The unassisted birth of DS3

[pastelpicnic]

That was such a COOL birth story!!!!! I've always been interested in a home water birth. Although I have sunny side up facing babies and HORRIBLE back labor!!!! I've needed to get an epidural now twice, so I don't think I would be able to do it with no drugs

[TTC5]

What a wonderful birth!!!

[DoulaMama]

That was such a COOL birth story!!!!! I've always been interested in a home water birth. Although I have sunny side up facing babies and HORRIBLE back labor!!!! I've needed to get an epidural now twice, so I don't think I would be able to do it with no drugs

Thank you!!
You'd be amazed at what a pool filled with warm water can do for back labour!! I've had back labour for 2 of my births as well(one sunny side up) and without natures epidural(birth pool) I would have been screaming for drugs! LOL
Do you labours last a long time? I found being upright in the pool really made my labour go fast so who knows! You might be able to do it...especially when there is no access to the drugs I find it easier to cope because I know that I HAVE to. Never say never! Waterbirth is incredible!! xo

[DoulaMama]

What a wonderful birth!!!

Thank you!

[Zivic-Bubac]

A woman can birth however she wants to! Don't let your scar determine how you birth

Unfortunately, it depends on where you live.

My one and only option is hospital, lying on my back because that is how ALL the hospitals in the country are doing it. There is some "experimental" program in the capital (water birth, huge experiment, huh?) for which they charge an arm and a leg for. LOL!

[Plum3]

Amazing story!

Thankyou so much for sharing

[DoulaMama]

Unfortunately, it depends on where you live.

My one and only option is hospital, lying on my back because that is how ALL the hospitals in the country are doing it. There is some "experimental" program in the capital (water birth, huge experiment, huh?) for which they charge an arm and a leg for. LOL!

But if you really wanted to do it differently it is your RIGHT to say no. You really do have the power to birth however you want to. I wish all women knew that they could say no to certain procedures, tests, birthing positions...we think that we have to because a Dr says we do....it's just not true! If lying on your back is not what you want, it's your right to say no. If a woman with a scar walks in pushing, in the hospital, and refuses a c-section(and knows her rights and states that out loud) they cannot force that woman to have a section. (as a side note- I know that this has actually happened in the States which is disgusting!!). Anyway, I'd say it doesn't matter where you live, a woman can birth however she wants...and if she really wants to do it a certain way she should find a birth supporter to be at home with her so she can do so. Can I ask where you live? It sounds like Hungary....

[pastelpicnic]

Thank you!!
You'd be amazed at what a pool filled with warm water can do for back labour!! I've had back labour for 2 of my births as well(one sunny side up) and without natures epidural(birth pool) I would have been screaming for drugs! LOL
Do you labours last a long time? I found being upright in the pool really made my labour go fast so who knows! You might be able to do it...especially when there is no access to the drugs I find it easier to cope because I know that I HAVE to. Never say never! Waterbirth is incredible!! xo

Thanks for being so encouraging Doula! My first labor was 16hours and my 2nd was 12hours. I talked to my DH about it last night, he seemed to think based on the kind of labors I've had that it might not be a good idea. DS2 got stuck because he was 9lbs. and had wide shoulders, he started turning blue and the MW called for the a cardiologist to come immediately. Luckily by the time the cardiologist came and after the MW and nurses palpitated my uterus, he came flying out! Anyway, maybe I will do some more research on it and have my DH do it with me too.

[rainbowflower]

I think you're right about us having the option to say no to things... I think a lot of women feel pressured into doing certain things, but in reality if they lay a finger on you to try and force something on you they can be found guilty of assault (in this country, anyway). If you insist on standing up, they can't force you to lie down, they can just advise it. If you insist on being at home for the birth, they HAVE to find the MWs to cover your birth if you want them there.

That's something I learnt from my first birth - to stand up for myself because I think often my body's instinct knows best.

[DoulaMama]

Thanks for being so encouraging Doula! My first labor was 16hours and my 2nd was 12hours. I talked to my DH about it last night, he seemed to think based on the kind of labors I've had that it might not be a good idea. DS2 got stuck because he was 9lbs. and had wide shoulders, he started turning blue and the MW called for the a cardiologist to come immediately. Luckily by the time the cardiologist came and after the MW and nurses palpitated my uterus, he came flying out! Anyway, maybe I will do some more research on it and have my DH do it with me too.

Some questions....were you in bed with an epi? Stuck shoulders is seen WAY more when moms are on their backs unable to open their hips and use gravity. When you say stuck, how long was he on the perineum for? A true dystocia isn't very easy to dislodge so if he came flying out with just palpation then I would say that he was a bit sticky at the shoulders. I've talked to my midwife about babies getting stuck and out of all the true dystocias they've seen, only 2 were homebirths/natural births. All the rest were because of positioning or Dr's not letting the head turn after birth before the shoulders were born(called restitution). If it's something that you're really interested in, you need to look at why the those problems happened in the first place. Most birth issues can be traced back to the interventions that took place. I would also talk to a CPM(midwife) about your births as she'd have tons of info for you (There are so many amazing MW's in Cali

After all the issues we had with our first DS, my hubby was very hard to talk to when it came to birthing options. We did tons of research and discovered that my sons problems were caused by the hospital It's sometimes nicer to not know...but I'm so glad we found out about other options (hugs)
xo