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November 19th, 2012, 06:29 AM #1
When do babies get easier ? More routine ? When do u feel human again ?
I have 3 boys aged 8,6,and 3 but I cant for the life of me remember when i felt normal again.
The reason being is that im self employed and if im going to take materity leave again I need to work out how long for - Im sure with my other 2 i had a week before birth and a couple of weeks after but this time think i may need longer
so from birth to going back to work - how long ? Baring in mind i dont get paid while off so need to get back as soon as possible.
How many weeks till baby becomes easier - till im not wanting to sleep or cry all day ? I will have to hget up to get my other 3 packed off to school anyway so will be at home with baby so if working would just mean having more children with me ( the ones i look after ) but im not sure how easy that would be - i guess it would just be like having younger siblings though right - like when i had ds3 ds 2 was still at home so if i went back to work and had my childminded kids back it wouldnt be any different to if i had more of my own ?
Am i making sense ? ha ha
ANYWAY if you understood any of that and wanted to try and give me an nswer feel free :-)
Thanks ladiesMummy to 3 gorgeous Boys and FINALLY our baby Girl
Owen 2004
Ellis 2006
Liam 2009
D Amy 2013
M/C Oct 2012 after 4 months trying
BFP again !! - Nov 2012 - Confirmed Twins at 6+5 then my dreams were crushed at 8+ weeks when one of our twins sadly died.
THANK YOU TO GENDER DREAMING FOR HELPING MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE
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November 19th, 2012, 08:25 AM #2
I think it depends on the baby for the most part. Some babies are fussy while others are more content. I will tell you what was a huge help to me though - when my little bugaboo was born he had a really hard time breastfeeding. It took him about 2 months to really get the hang of it. Once he did though, the disaster that was nighttime feeding became virtually a non issue. We co-sleep with him and even at almost 10 months when he cries for milk at night I just kinda roll closer to him and give him the breast and pretty much fall back to sleep right away. The not sleeping is what makes it the worst (I think) so if you're planning on bf, if you're able to get your baby to co-sleep and eat right off the breast, it may be a big help to you if you're not so tired from not sleeping at night. Good luck!!
2012 (my sweetest little bug)
2013 Thank you Atomic Sagebrush and Gender Dreaming!
Link to my successful girl sway: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-...y-attempt.html
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November 19th, 2012, 08:29 AM #3
Thanks hun Id love to co sleep but hubby is totally against it. I think he worries about rolling onto the baby or smothering he/she under the covers etc - erhaps its something i should look at in more detail like a little one sided crib m y side of the bed so baby isnt near him..does such a thing exist ?
Mummy to 3 gorgeous Boys and FINALLY our baby Girl
Owen 2004
Ellis 2006
Liam 2009
D Amy 2013
M/C Oct 2012 after 4 months trying
BFP again !! - Nov 2012 - Confirmed Twins at 6+5 then my dreams were crushed at 8+ weeks when one of our twins sadly died.
THANK YOU TO GENDER DREAMING FOR HELPING MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE
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November 19th, 2012, 08:53 AM #4
I think it'll really depend on the babe. We were incredibly lucky. My little guy has been on a sched since 2 months old!!!!!! Slept through the night at 1.5 months and by 2 months naps were into a routine as well. Of course I was nursing then but at 8 months when I stopped & I had to change his schedule, it didn't affect him at all. Since day 1 he is soooo easy going! Such a content little guy. I am nervous this one will be the exact opposite haha hope somebody can help better with this!!
June 21 2011 - Ryder
May 22 2013 - Hudson
Our family is now complete - no more babies for us. We didn't get our girl but I wouldn't trade my boys for the world, so in love.
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November 19th, 2012, 09:11 AM #5
With both of my girls I took 12 weeks off, DD1 slept through the night at 6 weeks and DD2 was about 8 weeks. As soon as they started sleeping through the night I put them in their own bedrooms and then I was able to get a routine down so I could get up and get myself ready for work first and then I would get them up and fed and ready.
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November 19th, 2012, 09:17 AM #6
12 WEEKS wow thats ounds so soon for people that take 9 months but sounds like forever to me when ive only had 3 weeks max but its different for me I guess as i work from home caring for children so i kind of figure if ive got the baby i may as well look after the others but wanted to take atleast a few weeks to just be on my own with him/her
Mummy to 3 gorgeous Boys and FINALLY our baby Girl
Owen 2004
Ellis 2006
Liam 2009
D Amy 2013
M/C Oct 2012 after 4 months trying
BFP again !! - Nov 2012 - Confirmed Twins at 6+5 then my dreams were crushed at 8+ weeks when one of our twins sadly died.
THANK YOU TO GENDER DREAMING FOR HELPING MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE
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November 19th, 2012, 09:51 AM #7
It took me about 6 weeks with DS3. Time to heal, get bfing working, get into a routine... but it depends on the baby too, how quickly they start sleeping in longer stretches, etc. You might be ok after 3-4 weeks with lots of coffee, lol.
2006, 2008, 2011, HT 2012
Cycle #1 @ HRC, March 2012: Pretesting FSH 5.7, AMH 2, AFC 19. 7 eggs retrieved, 6 fertilized & to GSN, 2 normal XY, 1 normal XX. Transferred 1XX. 1st beta 9 5dp5dt, 2nd beta 777 12dp5dt, 3rd beta 2823 15dp5dt. 124 at 6w6d (2 large SCHs seen). DD born 3 days overdue - December 2012.
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November 19th, 2012, 12:30 PM #8
Im thinking 6 weeks is do able and fair >? Maybe see how I feel after that - see how the parents feel - if they are happy for me to take longer - if the other childminders covering my work load can cover longer etc..... I think i will put 6 weeks down as my minimum when the time comes.
Mummy to 3 gorgeous Boys and FINALLY our baby Girl
Owen 2004
Ellis 2006
Liam 2009
D Amy 2013
M/C Oct 2012 after 4 months trying
BFP again !! - Nov 2012 - Confirmed Twins at 6+5 then my dreams were crushed at 8+ weeks when one of our twins sadly died.
THANK YOU TO GENDER DREAMING FOR HELPING MAKE OUR DREAMS COME TRUE
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November 19th, 2012, 12:40 PM #9
Wow. You all are so lucky. Both my DSs took six MONTHS until they were easier!! But both of them had really bad reflux.
You should check out the portable cribs from Arm's Reach. They're made specifically for putting to the side of your bed. I, too, co-slept but my SIL used the Arm's Reach and loved it!!Proud Mom to my gorgeous 2008, and 2010. Lights of my life!!
Pretesting "normal". FSH 7.5
Cycle 1: HRC Feb 10 2012
Started off slow on 225 Gonal F, 1 Meno; increased to 300 Gonal F and over responded. 27 eggs received, 19 mature, 15 fert, only 8 to GSN, all terrible quality- only one normal XY. NT. Boo.
Cycle 2: HRC May 2012
Took DHEA (only 25-50 mg/day), royal jelly, bee propolis, CoQ10. Antagonist cycle with growth hormone. Started off with 300 Gonal-F and quickly moved down to 150 Gonal-F and rode it out. 43 eggs, 35 mature, 30 fert, 9 to Day 5 GSN, 1 normal XY and two normal XX. Froze all.
July 2012 - FET at HRC, transferred 1 XX expanding blast. ???
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November 19th, 2012, 08:01 PM #10
Maybe a bassinet for the new arrival set up right next to your bed is what you need? As soon as baby cries, you can just pick the little bundle right up and lay next to you to eat. Meanwhile you're laying down and resting instead of being up and trying to prepare a bottle in the dead of night. I'd just put the baby between you and DH for the night feeding in case you drift off to sleep while you're feeding.
Being able to get a solid 7 hours of sleep with only minor interruptions each night made a huge difference for us. It was just so much easier to get through a day with a good night's sleep! Good luck!!2012 (my sweetest little bug)
2013 Thank you Atomic Sagebrush and Gender Dreaming!
Link to my successful girl sway: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/add-...y-attempt.html
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