PM

Thanks Charlie and Indigo. Had a lovely day with my boys today - you know I think I have the SAD because when the sun is out I feel fantastic and when it vanishes so does my good mood, I have never had mood swings this bad, its awful!
DS1 has also behaved so nicely today and said and done lots of loving things, makes me feel bad for moaning about him and being so hard on him.

Charlie -when do you actually stop work then? Hope the appointment goes well tomorrow.

I told a friend last night that I would be staying in the blue shopping aisles and was a bit dissapointed. She relied ' congratulations, just think about all the spa weekends you can enjoy on your own' ........... hmm, the worst thing she could say!! And my Mum said 'you were obviously meant to be a boy mum' which felt like I didnt deserve to be a girl Mum.
And of course today girls were everywhere!! But thank god for just feeling ok, even managed to relay some of the comments back to OH without crying and even managed to laugh at the cheek of the comment.

Sunset -that sounds awful, I really hope your family are all well soon.

Petal, hope your DS also gets better soon, Elizabeth Pantley 'no cry sleep solution' is fantastic for gentle methods. To reduce the comfort sucking she suggests letting them suckly and then popping a finger in to pop them off and if they cry put them back on but keep doing it when their sucking slows to just a comfort dummy suck. My DS1 was the same

Hi Coco's-mum, we need some more ttc ladies here!

deaks66

March 15th, 2012, 05:22 PM

Hi all, especially you coco, welcome! Looking forward to your swaying journey, hope it's a quick one!

Sunset, sounds horrific for both of you, I really hope he is home tomorrow for lots of cuddles.

Chocolate, how are you Hun?

Indigo, you haven't actually found out the gender yet have you? Are you convinced it's a boy? Hope we hear girl soon from someone though all these boys are going to be wonderful additions to our smog family!

Lavender, I seemed to miss your post last night for some reason. Glad you are giving yourself a break from ttc and swaying until you get your fertility back on track. Swaying is hard enough at the best of times let alone when your aren't even sure if you are ov. I hope you get to the bottom of it very soon and in the mean time enjoy lots of healthy hearty meals and yummy snacks!

Charlie, so glad to hear you are coming to terms with ds4. I cant imagine how hard it must be... And you too babymad. Lovely that some of your friends have had the foresight to tell you how lovely 4 boys will be... Some people just know how to be sensitive... Unlike most hey?! Funnily enough, no matter how much I would like the experience of a girl, I do actually think a house of one gender is very cool too and I don't think I will make a great girl mum if I ever get the chance... I'm such a tomboy at heart!

Anyway, now I'm rambling! Hope you are all well! X

deaks66

March 15th, 2012, 05:31 PM

Chocolate, have been thinking of you today and hoping it hasn't been a total downer for you. Sounds like all that boy preparation you did is paying off... I'm trying to do the same. Don't even let girl enter my head. People never know the right thing to say and blurt silly things out and I too hate that boy mum type of comment! But it sounds like you are managing to laugh it off on the most part which is great as they are throw away comments anyway and don't deserve much dwelling on.

maybebabythree

March 15th, 2012, 05:49 PM

hi girls, sorry its been a while but i was re-admitted twice since being discharged! Last time i was in they gave me nifedipine - oh nasty stuff, it was the only time I have felt ill with my bp. Sunset - I did wonder like you if I could ever do another pg after this, but we are all ok now. DH has said no more as he was so worried about me, but I get so broody after having a baby. Should feel less broody in six months!!

Sunset - sorry ds has been ill, I was numbed for my iv, I didn't feel a thing. Shame they didn't numb ds. The midwifes told me that they can not numb ladies for IV but they can numb you when they stich you - I wonder why?

x

cocos-mum

March 15th, 2012, 06:08 PM

thank you for the welcome.

i take it most of you are now pg on this thread.
please bare with me while i get to know you all. i know charlie and a few other names i regonise.

pinga

March 15th, 2012, 10:03 PM

Chocolate - <hugs> Congratulations on another beautiful boy... and I understand the sadness. Try and not listen to any comments yet - at first I think any comment will upset you... Now that I'm more used to the idea of #3 boy, I tell random people all the time. Although I have told my friends and mothers group we didn't find out. I told a lady at the market this morning and she was really sweet. She didn't look sorry for me... she told me that 3 boys are great... Its helpful when people are positive.

I was meant to be trying to work today but after bursting into tears over my breakfast I decided not to call the agency. I barely slept last night... another hot night and the baby boxes me all night and I can't get back to sleep... :( The lack of sleep is making me a teary mess... Luckily the boys are at childcare today so I have a quiet day to chill out...

Sunset - oh no... your poor poor little guy. IVs are awful at any time... Hope he comes home soon...

maybe - hope everything has settled down and you're feeling much better!!! Is it all to do with BP?

Welcome cocos-mum!

zanacal

March 16th, 2012, 05:42 AM

{hugs} Sunset, I really hope DS is well and home soon and that everybody in the house is healthy soon too. It must have been so scary for you. When my DS1 was in hospital with bad asthma it was the IV that upset him most, he was also screaming and needing me to pin him down, so traumatic. I was just looking at your ticker in astonishment - how can Serena be more than 2 months old already?!!

Sunset

March 16th, 2012, 07:05 AM

Morning ladies. I've just got back from my postnatal appointment (a few weeks late i know lol) and the gp kept going on about how my hubby should have the snip :rofl:

Maybebaby ~ aw i'm so glad to hear you're okay now! i still wonder though if i could ever allow myself to get pregnant again after having been so ill.. the whole experience just scares me so much!

Zanacal ~ I know, it's going so fast :p she's 10 weeks already. and you havent got too long to go now :) have you started buying pink for baby?

Deaks ~ how are you enjoying your pregnancy?

Chocolate ~ i'm so sorry you're feeling so down.. i wish i had a magic wand that could make it all better

Petal

March 16th, 2012, 08:52 AM

Oh sunset, your poor little boy, its horrible when we cant do anything for them, hope your ds1 is better soon too!

Hi Maybe, glad you're well now, im broody too lol, my ds3 looks huge compared to new little babies now :-(

Chocolate, thanks for the advice, i will try that!! he was a bit better last night but his nose is bunged up so propped him up on a pillow which seemed to help a little. Just wish all of these bugs and colds would sod off... bring on the summer!!!!! x

littlemisswilko

March 16th, 2012, 11:30 AM

sunset - hope you boys get better soon! nothing worse than sicky boys! the iv sounds horrible. i hate having them so god knows what your ds went thrugh poor little mite and Poor OH i bet his jaw hit the floor lol! i know my oh wouldnt get his done in a million yrs! there his crown jewels!! Give him a big hug from me!! PMSL!!! :rofl:

charlieispy

March 16th, 2012, 02:13 PM

LOL sunset - this is our plan after this baby as I think for us a family financially and for us mentally (or my mental state) we cant have anymore HOWEVER was talking to a mum at beavers and she has 3 boys always assumed they planned number 3 OHNO he was conceived a year after the snip :O could you imagine and then another boy....she sounded pretty upset by it all! You should have said you were already TTC ;) hehe

maybebabythree

March 16th, 2012, 02:20 PM

charlieispy

March 16th, 2012, 03:46 PM

I get broody when they hit about 1 x when they start to wean and I tend to stop BF, they walk etc.....god its going to be weird this time knowing no more!

maybebabythree

March 16th, 2012, 04:34 PM

Hmm - I think I will be forever broody. So sad. I just wish we could stay like this forever they didn't have to grow up :¬(

threelittlemenandcounting

March 16th, 2012, 05:06 PM

Your right it does get hard once they past one !! I am really struggling right now as this is the first time we have ever got to this point with a child nearly two and not been preg, ttc or planning on ttc and its so so hard, in fact so hard I am thinking about num 5 !!!

charlieispy

March 16th, 2012, 05:31 PM

i wont be allowed another.....i think it is for the best but oh my it will be soooooo hard!

Kell

March 16th, 2012, 06:41 PM

I don't know how things baby wise will go for us, for the next 5 years there's definatly no plan for more, I want to do my degree and get some experience in. But I'm only 28, I don't know if in my late 30's we would decide to have another, never say never!

Wowwee I've had a busy few days! Painting, cleaning, studying, had two mock exams in health psychology and chemistry! Feel quite happy with how they went.
Had a skip delivered to the house this afternoon, we had a huge junk pile in the garden that gradually built up and up, weve been sorting all that! Chopped up lots of wood and had a bonfire once everything was cleared! The boys both loved it! And dp of course lol there's just something about boys/men and fire huh!
Got a little space left in the skip so I'll be clearing bits from the house to give more storage space for when the new addition arrives!

Really should go to sleep! All this work has done me in :)

Lavenderlime

March 16th, 2012, 08:29 PM

Nothing much to report just catching up on your news x

Wishing4Pink

March 17th, 2012, 04:01 AM

Hi everyone, hope your all ok. Feel like i've missed so much and have lots of catching up to do as since we moved at the end of feb we haven't had broadband as Sky messed up. Whats been happening?

I'm been so ill from the stress of moving etc that i'm wondering if i should start the diet soon or not!? I think it's more to do with the fact that this is prob the last for me and the kids wear me out, lol. Oh disappeared to some charity football thing today so kids to entertain, best get them dressed as we've been up for hours :(

xx

Kell

March 17th, 2012, 04:05 AM

Good to see you about again wishing! Hope the boys behave for you today, and that you start to feel better!

Hey lavender! How's things going?

littlemisswilko

March 17th, 2012, 07:19 AM

nice to hear from you again wishing! hope your all sorted from after the move!

Lavender how r you? are you still taking a rest from swaying?

Sunset lovely to hear little river came home! hope hes feeling much better now and getting lots of mammy cuddles! x

indigoviolet

March 17th, 2012, 12:53 PM

Good to hear from you Wishing, hope you feel better soon, moving is so stressful. I think it is worth starting the diet and you can always decide later when to ttc but at least if you feel ready or have an oops (like we did) you will have been on the diet already.

lavender- how is it going with you hon?

indigoviolet

March 17th, 2012, 12:58 PM

LOL - the midwife offered to take DH out to the carpark with two bricks while I was in labour - he seemed tempted at the time :¬)

I keep asking dh, if he wants another but he keeps rolling his eyes at me and saying no! I get so broody when I give birth! Ask me in six months and I am sure I wont want another but right now, give me about eight weeks, ply DH with wiskey and I might jump him! ha ha! Petal - are you seriously broody or just broody with no intention to act on it?
I'm just the same! so funny that when you already have a newborn you just want another! It is a great feeling, enjoy. You are right though, ask again in a few months and you will be super content with your brood. I hope I feel complete after this one and stop wishing for a daughter, i'd love just to feel 'done' and content.

indigoviolet

March 17th, 2012, 01:00 PM

Sunset- so good to hear that River has improved, what a worry for you, did you know what it was?

maybebabythree

March 17th, 2012, 03:16 PM

Indigo - thought I saw you in town today on my first trip out the house! I am reasonably sure I'm done now, I hate these hormones after giving birth!

littlemisswilko

March 17th, 2012, 03:42 PM

maby - have you chosen a name yet for iclke dave?

maybebabythree

March 17th, 2012, 05:53 PM

oh didn't i say? its Ashton :-)

Lavenderlime

March 17th, 2012, 08:53 PM

Hello everyone i'm doing good thanks. I was really on a downer about not ovulating and just feeling generally bit meh about swaying, TTC and failing!

But my mood has lifted! I handed in my 4 weeks notice at work today just decided today I don't want to work evenings anymore, I don't want to wake up feeling really tired on Saturdays and Sundays, have to miss out on social gatherings because I can't get the time off work.
So rang up tax credits and me not working would raise my tax credits to an ammount comparable to my monthly wage.
So I though sod it. I'm not spending my weekend working anymore!

And then I reaslised that what I've always wanted to do was something creative like paint furniture I painted a toy chest for DS1's 1st birthday with Thomas on the front (the old style illustrations from the original books) and everyone was so impressed. I thought well maybe I could knock a few of these out a month and sell them to order and easily make what I do on weekend on each one for 6 hours enjoyable work. I've been thinking/talking about doing this for 3 years now and tonight it actually became do-able we have a car port that has a fair sized storage area at the back once we've rigged up some lights in there and made a tip run I could make a little studio, where I could paint things and leave them to dry with no fear of little finger prints, cat paw prints or wood dust from DP's workshop ruining the finish. I am beyond excited at the prospect of being creative again!

On the TTC and swaying front not swaying diet has gone to pot. Still eating less than I ever did when I had the boys but much tastier food than the plain pasta and rice that I have endured for the last 5 months :). Just needed real food and to lift the strict restrictions I had on myself. I asked dP to get me some soy tablets from H&B thought they were 120mg tablets (asked for 40mg-100mg tablets) Turns out they were a pack of 120 and they are 750mg :O! I started taking them yesterday before this dawned on me CD5 (taking CD5-9) So today took half the contents of one tab but that's still 375mg of soy equivalent of about 185mg give or take of Clomid. So I'm probaly going to end up not ovulating at all from the shock to the system or having quads all boys because my diet has gone to pot? LOL I was saying how a December baby would be nice but somewhat of an inconvenience (because of x-mas) to friend. So sod's law i'll probably end up with 4 now!

Well look at me going from having nothing much to say to a massive essay!

Personals in the morning promise,

Happy Mothers day to you all,
Night x

Kell

March 18th, 2012, 04:43 AM

Happy mothers day mummy's!! Hope you all have a lovely day and get nice and spoilt!
I'm very pleased with my gifts! I got a mirror jewelery box and a mirrored box for odds and sods! A couple of packs of cadburys nibbles (which Charlie stole at first sight!) and a me to you bear!
The trinket box goes lovely in my nice newly painted bathroom!

Maybe yay so glad Ashton has a name! I liked this one the best :), the last you said was he didn't have a name but it was a long story! Lol

Lavender lol at the soy, I hope it helps! But not with 4 boys lol gosh imagin the chaos of 4 anything lol :)
I think sometimes it's good to shake the diet up a bit, I wouldn't worry about being off for a little while.
Your little business idea sounds brilliant! I'm so useless at art and crafts! Maybe the time away from work will be good on the ttc front as well! ;)

charlieispy

March 18th, 2012, 05:56 AM

Lavender - huge hugs for not ovulating - have you had problems in the past TTC? I wonder if the diet was too much and your body stopped Oing to conserve energy? FX for a BFP although quads i hope not for your sake ;) TBH I think swaying is a load of cr@p looking at the odds on here! If it did work surely we would at least hit even with a girl/boy ratio - i know those who swayed and were successful would probably disagree but really - so much work in our sways and still pretty much alllll boys! As for giving in your notice :D yay go you x I have been saying i will leave the realm of starbucks everytime i have a baby and failed like you i love arts and crafts and always making things we dont really have any room for me to set somewhere up. Good news on the tax credits though :) means you can build things up without having to panic x please though MAKE me leave starbucks this time!! I am hoping to pass my practitioner shiatsu before baby arrives , only basic level but i can practise x FX dh is going to change jobs too so am hoping big work changes will happen x

Kell - sounds like you got spoilt :) hope you get a lovely day today

ALL YOU MUMMYS hope you get lots of love and kisses from your little ones x

Maybe - yay for dave being ashton :D love it x

DH is away so no brekkie in bed - although Nic did remember part way through shoving breakfast down him that it was sunday and therefore mothers day :D both boys brought home cards from school so I have had those x going to see my mum later we have made her scones and the boys have each drawn her a picture x then later they are coming over her and we are getting a wagamamas as both my sisters are home at the same time!! So that will be lovely x

Happy mothers day x love to all x

littlemisswilko

March 18th, 2012, 07:17 AM

happy mothers day to all the mammies!!!

Inglewood

March 18th, 2012, 08:00 AM

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!! Hope ur all being spoilt rotten?

Not been on for a few days, had a hectic few days! and wanted time to pop on a read ur posts.

Sunset, kept up to date with ur poor wee solider on FB, what a brave boy and so glad he's home, scary times for you!

Chocolate, Congrats on ur beautiful boy that will be here soon. Sorry u didn't hear pink, but I'm sure this little guy will be another apple of ur eye.

Thanks Charlie and other ladies for the buggy link, that's exactly the one I had (but diff colour). My MIL and SIL very kindly got us one, it wasn't what I'd of chosen and it didn't fit through my front door! So we politely asked if we could swap it for another! Not again what I'd choose, but it fits thru my door!!! A Macarlan twin buggy in red!!! Never had a red buggy, so it's nice. My mum has offered to buy the footmuffs (not Maclaren ones, just nice red universal ones). So I feel very lucky to have a fab family!!!!

Maybe, love his name Ashton is lovely! I get broody after birth too, not sure if I will this time tho!! lol Already asked Dh if he'd consider the Snip! After 3 c-sections, a laparoscopy and 4 treatments on my cervix, think my 'lady bits' have done their part!! lol He's not for it!! I can't take the pill, the hormones from the pill and coil cause cervical erosions, so not sure what we'll do. He might change his mind with 2 screaming babies!! Although my friend's DH had it done and they had baby no 5!

LMW, can't believe ur 18wks!!!!

Went to see Doc on thurs, got co-codamol 8/500 which I take only once a day when pain REALLY bad around tea-time, take paracetamol otherwise. Also got a letter from Consultant to call gp, so been started on Folic acid 5mg and Ascorbic Acid to help my Iron count come up before section. Well, off to soft play, Dh cleaning the carpets and we need to get out the way! Going to see my mum after her work at 3.30pm and then home. Can u believe 16 sleeps till twins here!! OMG!

Sorry if I missed anyone??? Off to make boys lunch! Pop on again later. xx

charlieispy

March 18th, 2012, 11:49 AM

YAY for buggy hun x i have a red buggy too lol wanted the black first wheels but got the red one CHEAP so whatever!!! So glad they got it for you x and OMFG 16 sleeps how crazy is that x tell DH you could do the op for him with 2 bricks ;) he might change his mind lol x my DH was NEVER going to have it done till i got pregnant with number 4 and it hit him...although now its a boy i am not sure he is so keen again

indigoviolet

March 18th, 2012, 01:12 PM

Happy mother's day everyone!:HH:

Hope you all had special days.

Maybe- Love the name Ashton, goes well with the others. Well done for getting out, hope to see you soon!

indigoviolet

March 18th, 2012, 01:19 PM

Lavender- sounds like a brilliant plan, would love to do something crafty too. I'm sure you will make a great success out of it. Glad you are feeling better. Swaying/ ttc is such hard work, hope you get your bfp (pink!) soon hon.

Inglewood, exciting with a new pushchair, it is making me think I probably need a new one ;) Can't believe they will be here so soon!!

HopeandDreamG

March 18th, 2012, 02:11 PM

http://dl.glitter-graphics.net/pub/1234/1234981pjt8a7cwu6.gif (http://www.glitter-graphics.com)

XOXOXOX

littlemisswilko

March 18th, 2012, 03:30 PM

LMW, can't believe ur 18wks!!!!

:agree:

littlemisswilko

March 18th, 2012, 03:32 PM

Can u believe 16 sleeps till twins here!! OMG!

i know carnt believe it! its gone so quick! that mean 17 sleeps till scan!

Inglewood

March 18th, 2012, 03:38 PM

Charlie, when we found out it was twins he was asking me to pass the scisssors!!! Now realisation has set in!! lol My Buggy was in Boots for £140 (£35 off Maclaren buggies) and I got £14 of advantage card points, so really £126! Bargain! Thankfully my in-laws hadn't paid for the other one! So then I could choose my own and they will send the money. I have an old Maclaren buggy and loved it, used it as the 'holiday' buggy so hope I'm as lucky with this one.

maybebabythree

March 18th, 2012, 08:32 PM

Indigo - sure you have said before but when your scan?

Sunset

March 19th, 2012, 05:45 AM

Hi ladies, i've missed you lot!! :)
River came home on friday and is still on antibiotics but is definitely back to his old self :) it's just ds1 that's poorly now lol but he's on the mend too.. he got prescribed antibiotics last week, but trying to get him to take it is a nightmare.. i've tried everything but he just spits it out so i'm at my wits end with him.

Maybebaby ~ love Ashton, such a nice name :) how are you feeling now? hows your blood pressure? are you still on bp medicine?

Inglewood ~ wow, only 16 sleeps (as of yesterday) gosh, how exciting :D you must be feeling ready to pop? have you thought of having your tubes tied while you're having your c/section?

Littlemisswilko ~ eek, not long to go for your scan :D are you gonna find out what you're having?

Indigo ~ it was caused by a blocked nose and an ear infection that had spread to the tissue surrounding his eye.. luckily his eye wasnt infected but since it was in such a delicate area he had to stay in hospital and get his medication through an iv as a precautionary. he was a very brave little man and seems to have forgotten all about it now :)

wishing4pink ~ i agree with indigo. you can always start the diet so that you have the choice to go ahead ttc if that's what you want :)

lavenderlime ~ i am so increadibly excited for you! i think you are so brave to follow your dreams and start up your own little business from home. i would love to do something like that, but i just cant get myself to take that first step. I might order something of you as my son is the biggest Thomas fan that's ever lived lol :)

Hello to all you other lovely smogs!! *waves*

littlemisswilko

March 19th, 2012, 09:08 AM

Littlemisswilko ~ eek, not long to go for your scan :D are you gonna find out what you're having?

yea i think so! :tissue:

deaks66

March 19th, 2012, 10:52 AM

Hi all,

Inglewood, cant believe 16 more sleeps, you must be so excited!

Maybe, lovely name choice hun, hope you are both doing well!

Littlemiss, only a couple more weeks til you find out then?! eek! i have a good feeling for you :)

Lavender, exciting project! Cant wait to hear that you are up and running and what a great way to take your mind off swaying/ttc!! do you think you will go back to swaying? Sorry if you have already answered that before!

Hi everyone else, sunset, sorry its now ds1 with an infection. Not sure what to suggest about getting him to take his anti b's...i always resort to blackmail...oops!

Sorry if i've missed anyone else! X

littlemisswilko

March 19th, 2012, 01:33 PM

Lavender, exciting project! Cant wait to hear that you are up and running and what a great way to take your mind off swaying/ttc!! do you think you will go back to swaying? Sorry if you have already answered that before!

i was going to ask that!

charlieispy

March 19th, 2012, 01:44 PM

inglewood maclarens are fantastic x i have the XT one i got when ds1 was 6months old i got it on some half price deal and use it daily at the moment for ds3.....the only thing is the handle has wore where we get it in and out the boot but i cant complain at all about the quality its now 6.5 yrs and still fab

i feel horrendous blood test weds i hope it shows something am so totally tired but not just tired drained of anything i am grey!! and breathless am hoping i can get signed off work for a bit longer although worried i wont get paid :( stress!!!!

waves to all x

maybebabythree

March 19th, 2012, 02:03 PM

Charlie sorry you feel poo. I actualy miss being pg now. No pleasing me! Bf is really hurting me, hoping to go to a drop in clinic this week.

deaks66

March 19th, 2012, 02:45 PM

Oh Charlie, Im so sorry you feel so rubbish, not at all what you need. The breathlessness is simply the worst, lets hope they can sign you off before you make yourself ill. Thinking of you Hun and hoping blood tests come back fine or show something they can easily treat that makes you feel better X

Maybe, ouch! I can only imagine what that feels like as have never been able to breast feed. Hope the clinic can help!

littlemisswilko

March 19th, 2012, 03:08 PM

aww charlie sorry your feeling like utter poop at the moment! hope you can get it sorted soon.

is there any spd sufferers here??? i dont know wether ive got it or not and dont know wether to pester the midwife with my problems. I was in agony on saturday which is my weekly day out with my mam. we go shopping so it proberbly the most walking i do throughout the week lol. anyways whilst out with her i kept having to sit down in the shops because the bottom of my back was hurting and the botton of my stomach. never ever had this in previous pregnancys i get it now and then but it was terrible on saturday. at the moment i feel like im dropping to bits. feel like my bodys too old for it but im only 24 for gawd sakes!!!

indigoviolet

March 19th, 2012, 03:18 PM

Indigo - sure you have said before but when your scan?
It's tomorrow, thanks for asking :) Totally expecting to get boy confirmation but you never know..... It's late in the afternoon so won't be able to update until boys in bed.

I hope the drop in place can help, they can usually give you some good tips. BF is hard and often the first 10days or so are difficult. I thought it'd be easy with ds2 since I'd already done it all once but it was really hard for the first 2 weeks, I was in tears it hurt so much. I hope it gets easier soon.

deaks66

March 19th, 2012, 03:45 PM

Oh indigo, i was just about to ask when your scan was. Will be keeping my fx for you and wearing something pink! Oh and i will be stalking here after kiddy bedtime!

Littlemiss, ive never suffered from spd so cant give any advice im afraid. Im sure someone will be able to though and definately pester your midwife, thats what they're there for!

threelittlemenandcounting

March 19th, 2012, 04:48 PM

Indigo good luck for tomorrow at your scan I will be checking back in tomorrow xxx

Kell

March 19th, 2012, 05:19 PM

Indigo good luck tomorrow hun! :)

Lmw I get SPD, I'd defiantly speak to the midwife or gp sooner rather than later, they can help with physio and support belts usually. My pain is more hip related, I find it very difficult to turn in bed as i can be in agony. Also if I walk too much or do to much housework etc I really feel it the next day :(

We got the crate out for the puppies to sleep in as they've figured out how to jump out the box! However ds2 has taken a liking to it lol
http://i566.photobucket.com/albums/ss103/kell_riley/3c5c5af3.jpg
I'm sure social services could have a field day hehe!

Inglewood

March 19th, 2012, 06:26 PM

Sunset, did consider that but they don't do it anymore. Know 2 mums that had it done post c-sections and said it was the biggest mistake as it was harder to recover from and more painful.

LMW, I had terrible SPD from 24wks with ds2 had allsorts of supports, it's like someone ripping u in 2 from ur pubic bone up. When u open ur legs it's agony! I have it this pg, but it's only getting bad now, so luckily in 2 wks it should pass, it's my back this pg that's kanckered. Ask ur midwife to see the physio, as I had a month to wait!!

maybebabythree

March 19th, 2012, 06:41 PM

Good luck indigo!!! Everything crossed for you x

Kell your boy is so cute!

I am so emotional right now. Really sad as I want another baby right now. I miss my pregnancey :-( god I was moaning all the time when I was pg! I wish my mum was more hands on as I really need some emotional support. Dh is being great. He has Been wonderful over the last month. Reminds me why we are still happy after over twenty years. I miss my bf. She would talk sense to me. She is visiting next week.

charlieispy

March 20th, 2012, 04:09 AM

Charlie sorry you feel poo. I actualy miss being pg now. No pleasing me! Bf is really hurting me, hoping to go to a drop in clinic this week.

Am so trying to enjoy my pregnancy as its my last but so hard lol x loving baby kicks though!

charlieispy

March 20th, 2012, 04:13 AM

INDIGO am thinking of YOU all day today x x x x much love hun i really mean it x x x x

MAybe - have you tried the lansinoh (sp?) cream we talked about earlier when serena arrived?? Its amazing stuff i remember those early with all my 3 and the countdown to latch them on....i tend to bite the inside of my mouth and make it sore!! Hope you manage to get some help and if you havnt got that cream you can get it prescribed......they might be funny about it as its V expensive but push for it its lussssssshhhhhh x oh and huge hugs for the broodyness......well hun if you want one so much then you never know in the future? Enjoy your gorgeous baby boy and see what fate brings ;) glad your BF is coming to visit am missing mine terribly at the mo x x

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 05:56 AM

Charlie im using that cream but he's taken my skin off! I grip a pillow when he llatches on! Owww!

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 06:10 AM

Thinking of you today indigo! Can't belive how long we have been at this lark!

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 08:13 AM

I need some advice. Not sure who remembers my mil drama last year? She stayed with us for almost four months, never lifted a finger around the house and when I asked her to, she launched into a attack on me and all she Hayes about me. I threw her out after she shock me while I was pg and dragged my son up the stairs by his wrists while he was screaming. Anyway she wants to come back again in summer for six weeks. We made it perfectly clear that it isn't ok to keep on poking flights to stay with us for months at a time without even checking it's ok with us. Anyway she told me she was looking for flights, so dh asked her what her plans was. She sent him a really rude email saying he was a bad son. He replied saying he was just asking if she could tell us her plans, again she was really rude. Baby was only a week old and I was just out of hospital at the time. We have no where for her to sleep! She will not listen at all! When she is here she spends all the time looking at me as she just trod in me! She hates my friends and family so it's impossible to talk to her. She wants to be here every summer holiday. She wants to know what our plans are but we can't ask about hers. If she doesn't get her way she crys. We only prepaired to have her for seven days at a time but she will not listen and stays for as long as she pleases. I really wanted to run away last year and I can't stand the thought of it this year as I can't escape to work or have family or friends round. I know you can't give advice as all adult suggestions are lost as she always brings out the tears! I work in a male dominated industry and women crying to manipulate people is more than I can tolerate! Gahhhh! What to do???

indigoviolet

March 20th, 2012, 10:29 AM

thanks ladies for all well wishes, will update when I get home. :HH:

Maybe- yes, I remember that nightmare of a mil, CANNOT believe she wants to come back after what has happened and with the new baby, that is the last thing you need. You could suggest a hotel? say you just don't have the room anymore...you really have to stand your ground as it will only go wrong if she comes for more than a week. she is totally nuts and like you said, won't listen to reason etc and I doubt she will ever change. You have to think of yourself and the boys. good luck and i hope dh stands by you. you just can't have that stress again.

charlie- glad you are enjoying the baby kicks. How did your appt go?

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 10:33 AM

GOOD LUCK INDIGO!!!!!! Thinking of u!! xx

zanacal

March 20th, 2012, 12:59 PM

Hi ladies, didn't log on yesterday as I had a terrible headache and I know I'll never catch up with missed posts so I'm going to jump back in here if that's ok.

Good luck at your scan Indigo!

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 01:14 PM

Z, is ur Bp ok???

Just had my last scan!!! Babies both around 5lbs 7oz!!!!! OMG!! Not so teenie twins maybe? Can't believe it, although no wonder my back is killing me with an 11lb'er in there!! lol Date still 3rd April and I've to go in at lunchtime, which I was annoyed to hear, with 2 I'd of thought an early morn section???? However, to go next tues to see Consultant then both sat and sun (wkend b4 section) mornings and evening to have steriod injections 12hrs apart for 2 days. :( eek!

Indigo, desp to hear ur news!!! xx

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 01:19 PM

Hi everyone,

Hope everyone had a lovely mothers day x

Indigo ~ Thinking and praying pink Hun, can't wait to hear your news xx

Maybe ~ love the name you have chosen. Hope all is well. You talking about BF and how painful it is has brought back lots of memories....can't believe I'm going to be doing it all again!!

Sunset ~ Pleased your little man is back home :)

Littlemiss ~ not long til your scan :)

Lavender ~ pleased you are keeping busy, sounds great!

Charlie ~ lovely to see you posting again :)

Deaks ~ hope you are doing ok? How many wks are you now?

Hi to everyone else...sorry I can't remember all the posts!

We have been away for a few days, we had a lovely time. Just catching up today on washing/ food shop etc. we've got so many projects going on with the house at the moment I don't know where to start most of the time!

Loving the spring weather :)

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 01:21 PM

HopeandDreamG

March 20th, 2012, 01:29 PM

Indigo- GOOD LUCK!!! Thinking of you :) fingers crossed

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 01:38 PM

Kell

March 20th, 2012, 02:01 PM

Indigo hope everything's gone well today! Still hoping for pink for you :)

Maybe your mil sounds like a nightmare, I can't really give advise she sounds like you can't reason with her! If be inclined to suggest a hotel even just for a few days.

Inglewood aww how exciting and slightly scary things are getting for you!
Does time seem to be at a stand still or is it flying by?

Babymad I'm jealous! Lol glad you had a nice time!

We too have lots of jobs on going in the house! Seem to be getting there slowly!

We have sold 2 pups now and we are keeping one as well, we have two more visits over the next couple of days do we may only have 1 little boy left by the end of the week. They are still with us until the Easter weekend tho. It'll be weird when they go!

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 02:24 PM

Babymad, part of me wishes I didn't need a section... to have them early, the actual op and recovery...makes me wonder had I had natural births, I prob would go to term or over too (which is awful), but none of the nasty operation risks!! She made me sign my consent form today...explained all about the scar tissue from 2 prev sections causing probs, might of adhered to my bladder, bowel? bleeding, infection......the list goes on.... Fx it all goes well tho. Get scared sometimes that something happens?? but that's a risk in ANY pg and birth, but just having a few 'worry' days.
Are u feeling any better????? Glad u had a nice trip away, wish we could of done that before now. The nice weather helps perk us all up, even getting some here in Scotland for a change :) lol

I can imagine how scary it must all feel, especially with all the risks but I'm sure all will be well and the babies are a Great size which will be a great start for them even though they are early. No option is perfect is it! I wish I could have the perfect natural birth two weeks early ;) but it ain't gonna happen!!!
How long will your hubby have at home with you? You'll have the Easter hols too which will be nice. Are the boys excited?

I'm doing 'ok' - still really struggling health wise so everyday is tough going, that's why another 12 weeks feels like a prison sentence!! I'm quite depressed with it all to be honest, I'm not enjoying it at all and most days I live in regret and feel bad about it but I can't help the way I feel - I just want the baby here so I can 'get on with it'.
Still struggling with what will never be :(

Pleased you are experiencing spring too :) its my favourite time of year- love it xx

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 02:29 PM

Maybe ~ forgot to say, I wouldn't entertain the idea of her staying again AT ALL! The baby bit goes TOO quickly and I wouldn't let ANYONE spoil that! This is your time with your baby, email her a list of places to stay!

Kell ~ pleased everything is going well with the pups :) We've not had pups but our cat had kittens and I loved it. It was lovely having them around and watching them grow, I really missed them when they went to new homes.

charlieispy

March 20th, 2012, 02:59 PM

babymad - please please please for your sake dont let her stay x sorry i rememer how horrendous she was to you i dont think it is fair to put on you again especially with a new addition - cant some other family 'have' her x she sounds vile if she wants to come for a week then am sure premier inn will deal with her x x

indigo thinking of you x

babymad - glad you got away x so sorry you are still struggling health wise and with the regret etc x FX the next few weeks fly by!!!

inglewood - you grow them good!! not long till they are here.....oooh i dreamt i had twins a boy and a girl I WISH lol x all be fine am sure x hope you are feeling more prepared now x

deaks66

March 20th, 2012, 03:28 PM

Hi all,

Indigo have been thinking of you all day. looking for ward to hearing your news!

Babymad, been thinking of you as well. Sorry you are struggling healthwise and also with gd, i really hope the next few months go super speedy so you get to hold bubs in your arms and then alot of these feelings will float away. Hopefully the spring time will help and being outside in sunny weather is great at lifting spirits! Iam 10 weeks this friday and have my scan booked in for april 11th! Excited and nervous about the whole nub thing. Think i might avoid that area and stay in my bubble a bit longer!

Inglewood, how on earth your back is coping i dont know! i have never carried more than a 7lbs 2 baby plus placenta and that was bad enough! Roll on 2 weeks!

Maybe, i cant believe you mil is doing this to you again!!!! didnt she get the message last time!! I definately wouldnt let her stay or at least stick to the 7 day rule and then say she has to stay in a hotel for the rest of the time. I dont think thats unreasonable at all considering! You have to make the most of this precious time.

Kell, your ds is so cute and im glad all is going well with the pups. I have idea how i would let go of my dogs pups if she had ever had any. im so sentimental! My boys would love that crate too!

Hi everyone else. Am hoping that when i click post that indigo will have been on here!

X

indigoviolet

March 20th, 2012, 03:51 PM

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 03:51 PM

I can imagine how scary it must all feel, especially with all the risks but I'm sure all will be well and the babies are a Great size which will be a great start for them even though they are early. No option is perfect is it! I wish I could have the perfect natural birth two weeks early ;) but it ain't gonna happen!!!
How long will your hubby have at home with you? You'll have the Easter hols too which will be nice. Are the boys excited?

I'm doing 'ok' - still really struggling health wise so everyday is tough going, that's why another 12 weeks feels like a prison sentence!! I'm quite depressed with it all to be honest, I'm not enjoying it at all and most days I live in regret and feel bad about it but I can't help the way I feel - I just want the baby here so I can 'get on with it'.
Still struggling with what will never be :(

Pleased you are experiencing spring too :) its my favourite time of year- love it xx

Dh has 6wks off thankfully, a combination of Annual leave, Parental leave and dh works 6 days a week for 5 wks then gets a week off, so all that combined is 6wks! Thank god!

Sorry to hear ur not doing so well, can say I know I'd be the same, esp if 2 boys were on the way! Still not 100% convinced girls, won't be till they are here. Wish there was a way of helping, but know I can't say or do anything. Just hoping u start to feel better all round soon. Have u bought much for baby?

indigoviolet

March 20th, 2012, 03:53 PM

Babymad- huge hugs to you. thank goodness we can be here to support eachother :HH:

I'm sending all the texts out now telling people that scan went well and that it is a boy, better to get it over with and easier to pretend to be happy in a text.

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 03:54 PM

Indigo, Congrats on ur baby boy! Sorry you didn't hear girl, but sure u just have to ask our SMOG mum's of 3 boys to know how great it is to bring up 3 loving wee gentlemen... Do u have any pics to post? xx

Inglewood

March 20th, 2012, 03:58 PM

Charlie and Deaks, can't believe they are 5lbs 7!! Can u imagine they let me go to 38-40wks, OMG!! 10lb'ers for sure! lol. Must be all the milk I am drinking??? lol House a bit better, our room is almost clean, just the inside window and blind to do (well, my wee mum) and then the cot can go up! and I can prepare the rest of their stuff. My back is just awful, I unload the dishwasher, sit down, load it again, sit down.....my day kinna goes like that with everything I do!

Had ds2's parents eve, a wee star, so happy with him!! :)

deaks66

March 20th, 2012, 03:58 PM

Oh indigo, congrats on your little boy! So sorry you didnt hear girl and glad you are feeling ok so far. Oh what it must be like to have a sensitive husband! I seriously think we should advise any new smoggers to sway using the boy method as the girl method really doesnt seem to work!

deaks66

March 20th, 2012, 04:26 PM

ladies, just wandering how much you all suffered with morning sickness? I havent had much and what i did have seems to be disappearing...much like it did with my boys. Have you expereinced the same as with your other pregnancies ? inglewood/kell has yours been much different considering you are carrying a different gender?

Kell

March 20th, 2012, 04:44 PM

Congrats on your little man indigo! So glad to hear dh is being supportive, must be quite a relief for you. Hugs x

Kell

March 20th, 2012, 04:50 PM

Deaks I'm dreading the puppies going :(
The couple who came tonight of course loved them and are having one of the boys, I've told oh I'm going to be a mess when they all go! But on another note 6 is hard work! When they are out which is alot now, they seem to take it in turns to either pee or poo in different areas of the room, you gotta be quick off the mark as well or you end up with pee paw prints over the flooring! Fun times! Lmao! We are keeping one of the puppies ourselves tho.

As for morning sickness, well I never had it with the boys just had back ache.
This time I was quite bad, it lasted until around 14 ish weeks but I really didn't want to pin hopes on differing pregnancies just because I knew the possibility of having another boy was very real even with my pregnancy being so different.

chocolate

March 20th, 2012, 04:51 PM

Just popped on as have had no laptop for a few days, Indigo, congratulations, sorry you didnt hear girl though, what is it with the majority of us smog wannabes?? Did you do IG sway? Im wondering now if I should have done the IG way, but guess Id always wonder if the opposite would work if it didnt this time.

Had a nice time with my boys today, beginning to accept boys is all I will have, maybe its because I have a very low opinion of all men in my family so I am sent boys to learn to love boy ways and help them become the best males they can.

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 05:07 PM

Indigo ~ hugs Hun xx Congrats on your little man :) I know you felt the baby was a boy but it doesn't always make it any easier. So pleased your hubby is there for you, as we all are too xx I use to look at mums with two boys and feel sorry for them.....now look at me....FOUR!!!! I suppose that's why I always think people feel sorry for me, but I do get lots of nice comments too, obviously along with the horrible ones but I just don't tolerate them anymore. I'm still in shock I will be a mum of four......I remember having a conversation with my friend when I was in my early twenties and before I had children that I would do gender selection if I had to as I was definitely having a daughter......if only I knew what I was saying!!!
I'm sure you wll enjoy DS3 just as we have.....my DS3 is a character and very loving, joy to have :)

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 05:11 PM

Babymad

March 20th, 2012, 05:17 PM

Dh has 6wks off thankfully, a combination of Annual leave, Parental leave and dh works 6 days a week for 5 wks then gets a week off, so all that combined is 6wks! Thank god!

Sorry to hear ur not doing so well, can say I know I'd be the same, esp if 2 boys were on the way! Still not 100% convinced girls, won't be till they are here. Wish there was a way of helping, but know I can't say or do anything. Just hoping u start to feel better all round soon. Have u bought much for baby?

Yes, I've been buying bits, and the boys get excited when I show them what I've bought which is sweet. Still can't help looking at the girls clothes though....was looking on John Lewis' website and the summer dresses are beautiful, why I do it to myself I will never know! I am very girly and love feminine and girly things......so why four boys I will never know!

deaks66

March 20th, 2012, 05:56 PM

Babymad, I am the opposite, I have NEVER dared look at girls stuff. I put my head down in girls isles and I wont even let myself look at the girls stuff in the boden catalogue, I'm too scared of how it will make me feel! Just remember, a daughter wouldn't wear that stuff for long! That's what I tell myself anyway! Sorry pregnancy makes you suffer so much. I have to say, this is my easiest pregnancy so far. With both my boys I had mild nausea but I remember lots of food aversions and also smell aversions with ds2. With this one, nausea has also been mild but I haven't had any food/smell aversions, in fact I want to eat a lot! Not sure about finding out as i dont want to stop enjoying being pregnant. Plus my best friend is having her baby girl in may and I think I'd rather find out after that in any case. The house situation took a full turn. We had a great offer on our place, had an offer accepted on the farmhouse and then I realised how much I love where I live and I love being near everything with little ones. Plus ds1 starts school in sept and the village school near the house said for the first time ever they are oversubscribed and couldn't guarantee him a place. In the end there were more negatives to positives. It was a real learning process though so I'm glad we went through it!

deaks66

March 20th, 2012, 06:12 PM

Kell, I'm sure the puppies getting bigger and being a lot to handle must mean handing them over is somewhat easier. I remember just having one puppy to look after! Seriously I think babies are easier! But hose little faces....awwwwww! Will you keep a girl then? We chose a girl because boy airedales can be really big, mind you I think ours is bigger than most girls! But seriously, her dad was like a lion! Fun times indeed!

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 06:39 PM

Indigo - congratulations! When he arrives it will be easier I promise you! I popped back to ig for the first time in ages last week and it made me feel sad to core. Partly because I spent years there ttcing which was sad times. Sad because some people I knew for years was still chasing the dream. Sad because a part of me will want a dd forever. You be sad because for every bad feeling you can find two more great reasons to have another little boy. Wait till i finally get out of my pjs and do the school run - no one will be feeling sorry for me with my three handsome kids I gaurantee it!

Petal

March 20th, 2012, 06:41 PM

Hi all!

Love the name Ashton maybe :-) omg, breastfeeding at the begining is just so painful isnt it, i had tears at times but its fine now, just hang in there :-)

Congrats on your little boy indigo, hope you are feeling ok x x

Inglewood, wow your girls are doing well, great sizes!!

Kell, your ds is just gorgeous bless him!

Babymad, glad you had a nice time away, sorry to hear you are still suffering, roll on 10 weeks and you will be out in the sunshine pushing your new little boy in his pram :-))

Sunset, ah so please ds2 is home now, what an awful time for you all.

Deaks, i know what you mean, i never allowed myself to look at the pink things, good job really lol x

Wasn't eastenders sad tonight, poor heather :-( x

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 06:48 PM

Hi petal nice to see you ;-) I have recorded it. Today is the first day I haven't cried with hormones or pain! Good god it's not easy! Plus it's like both dh and me have totally forgotten how to deal with newborns. Baby puked on dh just now and dh acted like it was red hot lava, k changed baby on the sofa without the change mat and he peed a pint over the sofa! Honestly we are clueless all over again!

Petal

March 20th, 2012, 06:50 PM

Maybe, i do get sad wondering if ds3 will be our last baby, i would only have another if we done pgd but i cant see that ever happening!! Always got something more 'practical' to buy, sigh.
How are your big boys with their new brother, bet the adore him :-) My ds2 (he's 7) said to me in the car today that he has 2 special memories, his first was when he came home from nannies and met his baby brother for the first time and the other was when we went to lanzarote 5 years ago lol x

Petal

March 20th, 2012, 06:52 PM

Lol, i know what you mean about forgetting, we have 7 years between ds2 and 3, but its also nice as its like having your first born all over again and i love getting to spend time with ds3 alone whilst my big boys are at school :-) x

maybebabythree

March 20th, 2012, 08:26 PM

I think I would do PDg if money was issue. Right now I can't have four kids fit into my three bed semi and I can't do PDg without the money I need to put down for a deposit. It's one or the other and being 38 next month I don't have much time left for either. Might have to asky mum for a loan. Never say never!

How sweet what your ds said about meeting his brother. It's nice having a bigger age gap sometimes. I was just thinking how sweet it will be at christmas with three kids getting excited. Lots of lovely things to come. First smile, first step, the first time they tell you they love you without prompting. Oh and the first night I don't get to bed after 1am! Zzzzz

charlieispy

March 21st, 2012, 04:11 AM

thanks ladies for thinking of me and sending me all those positive vibes. Of course, this is definitely a boy, I knew deep down it was but just had that teeny bit of hope....at moment feeling ok as dh being so supportive and seems to really understand how I feel. I really can't believe I'll be a mum of 3 boys, so so weird. I always used to see families of all boys and feel sorry for the mum, serves me right.

HUGE hugs hun been thinking about you loads x glad dH is being so supportive it does take a while for it to sink in it may get harder before it gets easier x as for looking at mums of boys and feeling sorry for them SNAP even now i feel for them.....i worked with a lady who had 4 boys when i was pregnant with ds2 and my initial thought was WOW she was desperate for a girl....never thought that would be me :( HUGS lady

charlieispy

March 21st, 2012, 04:14 AM

charlieispy

March 21st, 2012, 04:14 AM

oh and indigo your scan is on my birthday :D happy scan day for then :D

Inglewood

March 21st, 2012, 06:19 AM

Morning ladies!!

Deaks, I had terrible M/s with ds2, but it was tons worse this time, but was told that was as it was a twin pg and possibly girls? so not quite sure??

Babymad, that's sweet that the boys get excited when you show them things, mine do too and ds2 would buy the whole of mothercare's toy section for them if he could! Another mum told me in a lovely way.......(she has 4 boys, 2 are twins) when I was pg with the twins (b4 I knew girls) that I should hope for boys as when a family has less girls then the mother is not the 'apple of everyones eye' as the wee girl will be fussed over, but if you have more boys, you will always be their no 1 'girl' and it's the best feeling ever. Took me a while to think about it, but since then a few other mums (with mixed families) have agreed that and said 'sometimes' that is so true and they would prob get alot more affection and attention if they were the only woman in the house. Every family is different, but now, in my family I am lucky and looked after well my all my men folks, but know that will change when the girls come as my side of the family is male dominated, these babies are 1st grand-daughters for my parents, they have 4 grand-sons. That's all fine by me, but do understand what the other mums meant and you will then the 'apple' of 5 men's lives..... for always! Hope all that made sense??

Inglewood

March 21st, 2012, 06:26 AM

Petal, aww, bless him!! I will have a 5 and a half and 9 and a half yr age gap between the babies and the boys, but that has suited me fine!! Personally, I don't think I'd of coped with twins had ds2 not been at school! My eldest (who is 9) is super tolerant of ds2 (5) and is an amazing big bruv! He's always looking out for him at school and helping him choose lunches and watching out for him, ds2 doesn't know how lucky he is!! He puts up with so much from him, prob TOO much sometimes!! I just wonder what kinna big bro ds2 will make? He's so excited and know he will love them dearly. But the bigger age gap for me has been a blessing as like u, when they arrive I'll only need to attend to them when boys at school!

indigoviolet

March 21st, 2012, 08:50 AM

Thanks for all your lovely comments girls :HH:
lovely to have you there for me and can really understand.
Went to playgroup this morning and told them all that this is a boy and I think I did really well at seeming excited. Mostly nice comments too. I'm sure I will be OK. So many of us have been through it and come out the other side.

littlemisswilko

March 21st, 2012, 10:01 AM

so glad your feeling okay about it all indigo! helps when other people close can be nice about it too.

deaks - with both ds's i had no m/s at all felt great throughout both pregnancies. same cravings (sponge) and no food/smell aversions what so ever. Did suffer from acne with both throughout but abpart from that felt normal.

with this pg i had m\s since week 6 till 12\13. couldnt stand the smell of pizza and kebab especially from 1 certain shop and couldnt eat it. urghhh. No cravings at all. got really swollen sore boobs after my bfp but then the went back to normal but now i think they have started getting bigger and are quite itchy which i never had with both ds's only after giving birth to them did my boobs swell. i have been burping alot this pg and my back always hurting. even though my pregnancies are different i still feel this one is a boy and everything is tricking me to believe it isnt. i keep looking at my scan pics from 12 weeks and on one im sure it looks a boyish nub. i never asked the sonographer to get a nub shot as i knew it would drive me crazy so was hoping to get ones that was a full body profile with the legs but the 2 she gave me looked like they might be nubs or im just thinking there nubs and there not. ill soon know is 14 days time but im not holding on to much hope anymore. In a way im sort of glad i got these scan pics with boyish looking parts otherwise i would have been pretty convinced i was in with a high chance of being told girl and get my hopes dashed.

Sunset

March 21st, 2012, 03:55 PM

Evening ladies! lots of pages to catch up on! and it's took me all day, no kidding!

Maybebaby ~ I'm breastfeeding Serena and i breastfed the boys too and it has always been painful in the first 2-3 weeks or so for me so it might just be a case of hanging in there. I know it's terrible though when your nipples are sore/bleeding and you just want to cry and give up.. been there, experienced it and bought the t-shirt! no fun! Go to the open clinic and see the experts, perhaps your baby doesnt latch on properly.. if he's took the skin off it definitely sounds like that's the case. I drenched my nipples in lanolin cream this time for the first few weeks and it helped alot. dont know what else to suggest really other then hang in there, it will get easier! and soon your little one will be breastfeeding like a champ with no discomfort for you!

indigoviolet ~ how are you doing now? i'm sorry you didnt hear pink, but congrats on your little man!

Babymad ~ dont know if it helps at all but i cant see why anyone would pity you for being a 'boy mum'. Whenever i see pictures on fb of your boys i always think "my god, what a beautiful family she's got" and it's the truth! you have the most beautiful, happy little boys and your family certainly looks like the perfect family to me!

hello to all you other lovely smogs! :)

Petal

March 21st, 2012, 06:25 PM

Maybe, im in the same boat, its either move house or pgd, but like you we are in a 3 bed and cant afford to do both! but then i feel bad for the boys, that they deserve a bigger house and they should come first, i dunno :-/ I think im coping so well with the gd because in the back of my mind i may one day be able to do pgd, i try not to think about it too much as i know the reality is it may not happen, nice to dream though:-)

x

maybebabythree

March 21st, 2012, 07:15 PM

Yes petal having the dream takes the edge off. Me and dh went looking at cars today. He wants a ford s max and a bigger car would be nice. Plus ds1 is bright and if focus on my kids they could all go to uni and have good lifes. I think it's better for us as a family to give our boys a good life than keep on with the dd thing. But I can't say never - not yet.

Sunset went to the clinic today. It helped lots. Every midwife at that hospital knows me! I live there!!! He didn't have a great latch but it's going to take a while for the soreness to go. Midwife told me take painkillers for 48 hours so I will do that. I fed ds2 for six months but I can't remember when it stopped hurting. I was asked if I was going for my football team but I just laughed. Those comments honestly don't upset me at all. Only need two more then it's five aside :-)

zanacal

March 22nd, 2012, 06:23 AM

I breastfed all my boys and never had sore nipples - the only time they started to go that way was when I decided to attempt feeding DS2 as a newborn in a cradle hold without propping my boob up! For me, so long as I hold baby across my body and prop my boob up with the hand on the side I'm feeding from I have no problems. Have you tried some different feeding positions?

Inglewood

March 22nd, 2012, 07:35 AM

Babymad ~ dont know if it helps at all but i cant see why anyone would pity you for being a 'boy mum'. Whenever i see pictures on fb of your boys i always think "my god, what a beautiful family she's got" and it's the truth! you have the most beautiful, happy little boys and your family certainly looks like the perfect family to me!

I agree! I see your pic's and think how happy you all are, esp the boys, they are always smiling! Prob c'os they know how fab their family is!

Lavenderlime

March 22nd, 2012, 09:48 AM

Wow loads to catch up on sorry for going AWOL

I have been on the computer solidly since Monday but in a much more productive form than my browsing of forums/facebook/ebay and blogs that has gone on in the past.
Maybe don't know how you do it as a job my eyes and back hurt and I have such an awful headache!
Business should Launch next week just waiting on a few bits to put the plan into action and create some stock.
Gone slightly awol from original furniture painting idea until I officially finish work. That has the most profit margin but this idea is easier to do alone side working at the moment but only has a small profit in it for me. I hope it's something you ladies will be interested in so will post it on here before I launch on facebook and get some feedback.

Indigo your girls are growing nicely what a great weight!

Maybe lovely name choice.

Sunset glad to hear your DS is home and on the mend.

Indigo congratulations on the confrimation of your little boy do you have any names on the short list yet?

Littlemiss not long until your 20 week scan how exciting, will you bee keeping the sex a secret or telling people in RL?

Deaks I'm really enjoying my break from swaying not that i've gone crazy I have mostly been living off of biscuits and decaf tea over the last week. So not teribly healthy. I will probably revert back to a low key sway next month. Do you have a 12 week scan date yet? Will you be asking for a nub shot at the scan?

Zanacal i'm the same I think I must have leather nipples because both my boys got chapped lips in the first week of feeding and my nipples were fine lol. The best tip I can give for breast feeding is, tummy to tummy and nipple to nose. So not to feed them in the same position as you'd cradle them in your arms but with their tummy actually touching yours.

Wishing4Pink

March 22nd, 2012, 10:11 AM

Congratulations on your little boy Indigo, sorry you never heard girl. I'm sure he's going to be a fab addition to your family x

Inglewood

March 22nd, 2012, 01:26 PM

Babymad

March 22nd, 2012, 02:03 PM

Babymad

March 22nd, 2012, 02:06 PM

Quick hello from me, hope everyone is ok, got to get ready to go and see DS1 in a concert so better motivate myself to move off the sofa!!

Catch up soon xxx

Sunset

March 22nd, 2012, 03:31 PM

Inglewood ~ I don't blame you. I can tell you right now that there is no chance on earth I would ever breastfeed twins, not fully anyway. I personally do believe breastmilk is best for baby if it only comes down to comparing breastmilk to formula milk but life isn't that easy and there is one thing that's more important than how you feed your baby/babies and that is a happy mummy! no baby can thrive without a happy mama, so if you feel bottle feeding is what's best for you and your family then it is what's best for your babies too in my opinion. Your girls are gonna be far better off being fed from the bottle than having a confused and depressed mummy all for the sake of breastmilk. So don't beat yourself up, you've done a good choice!

Sunset

March 22nd, 2012, 03:41 PM

Thanks Sunset, that's a really lovely thing to say xx I do love my boys so much and I know I will love this baby too. I just feel so in-complete being an all boy mum but I know it's something I will have to learn to live with even if it doesn't get easier xx

((hugs)) I understand.. i think we can all relate to such feelings since we have all found our way to smog in one way or another.. just thought i'd say you have a very beautiful family and i cant see how anyone would pity you for being a 'boy mum'..

maybebabythree

March 22nd, 2012, 05:53 PM

Inglewood I think your brave bf ds2 after what happened with ds1. I think feeding is a personal choice. I don't enjoy it really but not trying feels worse for me. I fed ds1 for six weeks and got so sore I would feel physically sick when he woke up and cried for food. I would dread his touch. Nothing is worth that. I gave up but felt bad for months and months after when I should have been proud I tried.

Sunset

March 22nd, 2012, 06:37 PM

My main reason for breastfeeding is mostly because i was born in sweden which is a breastfeeding nation so breastfeeding has sort of been the obvious thing to do for me.. and let's not forget that i'm far too lazy to bottle feed with all the washing, stearilising and keeping track of how many bottles my baby has and how many ounces she takes in a day lol much easier to just get the booby out :p

Kell

March 23rd, 2012, 03:36 AM

I don't think I'd bf twins either tbh, altho I do bf as well, I often feel quite tied down by the process. I enjoy the experience don't get me wrong but it's quite demanding at times! Imagine that with two babies, you would literally be like a cow all day long. That's enough to drive anyone insane!

Sunset I'm the same, far too much effort and expense to bottle feed! Lol

Sunset

March 23rd, 2012, 06:24 AM

Friday :D :D cant wait for the weekend to begin! ds1 and ds2 is on their last day of anti b's today so taking them to the toy shop later so they can pick out a toy as a reward for taking all their medicine.. although saying that, it's been a real struggle to get ds1 to take his antibiotics this time.

what have you ladies got planned this weekend? :)

maybebabythree

March 23rd, 2012, 01:51 PM

Legoland for the star wars weekend! Crowds and exposing my boobs! Fun all round!!

zanacal

March 23rd, 2012, 04:43 PM

Hi everyone, not much to report here. I went for a sight test today and my prescription has changed (my eyesight has got better!) which is likely what was making my eyes hurt! I've been worrying about lack of movement these past couple of days but I think baby has moved position because when she does move it's wriggling and it's kind of somewhere inside rather than near the top of my tummy iykwim? I went crazy and ate an ice-cream, some sweets and a bottle of lucozade earlier to see if I could wake her up instead of phoning the maternity ward in a panic! She's having a little wriggle now though thankfully. My maternity replacement has started at work now so I'm training her all the time and my throat is getting sore! I have 3 more full weeks before my maternity leave starts (3 more of 'my' 20 hour full weeks anyhow!) with a bit of a break over the Easter holidays so the end is in sight!

Have you all seen Atomic's news - I'm stunned!!

maybebabythree

March 23rd, 2012, 07:14 PM

Omg!!! Atomic - so pleased for her!!!

Movements do seem smaller the bigger the baby gets. When I. Was 38 weeks save did a massive move and I thought he had gone breach, apart from that it was just small moves

Inglewood

March 24th, 2012, 04:41 AM

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for all ur support, it was a hard decision, but I know best for me. Although I said to Dh if 1 or 2 of them end up poorly and in Special baby care for a while, I'd def express milk for them to have.

Ds2 told me it's 10 sleeps now...OMG! Got a call from hosp yest, I have a Urine infection (they sent my sample off on tues) so got some Penecillin to take..yuck! But must be done, even tho it gives me tummy ache.

Did I tell u all that's it's an afternoon c-section that I'll be having? Really dissapointed :( as when the boys come up, I still prob won't be able to walk!! Last time, I was vomiting and really sore 5hrs post op. Don't want the boys to see me like that. Dh can stay till 10pm, so I can get up (eventually) get a shower etc before he leaves, but babies will be hours old and I'm dreading him leaving me... Said to my mum, if I'm really poorly, or baby/babies, then prob best not to come up with the boys till the next afternoon, which I know will be SO tough on my mum, but can't have her up and not MIL who will be at my house with her and the boys. A hard call to make, but I told them all that Dh and I will decide on the day, although my MIL will say "what's the fuss about, we should still come up". Dh annoyed me last night about his mum coming, she hasn't been in my home for over a year!!!!!! we have to visit her and she thinks she's a flippin saint for coming to watch the boys. If it was my descion entirely, I know they's much rather be with my mum who they see alot as she's fun and had planned to take them balloon and gift shopping while I was in hosp, now she can't. Dh's mum will plonk them in front of xbox and Tv. But I'm not here, so it's up to him who wants around. Then he had the cheek to moan that my mum will "do his mum's head in" with her excitement while they wait here to hear the news!! The cheek!!!!!!!!!! She has 3 grand-daughters, these are my mum's 1st. At least my mum makes an effort!!!! his mum never visits, then would moan about getting her place on the day... then fall out with u if she didn't get it (past history with dh's sister's babies) nightmare....

So sorry RANT OVER!! lol

Hope u all have a good wkend. My dad is gonna tile my bathroom floor, so I'm off out to have toilet access!!! lol (My parents).

Maybe, that sound like fun!! The boys still talk about legoland! x

Sunset, much deserved toys for clever boys!!! x

Inglewood

March 24th, 2012, 04:47 AM

Z, that's good news!! I had mine tested last wk and are just the same!

Know what u mean about movements, although I think it's c'os they're getting so big? less space?

ROLL ON MAT LEAVE!!!! Yeah!!! :)

maybebabythree

March 24th, 2012, 07:37 AM

My mil does my head in like no one else inglewood so I feel for you there. She booked her ticket to come over for six weeks this year dispite everything that was said last year. She forces herself on me whether I want it or not. It's like being emotionally raped - I have no choice.

Kell

March 24th, 2012, 02:55 PM

I feel for you guys with the pain in the bum mil's, dp's mum is fine, she has her moments but on the whole she's lovely, but then I was good friends with dp 10 years before we got together so I already knew his family very well.

This weekends been quite chilled, we had a BBQ yesterday as the weathers been glorious! And it's set to stay for a little while :)
Been out spending money, not on Lily tho, needed a lawn mower and a washing line.
We are also looking at new beds, at the mo we have a divan which has been fine, but dp has broke his side, he doesn't sit down like any normal person he kinda jumps and has literally cracked it! So at the moment we are sleeping in a dip in the bed lol, even with a very expensive mattress you can still feel it.
I'm desperate for a chunky solid oak number but we shall see if I wangle it! Lol

Other than all that we've just been playing with puppies, walking the dog and playing out with ds2.

Inglewood it's a real shame your not in early for the section, have they said why it's not a morning one? Have you asked to change the time?

Lavenderlime

March 24th, 2012, 08:27 PM

Just posting to say i'm still catching when I can up if not posting as much as usual. Don't wnat to get out of the loop.

charlieispy

March 25th, 2012, 07:56 AM

Hey all x again i have failed to come on here much managed to reach an all time new low after DH got back - he was being a bit of a tit and I hadnt rested as in had a nap whilst he had his 'extra' day off I was feeling so tired and so low and I just lost it infront of him and the kids and probably half the neighbour hood heard too. Well i think he realised I am alot worse than he thought and he has ended up taking 3 days off work - this is the man who never has time off work and they cant open the shop without him so it was a BIG thing but totally needed. So I have had him helping me thank god and also my blood results back after waiting 2 wks for a test and I am anaemic and b12 deficient THANK GOD I am tired and I am depressed but this means i am not as mental as I feel and think i am x have injections booked for tuesday so hopefully i will kick in asap. I also have been assigned a fantastic MW who specialise with depression in pregnancy she also has amazing gender depression skills too so hopefully all this will help me at least get back to a state of coping yet again sorry i have just blabbed about myself x i willhopefully now be able to sort myself out and get back to being close to feeling like myself as much as poss i know it wont be a magic wand but at least i wont feel so totally out of control. Anyway must go DH had to work today and i am struggling big time feeling faint and ridiculously tired hoping ds3 will sleep now as i need to lie down!! Anyway much love

and omg 10sleeps inglewood!!

Kell

March 25th, 2012, 09:59 AM

Charlie I'm so sorry your not coping too well, but if anything it's good your oh realises just how bad you feel and is trying to help! I really hope your midwife and the meds can help :) xxx

A friend of mines showed us a site for beds, but they just seem to be crazy cheap, if I knew what the quality was like it would really help me decide if I want to buy a bed there or not lol
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The prices seem too good to be true but the feedback on their eBay and amazon sites are brilliant on the whole.

maybebabythree

March 25th, 2012, 11:11 AM

Charlie sorry you have had such a low point. Glad dh understands a bit more now. Glad you have a midwife you can talk to about your gd. I have no one I trust to confide in except dh. Luckily for me he does get it but he can't help.

chocolate

March 25th, 2012, 01:14 PM

Hi all, I am still reading these threads, just not posting much at the moment, but am reading :-)

Charlie, glad your results are back so you can start some treatment, that won't help with feeling low. I seem to have little blow outs at OH on the weekend, nothing too major but I end up ranting how he gets his career, not 1 but 3 bloody boys, company car, easy life whilst I work my arse off all week for 6k a year, up to my eyeballs in washing and ironing etc. and just feel like a skivvy and this isnt how I wanted my life to be. And now I know I wont have a daughter Im doing all the hard work for all the makes in the house who will one day just move out without a thank you and be back at christmas if Im lucky. The rant helps even if it is a bit illogical and dramatic, it just expresses a bit of how I feel.

Ive decided though that I just can't justify going high tech, we need that money and I wont cope with the process and we will all suffer awfully if it doesnt work, and even if it does work we'd be skint afterwards. Ive had a happy few days buying the boys some very cute clothes, going on day trips, enjoying the sun and buying myself nice girly bits so need to focus on that for now. Enjoy what I can, we will probably have a 4th in about 3 years, maybe more if we ever had the money to move but think 4 will be it, not sure about swaying. I do know we will def. only start trying to conceive over summer as all the March onwards babies round here are girls conceived in summer! Anyway, thats me up to date for a while, oh and Im thinking of doing some evening work after this ones maternity leave ends. I only want to work maybe 6pm till 930pm so not sure Id earn a lot of where Id get a job with no experience, maybe a supermarket, waitressing type thing.

Inglewood, I cant believe where the time has gone, will def. be popping in to see pics!

Zanacal Yes I saw atomics news, was shocked. Pleased for her obviously but it was nice having a swaying type coach with all boys to relate too, but I guess we still know she has been where we all have so would still understand. Can also understand why she didnt disclose ttc whilst running this forum etc.

Hi to everyone else

pinga

March 25th, 2012, 11:52 PM

Charlie - sorry to hear things got so low for you. But at least DH now sees what is going on with you. The midwife sounds as though she could be a huge help. Hang in there... when they get a hold on your anaemia etc you'll hopefully feel a bit brighter. Its going to be a tough few weeks until your gorgeous little baby arrives... I don't think anything will get rid of the ache of not having a daughter but he will give you so much joy. You will have 4 people who love you so completely. I know it doesn't help that much... I find I don't really want to talk about the baby all that much... I just want to get to the end of the pregnancy so I can hold him and shift this negativity. Don't worry about me me me posting... if you need to talk.. here is the best place for it!!!

chocolate - sorry you're feeling down too.

having a sick day today - boys in childcare and no working. Feeling very nauseous and blerggg. Must have caught a bug... so forgive my lack of personals... I"m going to drag myself back to the sofa to lie there and feel sorry for myself. Only this week and then we're on School hols so DH will be home for 2 weeks!!

Sunset

March 26th, 2012, 05:17 AM

Hello everyone :) sorry i've been missing over the weekend. I'm poorly myself now and has been glued to the 'The hunger games' book in bed so haven't been online neither on here or fb..
hope you've all had a lovely weekend :)

Charlieispy ~ it sounds like you're getting great support which is so so important.. i hope once you're not anemic anymore that you will start too feel a bit better. Thinking of you!!

pinga ~ hope you feel better soon!

inglewood ~ eek, not long to go!

maybebaby ~ how's dave doing? :)

petal ~ hows oakley?

Babymad

March 26th, 2012, 06:12 AM

Hi Folks......

Hugs to all those poorly peeps.... xxx

Charlie ~ So pleased your DH is helping out more, it really helps! And I hope they get you sorted with your iron levels, I'm always anaemic too, its not nice. Great that your MW specialises in depression (I have always suffered with depression in pg too) and GD - pass her my way when you've finished :) I do think talking about it and having that support makes such a difference and really makes you feel better - I would love to have someone to talk too.
You are doing so well xxx

Indigo ~ How are you hun??

Deaks ~ Hope you are feeling ok?

Maybe ~ Hows Dave doing? Are you getting much sleep?

Chocolate ~ Good that you know what the future holds for you in ttc - at least thats one step forward. Hang in there x

I haven't seen atomics news as I don't get on here much and I only have time to come on this thread - can someone update me please??

I saw the MW last week and she was really concerned about me so off I went back to the doctors for the third time!!!
she didn't seem too concerned that I said I wasn't coping or managing and just gave me some sleeping tablets! the level of care can be so poor. Luckily the sleeping tablets have helped and I have had two decent nights sleep after many weeks of illness and insomnia they were very much needed!! I nearly collapsed in Sainsburys last week and I have to stop the car when driving as I get so dizzy! So I'm still having a crap time.

The weather has cheered me up though - even though I did spend 4 hrs on Saturday cleaning our patio!!!...back ache and knackered was not the word!!

I have bought a new pushchair for cubs which has cheered me up to - I got the Maxi Cosi Elea in Red, should hopefully be here this week :)

Inglewood ~ Hugs hun, hope you are feeling better today x

Well better crack on as should be working ;)

Wishing4Pink

March 26th, 2012, 07:36 AM

Hi Wishing, hope ur well? When are u starting ur sway? still April?

I can't offer any BF help at all, I managed to BF ds1 for 4 days before getting Mastitis and Dh had to call the doc in as I was literally bonkers! Was confused and sleepy, so doc told dh to give him a bottle and let me get over the infection.
Ds2 I managed 3 wks, which was awful, I was SO depressed about it all, my milk was coming out so fast that he was choking and vomiting constantly and had terrible reflux, my dad then had a stroke when he was 3 wks old and I had to spend so much time at the hosp I gave up and gave hime a bottle.

So this time, as much as part of me wants to try BF, I'm not! Dh has begged me to seriously think what's best for us all as a family and doesn't want to see me confused or depressed again. He's happy they will be bottle fed, then he can help, or I'd be so exhausted. Was a difficult descion to make after starting to BF both boys, but best for me and my family. I have a friend who BF her last 2 kids only and they are the sickest kids ever!! So makes me wonder what is the best thing to do. Although out of my 2 boys, ds2 was fed longer (not that much) but is def the healthier kid. :confused:

Hi inglewood, can't believe your little girls will be here shortly!! I'm going to start the diet after the easter holidays, makes sense with all the chocolate that will be around and then i can enjoy the break with the boys. So i'll prob be attempting in may now. For some reason i'm just not in a rush for it all now, maybe cos so much needs to be done to the house or scared of ending the dream for a girl, i'm just not sure. Need to sit down with the other half and discuss, which is a task in its self, lol.

I hope all those that are feeling poorly or down, feel better soon. Wish i had a magic wand to make things better, sending lots of hugs instead

Hello to everyone else!!

x

maybebabythree

March 26th, 2012, 01:14 PM

Sorry to those still feeling low, thank god the sun is out! Babymad - depression is a hard place. I think
If people see you can function they don't understand. A life of just getting by isn't enough. I get pnd but so far I feel great! Maybe more sleep and more sun you will be on your feet again.

Atomic is expecting a girl after four boys (I think it's four?) I mostly stay on this thread as on my phone. Not sure it's a good idea to go back to my ig days where lived on the pc.

Chocolate I dream of ivf but really I couldn't do it. If you look at the threads on here more fail than succeed and it takes more than one go. I might have anotherbefore I turn 40 but I know it wouldbe a boy.

maybebabythree

March 26th, 2012, 02:04 PM

Save is a good baby and sleeps from midnight to 4-5 or even six mOst nights. But I am still finding feeding hard and painful! I want to carry on but maybe some women just don't get on with it? Seems so unfair as it's been three weeks and it still hurts. I can't get him to make a wide mouth :-(

deaks66

March 26th, 2012, 02:43 PM

Hi all,
Sorry havent been able to post much lately, just catching up on posts now and so sorry to hear a few of you are suffering so badly. Wish i could make it all better but pretty sure i will be joining you in a few weeks time. This pregnancy couldnt be anymore similar to my boys!
Babymad, glad you have chosen a lovely new pushchair...roll on some sleep and soon being able to push your beautiful new bubs around in the sunshine! I think its cruel that us gd ladies feel we need to find out early in order to get our heads sorted but in turn that leaves a long pregnancy feeling down. We cant win!
Charlie, ghope the anemia disappears soon with the medication. Great that you have got to the bottom of it, that dh is bring more understanding (shame we have to shout at them for that to happen hey?!) and that you have a great midwife who understands gd. You must feel much more supported.
Pinga, chocolate, am feeling for you too. We need these beautiful boys here now so we can start to enjoy them!
Inglewood, getting close! Thinking of you and your poor back!
Sunset, hoping your family is improving and there are less bottles of medicine on the go!
Hope and dreams, where are you in your cycle?
Hi to everyone else, wishing, lavender, maybe (glad you are loving little ashton despite the pain!) X

chocolate

March 26th, 2012, 03:15 PM

Hey everyone, Pinga hope your feeling better, a little one I looked after on Friday threw up fish pie everywhere, nearly made me sick! Thankfully none of us have been sick
Sunset, not you poorly as well, hope your better too!
Babymad, glad the tablets gave you a few nights sleep, I am terrible with anything less than 8 hours sleep, would be so snappy
Wishing4Pink, I think May would be my time of year to ttc, I know there are so many theories but all my friends seem to conceive girls in the summer months, Ill be ttc our last baby over summer as we havent done that route yet.
Maybe3, the IVF idea was a nice way to break myself into accepting another boy as I was then able to enjoy it as I knew that was my back up plan. My working hours have been halved and Im having so much fun with my boys that I could not give all this up to save up for IVF so thats the decision made. We will use the money to finnish doing the house up, maybe move one day and just enjoy days out and not worry financially.
I found breastfeeding painful with DS1 but DS2 was ok, I remember though a midwife showed me how to squueze the bob above the nipple and below to mould it into more of a sausage shape to make a bigger section to pop into the mouth. Do you have another midwife who can help? Lanishosh cream was the best for me, Sainsburys have 25% off baby bits I think, may end today though but I got mine from there last time as it was expenses. The first 6 weeks of feeding is def. the hardest.

Deaks are you going to try to get a nub shot? I kinda wished I didnt because it was such an obvious boy nub it was like hearing 'boy' but at least I sort of prepared myself. No way around it though as I would hate to get excited and then feel devastated. Wish I could just skip the whole ttc and pregnancy bit and just be told your having a boy here he is lol, none of that wondering in between.

I went to the drs today because I have felt absolutely no movement all day today, they found the heartbeat straight away, very odd, baby must be having a huge resting day. Wont now though as I just ate an Easter Egg lol

deaks66

March 26th, 2012, 03:53 PM

why didnt i think of breaking open an easter egg?!!!... got loads of them and just settled for rice crispies with golden syrup on top to satisfy my constant sweet cravings!

Dont think i will outright ask for a nub shot but will be watching closely and will ask for a couple of pics as dh cant make it. My ds2's nub shot was so so SO obvious that i too found it hard knowing boy for so much of the pregnancy. But at the same time i dont know if i can help myself. I have pretty much convinced myself this one is a boy so i feel like i am already preparing myself which i didnt for ds2.

Babymad

March 26th, 2012, 04:17 PM

Wishing ~ Enjoy the easter eggs :)

Maybe ~ Pleased Dave is being good at night, that is great considering you are BF, as they tend to feed more often than bottle. I have tried BF all of mine and the longest ive managed is 6 wks. I really wish I could have managed longer but I just dont think my boobs were made for BF! I will try BF with this baby but I wont put any pressure on myself. I am envious of those who get in well with BF as it is a wonderful thing.
Great to hear that you are feeling so happy - thats how it should be :)

Deaks ~ pleased you are doing ok, I agree we cant win, its a long time to be pg with GD when you find out. I cant think about how long ive got left as it really gets me down.
I am thinking pink for you hun, so keeping everything crossed :)

Lots of mums have said to me today that my bump looks really big - not what I wanted to hear especially as I ferl huge! Hope im not cooking a biffa :)

maybebabythree

March 26th, 2012, 04:29 PM

Are you finding out chocolate and deeks?

maybebabythree

March 26th, 2012, 04:34 PM

Baby mad I only put on a stone and dave was 8 2 and I had a massive placenta! Only lost a stone after giving birth! So you can never tell. Big bump might be small baby yet

deaks66

March 26th, 2012, 05:44 PM

Maybe, still not sure whether to find out. Will probably cave though as I'm rubbish at waiting. What I hate though is that it should be an exciting time, and I will just be scared stiff.

Right I'm off to bed. Only been getting on a few hours sleep the past month as both my boys have become insomniacs and I desperately need to catch up.

So excited though as we're off to disneyworld in Florida on Sunday! Dh booked us tickets as we saved ourselves a fortune by not moving house. Hope it's not going to keep me awake!

maybebabythree

March 26th, 2012, 06:55 PM

Oh wow deaks! I really want to go to Paris. Not too keen on flying long haul now I have kids - I have been to Australia, hong kong, Singapore, Canada and all over Europe. I love the image of strolling the streets with the kids and dh at night, reality would not be as romantic! I'm glad I had the sex confirmed this time. It didn't spoil my pg at all, his big fat head pressing on my cervix did that ;-) only you know how you will cope at the birth. I knew I wanted to just enjoy the birth and these early days not questioning 'why not me?' iykwim?

Kell

March 27th, 2012, 04:49 AM

How lovely Deaks! I'm super jealous! I've been to Florida 6 times over the years, im desperate to take the kids, I'm hoping maybe next year or 2014 as we have to save alot for all 6 of us as well as a loft conversion lol.
Can't fit us in your case can ya lol!

Hope everyone's ok, inglewood not long now :)

maybebabythree

March 27th, 2012, 12:23 PM

Today's gem from a new mum to three. Baby's can't go 15 hours without changing their nappy. Who would have known? Dave was a bit wet at 12 and to my horror poo and pee had soaked through his swaddle blanket, romper, vest, nappy and my sofa!!!!! Why did it not occur to me change him since nine the night before I don't know. So much for knowing what I'm doing!

Oh and we have thrush hence painful boobs. I was late both days for school. This is a doodle apart from that! Dh will be wearing my clothes soon as inane no time to do washing. Wait till I go back to work, I might just forget the baby and go on the school run with baby left in childminders till midnight.

Three kids is easy, shame I don't have the mental capacity to cope with three!

maybebabythree

March 27th, 2012, 12:26 PM

Inglewood - how you coping? I dreamed last night I was giving birth again, but naked in public! Maybe it's a warning that dh does need the snip!

maybebabythree

March 27th, 2012, 01:25 PM

Gahhhhh! Car has just broken down now 15 miles from
Home with all the boys as ds1 was at gymnastics. Give me strength! (at least I bought spare nappies ;-)

Inglewood

March 27th, 2012, 02:24 PM

Hi all,

Not posted but read post's yest. Found out today my section will be at 1.30pm and I had to change my Antibiotics as I have Strep B in my urine. Which isn't good for babies I hear, but at least I've got antibiotics and will have a c-section.
Having a few emtional moments, worrying I suppose. Thinking if something happened would ds2 remember me?? Dh isn't the most sympthetic of men and was very blunt and told me to 'get a grip' he did apoligise a while after tho and think he realised he was out of order. I'm so so tired, sore and fed up being pg. Trying to enjoy the last ever wk of ever being pg, but hard. Must load up a pic of how HUGE I am now!! lol A guy came to the door asking if we wanted work done and dh stood there listeneing, agreeing to him coming back on sat for a quote when it's work we can't afford and I went crazy mental at the guy and told him we weren't interested and not to come back!! He's prob away thinking 'Pysco-woman' but dh should of just said no! MEN!

Hope ur all well, sounds like a few of you have been poorly, big hugs! :(
1 week today my babies will be here.....EEK! x

Babymad

March 27th, 2012, 03:11 PM

Deaks ~ wow sooo envious! Would love to take the boys in two or three years - when DS4 is toilet trained! Had a quote before I fellmpg and all in it was 10k plus so lots of saving to do! Have a wonderful time and enjoy :) Hope you get some sleep x

Maybe ~ did atomic sway??

Inglewood ~ can't wait to see your girls :)

Off to bed now as I'm completely shattered!

Petal

March 27th, 2012, 03:20 PM

Hi ladies!!

OMG, inglewood... ONE week!!!!! im sooo excited for you, we go on holiday next wednesday, be lovely to hear your news before we go :-)

Maybe, lol bless you breaking down, hope you all got home ok!! little Dave is doing great, he sleeps better than my ds3, he's up loads in the night, its driving me mad lol, and DH snoring all night just adds to it!!!!!!!

Oh maybe and charlie, you poorly things, wish there was something i could do to make you both well again!! your little bundles will be here before you know it, just a little bit longer.... hugs to you both!

Oh wow deaks, im sooooo jealous!!!! have a great time!!! take lots of pics :-)

Sunset, ds3 is great thanks, apart from the not sleeping lol. 15lb 7oz now!!!!

zanacal

March 27th, 2012, 04:11 PM

Inglewood - I always have those morbid thoughts when I'm pregnant. Don't worry, everything will be absolutely fine and you'll have two beautiful baby girls this time next week. EEEK!!

zanacal

March 27th, 2012, 04:19 PM

Babymad - here's the link to Atomic's sway thread.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-your-girl-sway/9388-atomics-stealth-pink-sway-updated-new-info-3-25-a.html

maybebabythree

March 27th, 2012, 04:34 PM

Inglewood - what could go wrong? Your in hospital, as long as they wip the babes out that's it. Even when I was readjusted with high bp for the third time and I felt rough I knew they still had a drip they could use if I came close to help syndrome. Nothing will go wrong. If it does the staff will put it right. Honest - these people genuinely care it's not just a job - you know that being a nurse x

Inglewood

March 27th, 2012, 04:59 PM

Thanks for your lovely comments! Was feeling less anxious until ds2 (who is 5) drew a pic of me having the babies and wrote 'The operation will be safe' and 'Not dead mum' with an arrow pointing to me......... I was hysterical when he went to bed!! I've chatted about things to him and he doesn't seem to have a problem, Dh even asked him was he ok and he seems fine, but OMG!!!!! I even asked ds1 if ds2 had spoken to him and he said no. So trying to make it seem like a wee operation, unfortunatley it's a afternoon section, so I'll still be in bed when he comes, hope that doesn't worry him. kept thinking, 'My poor wee baby!' Having a fun weekend planned, cinema, garden centre (he loves it there) and out for tea (4 of us) on monday night.

You would think being a nurse and having 2 sections would make me be more sensible about it all......but no! lol Having these steriod injections sat and sun 9am and 9pm will be awful, 4 trips to the hosp (15 miles away), not just that, the 9pm ones will keep me up all bloody night!!!! Steriods shouldn't be given too late in the day! However, they are for a very good reason, 2 for that!!

Petal, wow, he's doing fab!! Hope he's alot better now? wouldlove to see recent pic's of him. Bet the boys are so excited about the holiday!! I sooooo love Ibiza!! A good time to go too, I've been late April/early May and it was lovely, not too hot, but just perfect!

Maybe, Hope the BF went ok today?

Babymad, hope ur ok and sleep well? My boys would LOVE to stay at the legoland hotel!! It was just being built when we were there in June last yr and they see it on Tv and ds2 screams with excitement. Don't think we'll see any kind of holiday for the next couple of years at least!

Night all, this Urine infection making it sore to sit at table for long, so off to do my hippo impression on the couch!!! will post a recent pic of my bump tom.....for a laugh!!! x

Kell

March 27th, 2012, 05:03 PM

I had group b strep when I had ds1 except they didn't test before I was in labour so only found out days after he was born. It can be dangerous for babies, so it's really good they have found it now! Apparently the antibiotics need 4 hours to work and get through to baby.
I'll definatly be making sure I'm tested in this pregnancy!

Oh maybe what a day, hope things have gotten better :)

deaks66

March 27th, 2012, 05:08 PM

Hi ladies,

Babymad, we actually found a pretty good deal so it hasn't been overly expensive. Mind you it helps that there are still only 2 children and one isn't quite two so he flys v cheap! We are all sharing a room too. Having said that I expect everything out there will be pricey so it will add up!

Inglewood, one week! Wow! All will be fine Hun, i can't wait to hear about their arrival!

Maybe, annoying about breaking down. Hope it didn't take too long to be rescued and fixed! Glad you had nappies! Made me laugh about your 15 hr nappy strike! I'm sure Little Ashton didn't mind!

Kell, I'd stick you all in my suitcase if I could, mind you have already started packing my summer clothes in and there's not much room left!

Hope it's been a good day for those ladies feeling down. I spent the morning at toddler group talking to is mum who only wants another baby if it's a girl. Still find it annoying that someone would say that to a mum of only boys. I obviously replied with only boys make me broody (which isn't a total lie!) and I really think I'm expecting a boy and I cant wait. Funny how we say all sorts to protect ourselves and our family!

Anyway only 4 or 5 hrs sleep last night due to my ragbags so off to sleep now to try and catch up.... If they'll let me! Quieter day tomorrow so hopefully catch up with you all better. X

deaks66

March 27th, 2012, 05:12 PM

Inglewood, the things that go through the mind of a 5 year old! You will be fine and so will he! X

Lavenderlime

March 27th, 2012, 05:25 PM

Myabe have you had him checked for tongue tie? Because that can cause feeding problems. x

Lavenderlime

March 27th, 2012, 05:44 PM

Ah see it was thrush. Hope the meds are working for you both.

Lavenderlime

March 27th, 2012, 05:46 PM

Deaks well jel, lol talking of witch made in Chelsea is back on next week. Sunny Florida will be amazing.

Off to read Zanacals link as i'm a bit two ways about swaying at the moment. Don't have much faith in it anymore.

maybebabythree

March 27th, 2012, 07:44 PM

Lavender will ask about the tounge tie at clinic tomorrow thanks. I haven't started the meds as they didn't have ashtons in stock and thought we both need to be on it or will on infecting each other.

A a took two hours to come but luckily dh rescued us by coming out and letting me take the boys in his car while he waited with mine. Was the battery - not too bad it was ten years old - original with the car.

Inglewood my ds1 said something like that to me. I can only presume he picked it up from conversations with dh about my pre eclampsia. Could be one minor thing and he has been thinking about you being in hospital and that's where sick people go. After that I was very honest with ds saying when I would be at hospital and why and not to worry as they was checking baby but we was both ok. That some times mummy's and baby's get ill but all that would happen then is that the doctors would help baby come early. Mind you he is eight. I thought if was honest then then if he heard us being worried he would already know why and what was next. Also at hospital I really reassured him I was ok and baby was ok and all was as planned. Just tell your boys that you need to be in hospital as two baby's need lots of help for mummy as it's lot for daddy to manage alone.

Sunset

March 28th, 2012, 03:49 AM

Deaks ~ oooh i'm so jealous :P have fun at disney land!! i hope to go there with my family someday too :)

maybebaby ~ obviously not happy to hear you've been diagnosed with thrush, but happy to hear it's something that can be treated easily :agree: hopefully soon it will be cleared and breastfeeding won't be a painful ordeal for you anymore.

inglewood ~ thinking of you.. cant believe it's only a week left until you will meet your babies :D cant wait to see pictures :D

babymad ~ i can't believe that gp... perhaps you should try and see another gp? surely you need some more help than just sleeping pills?

AFM my household just wont get a break! we ALL have a viral now jippie!! strangely Serena is the one coping the best so my mummy milk must be doing something good :)

Sunset

March 28th, 2012, 04:01 AM

Hope it's been a good day for those ladies feeling down. I spent the morning at toddler group talking to is mum who only wants another baby if it's a girl. Still find it annoying that someone would say that to a mum of only boys. I obviously replied with only boys make me broody (which isn't a total lie!) and I really think I'm expecting a boy and I cant wait. Funny how we say all sorts to protect ourselves and our family!

I can totally relate to this! especially since i have a friend who genuinely doesnt know what she's saying is hurtful, but she always goes on about how she only really wants a girl for her next baby (she has a son already) and basically just makes it very clear how she does not want 2 boys lol i'm embarrassed to admit it but it's hard for me not to be selfish and wish she doesnt get her gender dream just so she learns herself what exactly it is she's saying.

indigoviolet

March 28th, 2012, 08:36 AM

Hey girls, sorry not been on much. am reading your posts and keeping up with the news just don't have much to say this end....just struggling on.
lots of love to you all :HH:

Inglewood

March 28th, 2012, 10:05 AM

Maybe, think he's heard something somewhere about someone dying after an op??? Reassured him as much as I can and ds2 been a wee gem too. He's 9 and has his own thoughts about it, but told ds2 "well, mummy had us 2 by operation and we are all here" bless him!! Sorry to hear about the thrush, I had it with ds2 and with his reflux it was hard going and painful!!!! ouch!

My poor wee ds2 (who is 9) had a tooth out today :( It's a big baby tooth that won't budge and the adult tooth starting to grow behind it, so it had to come out!! he was super brave, but cried and was so pale I thought he was gonna faint!! My brave boy!

Indigo, sorry to hear ur struggling, wondered where u had been, thinking of u with big hugs.

Sunset, I know 6 sleeps!!! OMG! Sorry to hear u still have a poorly house, glad Serena is ok.

Off to pick up ds2, pop on later. x

zanacal

March 28th, 2012, 01:27 PM

I can totally relate to this! especially since i have a friend who genuinely doesnt know what she's saying is hurtful, but she always goes on about how she only really wants a girl for her next baby (she has a son already) and basically just makes it very clear how she does not want 2 boys lol i'm embarrassed to admit it but it's hard for me not to be selfish and wish she doesnt get her gender dream just so she learns herself what exactly it is she's saying.

I think that's quite sad, I love that my boys have each other and actually worry about our girl not having a sister! The bond between brothers in this house is amazing and they're all so close.

maybebabythree

March 28th, 2012, 02:22 PM

Indigo been thinking about you recently. If you feel up to it want to meet up over Easter? Might see you Tom if I can get out the house on time

Lavenderlime

March 28th, 2012, 03:03 PM

Hi ladies,

I need your help pretty please. Please could you read my blog and look at my shop and tell me what you think? It may take a little while as there's a about a weeks worth of posts.

You are my target market being boy mum's. I was fed up of baby blue after ds2. Just so bored of boy baby clothes altogether really. So i'm hoping this will appeal to you ladies as well as girl mum's. I'm only half way through and haven't added any stock pictures to my website (shop) there's a link on my blog. I'm hoping to get some pictures taken tonight to upload and if not tomorrow day. still have a load more colours to do too but thinking of dropping black. As i've added plum and dark grey will definitely feature. So not sure if there's any need for black? So the colours in the COLLECTION section will probably change by friday when I post my shop on facebook and hopefully start selling a few bits!

Honey.Bumble (http://honeybumblecustomdyed.blogspot.co.uk/)

click on march 22nd to read in order.

Hopefully this will explain why I haven't been on that much recently. :)

Lavenderlime

March 28th, 2012, 03:07 PM

God I feel nervous only my family have read it so far and my friends will get it as they know me but i'm curious to see how it comes across to someone who know's a little about me but doesn't actually know me........

auroara78

March 28th, 2012, 03:25 PM

Lavender, the website and blog are delightful...I love bumble blue!!! gorgeous colors, i love deep and rich too, I also hate pastel baby blue! Bleh! Gorgeous, can't wait to see more...your sons are heartbreakingly cute and I love all the vivid, rich pictures! Thank you for sharing with us.

zanacal

March 28th, 2012, 03:45 PM

Lavender - loved reading your blog, it's wonderful (as is your house and garden from what I can see!). Really beautiful photos too :D I wish you well with your new business :D

Lavenderlime

March 28th, 2012, 03:48 PM

Thank you auroara, so glad you like it. I wasn't sure about starting a blog. But it's made me take more pictures of the boys and it's like a little dairy that I can look back on so glad I made the leap. Also i'm hoping it will be a good tool to launch new products down the line already getting ahead of myself. Plus DP thinks I do NOTHING every day all day! So Now I have proof that that is far from the case!

Plus I like the idea of my brand being personal and 'homemade' i'm making all the labels myself for clothes and want it to be something that you look forward to receving. So if people can see that I really do do it all myself it helps I think?

Lavenderlime

March 28th, 2012, 03:56 PM

Thanks Zanacal! Our house was tip when we first got it it's taken nearly two years to get to where we are now and the garden's getting there. But i'm a novice so it's all bit have a go and see at the moment! :D

So what do you guys think of the pricing? £4 for a baby vest? I don't make that much on them as the dye's are the expensive part of the process. Plus the cost of running the machine 3 times per dye load!

Do you think it's more of a gift item or do you think mum's would buy them for their own babies?

This whole process of having a break from swaying and starting this has made me feel so much better about being an all boy mum, and if my thirds a boy, when I eventually fall pregnant i'm just going to dress him in red, purple and plum! :D

indigoviolet

March 28th, 2012, 04:14 PM

Wow, lavender, the blog is brilliant! I love the photos, they seem professional! the colours are beautiful, I feel inspired to dress my new little one in more exciting colours, the bumble blue and plum are so lovely, they would look super cute on a little boy. I'll def order some for ds3 if I may? I need a bit of retail therapy I think lol.
Oh your boys are beautiful by the way.

maybe- would be lovely to see you, we rush off after school tomorrow to swimming so prob won't bump into you. I'll look out though as I can't wait to see little Dave! (sorry can't get his 'old' name out of my mind!) we could meet at a park or something with the boys during easter? we are around the first week.

Lavenderlime

March 28th, 2012, 05:08 PM

Thank you Indigo. :)

That's lovely to hear about the photos i'm far from a professional photographer and up until recently had got a little slack on taking pictures of the boys. But I find doing this it's more taking pictures of what they're doing rather than saying cheese and getting them to smile. Plus now I always carry my camera with me which helps! lol
I'd love it if you'd buy something from me! I'm just waiting on the size labels and postage bags. Plus I still have a few more colours to do. Inculding two different greens if you like bright colours? Brown, grey and navy if you prefer darker shades.

I've just read through again and can spot some typos and missing words but bloggers crashed (the editing bit) and I can't correct them. I have to read something about six times to spot a mistake as my brain just fills in missing words or corrects spelling mistakes... grrr.

Thank you ladies you have put my nerves at ease.....

I Just watched OBEM sometimes it makes me really broody and other times it just scares me! tonight was just a little scary the ladies sounded like they were in loads of pain. Another time was the twin mum who had to have one of the twins turned internally. Forever traumatised by that! She was a trooper though.

maybebabythree

March 28th, 2012, 07:18 PM

Lavender - on my iPhone so I need to get on the pc as I can't see your products but your boys are very cute! Love your blog, I love being nosey as to what other people are up to. Well done you! With regards to labour pain - the key there is to think about that after you get pg - i.e when it's too late lol! If I recorded any of my births and could bottle that feeling, I would only have one child ;-)

Indigo a park with the boys would be great. There is a good forest to walk round too but not sure if your up to that as I always seem to attract dogs and my son got stuck 20 foot up a climbing tower - not sure I can Handel that with a newborn. Will pm you tomorrow

maybebabythree

March 28th, 2012, 07:49 PM

Lavender - what about Muslins? I dyed mine navy they look great and the rainbow ones in Jo Jo mama aren't cheap

Lavenderlime

March 29th, 2012, 03:08 AM

Lavender - what about Muslins? I dyed mine navy they look great and the rainbow ones in Jo Jo mama aren't cheap

I thought this too but it got a little complicated as you don't add or pay tax on baby/childrens clothing including bibs.
But muslins don't fall under the catergory of baby clothes so thought I'd leave it until I was a little more organised. I don't think I will earn enough to qualify to pay tax full stop as it is but just want to keep things simple to start off with. I think it's something I will definitely add in the future though as ds1 was such a sicky baby and we had piles of them. They are also useful as sunshades to drape over the pushchairs.

Sunset

March 29th, 2012, 05:27 AM

I think that's quite sad, I love that my boys have each other and actually worry about our girl not having a sister! The bond between brothers in this house is amazing and they're all so close.

i agree with you 100% but she genuinely doesn't see that though.. and i'm like you in the way that I worry about Serena not having a sister but then i look at my OH's sister who is the only girl and has 3 brothers and she's done just fine for herself and is really close to 2 of her brothers so i'm sure our girls will do just fine growing up with a bunch of older brothers :)

maybebabythree

March 29th, 2012, 05:31 AM

I didn't know that - complicated! I used to bleach
Mine but then lent them to bf and they came back yellow - eeeuugggh!

Sunset

March 29th, 2012, 05:33 AM

lavenderlime your blog is amazing! i was hooked from the moment go! i love your way of writing and the pictures are lovely! I really get that old vintage feel when i read your blog :) where you live must be really beautiful and i love that you get ducks outside your house.. that would never happen where i live which makes me feel a bit claustrophobic when i think about it.. if there's one thing i miss growing up in sweden it's the closeness to nature and woodlands which you dont get here.
when are you opening your shop? :)

indigoviolet

March 29th, 2012, 08:00 AM

Lavender- I'd love a couple of vests, bumble blue and a plum in 18-24mths if poss? You will have to tell me total, I already have your address from the SS organising and name. That would be awesome!

zanacal

March 29th, 2012, 12:43 PM

Lavender - I struggle to find 'bottoms' to wear with vests which are too pretty to hide. Are you planning to do any little trousers? I think £4 a vest is very reasonable. If you're thinking of gifts how about a set with a selection of colours? Actually, I'd buy a bundle in different colours come to think of it!

Lavenderlime

March 29th, 2012, 01:45 PM

Zanacal I have 5 different packs of Four planned that come in a cotton gift bag they are in the 'Group of Four Vests' under the categories section in the shop. They are themed collections, Dusky is the only one aimed at girls the other four are unisex.

That's a brill idea about the bottoms I just need to find some suitable. Will get searching on the net tonight.

Thanks sunset. I'm a rambler by nature and type like I talk I think lol. I was hoping to open tomorrow but am waiting on some dye's so probably Saturday now.

Indigo I'm not 100% sure If I have them in those sizes in those colours but if not the next batch I do later in the week I will be sure to include larger sizes in those colours. I was only going to do 3-6m, 6-9m, 9-12m. But I have larger and smaller sizes in some colours. Need to iron them all tonight and work out what sizes I have in what colours. But you are first on the list for Bumble blue and Plum in 18-24m. P&P as it stands at the mo is £1.50 on a single vest and an extra 50p per item. I actually need to go to the post office tomorrow and check that my estimates are right. It may be a little less or more. But will know for sure tomorrow!

Ooh exciting my first order:)

Just trying to take and upload more pictures but DP is working tonight so may have to wait until the boys go to bed.

deaks66

March 29th, 2012, 05:18 PM

Just trying to catch up....

Lavender, absolutely loving your blog... Gorgeous items, gorgeous boys and gorgeous writing and pics! I will definately be ordering! Having an idea is one thing but getting off your bum and actually getting it all going is totally another..... Well done you!

Hi everyone else. Hope you have all been enjoying the sunshine. Me and my boys have been enjoying getting the garden sorted for summer, Im loving watching everything come into bud and loads of things we planted last year have survived :)
Next door are giving us their Wendy house which was made by a guy about 5 doors down and has been handed down through the street for several years....so sweet! Just need to get an area sorted for it. Also need to start packing...

Babymad, Charlie, maybepink, chocolate, how are you ladies? Hope summery days are helping.

Littlemiss, I keep thinking you must be very close to finding out now aren't you? Seem to remember you saying it was nearish the time of inglewoods c-sec

Inglewood, hope you have your feet up as much as possible for these last few days!

Hi everyone else.... Sunset, maybe, hope you are enjoying having some lovely weather to show your babies off in!

Sunset

March 30th, 2012, 04:21 AM

Good morning! would just like to wish you all a lovely weekend! :)

Babymad

March 30th, 2012, 04:30 PM

Babymad

March 30th, 2012, 04:32 PM

Babymad

March 30th, 2012, 04:46 PM

Hi everyone,

Quick hello from me.....

Hope you are all ok x

Looking forward to the Easter break with the boys, hoping the weather stays decent.

Inglewood ~ hope you are all ready......can't wait to hear your news! X

maybebabythree

March 30th, 2012, 05:24 PM

Yes fx for nice holiday weather! Not long now inglewood!

Inglewood

March 30th, 2012, 06:20 PM

Hi all,

Sorry been MIA a few days, been stressed with house. Babies cot not up, nothing ready..... essential DIY taking over but Dh promised me by mon all will be done!! inc cot!! So tired, sore, sicky (from antibiotics for UTI) and fed up!

To start steriod injections tom...to have them 9am and 9pm sat and sun!! So no sleep for me sat and sun night as I'll be HYPER! Sunset, did u get 2 a day or just 1 injection? I was told they don't give the 1 inj anymore.. :(

:) GOOD NEWS!!!!!!!!! :) is............. my section now at 0830am!!! yipee... got a call today to ask if I'd swap my 1.30pm time....eh. YES!!!!! Made my day!!!

Well, was just a quicky, will pop on tom.

Lavender! Loving the Blog!! Congrats and hope it goes well, beautiful colours!!! and gorgeous boys!!!

Night all, ready to keel over I'm exhausted! Bump pic's to follow (promise) to show u my huge hippo belly! xx

Inglewood

March 31st, 2012, 02:40 AM

Meant to add last night....

Dh will post on fb for me when they're here, (he can't upload pics, working on that till tues....lol) but isn't telling anyone their names till he's told his family. Since 1 of them has his mum's name as a middle name, he wants to tell her face to face at the evening visiting then he'll go home and phone his sisters and brother. So we'll announce their names the day after. 3 sleeps now.....

oh, and if anyone wants to add me on FB, just PM me. Won't be able to get on here for a while with no fancy phone! lol GD doesn't seem to work on Dh's phone. :( xx

zanacal

March 31st, 2012, 03:03 AM

So exciting Inglewood! I'm sure everything on your list will be sorted over the weekend. My DH (me too actually!) can't do anything until it's the last minute and just has to be done! I'm off work on your big day so will be waiting with bated breath for your announcement. I wonder how big they'll be?

Have a great weekend everybody else. Such a bummer that the weather has been glorious all week and the forecast for today is rubbish! DS3's big boy bed is being delivered today so tonight we may have all 3 boys sleeping in one room (including one in a bed for the first time!). I don't have high hopes for much sleep! On a positive note, Cath Kidston were doing 15% off everything yesterday so I ordered him the cowboy print duvet cover, can't wait for it to arrive it's so cute :D

DH is waiting in for the bed today and I'm taking the boys to my neice's party at a soft play centre - just me and the 3 boys and a massive bump at a soft play on a potentially rainy, cold day. Help!!!

Kell

March 31st, 2012, 03:45 AM

Sorry I've not been about!

Inglewood, how exciting for you! And a morning section will be so much better! :) can't wait to hear they have arrived and see pretty pink pictures lol.

Indigo wow! What a wonderful blog! And I agree I love the colours! So glad it's been helping you!

Zanacal good luck with ds3! We have the three boys in a room together when dp's so stays, it actually was surprisingly ok when we started out!

maybebabythree

March 31st, 2012, 06:08 AM

Inglewood - good luck!

I officially hate breast feeding! Four days into my thrush treatment but I'm still in agony. He is always hungry even after a hour of feeding. When I don't feed I'm sore, when I am feeding it's hell. I have been into drop in clinic twice at the hospital who said my latch is fine. I can't live in pain or keep going back to the hospital. I really want this work but it just isn't working. Don't know what else I can do. Surely it should be getting easier by now?

Lavenderlime

March 31st, 2012, 10:29 AM

Maybe, it sounds hellish and you seem to be really sticking at it. I've never had thrush from feeding so have no clue how it feels so can't really imagine what you are goin through. But I do remeber the really hungry part well both my ds's were half hourly feeders but only at night. This lasted for a good two weeks when they were newborns and it was such a killer mentally being that exhausted. But the way I got through it was this is the here and now. It's not forever it's a relatively short space in my life where I feel pretty crappy but i'm doing it for the greater good and I know it will get better.
And of course it did. It all depends how much you want to feed? If you really want to stick at it KellyMom : keeping you informed about breastfeeding and parenting (http://www.kellymom.com) is a great source of breastfeeding advice. The thing with breastfeeding is it is natural but it's also a skill and some babies pick it up faster than others. it's such a shame that mothers get thrown obsticles such as thrush, mastisis, problems with latch etc.

You say it hurts when you not feeding if it's a burning full pain the best thing that worked for me was the disposable breast pads soaked in water popped in the freezer. They were really sothing and I always had a stash ready.

I hope things get easier if you continue to feed.

Thinking of you xx

Lavenderlime

March 31st, 2012, 10:34 AM

Inglewood, good news on your section time moving so exciting I can't believe how fast the time has gone! Don't forget to post that bump picture!

babymad and Kell nice to hear from you.

Deaks hope you have a lovely holiday.

Hello to everyone else hope your having a nice weekend shame about the weather.

Inglewood

March 31st, 2012, 02:17 PM

Hi, just a quickie, off to asda before injection no 2! It was flippin sore!!!! OUCH!! into my thigh, had a dead leg for ages after..... Try to be brave as they know I am a nurse (in my notes)...lol

Thanks for all ur nice wishes, loading camera pics as we speak.... hope to upload b4 I leave , if not do it when I get back. x

zanacal

March 31st, 2012, 04:33 PM

Maybe, that sounds really rough. I agree that kellymom is a great online resource but it sounds like you need some expert help too! I have several friends who have trained to be breastfeeding counsellors and they're all a wealth of information. The ABM (Association of Breastfeeding Mothers) have a helpline, which is 08444 122 949 - their site is Association of Breastfeeding Mothers | Supporting Breastfeeding Women since 1979 (http://abm.me.uk/) The NCT also have a breastfeeding helpline on 0300 330 0771 - Contact us | NCT (http://www.nct.org.uk/contact-us)
I would definitely call somebody who has the time to go through your issues with you in detail and who are specifically trained in breastfeeding. In my experience midwives aren't the best resource for breastfeeding issues.

Sunset

March 31st, 2012, 05:03 PM

Inglewood ~ I only had 2 shots if i remember correctly which was 24 hours apart.. strange how they do things differently depending on where you are.

Maybebaby ~ has the thrust treatment helped much, is it all healed now because it sounds like it could still be thrush? other than that i dont know. as the weeks go by it should be getting easier if your little one latches on properly. Perhaps try ringing the numbers Zanacal gave you. i agree that sometimes midwifes arent the best resource for breastfeeding issues. i hope it gets easier for you soon ((hugs))

deaks66

March 31st, 2012, 06:31 PM

Hi all, sorry just logging on really quick as only just finished packing and needed sleeeeeep!

Inglewood, will be thinking of you this week and will try and log on to read your news

Littlemiss, haven't seen you here for a while but good luck for your scan which i think is also this week. Fx for pink for you!

Hi everyone else, have a lovely Easter hols. Will catch up when I'm back and scan is day after so hopefully some nubsessing for us all to do!

Much love X

Inglewood

March 31st, 2012, 06:48 PM

Injection 2 was worse!!! Could of cried!! big baby! lol Leg aching.... ur lucky Sunset, they haven't got the single inj at my hosp anymore.

So....here's my recent bump pic... please excuse the black top with navy trousers (we all know they don't go, lol) was having a spring clean, so anything old that fitted was my attire.... the other pic was taken after that one later on. I was 34wks + 4 when taken.

LMW, so hope I can log on with Dh's phone for ur scan...is it the 4th????

maybebabythree

April 1st, 2012, 06:36 AM

Omg inglewood - your - erm looking like it's twins in the politest way :-) I will pm you

Deaks have a fantastic holiday!

I rang my local nct volunteer who never returned my call. Called the national breastfeeding helpline who cut me off. Feel a tad better today as kept him going yesterday on boob and expressed milk. I think it might be less sore? Not sure as it's degrees of pain. More rubbing boob on brillow pad today than a cheese grater. So much for not being a marter this time!

HopeandDreamG

April 1st, 2012, 07:56 AM

Inglewood~ That bump is beautiful!!! I wanted to wish you the VERY BEST of LUCK, cannot wait to see those gorgous baby girls!! I feel like I just saw your avatar of the sono of twins!, not even sure if that was on here or PL...really felt like yesterday (in some ways). So happy your section was moved to the am, so much better that way! You have the whole day to recover, and your little men will be able to be with you and the girls shortly after. I will be thinking and praying for you. I am BEYOND happy for you and your family. :HH:

zanacal

April 1st, 2012, 10:20 AM

maybebabythree

April 1st, 2012, 12:15 PM

Thank you zanacal that would be lovely. I was going to find a private lactation consultant but looking into it my closest is the nct woman who ignored me - not paying for that! Anoying as I put of work into my local group - where the he'll does the money me and my group raise go???

zanacal

April 1st, 2012, 04:33 PM

I'm working on it maybe! Option no. 1 is on holiday but in the meantime, I've been told this is a good link:

http://www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk/pdfs/dibm/FAQs_Thrush__and_Breastfeeding_Jan-2012.pdf

Lavenderlime

April 1st, 2012, 04:40 PM

Maybe that isn't great I hope you get to talk to someone soon.

inglewood impressive bump!!

Deaks have a fabulous holiday.

Decided to go back on the crappy diet tomorrow erghhhhhh........

Lavenderlime

April 1st, 2012, 04:40 PM

Maybe that isn't great I hope you get to talk to someone soon.

inglewood impressive bump!!

Deaks have a fabulous holiday.

Decided to go back on the crappy diet tomorrow erghhhhhh........

zanacal

April 1st, 2012, 04:49 PM

I've sent you a message Maybe x

maybebabythree

April 1st, 2012, 06:13 PM

Thank you Zanacal - one minute I think I can feed through the pain, the next I want to give up :¬( If I could only get by till next week to see if it is the trush. I don't want to feed him till he's 18 months or anything, just a chance to get to experience feeding him till he weens - why is that too much to ask for?? I think some one up there hates me some days....

maybebabythree

April 1st, 2012, 06:59 PM

ok someone up there defo hates me - been to the loo and noticed blood. Looked via a mirror (eeeuuughhh!!!) and my stiched have opened up - I have a 1cm hole there!!!!! JUST WHAT I NEED RIGHT NOW!!!! THANK YOU!!!!*****%%^%^%&%£$%^&**%^$%^ A month after giving birth??? high blood pressure, sore boobs, induction, re-admitted twice to hospital, split stiches!! I'm having a drink RIGHT NOW while I wait for the maternity ward to call back at 11.58 pm - everyone is asleep but don't worry I dont need my sleep - not when my month old son will have me up to suck on my poor sore boobies in three hours.

Next life, I'm coming back as a man....

pinga

April 2nd, 2012, 05:18 AM

Hi all,

Been catching up on and off... just been a bit manic recently.

Wow Inglewood - soooooo soon!!!!! Very exciting...

Oh Maybe you poor thing. I feel your pain. I struggled with DS1 but we made it and I BFed til he was 10.5months. I was in tears at times trying to get rid of lumps... I used to get DH to massage my boobs because I couldn't face to do it myself... hurt too much. I also had spinal surgery when DS1 was 3 months so couldn't BF for a week as I was on morphine. So there I was in a high dependency ward not allow to sit up, expressing lying down... just to throw away my drugged up milk. But I kept up my supply and all was good!

I'm trying to remember all the good advice I was given. Umm if it really really hurts give yourself a day off and express the milk for bubba. I found different holds helped eg the football hold. Different lactation consultants will give you different things to try. Try calling the Breastfeeding Association place again (not sure what its called in the UK)... you might get someone different.

Only you know whether it is possible/worth it!! You need to be able to enjoy bubba too! Hope all goes well...

Can't remember who said they were GBS positive. Do you know if that makes you more likely to be GBS positive next time? I had to be induced with DS2 because I was GBSpositive. They test everyone over here at 36 weeks.

Had my Gestational Diabetes test today... ugh I hate that sweet drink :P One of the blood tests was sooo sore and I have a big lump on my arm now and its going purple. Lovely! The nurse was sweet... she said she had 3 boys but had been told the last was a girl. When she had her C-Section she also had her tubes tied and then found out it was another boy.... I think it was an old old hurt for her. It made me so sad for her.

Anyhews hope everyone is going well. Our clocks went back on the weekend and unfortuately DS1 hasn't realised. He got up at 4.40am on Sunday!!!! Arghhh... :)

Sunset

April 2nd, 2012, 05:39 AM

maybebaby oh no, that sounds so terrible! did you get seen by a midiwife? i hope you're feeling better today! hows the breastfeeding going? it might still be the thrush, it might not have cleared completely yet. are you treating both you and baby?

lavenderlime good luck with the diet! are you doing ig or le?

charlieispy

April 2nd, 2012, 07:29 AM

just came on to wish inglewood a happy healthy delivery x cant wait to see your news x much love x

hi to all x x failed at posting again x

charlieispy

April 2nd, 2012, 07:31 AM

oh hun x geez not good at all x i hope you are on the mend with everything soon x sorry havnt read all your posts are you treating baby for the thrush too?? Hope you feel better soonx

maybebabythree

April 2nd, 2012, 09:30 AM

Yes we are both being treated for trush :-( midwife at hospital said to see a gp asap about stiched as might get infected but I couldn't as went for bf advice this am and now waiting for ashtons third hearing test as he failed two so having the brainwave one now. Bf help today was good - told not to touch boob just let him go on. I will try but not sure I can stand it. I have big boobs and am used to shoving it in but squashing my boob in one hand. On the plus side I had three mums at the group say my boys are lovely and well behaved - I hear that a lot but for some reason find it hard to belive. Pings nice to see you!

zanacal

April 2nd, 2012, 11:33 AM

Maybe, that sounds like a nightmare! I'm sorry you're going through so much. I have big boobs too and I could never feed without holding my boob up and shaping it for baby - even when they were almost 2 years old! Hopefully something different will help you though. I had a great cushion called My Breast Friend, it's very hard and flat and holds baby at the right height on his side - they're not cheap though, I got mine on Ebay.

Inglewood, I hope you're enjoying your family meal tonight. I'm so excited to hear your news in the morning :D

charlieispy

April 2nd, 2012, 12:54 PM

do you have a pillow hun? Not that it can be taken with you - my boobs get BIG when BF and find a pillow helps support me and baby x oh lady you have got it rough x BIG SMILES for your well behaved boys though :D x x

am still not accepting this baby at all <sigh> i dont want to feel like this but cant help it next step anti ds think it is the only way now

2monkeyboys

April 2nd, 2012, 01:33 PM

Hi ladies,
Firstly massive apologies like I start with everytime for not joining in. Believe it or not I do still come on everyday to keep up with everyone but I spose because I'm not even thinking of ttc I find it hard to know what to write as well as my horrific memory remembering who is doing what once I get to writing something. So sorry everyone but I'm still about and think of you all but ive been the worst cheerleader ever- more like super stalker :(
Huge congrats deaks and hugs to everyone who needs one as my heart goes out to you feeling so down. Those were lovely words that maybe wrote the other week and defo hit the nail on the head for me. My dad had the most amazing relationship with my nan and he visited her every week always once but often 2 or 3 times. We was always brought up to see her so often and that's how I hope to have for my boys. Compared to the relationship my mum has with her mum and a couple of my friends have with theirs i get by on the knowledge that not every mother and daughter relationship always work out the way we hope for. I am also extra lucky that my ds 2 loves bags, clothes, cooking, helping with the washing and cleaning, (makeup!!), peppy pig and generally most things I spose a girl would so I get to indulge my dream with him. Definitely not in any kind of position to even think about ttc anytime soon as things are strained again.
Wishing you massive amounts of luck for weds inglewood, amazing that they are so nearly here!! Cannot wait to see pics :)
Poor you maybe, you really are going through it. You are a stronger person than me as I'd have given up in a state of collapse by now. You are amazing!
Huge love to you Charlie xx
Hi to everyone else, hope you are all ok.
Xxxxxxxx

indigoviolet

April 2nd, 2012, 03:02 PM

Lovely to hear from you 2monkeys!

I've been a bit bad at posting too recently, been away on a girly weekend, MUCH needed (first time I have been away on my own for 5 years!). Feel so knackered now so off to bed in a min but just wanted to catch up on all your posts.

Charlie- sorry you are still not feeling any better, what was the conclusion they got to last time when you went to see that consultant/ specialist? Will you get councelling? Anti D's really are not bad at all and if it can help you through a tough patch they are def worth a try. ((hugs)) hon :HH:

You too maybe- you so brave struggling on, at least you have a way forward now and it will definitely get easier when he gets seen to. Hang in there. I know how hard it was, it was like that with ds2 and I was literally counting the hours& days until the appointment. You have had a really tough time but it will only get better and easier from now on. Look forward to seeing you tomorrow!!

Love to the rest of you, I am keeping up with your posts and still feel I am in the loop even though I don't post much.

One of the girls I was away with (OLD friend) said 'oh no...I really wanted this to be your girl' etc etc when I told her this was a boy. It was a bit depressing that she couldn't see that this little baby is a blessing and boys are wonderful too. Girls are not the be-all and end-all and it is something I can't control. I wish she could have at least pretended to be happy for me....that's life, good to be able to moan to you about it at least :HH:

charlieispy

April 2nd, 2012, 03:14 PM

I have councilling/pyschotherapist once i get my appointment through a specialist mw coming to check on me, my fabulous doctor phoning me weekly and a consultant plus a specific HV set up after baby arrives GEEZ i know i am lucky to have all this support with ds3 i had nothing but my mood is not lifting like it did with him there are NO names i like and i just feel so detached from him/it - my doctor pushed for me to tell a few people but i cant i havnt told anyone other than my mum and BF and they are sworn to secrecy - am dreading giving birth and having to tell people he is a he

indigo - your weekend away must have been lovely but very strange too after so long x how are you doing now? So sorry your friend wasnt positive although you do sound positive which i hope is true x sometimes i dont think people think before they open their mouths and also if they havnt been where you are they will never quite understand how something meaningless to them means so much to you x sending you a huge hug

Babymad - you are always on my mind too i hope you are ok x pinga thinking of you how are you doing

Waves to everyone else x deaks enjoy your time away x Z - loved the boys room gorgeous white furniture we were thinking of putting all 3 in one room but I wouldnt have anywhere to store all the clothes and toys etc.......but it would have been a possibility if we had a girl dont have to worry about that now

charlieispy

April 2nd, 2012, 03:15 PM

lavender love the website x gorgeous hope you get lots of business x might order some bits when i have some moolah x not being paid at the mo as sick but dont earn enough for sick pay!!

another stress lol

Lavenderlime

April 2nd, 2012, 04:12 PM

Thanks Charlie! I was signed off sick with ds1 and managed to get stat sick pay but it was nothing compared to actual wages. I hate money stresses. I'm always in my overdraft I Just try and switch off really. Sorry to hear your still finding it hard to come to terms with this baby. Glad to hear about the wealth of support on hand though.

I'm oddly becoming more and more ok with having a boy as the time goes on. Epic fail on the diet front today. Well i did ok up until now. I'm eating midget gems. I just need to ease into it I think before I zone into eating pretty much nothing again. But have put on a good 6lb from eating normally so have weight to shed again.

Maybe your really having a hard time of it I hope you get your stitches seen to soon. My boobs always get huge when feeding I go from a B cup to an F!

Indigo sorry to hear about your friends reaction. For the record I do really like being a boy mum. I love the way they play together. And I like the collective of the 'boys' the 'kids' doesn't have the same ring to it.

Sunset IG as it's what I know and will eventually be able to slip back into the same eating habits .
Waves to two monkeys.

maybebabythree

April 2nd, 2012, 04:13 PM

Lovely to hear from you monkeys! Sorry things aren't great ATM. My dh is being a trooper for a change. He is holding us together. Must be carma - has to weigh up his bad side (money) with being a decent bloke in all other respects. He is getting me through this feeding nightmare.

Charlie I really feel sad for you - for all of us. It's such a deep pain that people just don't get. Like ping said about her midwife maybe it never goes. Maybe it's the bottom line until you die. Which makes it a life sentence, and no one wants that. I do think that if you can find good things about all boys then just cling to that. I take the all boy comments as jokes and really notice the nice comments. I get five lovely comments for each bad one. Plus the bad ones are boy general. No one is saying how will cope with your three boys iykwim? If someone said to you that you was worth less than a man you would think what a idiot! You wouldn't think oh yes I am worthless would you? I know it hurts, tbh I think I will want a dd till I pop off, but at the same time I don't let stupid people upset me. There was a sport relife program on with Jon bishop did anyone see it? They had three boys. I said to dh that our boys would be young men like that one day. I looked over and the end where he finished the race dh was crying. Said hee was thinking of our boys at that age. It's not a baby, they will also grow into men to make us proud

maybebabythree

April 2nd, 2012, 04:16 PM

Thinking of you inglewood! Good luck!!! Xxxx I bet there will be lots of cooing going on around for a long time to come!!!

threelittlemenandcounting

April 2nd, 2012, 04:32 PM

Inglewood good luck for tomorrow xx

Charliespie sending you huge hugs Hun xx

Maybe hope it starts to get easier real soon xx

Hello to everyone else xxxx :heart: :)

Babymad

April 2nd, 2012, 05:03 PM

Hi girls.....

Maybe ~ I hope things get easier soon Hun - BF is so tough, you are doing a great job!! I love John Bishop, went to see him live last year and have booked to see him again this year. It really made us laugh the stuff he was saying about his boys....and the thought of 'oh my god that will be us one day' when they are all grown up :)

2momkeys ~ Hi :) Sorry things aren't great for you, hope you are ok x

Indigo ~ Pleased you had a lovely week-end away, I had a spa day with a friend on Sunday and it was just what I needed. I get fed up with the comments too, I just say 'well I can't choose the sex can I' and that normally shuts them up! When I tell people I am very certain this is a boy its normally a conversation stopper! No one says 'oh that's nice' they just don't day anything or anything nice anyway!....... It's hurts as that's my baby they are dismissing! I hate the pity more than anything.
Lots of hugs to you xx

Charlie ~ I think of you too Hun, wish I could take our pain away I really do. I hate feeling the way I do and would do anything to change it all :(
It's great that you are getting so much support, how did you go about requesting it? I hope we manage to find peace at some point in our lives xx

Inglewood ~ Soooooo excited! Can't wait to hear your news, will be thinking of you, hope all goes well x

I'm doing ok - cant really explain how fed up of being pg I am, everyday is such a drag, emotionally and physically. I long for this baby to arrive soooo much! I know nothing will get better until he is here and things can't get much worse so I desperately need this pg to end so I can start to move forward. If one more person says I am massive I will knock them out!!

Ok better go to bed before I rant all night!